Chapter 70 Section 4

Once the myth of "grow old" is broken, Ding Yi's life becomes simple and clear, otherwise she would spend all her time discussing Bill (Mr. Crash) motives and intentions, is it a temporary novelty, or a long-term plan. As for things like long-term or not long-term, how can it be possible to draw a correct conclusion without discussing for a lifetime? For example, her ex-husband Man Wenfang, what she cared most at the beginning was whether he loves her, how long he can love her, whether he will marry her, and whether the marriage can last a lifetime.Of course, she decided to marry him only after she was sure that he would grow old with her. If she had known that one day they would divorce one day, then she would not have married him at all.

After getting married, all the hard work she did was to grow old, as if getting divorced halfway would completely negate her life. In order to grow old forever, she was so nervous about him, afraid that he would be snatched away, and even a little bit of his indifference could hurt her the most. Those days were really hard. She can't figure it out now, why does she always pursue to live forever?Maybe she never thought about it, she just felt that love and marriage meant growing old together, if they couldn't grow old together, it wasn't love, it wasn't a happy marriage, and life was worthless.

Maybe it's a way for people to prove themselves, to the world, and to themselves. Perhaps a person's life is all about proving himself.Prove your worth, prove the meaning of your existence. When we were in school, we fought to join the team, to be a cadre, and to be the first in the exam, all to prove ourselves.After being accepted into the team, becoming a cadre, and getting the first place in the examination, one's own value has been recognized by people. After graduating from university, finding a job has become a means to prove oneself and gain recognition from others.When she was in China, finding a job was relatively smooth. Although it was not a fat job, it was not bad.

But just because you're recognized in one field doesn't mean you're recognized in another. For example, finding a partner cannot be replaced by finding a good job. You landed a great job, became a strong woman, and you were recognized in the world of work and career.But that doesn't mean that you are also recognized in the field of love and marriage, you have to work hard in the field of love and marriage to get recognition from someone. This acknowledgment can be short-term or long-term. So people always hope that their marriage will last forever, do they hope to find someone who will recognize you all his life?

A pair of gray-haired old people, walking on the road arm in arm, is equivalent to a campaign advertisement: Look, those old people love each other so much! Translated into modern Chinese, it is: look at that woman, she has been recognized and approved by a man for a lifetime, which shows that she is worthy of love. And if you and your spouse divorce halfway, it is tantamount to telling the world: Look at that woman, she can't even hold a man together, how can she be better? Men have become the weight to measure women. Now she has jumped out of the fog of "growth to old age", and finally sees herself, the people around her, and the world clearly.

Her worth doesn't need any man's love to prove it.She is her, cute is cute, not cute is not cute.Gaining a man's love will not increase her cuteness; losing a man's love will not lower her cuteness. A man is not a weight, he is not used to weigh women, he has his own mind, his own views and hobbies, and his views and hobbies are often wrong, at least not 100% correct.Who he falls in love with and who he doesn't love is not completely determined by this "who". A man has his own opinions.There are many good women in the world who are divorced or even abandoned by their husbands, but that doesn't mean they are unlovable, it's just that their husbands don't love them anymore.Maybe never loved, but so what?Still does not change the value of a woman.

She decided to enjoy life from now on and let "grow old" stand aside!If she grows old with someone, she will not feel disgusted; if she does not grow old with someone, she will not be sad. Everything comes naturally. Bill looks very quiet, like a master who holds literary books and reads quietly all day long, but in fact he is very active and full of vitality in his bones. He has arrangements almost every week. At first, most of them were related to China, such as inviting her to attend school Food charity sale, some parents baked cakes, some made snacks, and sold them at the school gate to raise donations for the class.

She also went there, selling her handmade dumplings, which were very popular and raised more than ten yuan for Ding Ding's class. Later, Bill invited her to introduce the Chinese Dragon Boat Festival to the students. She tried her best and spent a lot of time with Ding Ding, collecting pictures, writing speeches, and making slides, which opened the eyes of Ding Ding's classmates. Then Bill began to introduce American culture, inviting their mother and daughter to watch a baseball game, with the city's team participating.Bill is a fan of the city's baseball team. As long as there is a game, he will try his best to support it.

But she doesn't understand baseball at all. In order not to appear too unprofessional, she specifically searched for relevant information on the Internet. Not only did she learn about the history and great achievements of the city's baseball team, but she also learned a little about the rules of baseball games. When they arrived at the arena, Bill and Ding Ding shouted loudly and were very excited. Although she was not that excited, she was also very excited because of the influence of the two guys. There are also concerts, and outings in the countryside. There are many, many tricks, and there are arrangements almost every weekend.She had never played so recklessly, not even when she was young and in love.Now it seems to be rejuvenated, as if it is making up for the shortcomings of several years ago.

My sister joked with her: "Sister, I really envy you, it makes me want to divorce." She said shyly, "Did I play too crazy? I haven't even finished my thesis yet." "You can write a paper anytime, but love doesn't always exist." "Is this love?" "Of course it's love. Do you still think you have to grow old to be considered love?" "Hehe, I don't think so anymore." "If you are happy with him, that is love. Don't you think you are happy? I think you are at least ten years younger!" "I'm really happy, and I don't worry about how long it lasts, or whether it works out."

"If you worry about it, you won't be happy." "I never thought my life could be so easy!" Even her daughter noticed a huge change in her: "Mom, you didn't have a life before, but now you do." "Why do you say I didn't have a life before?" "Why don't you do anything, just go to school, cook, take care of me, take care of Dad, and have a life without yourself." "Do I have a life of my own now?" "Yes." Ding Ding thought for a while, and then said, "Dad doesn't have a life of his own either." "yes?" "He's a workaholic, in the lab all day." "Do you miss him?" Ding Ding shrugged: "I don't think much about it." "How did you know that my father and I divorced?" "Last time I called and asked him, he told me." "Well, but he told me not to tell you, because you told him not to tell me." "I told him not to tell you, but he still told you." "Mom, why are Chinese women ashamed of divorce?" "I don't know, but I'm not ashamed." "Then why didn't you tell me?" "I'm afraid you're not happy." "Why should I be unhappy?" She was a little embarrassed: "Maybe I don't know you well, I thought you would be unhappy." "I'm happy when you're happy, and I'm not happy when you're not." She put her arms around her daughter: "Mom is all about you. If you are happy, your mother will be happy. If you are not happy, your mother will not be happy." "You learned from me." She was shocked, could language habits be inherited? She asked without reason: "if your father marries someone else, such as that aunt Wen. Are you happy?" "I'm happy when he's happy." "You are such a sensible boy." "Mom, if Dad marries Aunt Wen, are you happy?" "Me? I'm just like you. I'm happy when he's happy." "Will Dad marry Aunt Wen?" "I don't know, just ask." "Will you marry Bill?" She was taken aback: "I don't know, we are just ordinary friends." "Did he kiss you?" She was taken aback again: "Huh? No, no, as I said, we are just ordinary friends." "Will you guys still be friends when I go to middle school?" "Er—do you want us to be friends?" "hope." "Then I will continue to be friends with him." "do as promised?" "do as promised."