Chapter 39 Section 1

At almost eleven o'clock, Ding Yi finally heard a sound of "Boom Boom Boom Boom" like thunder rolling through the air. She knew that her husband had come back and was opening the garage door with a remote control.Then there was a moment of silence, and then there was another bang and bang of the garage door closing. She once suggested that he just park the car outside, but he refused: "What does it look like when the car is parked outside?" "Why is it outrageous? Didn't you stop outside all the time before?" "I used to live in an apartment, and I didn't have a garage, so I had to park outside. Now that I have a garage, why do I still park outside?"

"I see a lot of people parked outside." "They used the garage for other purposes. They piled up sundries, so they had to park outside. Our garage doesn't have any sundries, so why park it outside?" "Because the sound of your garage opening and closing always wakes me up and keeps me awake at night." "But if I park the car outside and drive to work tomorrow and people see the snow on the roof of my car, they will think I'm a homeless person." "What's wrong with no house?" "Let's look down upon." "What's the disdain? We've always lived in apartments, haven't we?"

"That was when we were poor. Now that we can afford a house, why should people think we are poor?" She thinks that he is still the same as before in these aspects. He cares a lot about what others think of him. When he has something good, he wants to show it off to others. After buying a house, he is busy decorating it. , so that people know that he bought a house. She felt that she didn't care much about these things anymore, unlike when she first got married, she was so excited when she had her own house for the first time, and she was also busy with decoration, tidying, and decoration, and she was afraid that others would not agree with her when it was done. I know, I always like to invite my classmates and friends to come to my house to play and listen to others' compliments on my house.

But now she's getting lazy, and when she thinks of entertaining guests, she's afraid, and she has to cook for the guests, and she's also busy cleaning up the house, and she has to spend money. Most of the people she invites are from his side. No matter how familiar they are, there is no common topic, and there are unmarried female subordinates like Xiao Wen, which makes her nervous. She always feels that Xiao Wen dresses up beautifully every time, as if she came here to demonstrate to her . As for him, as long as he could hear people praise his house, food, and daughter, he would be willing to work hard to prepare food and drink for others.But he usually cooks a meal for his wife and children, but he can't poke it. If he is in a hurry, he calls to order a meal.

She sometimes stabbed him a few words: "Order again? Just the tip for the food delivery is enough to pay the people in your whole family for several years." He seemed to have completely forgotten his old mantra, and replied, "This is not Manjialing." Sometimes he taught her: "If a person is good at accounting, instead of spending my time doing housework, I might as well hire a domestic helper to do it. I can use that time to do scientific research." "Do you regard me as a domestic helper who doesn't spend money?" "How can I treat you as a domestic helper? I've already said, if you don't want to do housework, don't do it. We will hire someone to do it."

But she doesn't want to hire someone, how can someone find out what you like to eat and what you don't like to eat?Besides, the family is not that rich. After living in this house for a period of time, she gradually got used to the sound of the garage. Although she would still be woken up by the sound of him opening and closing the garage door every night, she only woke up halfway and heard the bang There was a rumbling sound, knowing that he was finally back, I felt a sense of peace of mind, and I could sleep in peace. But this time she was not half awake, nor did she fall asleep, because she was waiting for him.

She heard the sound of him going upstairs, and then saw him walk into the bedroom, put the car keys on the bedside table, and took off his coat, only then noticed that she was still awake, and said a little embarrassedly: "Haven't slept yet?" She smiled: "Aren't I waiting for you?" Even more embarrassed, he scratched his head and said, "Uh—I'm going to take a shower." She also thinks this is very funny. Originally, that should be a matter of course, but when the relationship came up, the two of them were intimate for a while, and naturally reached the point where it was necessary, so that.Where is it like them, first test ovulation, if not, just like the New Fourth Army cherishes ammunition without firing a single shot; if it does, call him back, and then the two of them will do their homework.

Where is this?It is clearly a man! As the saying goes, "It's hard to be a human being", and she was right, she encountered the problem of being a human being. She had an accidental pregnancy shortly after giving birth to Ding Ding, but she was not allowed to have a second child in China, so she had to have an abortion, and then kept wearing the ring for fear of another accident.Before coming to the United States, she went to the hospital to have the ring removed. She did not take any contraceptive measures, and she planned to give birth as soon as she became pregnant. But she has been in the United States for several years, and she has not conceived a child.Seeing that she was getting older and older, it would be too late to have another baby, so she had to take the method of measuring ovulation to help her conceive.

Many Chinese couples around her have given birth to second children, and they are all like magic hands. Those who have daughters have sons, and those who have sons have daughters.Although some parents are old and play outside with their children in their arms, some people often think that they are holding grandsons or granddaughters, but they finally fulfilled their dreams of having a son and a daughter and made up the word "good". When she first came to the U.S., she didn’t care about having children, she just wanted to study for a degree, because her sister warned her that she must study for a degree by herself, gain a firm foothold in the United States, and not be satisfied with being a family member of her husband , he has a Ph.D. and has strong scientific research ability. He will definitely be able to make a career out of it in the future.If you are a housewife with the domestic education, the gap between the two will become bigger and bigger, and marriage is prone to problems.

She is lucky, her husband has a salary and can support the whole family, and she does not have to work in a restaurant to help the family, so she does not work all day, but concentrates on studying TOEFL GRE.It just so happened that she had studied English before, and the two exams were not difficult for her, but it took a little effort to change her major, and she made up a lot of classes, and was finally admitted as a master's student by F University's biostatistics major. In those few years, I was very tired and busy taking classes, and I didn’t think much about getting pregnant. I planned to give birth when I got pregnant, and let it go if I didn’t.Now that her courses are over, only the thesis is left, and he has applied for a large amount of scientific research funding and has become the leader of the scientific research project, so the two of them put the matter of having a child on the agenda.

In fact, she was a little apprehensive when she thought that at her age, she still had to take care of the child from head to toe.But those Chinese who are rushing to have a second child in the United States say that the child is easy to take care of now, and there is no need to wash diapers or make milk paste. There is air conditioning in the room and carpets on the floor. Simple. What she fears most is that her child will get sick.Ding Ding fell ill when she was a child, and it really scared her. She caught a cold when she went to kindergarten, so she had to be taken care of at home. She finally recovered from her illness. When she was sent to kindergarten, she caught a cold again. Sometimes it was infected by other children, and sometimes it was a nap. I was sweating, and no one helped to dry it off. The clothes on my back were wet, and I caught a cold immediately. After hearing her worry about her child getting sick, her Chinese friends relieved her, saying that children born in the United States do not get sick very much, probably because the air is good and the pollution is not serious, so the child is less likely to suffer from respiratory infections. The indoors in the United States are equipped with air conditioners, which maintain a constant temperature all year round, so that children will not catch colds easily. But she still has a worry, that is, if she is pregnant now, she will be in vain when she graduates to find a job. With a big belly, where can she find a job?Who would recruit a pregnant woman?If she got pregnant after going to work, the boss can't do anything to her: You can't discriminate against pregnant women, you can only blame yourself for being low-minded.But if you look for a job with a big belly, people will find an excuse not to want you. He always advised her to stay at home: "Why do you want to find a job? It's not that I can't support you." "If I depend on you to support me, don't you want to do me as much as you want?" "Aren't you relying on me to support you now? Have I become you?" She was at a loss for words.It is true that she has been supported by him for the past few years since she came to the United States, and he has never done anything to her, but she always feels a little lumpy in her heart.As the saying goes, "serve someone else's bowl, obey others' management", no matter whether he has intentionally slandered her or not, she herself is still a little cautious, for fear that he will say "Now you are serving my bowl, and you still want to refuse to obey my management" "? Sometimes she thought, what would she do if he really came to rape her?The only way is to go back to China, because she has not yet obtained a master's degree, can't find a job in the United States, and can't even support herself, let alone pay tuition fees. There is no other way but to return to China. But returning to China is not so wonderful. People in their 35s and 60s are women again, and they don’t have an American degree. Who would want to return to China?She couldn't even go back to University A. When she left, she resigned and refused to ask for a passport. Now if she wants to go to University A, it is not a question of "going back", but a question of "entering". Colleagues at University A said that when University A recruits overseas returnees, it first depends on whether you have a Ph. Ph.D. graduates, otherwise they will not be accepted at all. She sighed to her colleagues: "If I had known this was the case, I would not have gone abroad. For someone like me, I would never have to think about getting a doctorate from a prestigious university in the United States. If I didn't go abroad, I would at least have a professorship at University A." , Even if you leave the country, you can’t even enter A University.” The colleague said: "Forget it, don't regret it. Those like us who have not gone abroad and want to stay in University A must have a Ph. After being hired, I was very nervous, and it is not a human life." There is no retreat in the country, and she is even more panicked. She has completely lost the pride she used to have when she was in the country. At that time, she was only worried about her relationship, and she was afraid that he would not love her, but if she really got to that point, she would not collapse. , nothing more than blowing off or getting divorced. Now it seems that it is no longer a matter of relationship, but a matter of survival. Her sister always comforts her: "Don't think things are too scary, Xiaoman is not that kind of person. Even if you two divorce, he will still have to support you." "He still has to support me? Does he support the children at most?" "Who said that? There is a law in the United States. After divorce, the capable party must support the incapable party." "Is there such a thing?" "Of course, my former mentor was like this. He divorced a long time ago and remarried, but until now he has to pay his ex-wife alimony, which is equivalent to raising two wives." "How long will it last?" "Hehe, maybe until the day the ex-wife dies, or the day the ex-wife remarries, or the day the ex-wife finds a job." "Then his ex-wife hasn't been looking for a job?" "Why is she looking for a job? It's not good for someone to support her?" "She doesn't remarry either?" "Why do you want to remarry? If you remarry, you won't get alimony." "But how lonely it is to be alone!" "She doesn't have to live alone. She can have a boyfriend, as long as she doesn't get married." She lamented: "American women are so happy, American laws protect women very well." "American laws don't only protect women. If the wife is richer than her husband, she will have to pay her ex-husband alimony after divorce. Look at those famous actors, they often pay their spouses a lot of money to buy a free life." According to this, she will never have to worry about food and drink in her life. As long as her husband can earn money, he has to support her, whether it is marriage or divorce. Because now he can give as much as he wants, and there are no rules between husband and wife.But if you get divorced, it's different, you have to do business, and he has to pay as much as the court awards him, not less. But what's the point of living like that?I can't support myself, and I rely on him to support me. If I ask him for money, I have to look at his face once. Is that called life? When she was in China, she always felt that she was very independent and powerful financially, and she absolutely did not depend on him for money. At that time, what she considered was whether to care about his family's poverty, not her own poverty.To decorate the house and hold the wedding, it was her side who paid a lot of money, and his little money was kept in the bank at all. She never thought that there would be a day where she would not be able to earn a penny, and she would rely on him to support the family, as if fate deliberately let her experience his feelings back then.