Chapter 10 10. Get locked up from an early age

In order to comfort his wife, Jiang Xin cooked several delicious dishes, and watched Jian Ning and his son Shuai Shuai gobble them up.She is also a white-collar worker, but when she eats Jiang Xin's cooking, Jian Ning doesn't care about her image.too delicious.The simplest spicy pork ribs can make Jian Ning finish two bowls of rice.Fortunately, Jian Ning never asks herself to be skinny, and Jiang Xin often instills words such as "women should be plump", so Jian Ning can eat without restraint.One thing is, Jian Ning was born with a weak spleen and stomach, if he is full at one meal, he will have to be empty at the next meal, or something will go wrong.Therefore, it is not too fat to eat.It's just that every time she sees Jian Ning eating and drinking regardless of her image, Jiang Xin jokes with her wife: "People say that if you want to keep a man's heart, you must first keep his stomach. Our family is fine, it's completely reversed. My wife's stomach is really reserved, and I can't even drive it away." Jian Ning was gnawing on ribs, and had no time to answer.Jiang Xin sighed again, and said, "Oh! Who will keep my stomach? I'll keep it myself!" Jian Ning laughed to death.

After dinner, Jian Ning discussed with Jiang Xin that Shuai Shuai will start kindergarten in September.There are still more than two months, so Shuai Shuai should learn something.Otherwise, the children in kindergartens are versatile now, and wish they could take the TOEFL test at the age of 6. Our son can't do anything, and living in a group will make him feel inferior.Jiang Xin said, let's go early!It is not too late to learn after entering the middle class.Jian Ning said that the middle shift is late.I inquired about it, and now everything is learned from the small class, and the enrollment of various classes in the Children's Palace starts from the age of three. Shuai Shuai turned three years old in June, so he started learning.You just need to support me ideologically, and I will do the specific work.Jiang Xin said that I will not speak, wife, you decide.Don't complain when the time comes!

After having a child, Jiang Xin found out that she had married a wife with a strong ability to act, and she was well-known by the old mother-in-law.It was discussed in the evening, and Jian Ning went to the Children's Palace for consultation the next day, and signed up in the afternoon.Of course, Jian Ning acted quickly but not decisively.Before Jiang Ning asked Shuai Shuai: "What do you like to play the most?" Shuai Shuai said seriously: "Drawing little people!" Jian Ning went to the Children's Palace to enroll Shuai Shuai in a children's painting class.The teacher said that three-year-old children must first train their senses, have a sense of color, be able to do it, and be able to concentrate.So don't rush to learn other things. Children's paintings have simple composition and bright colors, which is a good way to get started.Jian Ning followed the teacher's advice and signed up for Shuai Shuai.

It was the first class on Saturday, and Jian Ning brought Shuai Shuai pencils, erasers, and crayons, and led Shuai Shuai into class.Before coming here, Jian Ning has already agreed with Shuai Shuai that today she will come to learn painting, and there will be many children learning with you to see who draws beautifully.You must listen to the teacher's words, and you must not move, talk, etc. during class.Originally, everything was ordered, but as soon as I entered the class, something went wrong.Shuai Shuai is timid, he has never seen a class before, and when he saw his mother going out and leaving him here alone, he cried.Shuai Shuai's cry was not loud, but it was enough to affect the classroom order.The other children looked at Shuai Shuai suspiciously, and the teacher couldn't coax him no matter what, Jian Ning was so anxious that he really wanted to hit him.In the end, there was nothing to do, Jian Ning begged the teacher to let him stay in the class, so as not to affect the classroom teaching.The teacher hesitated for a moment, and that was all he could do.Jian Ning was allowed to sit down on the floor at Shuai Shuai's feet.Shuai Shuai really stopped crying and began to listen to the teacher's lecture.The teacher said, children, today we are going to draw a small animal, a very, very cute little animal.The children said, which small animal is the best?The children raised their hands one after another, Jian Ning poked Shuai Shuai, and Shuai Shuai also raised his hands.Some of the children talked about lambs and kittens. The teacher asked Shuai Shuai, and Shuai Shuai timidly replied: "Chicken!" Jian Ning almost burst out laughing.Shuai Shuai said: "Because the chicken is very small, it is very good." Finally, the teacher took the children to draw a little rabbit.Jian Ning looked at Shuai Shuai holding the pencil, carefully followed the teacher to smear stroke by stroke, and watched the snow-white drawing paper being rubbed black, and his heart beat.

When get out of class was over, Jian Ning saw that many parents took their children's paintings to the teacher to comment on. Jian Ning also squeezed in handsomely, waiting for the teacher's criticism devoutly.Unexpectedly, the teacher was extraordinarily kind. He took the painting and said to Jian Ning: "Shuai Shuai's first painting like this is very good. You see, the composition is very grand and the painting is very clean. Let him practice crochet after returning home." Edge, coloring. This is to practice his concentration and patience. For the first time, parents can accompany him to complete it, so that he will gradually become interested." Jian Ning nodded again and again, and carefully looked at the handsome painting, Looking at other children's paintings, it seems that Shuai Shuai's paintings are really good.The other bunnies are either very small or sidelined. Shuai Shuai’s painting is very big. In the middle of the drawing paper, he also created some flowers and plants by himself.It's really not bad.Jian Ning can take Shuai Shuai home, and when he sees Shuai Shuai, he immediately begins to crochet.

Shuaishuai is holding a carbon pen for the first time, and he has not yet mastered the posture, trembling, and the outline is drawn like a dog's teeth.Jian Ning held back his temper and held his handsome little hand to teach him bit by bit.Shuai Shuai was very happy when it was time to paint. Looking at the newly bought crayons, he wanted to try each one.Jian Ning told Shuai Shuai to choose the color first, what to paint the bunny, what to paint the grass, what to paint the base color.Jian Ning was glad that she sat on the ground and attended a class, otherwise it would be really difficult to tutor him.Shuai Shuai picked out a lot of colors, Jian Ning kept in mind what the teacher said, let the children give full play to their imagination, and leave him alone.So Shuai Shuai asked his mother, what color is the little rabbit?Jian Ning replied: "It is whatever color you think it is." Shuai Shuai painted it freely, painted the bunny red, the grass green, and the clouds blue...

As soon as Jiang Xin came home, she saw her son showing off his masterpiece.Jiang Xin admired the work in front of her in surprise, the colors were bumpy, but it was bright and lovely.The sun is bright red, with a golden halo around it, and there are black eyes and mouth on the red face of the sun, which looks like a smiling face.There is also a yellow bow on the little rabbit's neck, and there are three whiskers on the left and four on the right of the mouth.There is a huge thing on the little rabbit's head, and Shuai Shuai says it is a butterfly.Jian Ning looked at Jiang Xin, his eyes were filled with pride and a smile, Jiang Xin picked up Shuai Shuai and kissed him, and said, "Son, you are awesome! The painting is so beautiful!"

With this encouragement, coupled with Jian Ning's earnest threats and comfort, Shuai Shuai can finally go to class without crying.From crying, to sobbing, to tears, to red eyes, to depression, to saying goodbye to Jian Ning calmly and picking me up later... This process took five weeks.It was the first time for Jian Ning to understand her son's personality so deeply. He was timid and afraid of unfamiliar environments.Jian Ning is thankful for her decision, which made Shuai Shuai realize the concept of "collective" and "teacher" in advance before living a formal kindergarten life.It is precisely because Shuai Shuai has this weakness that Jian Ning made another decision.

On the weekend, Jian Ning told Jiang Xin what she thought, and Jiang Xin became anxious when she heard it, and said, "Let Shuai Shuai go to the boarding house? No way!" Jian Ning said, "Why not?" Jiang Xin said, "The kindergarten is far away from us. There is only one stop at home, and it is completely feasible to pick up and drop off every day. Why do you want to board?" Jian Ning said: "Shuai Shuai is used to living with his parents now, and he can't stand any changes. What will happen after this? He is a boy. See Has a boy ever been so timid? Look at him now in the community, afraid to play with other children, unwilling to contact new children. This is all alone at home. Only by living in a group can he be defeated This problem." Jiang Xin said: "Don't you have to live in a group when you pick up and drop off every day? Why do you have to live there?" Jian Ning said: "Only by getting along with his peers day and night can he learn to blend in. He hasn't learned it before. Make up lessons now. No matter what problems happen, he has to learn to solve them by himself." Jiang Xin had to admit that what Jian Ning said was reasonable, but she still said uneasy: "Shuai Shuai is timid, he lives there What should I do if I'm bullied?" Jian Ning said: "You can be bullied if you can't help it. A boy, whether he is bullying others or being bullied by others, must learn to deal with it. This is his life!"

This discussion ended again with Jiang Xin's compromise.This is Jiang Xin's second compromise since Shuai Shuai went to kindergarten. To be precise, Jiang Xin was persuaded by Jian Ning again.However, only Jiang Xin was persuaded by Jian Ning.The handsome grandma, grandpa, grandma and grandpa quit when they heard the news.The grandma and grandpa far away in Chengdu felt that they could not control their son and daughter-in-law remotely because they could not take care of their grandson in person, so they could only call their son every now and then to express their worries.Grandma didn't care about these things, she ran to Jian Ning's house and said that my daughter is too cruel, you can find me if you don't have time to pick her up.I will pick you up.If you don't have time after get off work, you can find me.I can take it.Jian Ning said, it's not about this problem, mom, don't get involved, don't think that we don't want to be responsible, we do this for the sake of being handsome.Jiang Xin also said that after consideration, he also felt that what Jian Ning did was right.Grandma said with tears in her eyes, "I can't help my son, your own children can figure it out for themselves."

Jiang Xin didn't expect that a problem in the kindergarten would cause people to betray their relatives, and even colleagues around him said that he was cruel enough.Lan Yun also said to Jian Ning tactfully: "Is this good for the child? Would you think about it again?" Jian Ning told Jiang Xin that the son belongs to us, and only you and I know what's wrong with him. How to fix it.Others are standing and talking without back pain, so just pretend you didn't hear them. When entering the kindergarten in September, Jiang Xin refused to send Shuai Shuai off.He can't take it.If you send it off on the same day and pick it up on the same day, and Shuai Shuai cries, he can still bear it.But the thought of sending him in and seeing him on Friday makes him really sad.Jian Ning pursed her lips and said, "I guess I know who is handsome. If you don't go, I will go!" Seeing strange kindergartens, strange teachers and children, Shuai Shuai will of course cry.Jian Ning calmly handed the crying Shuai Shuai to the teacher, turned around and left.When going out of the gate, Jian Ning saw the tearful parents, grandparents and grandparents gathered at the gate, and she laughed secretly.Recalling what Lan Yun said to her: "The younger the mother, the less separation anxiety she will have from her child." She is fortunate that she gave birth early and did not become a member of the "too soft-hearted" parents. Jiang Xin spent a week in a state of restlessness.He secretly observed Jian Ning, really doing what he should do, never said to visit the kindergarten, call the teacher or something.Jiang Xin went to the kindergarten by herself, but the gate was closed and she was not allowed to see her.The security guard at the gate said that if you need anything, you should contact the teacher first.Jiang Xin came back and reminded Jian Ning to send a text message to the teacher to ask about the situation. Jian Ning said: "What are you asking? The teacher will call me if something happens." Jiang Xin said: "The most poisonous woman's heart. This sentence is really suitable for you !" Jian Ning laughed and said, "What does 'woman's benevolence' mean? Ah? The one from Peking University, I'm asking you!" After finally looking forward to Friday, Jiang Xin trotted all the way into work to pick up Shuai Shuai.In Jian Ning's words, if a good person asks you to do it, go and accept it.When Shuai Shuai saw his father, he pursed his lips and smiled, and called, "Dad!" Jiang Xin's heart softened.The teacher came over and praised him for being handsome, careful, and loving to help children, like to help the teacher with work, and love to draw.Jiang Xin asked the teacher, "Doesn't he cry every day?" The teacher smiled and said, "I cried on the first day. It was fine as soon as the parents left, and I started playing with the teacher immediately. Children adapt quickly." Jiang Xin Bringing Shuai Shuai out and walking past the big slide, Shuai Shuai suddenly stopped and said, "Dad, go back." Jiang Xin was very surprised and asked what happened to Shuai Shuai.Shuai Shuai said proudly: "The kindergarten is my home. I love my home. I won't leave." Jiang Xin died of laughter.