Chapter 29 Chapter Twenty-Eight The Secret to Reviving an Old Relationship

In the morning, I decided to talk to Zhang Peng. In the past, when I was so bad at it, I was asked to find someone who was better than me, and I would not do it even if I was beaten to death. But it's different now. It's not that I'm doing well, but that I've undergone a major change in my mentality this year. In the past, because of low self-esteem, I always put myself on the surface to be stronger.I am the biggest in the world, pretending that I am good, but then I can no longer pretend, and I dare not even see my friends. That's a typical outsider who is strong in the middle, scaring others and fooling himself.

We all care about how we feel and what others think of us.In fact, many times, you are living in your own imagination. Take me for example, because I have a gap with others, I always think that others will think of me, look down on me, and even laugh at me.But the fact is not all the case. In this society, everyone is busy and has little time to care about others.Even if you show off your success, it's not just to ridicule others, it's mostly because you are sensitive. My contacts with Zhou Yuan's relatives during the Spring Festival are an obvious example.I didn't feel their contempt, at least they didn't despise me deliberately.

Make the relationship between people simpler, and you will live a happier life. Sometimes, acting rashly is more powerful than crafting deliberately. The purpose of my approach to Zhang Peng is to tell him about my current situation and ask him to give me advice, not as a friend, but as a seeker of advice. Asking for advice is actually an excuse, I just want to restore the previous friendship. I called Zhang Peng and said hello to him. Zhang Peng did not recognize my voice.He was surprised when I reported my name, and this surprise was also somewhat curious. He said: "I haven't heard your voice for a long time, I thought you were missing."

I said: "During the Spring Festival, I also sent you a text message, maybe you didn't see it." Zhang Peng said: "I received too many text messages, so I didn't pay attention." Later, Zhang Peng's tone became a little flat and polite, and the rustiness was obvious. If a few years ago, Zhang Peng and I talked on the phone, we would talk nonsense, chatting all over the world, and talking on the phone for half an hour if there was nothing half a dime. But it's different now, and I can't find the feeling of the past. I said to Zhang Peng, "I have something to ask for your help."

Zhang Peng said, "Well, I'll help if I can." I said, "When are you free? I'll stop by your place." Zhang Peng asked: "Is it convenient to talk on the phone?" Fuck, obviously a bit of rejection. I said, "I just want to sit with you for a while, let's talk and talk about family affairs, nothing else." Zhang Peng hesitated for a moment and said, "Then come here, I'm on duty in the office." The office is not a place to discuss private matters.Never mind him, let's talk when we meet. Zhang Peng has an office by himself, and the central air conditioner keeps it warm.

When I went, he was busy in front of the computer, glanced at it, and there was a game hanging on the computer, which seemed to be Three Kingdoms. Zhang Peng received me warmly and said: "We are old friends. If you have anything to say on the phone, you have to make a trip." He made tea for me and gave me cigarettes.Just the right enthusiasm, not too far not too close. I know that Zhang Peng is afraid that I will cause trouble for him. If I really have trouble looking for him at this time, I'm sure he will just find an excuse and send me away. Thinking about it, everyone is somewhat tired in the current pace of life. Who wants to share other people's troubles?

I wanted Zhang Peng to relax, so I casually fabricated a matter of a dilemma, and asked him to help me decide.Let’s use an analogy. It’s like the weather is very hot and I want to swim, but I don’t know whether to swim in the river or the swimming pool. I made this up to give him the thrill of making a decision.Making decisions without taking risks is a kind of spiritual enjoyment. If I said that I have not been doing well in the past few years, maybe what he would think in his heart.I thought I was going to ask him to borrow money or rice, or ask him to help introduce business, and I would immediately become alert.

I remembered how many people went to someone to do business, complained as soon as they entered the door, hoping to gain sympathy from others and achieve their own goals.But there are many people who need sympathy in this society. Everyone is used to it, numb and tired. But if you do things with an attitude of asking for advice, the effect may be different. I can, I can, I can do better than you.This is the general mentality. After hearing my words, Zhang Peng said in a slightly complaining tone: "This thing has stumped you too. You have been fooling around all these years." Then he gave me advice on what to do. .

In this way, the atmosphere is a little more harmonious.I frankly told him that I had not been doing well in the past few years, and now I have a business department that buys short and sells short, and it is not doing well.Because he has a wide range of contacts and a quick mind, I asked him to help me with ideas. Zhang Peng breathed a sigh of relief, pointed at me from a distance with his finger and said, "You, you." If Zhang Peng and I were equal friends in the past, now I put Zhang Peng in the position of a strong person, and I am willing to accept criticism from my friends as a weak person.

When a person is willing to get along with you as a mentor, he feels that he is safe, which means that he may already trust you.Besides, Zhang Peng and I were friends before. In the afternoon, I talked a lot with Zhang Peng.I dissected the shortcomings of my character, and he also pointed out a lot of flaws to me, and criticized me mercilessly. One was eloquent, and the other accepted it with an open mind. The atmosphere of the conversation was actually pretty good. When she was about to leave work, a woman in her thirties came to Zhang Peng, and when she entered the door, she asked if it was a confidential matter and if she needed to come back later.

Zhang Peng said, "Where, an old friend came to chat." The woman said, "Your old friend, why don't I know you? Let me introduce you." Judging from her tone, she is very familiar with Zhang Peng. Zhang Peng said, "It's been a few years since I saw him. Now he's in the building materials business." The woman immediately said: "Oh, I'm going to renovate the house soon, and I'm looking for an expert to consult." I smiled and said, "I'm not an expert, I just know a little bit about the market." The woman said: "Knowing the market means you are an expert." Zhang Peng introduced me: "This is Maomei, a good businessman and a strong woman." As he spoke, he told Maomei my name again. I took a look at Maomei. She was in her thirties, with a round face and big eyes. She was not only beautiful, but also had a good temperament and was quite friendly. Maomei told me solemnly that she plans to renovate the house in the next two days, and she has quoted several decoration companies for the price. I don't know whether I should agree, because Mao Mei is Zhang Peng's friend, and it seems not good for me to contact his friends without Zhang Peng's consent, so I looked at Zhang Peng with a smile, and stayed for a while, waiting Zhang Peng made a statement. Zhang Peng said, "It's ok. Then you can take time to accompany Maomei to the decoration market and help her check it out." I said, "No problem." Because I was about to get off work, I guessed that Mao Mei came to see Zhang Peng for other things, so I bid them farewell. Zhang Peng sent me out and asked, "Is there any specific difficulty for me to help?" I said, "No really, let's chat." He said: "Look for me when you encounter difficulties. We are friends, but politeness becomes rusty." I nodded and said, "I will come to ask you if I have something to ask." Coming out of Zhang Peng's office, I let out a long breath.The relationship with Zhang Peng seems to have recovered, although I don't expect him to bring me any substantial help. I really didn't think about asking Zhang Peng to help me, I just wanted to restore the relationship with my friends, that's all. If a person wants to achieve something, he must ultimately rely on himself.No matter how good the relationship with friends is, it can't replace your own efforts. In the evening, I talked on the phone with several former friends one after another.Many people were surprised when they received my call, and asked, "I haven't heard from you for a long time, did you make a lot of money in silence?" Yes, many people are like this, and they only go there when the scenery is good. Find friends and let them share your success; but when you are in trouble, you are afraid that your friends will know. I shouted loudly on the phone, and said, "I just missed you guys, give me a call to say hello." Then I said, "You guys want to let me know about any gatherings, and I want to see what you've become." When I made these calls, I actually felt very uncomfortable, and I felt a little bit betraying my dignity. Yes, for so many years, your friends have ignored you, and in the end you have to take the initiative to find you.They were all equal in the past, but now they seem to be flattering. Alas, if you want to open up a bit, who doesn't curry favor with others?Some people are very strong in front of their friends, maybe they are also humble in front of their leaders. Typical self-soothing.