Chapter 21 Scene 19 fair trade

On weekend nights, the two couples sat cross-legged on the floor separately.The ground around them is filled with drinks, and the four of them are about to start a game of cards.They're all shaking with tension and excitement, and they're all looking forward to the big sex thing happening in the next hour. The two couples have known each other for 7 years.They both felt attracted to each other's mates, but they never committed infidelity to their own mates.One of the couples has never used contraception for 5 years, but they have no children, and the other couple has two children.In the past few years, the relationship between the two couples and their spouses has fallen into a low ebb for unknown reasons.The childless couple felt an undeniable void in their lives that no amount of their savings or even travel could shake.When they met each other for the first time, they both felt that each other was their ideal object.Men are tall, muscular, ambitious, intelligent, and manipulative.Women are lively, open, informal and often wear provocative clothing.Wherever a man goes, there are many women around him.He could switch to a new sexual partner every week if he wanted to, and in fact he often switched to different short-term sexual partners.There are also many suitors around women.After the couple decided on their relationship, both felt deeply proud to be each other's partners, so despite their promiscuous past, they later took their relationship seriously.

Four years later, a year after they stopped using birth control, both men were tested for infertility, but doctors could not find the exact cause of the infertility.The woman was able to ovulate, her fallopian tubes were not blocked, and everything seemed normal.The man has a fairly high sperm count and everything else is fine. At first, they had aggressively intensified their sex lives in order to combat their infertility, but after a year of unsuccessful efforts, the couple gradually lost interest in routine intercourse.They both have a vague expectation that the other is to blame for their infertility, and this idea leads them to begin to feel dissatisfied with their spouse's sexual performance.She felt selfish and useless with his size and energy.But he thinks her waywardness and those extremely provocative clothes are not only vulgar, but also a means to cover up her coldness.

It's a different story for couples with kids.Both are charming, but not as outgoing as the childless friends.The man of the pair is small, taciturn, hard-working, and trustworthy.Women are shy, compassionate, and motherly.Both of their children were born in just 8 months without contraception.As a couple of parents, this result is quite outstanding.When the men are not at work, they are always at home and rarely act alone. Recently, however, due to the difficult economic situation, there has been a lot of friction between the two of them.And recently the situation has gotten worse and worse, because the man lacks ambition and leadership, and the employer has relegated him to a less important position.A woman is frustrated by her spouse's mediocre career, and she always complains about his incompetence and his inability to improve their situation.And for a man, whose spouse is busy with housework all day, he now finds her bumbling reticence both annoying and unattractive.

Not long ago, the two couples each tried to rekindle their "sexual" interest through pornographic movies.However, the shock of the pornographic images wears off within a few weeks.Next, the idea of ​​watching a pornographic movie with 4 of them immediately turned on their excitement, but that excitement began to wane again tonight.So, inspired by a porn movie, they decide to play a game of swapping partners.The game sequence in the videotape begins with the men throwing the car keys onto the carpet in the center of the floor.The ladies are responsible for picking up the keys and pairing them with their owners.In the blink of an eye, the room in the movie is filled with copulating nudes.

It was the impatient, childless woman who first suggested that they, too, should come and play as swappers.At first, the other 3 people thought that her proposal must be a joke, but after everyone got a little drunk, the 4 people really started to seriously discuss the feasibility of this plan.Soon, they all felt that it was unnecessary to talk about the benefits of the game, but to talk about the practical problems of putting it into action.They came up with a kind of card game. Participants only need to rely on luck, not strategy. The winner must take off his clothes one by one in order. The woman has sex.

In the end, it was the short man who won.He had already stripped completely when the other three were about to start undressing.His body was not muscular and his testicles were relatively small, but his penis was quite large, larger than average.The man sat watching the two women undress one by one, gradually revealing their bodies, as he grew more and more proud of his erection.However, the results of the card game were disappointing.Because the next one to strip naked is his spouse.The other couple were surprised and excited as the woman removed the last of her underwear.Because she showed a piece of inverted triangle-shaped pubic hair, the amount of which was extremely disproportionate to her overall appearance. On the other hand, it was even more unbelievable that such lush pubic hair would grow on such a shy woman. Immediately one of the 4 suggested changing the rules of the game to read: "The same couple cannot have intercourse with their spouse", but in the end the rule was changed to: "The same couple can have intercourse, but only in front of the other couple" .

The "lucky winner" couple was not as "showy" as their friends, and they found it difficult to perform sexual intercourse in front of others.They laughed lightly and felt very embarrassed. The man's penis suddenly shrank, and it seemed that this game could not be played any longer.Finally, the two of them lay down together, and the friend couple started stroking and kissing their bodies repeatedly, and finally helped them turn their shyness into excitement.For the couple, this spectator-participating in fondling sex was probably the most exciting experience of their lives.

The childless man can't help but want to ejaculate immediately after seeing all this.He advised everyone to stop playing poker, preferring to have sex with that friend's spouse than his own.As soon as he finished speaking, he lay on his friend's spouse before waiting for everyone to answer.In later years, women with children recalled this scene many times.The man's penis was bigger than her mate's, and she often recalled what it felt like to have that man's penis inside her: no guilt, no excitement.Her heart was filled then with an irresistible welcome.Next, although she also felt some excitement, it didn't last long.The man was so excited that he ejaculated in seconds.

All four were naked, and after a half-hour pause, they waited patiently, and then worked together to help the first undressed man get his penis back on its feet.The childless woman may be the one who is most looking forward to today's result among the four, but she feels very troubled now, because she thinks that today's partner-swapping game may not be her turn.A man with children feels stressed, he feels unable to concentrate.But the caresses given to him by the two women rebuilt his confidence and made him look forward to having sex with different women.Later, the childless woman suggested that he adopt the back pose, in which she said she could kneel and bend over a chair.The childless man gets his turn on again when he sees his spouse having sex with another man.The man had just stepped back from his spouse, and he immediately went up to take his place.

The couple never played the game again. A month later, both women were pregnant.They all believed that the father of the child was the man who had proven his reproductive ability.But they were very, very wrong.Both children were fathered by the man who was mistaken for infertility. The two couples later lived together separately for five years.For a certain period of time after the birth of the child, the relationship between the two couples is relatively stable.But as the children grow up, the relationship between the partners begins to deteriorate again.The extroverted couple went off contraception but never had a second child, and their accusations against each other mounted.The man later develops an affair with the shy woman.Both initially tried to keep it a secret, but eventually both confessed to their spouses about their infidelity, and both couples broke up.The couple that developed an affair, the woman later moved in with the man with her 3 children.

From the score point of view, the more outgoing man's life has become more and more successful. Not only did he get the two children born that night, he even got two stepsons. These are his gratifying achievements.Men still believe they are infertile to this day.Yet his wealth and status continued to increase, and his physical attractiveness continued, so that he was more attractive to women than ever.Men still often change casual partners outside.His new spouse knew this too, and she was willing to tolerate the man's affairs in exchange for the financial assurance that she and her three children would not have to worry about financial problems no matter what the man was doing outside.In the following years, the man unknowingly became the father of two other children. In the scenes earlier in this book we have shown how men and women try to hide their infidelity.Because if this kind of thing is not concealed well, they will suffer.In this section we introduce four men and women whose infidelities were open.Swingers aren't all that common in Western societies, but they do happen often enough to give us some insight into the diversity of human sexuality.On the other hand, swapping partners can also start a sperm war.According to a survey conducted in the 1970s, 5% of long-term couples had exchanged partners several times, while 80% of them had only once or twice.Under what circumstances should swapping partners have a positive impact on reproduction? The average person's criteria for choosing a partner or lover will change with the stage of their life.For example, in scene 19, when the game of "open infidelity" like swapping partners is brought up, it goes without saying that preconceived ideas are already in the minds of those four people.At this time, their hearts were mixed with excitement and terror.Their excitement about the imminent game of infidelity is compounded by their fear of their bodies and their sexual performance, which dampens their excitement.And subconsciously, their bodies are facing a more important issue: from the perspective of reproduction, will their upcoming behaviors "gain" more than "lose"? It was easier for the couple who were more extroverted to make decisions.They agree that the cause of infertility may lie with each other, and that the game in front of them allows them to have sex with someone other than their spouses in order to prove their reproductive ability.Whether consciously or subconsciously, they will probably come to the same conclusion. As for the other couple, although they consciously have difficulty agreeing with their own body theory, they still cannot come to conclusions as easily as the previous couple.The couple's family functioning and financial capacity are deteriorating at an accelerated rate.If the situation does not improve, it will be very difficult for them to raise only two children.In this situation, how do they find other people who have affairs?As far as that man is concerned, unless he can find a woman who is willing to raise the child alone, there is no possibility of him having a third child.And his friend's spouse just fits the bill.A man's spouse, on the other hand, must be in a better financial situation to be able to have a third child.And her friend's spouse is very suitable for her conditions, not to mention, her body is also deeply attracted to him.Because not only is the friend's spouse rich, but their relationship seems increasingly shaky.If a friend's spouse admits that the child she is carrying is his, he may offer her financial assistance.She might even snatch him away from her friends, too.And most importantly, her body is very aware of what benefits this man can bring her.Not only is he extremely popular with women, but he has managed to achieve a high status.From a genetic point of view, the children born to her and this man are more likely to be successful than the children born to her spouse. Of course, for both men and women, the act of partner-swapping carries risks.For example, the risk of being infected with a disease.In this scene, however, the dangers most likely to be incurred by an affair have been minimized.All four of them understood the consequences and agreed to accept them, so none of them needed to try to hide it or fear being discovered by their spouses.Moreover, since they both agree to have sexual intercourse in public, this behavior cannot be said to be cheating on the spouse.In fact, the relationship between the two couples has long been unstable, and the risk of this night's behavior-being abandoned by the spouse-is not much higher than before. Because of this, all four of them subconsciously felt they might profit from the act of swapping partners.It turns out that they were all right.This point can be easily seen from three of them.The childless woman became pregnant.Her spouse got two kids on the same night.As for the other woman, although she suffered a bit at the beginning, she not only snatched a new spouse, but also obtained the property of the new spouse in the end, and also successfully raised her three children.Had it not been for the moment of madness that night, she might have only been able to raise two children, and had to raise them under difficult circumstances.As for the other man who originally had a child, it is not an easy matter to explain the value of his decision itself.Of course, he also probably thought he had two more kids that night.But this is not the case.At the same time, for the next five years, he was under the pressure of raising a third child (though the child was not his, but he thought it was his).In the end, his spouse abandoned him for another man who had not only been the object of her first infidelity, but had also had her spouse's permission for that infidelity.In addition, judging from the ending, he even lost the opportunity to contact his beloved child every day. Just looking at the surface, this man's experience is really far from success.But in any case, after that night, his two children are better than before, and their growth environment is not what he used to provide.The man was able to see his children often afterwards, and he did what he could and did to help his children.He often spends short periods of time with the two children, so the two children should not think that their father has abandoned them.If it weren't for what happened that night, the man might have to try his best to find a way to raise these two children.As mentioned in Scenarios 9, 11, and 16, it is best to keep in mind that difficult situations like these can sometimes lead to disastrous results.Men are more likely to be abandoned by their spouses in desperate circumstances.And more importantly, his luck may not be as good as his friend, because that man took away his role of raising children. But in fact, this man also has something to gain: his friend plays the role of a good stepfather.Of course, this may be because he pays attention to his friend's attitude towards the child in the new environment.And more importantly, because his ex-spouse took a laissez-faire attitude towards the infidelity of his new spouse (ie, the man's friend).A woman's new mate dislikes monogamy by nature, and if he is allowed to do as he pleases, he will be more than happy to provide for her children.In other words, a woman trades her new spouse's sexual freedom for her own security, which means her and her children's financial situation is protected no matter what he does outside. The madness of that night made each of the four get their own rewards.Had things changed, though, the childless man would have had much to lose if he lost both sperm wars that night.Fortunately, in fact, he is the least likely to taste defeat.He is not only a warrior in the sperm battlefield, but also can produce a large amount of sperm.His friend was not as good as him, the man who already had children produced too few sperm counts.When a warrior like him is in a monogamous situation, it is difficult for his spouse to conceive.Because after each sexual intercourse, a large number of sperm killers and egg retrievers will gather around the spouse's eggs.Multiple sperm will always enter the egg at the same time, and the surrounding sperm will release a large number of concentrated chemical poisons.Also because of this, the eggs are easy to die.However, if his sperm were to be sent to the sperm wars, it was clear that his sperm would be invincible.A man's sperm army will first drive out the opponent's sperm army, and then his own sperm will be relatively reduced. At this time, his sperm count will become just enough to fertilize an egg. In the festivities of intercourse that night, the men with children actually had a very small number of sperm troops, and most of them were blocking sperm troops (see scene 7) and family planning sperm troops. Men's previous reproductive strategies focused on Prevent your spouse from having an affair.He had had children through long-term, routine intercourse, although the strategy took him a lot of time and had to be spaced out in order to choose the right moment.Man has twice impregnated his partner without contraception, each taking just eight months.If he is more successful socially or financially, he is also likely to have more children with his spouse.In the sperm wars, however, he was doomed. Regarding these two types of males, we will also explain them in scene 35 later in this book.So far we have explained why women are sometimes motivated by ovulation to become willing to engage in intercourse (see scene 15) and why men get excited and get an erection when they see someone else having sex (see scene 9).These sexual reactions are all important factors that can play a decisive role in scene 19.Most importantly, perhaps, are the two women in scene 19, who decide to shed their shyness in order to justify their infidelity in public.Their unconscious motives are the same.In women's lifetimes of searching for better genes, they both faced a critical moment of decision that night, when both decided it was worth trying to have sex with someone else.In the end, it turned out that there was a fair deal between them.