Chapter 13 Scene 11 Victory and Pursuit

The red fluorescent numbers on the bedside alarm clock changed from eleven fifty-nine to twelve o'clock, and it was already midnight.The man's lover is enjoying the sleep after sex, and the man has been staring at the alarm clock since just now, and he is very reluctant to leave his lover's warm bed at this time, and he has to go outside in the cold wind, but now We must go. The man gently kissed his lover's back to wake her up.The relationship between him and her started in that dark forest in the summer half a year ago.Neither of them expected this accident in advance. They helped each other take off their clothes, and finally the woman helped the man to ejaculate his semen.Later, the woman rented a small apartment outside, and two months after she moved in, the two had their first real physical relationship.Although they work in the same office, the two rarely see each other during the day, and they try not to let colleagues see their other relationship.Men would visit her apartment two or three times a week in order to have sex with her.They always go to bed as soon as they meet.The golden moment, they rarely spend more than an hour together.But even with the tight schedule, they still manage to have two intercourses per meeting.Men have sex about five times a week with their lovers and once or twice a week with their spouses.His mistress is 11 years his junior, but in six months of having an affair with her, he has learned far more than he has learned in 10 years of living with his spouse.

In order not to make his spouse suspicious, he can always give an excuse to work in the office every week.These reasons allowed him to pass by his mistress's house regularly, without error, without detection, on his way to and from get off work.Tonight, though, is a little bit special because it's her birthday.She insisted on spending more time with him today than usual, otherwise she would have to spend her birthday with friends.The man had to create another excuse, and even he had to admit that he made up this story really well.He told his spouse that an old colleague of foreign nationality found that he also liked to play chess, so he asked him to play two games, and the colleague also promised to cook him a meal with local flavor.The man tells his spouse that chess takes time, especially since they may play 3 rounds, so he will probably not be home until midnight.

It was a night he would never forget.He cooked a supper for his lover, and at seven o'clock they were in bed, drinking wine, listening to music, and fondling each other's bodies.The pair's emotions ran high and they had four sexual intercourses.The last time, he had to fake ejaculation while she had her second orgasm of the night.Now that the feast for two is over, the man has two problems waiting for him: he must risk drinking and driving home without being caught by the police; You have to face your own guilt and guilt and try to keep your spouse from getting suspicious about being late tonight.

Men themselves don't know why they are so afraid of being discovered by their spouses.Although he would miss his two children, as far as his spouse was concerned, he didn't care a bit about her leaving.To be honest, he was more worried about his lover leaving him.Perhaps this is because the spouse once threatened that she would spend all of his money instead of letting him spend it on other women.The spouse also often joked that if he had an affair, she would cut his testicles off.A man believes his spouse is joking when he says this, but would he not be afraid if the spouse actually stood in front of him with scissors or a knife?Whatever the reason, the thought of his spouse finding out that he was having an affair terrified him.

At last the young lover woke up, begged him tenderly not to leave, and then began to look more and more irritable.In the end, she acted dismissively and told him to hurry home.The man shrank and put on his clothes, and carefully kissed his lover, trying to please her, but he didn't get the desired effect.He had no choice but to walk out of the room in disappointment and get into his car.He often parks his car two streets away.On the way home, the police followed him for a while, but fortunately they didn't ask him to stop the car.Thirty minutes after leaving his lover's house, at exactly one o'clock in the morning, he finally returned to his home.And his spouse is still up, waiting for him.

The man closed the door, and the spouse immediately asked him in a hysterical voice: What did you do?The man took a step back, apologized to his spouse for coming home late, and then began to think about the details to prove his innocence. He said that the chess game took longer than he expected, but luckily he finally won.His spouse paused for a moment and asked him, if he had been playing chess with that foreign colleague all evening, why did the same person call and ask to speak to him a few hours earlier?The man felt as if his mouth was frozen, and there was a sense of tension in his heart that he had never felt before.He didn't expect his luck to be so bad.That colleague has worked in the same institution as him for two years and has never called him.When is it not good for him to call, why did he call tonight?

Thinking frantically in the man's head.He was flushed and sweaty under his armpits.In that split second, he was on the verge of telling his spouse the truth.But he continued to lie, he said, in fact, tonight was his assistant's birthday, a group of men fooled around for one night, they ate, drank, watched strip dances, and played pool.A man told his spouse that he knew she didn't like the kind of night he went to because she was worried about him drinking and driving, so he decided not to tell her the truth. The woman looked the man straight in the eye, trying to figure out if he was lying, and then she walked across the room to the phone.The woman paused, grabbed the phone, and then turned to ask him for the phone number of that friend's house.The man said he didn't know the friend's phone number, and that the friend probably didn't make it home either, because he went to another hotel.The man added that he left those friends and came home first because he knew she would be very worried if he came home too late.The woman stared at him for a long time, not knowing how to react.The man smiled and said, don't be stupid, he apologized for lying, but it was because he really didn't want her to worry.He said that next time he must tell her that this kind of thing will never happen again.Then he asked the spouse if they could go to bed?Because he drank alcohol, he was already very tired.

As the woman approached the man, her face almost touching his nose, she looked him in the eyes and said, "Liar!" She knew he was lying. "Why doesn't it smell of cigarettes and beer?" After a pause, she pressed him if there were other women out there.The man quickly denied it, but the spouse stopped him, and then she began to ask who the woman was.The man repeatedly asserts that he was wronged and at the same time expresses his resentment that his spouse does not trust him. The woman was quiet for a while, as if desperately thinking about something.She then told him to take off his pants.The man protested.The woman insisted that he do so.He accuses his spouse of being an idiot.At this time, the woman angrily pulled the zipper of his trousers.He pushed her away and said that he would take it off by himself.As he took off his pants and panties, he prayed that there was nothing left for her to see or smell.But she found proof, and she started yelling, slapped him, and told him to leave her and the children and never see him again.The man didn't know what to do for a moment, but she had already pushed him to the door, and his underwear was still wrapped around his feet.

The man didn't dare to resist at first, but when he was pushed to the door, he firmly refused to leave.The woman finally agreed to let him stay at home overnight, but he would sleep on the sofa and be out in the morning.The man survived a painful night, he couldn't sleep at all, he was always worried about the future, and the main reason was because of fear.All night, he fears that his spouse will come after him with a knife or other weapon. In the morning, the man left the house early, before his spouse came downstairs, but he returned at noon.Because the children go to school at this time, he and his spouse can have time to communicate slowly.His spouse told him that she would never trust him again and that she would never live with a man like him.The man insists that what happened last night happened by accident.He said that the woman was his ex-girlfriend who had been abroad for many years. She suddenly contacted him last week, saying that she wanted to see him and other old friends because she was going back to China for a few days.The man said he did not expect this to happen when he agreed to meet her.But then they were both drunk and she invited him to the hotel where she was staying, and that happened.

The man sincerely apologizes to his spouse, regrets that he did not insist on saying no, and the woman is now gone, and this will never happen again.He said that after thinking about it, he was still afraid of losing his spouse and children, so he realized that what he really needed was his spouse, his home, and the family he and his spouse had built together.The man said that if she insisted that he leave, he would do so, but he reminded her, do they have that much money?They couldn't afford both the house and the apartment he lived in.If she insisted that he go, they would have to sell the house and buy another, smaller one for her and the children.Also, do you really want your children to experience the separation of their parents?Moreover, it was all because he couldn't hold it for a while that night, not to mention, this kind of thing would never happen again in the future.

When the woman heard the end, she agreed to let the man stay at home, but she told him to sleep on the bedroom floor in the future.Also, she told him not to think about having sex with her again in the future, let alone thinking about her being faithful to him.She said that when she found another man, she would take the baby with her. In fact, within a few days, he was allowed back into her bed, and after a few weeks, they resumed their sexual relationship.The man never mentioned it to his lover, and their romance continued unaffected for another six months.Later, the man's lover found a partner of the same age as her, and the relationship between her and the man was declared over.The man lived with his spouse for another 5 years, but during this time, he still had 3 women outside without telling his spouse.The first woman was also the same as the first lover, 11 years younger than him. During the time they were together, this woman had been pregnant.Two months later, another man who lived with her suspected that the child was not his, so he abandoned her and never came back.Simply put, the man had also considered leaving his spouse for her, but just when he was hesitating, the woman decided not to want him first. It is ironic that although the man had 4 affairs, it was the affair of his spouse that finally ended his 15-year marriage.Just like what the spouse had said to him back then, when she finds another man, she will leave immediately with the child.Although she didn't know it in advance, she chose the best time.Because the man contracted gonorrhea from his last affair, and his spouse left him just before he caught it herself. From then on, the bad luck of a man's life began.He went to receive treatment for sexually transmitted diseases first. Although the gonorrhea was cured, the doctor warned him straight to the point that he might never have any offspring in his life.Not only that, but the man was forced to sell his property and distribute it equally to his spouse.In addition to paying for his children's education, he also suffered heavy losses in two huge investments, and since then he has become a penniless poor man.Apparently, his days of fooling around with his young lover were over.The man had to move in with a widow who was 10 years his senior and whose children lived abroad.The man's luck began to turn around slowly from this moment. At first, his two teenage children moved in with their mother to live with her lover, and the atmosphere in the new home was fine.But once the mother gave birth to the second family, tensions between the new family members began to strain.Men's children end up coming to their biological fathers.Fortunately, the widow who lived with the man voluntarily played the role of a kind stepmother. In the next few years, she took care of them as if they were her own children. Why is it so important for women to discover that their spouse is having an affair, or to prevent it?From a reproductive point of view, what are the consequences of a woman's inability to detect a spouse's infidelity? A spouse's affair will cause women to suffer more losses.The risks associated with these losses are, if not all, the same as those associated with a man's spouse having an affair.First, she must share the property, time, energy, and other resources of the same man with another woman.Second, the spouse is likely to leave her in the end and no longer provide her with any assistance.Regardless of who takes care of the children after she and her spouse separate, they all have to face the dangers of single or step-parenting, as we have already explained in scene 9.Third, because the spouse is likely to be infected with sexually transmitted diseases, the possibility of women being indirectly infected with sexually transmitted diseases will also increase.However, only one risk does not affect women.That is, they are not, like men, deceived into raising the children of their spouses and lovers.So on the whole, the affair of a female spouse seems to be a little less threatening to women than to men. This conclusion also applies to other monogamous birds, monkeys and apes.It can be seen that both sexes of any animal will try to prevent their mates from being unfaithful to themselves, and males are usually more possessive than females.At the same time, males were apparently more aggressive and less tolerant than females.Females may try to drive away third-party females, or they may try to intervene between their mates and other females.Females may abandon their offspring if males refuse to devote time to their mates, or if they do not help their mates at all.All in all, females do not emphasize physical restraint as much as males when they have an affair with their spouses, so even if their spouses are unfaithful, females will not abandon their spouses and leave.The same phenomenon can be seen in humans. Women sometimes injure or kill their spouses because they are having an affair.They also sometimes kill the person whose spouse is having an affair, or leave on their own initiative, or even drive the spouse away, or leave the children in the care of the spouse.But women are far less likely than men to take such actions, and they are more tolerant than men of their spouse's passing mistakes. It's worth discussing that males are never as cunning in their affairs as females, possibly because male infidelity has little to lose if it is discovered.There is such a description, and I am very fond of a record of a small brown bird, the Wood Pipit.There was a pair of young birds, like any pair of typical monogamous birds, who hopped side by side across the grass while pecking at the ground now and then.When they jumped in front of the bushes, the male turned to one side, and the female jumped in the other direction.When the mate can't see it, the female bird immediately flies to a dense tropical jungle nearby.There, after a hasty copulation with a singing male, he flew back to his original position.After a few seconds, the male and female jumped back into each other's sight and walked through the bushes together.And the female bird kept pecking at food all the time, pretending that nothing happened. There is also a video similar to this description that has been screened around the world. This is a video of the behavior of a female monkey. A female monkey is foraging on the ground, and her mate is watching condescendingly from a tree branch. with everything.At this time, a male monkey approached the female monkey.While pretending to examine his hair, the male monkey managed to hide his erect penis from the female monkey's mate.Whenever the spouse is not paying attention, the male monkey sitting next to the female monkey will pat her on the shoulder with his hands.Finally, the female monkey suddenly stood up and approached the male monkey, and the male monkey quickly completed copulation with it in the blink of an eye.This movement was so fast that when the mate male monkeys turned their faces, they had already returned to their original postures, and they all pretended that nothing had happened. Perhaps the female woodpittle that flies into the tropical jungle is less cunning than the male that hides in the woods.Perhaps the female monkey, who pretended to be innocent under the watchful eye of her spouse, was not as sophisticated as the male monkey, because it not only knew how to cover the erect penis, but also completed copulation in a short moment.Likewise, a woman who will have sex with a window cleaner while her spouse is shopping may not be as sophisticated as a man who knows how to hide in a closet with his secretary at a party Do good things.However, on the whole, no matter what kind of animal, females are slightly better than males in the use of intelligence and imagination.As far as human beings are concerned, there are countless examples to illustrate that men's affairs are easier to see through than women's. The woman in scene 11 has to examine her mate's genitals to visually verify his infidelity.If the woman's spouse had been a little more careful and washed his body before going home, he might have gotten away with it.If he could make up a better reason, he might be able to fool it, too.But he didn't pay attention, and he couldn't think of a reasonable explanation, so he had to suffer the consequences.From the moment a woman discovers that her spouse is being unfaithful to her, she makes up her mind that when the time comes, she will leave him instead of waiting for her spouse to abandon her.If the man's affair had not been found out, he might have more offspring, at least, he would still have a chance to have a third child with his spouse.But this is not the case. The man, his affair partner, and his remarried partner did not have any offspring.He had come close to fathering another man's child, but hadn't.He also came close to turning an affair into a spouse, but gave up at the last minute.Next, the man contracted gonorrhea (at least half the causes of human infertility are related to venereal diseases), and he never had the chance to reproduce.Even if he was fertile, his age and declining circumstances made it difficult for him to attract fertile women.So the man changed his main reproductive strategy. He decided to choose women who were older than him, or even women who had passed the childbearing age, as his spouse, because such a spouse could help him raise his children and at the same time let the children Able to recognize their own reproductive potential before leaving their parents.In this way, his children will bear him grandchildren.If a man's affair goes unnoticed by his spouse, he will likely have more grandchildren, but he will have at least a few grandchildren anyway. If a man's spouse hadn't found out about his affair, she probably wouldn't have as many kids as she does now.Of course, it is also possible for her to have other children with her spouse.But as long as she is with her spouse, she is at risk of being abandoned by her spouse or losing her life assistance without any precautions.Moreover, she may eventually contract gonorrhea and lose her ability to reproduce.Fortunately, however, she found out about her spouse's affair, which allowed her to still receive living assistance from her spouse for the next five years, and at the same time gave her the opportunity to find another spouse and reorganize her second family.Children between a woman and her spouse will give her the same number of grandchildren as her spouse, and in addition, children born to her in a second family will bring her additional grandchildren. From the point of view of reproduction, an affair is beneficial to both men and women, as we will return to in a later chapter.In any case, as in the four scenarios we have looked at in this chapter, even if the affair can be concealed from the spouse, it still has to be paid at great cost.On top of that, while we may feel pain from our own infidelity, our spouse's infidelity can make us feel more pain, especially if the infidelity goes undetected. The benefits of an affair sometimes outweigh the costs, and sometimes the opposite.We also mentioned earlier that only those who make good judgments about when they need to have an affair and when they must save energy, whether they do so consciously or unconsciously, are the only ones who win the generational race to reproduce .And those who fail to judge the situation correctly, or hide their affair, or discover that their spouse is having an affair, are the losers in the race to reproduce. Based on the above-mentioned conflicts of interest, generally speaking, there is no difference in the reproductive strategies adopted by men and women who have established a long-term spouse relationship. This is the same between males and females of other species. This strategy is: Prevent your spouse from having an affair while conducting your own affair as secretly as possible.