Chapter 11 Scenario 9 Make a Mistake

The woman turned the corner, stood under the street lamp, and saw that the key was indeed in her purse.She would be home in a few minutes, and the thought of it made her feel heavy.Although the night air was very cold, for a while she stood dumbfounded under the street lamp, trying to delay getting home as long as possible. That night, she walked 15 minutes to her sister's house for comfort and advice.My sister's opinion is very clear. "Take the baby and go." My sister told her, "I will live with my mother until the matter is settled." She stood under the lamp, stretching out her fingers to stroke her cheek.The tenderness on her face was gone, and she knew that it would not be long before there would be bruises on her face again.The woman took a deep breath, pulled herself together, and walked towards the door of the house.She prayed in her heart that he was asleep, but when she walked up the front path, she saw that the light in the bedroom was still on.

When a woman walks into a room, her spouse doesn't look her in the eye.He stared straight at the TV screen, holding a can of beer in his hand, and there were eight crushed beer cans on the ground.She knows all too well what her spouse's behavior means, but she knows she should be as careful as possible.The woman began to clean up the mess left by the man and the two children.After a while, she felt that she couldn't go on silent anymore, so she asked as calmly as possible, did the children make any noise before they went to bed?The man still didn't look at her, and just spit out a sentence: Her child was very good when she went to bed.He is childless.

She knew she had better not contradict him.In fact, both children are his, but he recently believes that neither is his child.Not only that, but at every opportunity he would tell her, to the children, to the neighbors, to whomever he could meet to listen to him, to tell of his new discovery.The woman sighed helplessly, this action surprised even herself, and she told the man that if he said such things again, she would go to bed and go to sleep. "Come here!" the man ordered. She hesitated, fear overtaking her. "Come here!" the man repeated his command more emphatically, but still his eyes were not on her.

She knew she had no choice.Running away at this time will only make him more angry.She walked over and stood in front of him.The man remained seated. "Are you with him again?" he asked calmly, looking over her belly to the TV screen behind her. She said she was not with anyone but her sister, and no one else at all.If he doesn't believe it, he can call and ask her sister.He said that there is no need to call, he knows everything.The woman replied that he was drunk and a little delirious, there was nothing to say, and she was going to bed.At this time, the man raised his eyes to look at her for the first time after the woman came home, and said, "You stay where you are." The woman saw his ferocious eyes again before hitting her every time.He continued to ask who she was with, and her whole body trembled with fear.The man claimed that he knew she was attracting bees and butterflies outside, and he insisted on finding out who that man was so that he could kill him next time.

The man stood up, and she started to back away, begging him not to hurt her any more.He asked her louder, who is that man.The woman cried and said that there was no such person at all.The man ignored her, he yelled, whoever that guy is, he won't let him take advantage of it anyway.Then he ordered the woman to undress and wait obediently for him.She whimpered in disapproval, but it was very unwise for her to do so.He roughly pushed her to the ground, raining fists and palms on her body.A new wound was added to the old wound of the woman. Although the pain seemed familiar, it was more piercing than before.The woman endured the pain and seemed to feel a sense of relief when the man stopped beating and began to strip her of her clothes.He unzipped his trousers and thrust his penis inside her, jerking back and forth so violently it hurt her so much.

The man stood up immediately after ejaculating, and he told her that if he caught the man she was having a tryst with, he would never live again.If she was lucky, he would let her live.Then the man said he was going to bed and she could sleep on the floor because that was all she deserved. The next day, following the advice of her sister, the woman packed up her belongings and that of the child, and left the house to move to her mother.In the weeks that followed, the woman considered taking legal action against her spouse for violence and rape.In the end, though, she decided it was best not to have anything to do with that man.She never saw him again after that.Nor has he been in touch with her or the two children.The woman had heard that a 19-year-old girl had moved in with him within two weeks of her moving out.A year later, he died, killed by the girl's father.

The woman lived with her mother for a long time.When she finally found a man who was willing to take care of her and her two children, she moved in with him.The man was abandoned by his ex-wife because he could not have children, and because of this, he has no children of his own.At first, he was nice to her kids.But not long after, she bore him a daughter, and after that, his attitude began to change.Not only did he physically beat her son, but he also sexually abused her older daughter without telling her, which made her dark and rebellious.Once, the woman's son ran away from home after being severely tortured by his stepfather. He ran to join his grandmother, and he stayed with his grandmother until he was able to support himself on his own.Years later, the doctor diagnosed the woman's son as infertile, and he insisted that the last beating was the cause.Woman's daughter ran away from family as a teenager and has not been heard from since.

A woman can never forgive a man for driving her two children away, but she doesn't want to repeat the mistakes of the past, so she decides to stay with him.After her two children left, the woman's relationship with her spouse seemed to improve.They later had another child and have lived an uneventful life. For chastity and infidelity, there are generally two views, pros and cons.From the standpoint of reproduction, it is difficult for us to determine which of the two is better.In short, once there is a mistake, it will do more harm than good.Picking the wrong spouse, for example, is one of those mistakes.Another kind of mistake is the wrong judgment of the situation, such as being chaste when you should stick to chastity, and insisting on being one-hearted when you need to play occasionally.Another mistake is overreacting or being too indifferent in preventing a spouse from defecting.In short, the best performers in the reproductive competition are those who can correctly judge their situation and at the same time take practical countermeasures.

When a man's spouse is unfaithful to him, it will bring him many negative effects.First, a male may be tricked into spending his entire life of wealth and energy raising the offspring of other men.Second, since his spouse is likely to be infected with STDs, he also has to take great risks and possibly be infected with STDs.Third, if the spouse believes that the future of the affair partner is brighter, he may be abandoned by the spouse, in which case his spouse either takes the child with him or leaves the child with him.And no matter what she does, the man's achievements in reproduction will be lost.

If children are taken from their mothers, they may be raised by stepfathers, but this comes at a great cost to stepfathers from a reproductive point of view, because according to many studies from different cultures around the world, children are abused by stepparents and even The possibility of being killed far exceeds their biological parents.However, it also comes at a cost if the male spouse intends to raise the children alone.Because in some societies, the mortality rate of children in single-parent families is quite high.Likewise, spouses run the same risk when they leave their child in the custody of their biological father.Even if the child's biological father finds another partner, they are still at risk of being abused or murdered by the stepmother.

As far as we know, humans aren't the only animals that bully their stepson.Lions are a good example.Lion groups usually consist of two or three male lions, up to eight female lions, and their cubs.Two or three young male lions first formed a team and wandered back and forth on the prairie. They looked for other lions everywhere, trying to drive the original male lions away from the group.After their plundering plan is successful, the first thing these young male lions do is to kill all the legacy left by the previous male lions—the cubs.Because lionesses go into heat after losing their cubs, young male lions have the opportunity to give birth to their offspring as soon as possible. Some polygamous monkey groups (that is, a male monkey and several female monkeys live together) have similar behavior.After the old leader of the group is driven out, the new male leader will drive out all the offspring of his predecessor.Even though some monkeys came from large mixed-sex groups, they still behaved the same way.Often, male monkeys are extremely aggressive towards young monkeys that are not their own.It may also sometimes exhibit the exact opposite behavior, such as helping a female monkey care for a baby monkey.But this kind of performance is not as selfless as it seems on the surface. This practice is actually a means for male monkeys to get close to female monkeys.And when female monkeys gave birth to male offspring, the male monkeys became more aggressive towards the offspring left behind by the previous male.Similar behavior can also be seen in the second spouse of the woman in scene 9. Men have two means to reduce the chances of their spouse having an affair.Often, they do so in the name of possessiveness and jealousy.For example, as we saw in Scenario 6, if a man spends more time with his spouse, his spouse will rarely have the opportunity to find another partner outside.On the other hand, he can also utter harsh words, threatening the consequences of his spouse's disobedience.Men have two options for dealing with an unfaithful spouse: abandonment and violence.The object of the violence may be his spouse, the person the spouse is having an affair with, or both.The man in Scene 9 not only resorts to violence, but his level of violence even exceeds the normal range.But his behavior is not unusual. Doubts caused by an affair are as influential as the affair itself, and both are major causes of domestic violence.More than half of the reports indicated that both were also causes of spousal abuse or murder.Human beings are a bit anomalous in this regard.Research in other animals, mostly birds, has shown that male birds will act aggressively toward the person their mate is having an affair with, but they will not attack their own mate for it.Apes may behave more like humans, but they are not as aggressive towards unfaithful mates. Why do humans behave more aggressively than other animals in such uncertain situations?One possible reason is due to the difference in size and physical strength between men and women.For most other animals, the differences between males and females are not as dramatic as in humans.So the victim is forced to make concessions, but at the same time can get the corresponding rewards.But human males are so physically stronger than females that they are more violent towards their mates than other male animals.Because of this, the vast majority of cases of domestic violence involve men attacking women, while the opposite (ie women attacking men) is less common. Moderate aggression and threats will have a considerable deterrent effect in preventing a spouse from having an affair.However, if a man misjudges, uses both of these methods beyond normal limits, or at the wrong time or force, the cost of reproduction far outweighs the benefits.Because a man's aggressive behavior towards his sexual partner will bring at least three potential disadvantages: First, if a man (or woman) needs a spouse to assist him (or her) in procreating or raising the next generation, he (or her) spouse must be healthy and fertile.Because of this, violence and the harm it brings will be the loss of both the victim and the perpetrator; second, if the victim takes fierce revenge, the perpetrator will suffer more damage in the end; third, Those who cared about the victim, such as parents, siblings, and new mates, were likely also to be highly defensive, and the man in scene 9 knew from his experience the cost of this. The male behaved aggressively toward his mate, a behavior rarely seen in other animals.It is not unusual for him to suspect that his mate is unfaithful while at the same time being eager to have sex with him, since we see the same behavior in other animals.For example, when a male bird finds that its mate is mating with another male bird, it will fly directly to the male bird and kick it away.The male will then immediately mate with his mate.Male mice or monkeys respond similarly.Usually, when they have finished copulating and after a period of time, the male mice or monkeys will copulate again.All in all, whenever a male sees his mate copulating with another male, he will immediately do the same.Even if the male animal has been separated from his mate for quite some time, he is very likely to copulate with him when he reunites with his mate. Such immediate mating behavior is actually an important strategy for winning the sperm wars (see Scenario 21).If the time between the second and first copulation is too long, the sperm from the first copulation will have enough time to swim out of the semen pool.These armies of sperm thus have the opportunity to spread throughout the female reproductive organs, not only will they block the passage of cervical mucus, but they will also fill up the sperm reservoir in the cervix. The egg retriever opens the necessary passage for several days.On the other hand, if the male mate goes for a second copulation as soon as possible, his sperm army can potentially gain the upper hand over the female.In this sperm race, every second counts, according to research in mice.The longer the time elapsed from the second mating, the greater the number of offspring produced by the first mating. It is for this reason that rats, monkeys, and humans all get excited when they see their own species having sex.At this time, the male animal not only has the penis erect, but sometimes even the sperm will fill the urethra.Human sexual behavior is almost the same in all aspects. In addition, human beings will be attracted to pornographic pictures, which is also a behavioral expression for winning the sperm war. In order to avoid paying the price for his spouse’s infidelity, in addition to being alert to his spouse’s infidelity signals at any time, a man should try not to let his spouse have this opportunity. At the same time, he will also threaten his spouse with abandonment or revenge.If a man detects signs of infidelity, his surveillance and threats to his spouse will intensify.But only when the spouse actually committed infidelity did the men carry out those threats.However, if the man feels that staying with his current mate is better than finding someone else from a reproductive standpoint, he will lessen the threat to his mate. In the example of Scenario 9, separation takes its toll on both men and women.At the very least, the separation has directly hurt their sons' ability to reproduce.Their daughter, who has since disappeared, is likely to have been similarly injured. If the abusive man in the previous example was telling the truth that neither of the children was his and that the spouse had been unfaithful to him, then it is possible that his extreme behavior worked in his favor.From a strategic point of view, it is better to find a younger spouse than to continue living with an old and unfaithful spouse.However, as we see in the scene, the man makes a big mistake.He misjudged the situation and committed violence against his spouse, an action that cost him two points in the fertility field: he lost two of his children; Possibility of reproducing offspring. For the woman in scene 9, while the decision to abandon her first spouse had a considerable negative impact on her children, it also cost her.But in any case, from the standpoint of reproduction, she has made the best choice in adversity.If she remained with her spouse, his violence against her would intensify, and she could become infertile as a result.Her spouse, on the other hand, does not believe that he is the biological father of the child, so may turn violence against the child.And a child in this situation is probably no different than living with a stepfather, and probably worse than living with a stepfather.In the above circumstances, the woman was never free from the danger that her first family would not grant her any grandchildren.However, the woman later voluntarily left her spouse so that not only could she start a second family, but she would also have the potential to have grandchildren of her own no matter how things turned out.