Chapter 26 Gossip, an irreversible poison

——Jiang Zhongzi, never go beyond me, never break my tree Come Zhongzi, don't go beyond me, don't break my tree.How dare you love it?Afraid of my parents.Zhong can be pregnant, and the words of parents can also be feared. Jiang Zhongzi, never cross my wall, never break my mulberry tree.How dare you love it?Fear my brothers.Zhong can be pregnant, and the words of the brothers can also be feared. Come Zhongzi, never go beyond my garden, never break my sandalwood tree.How dare you love it?Afraid of talking too much.Zhong can be pregnant, and people can be afraid of talking too much. —— "Zheng Feng Jiang Zhongzi"

"Jiang Zhongzi" by "Zheng Feng" is one of my favorite chapters in the book.In fact, this article is neither sad nor lingering, nor heroic.It's just repeatedly singing a kind of helplessness—people's words are terrible. I can't help but think of Ruan Lingyu. On the last letter she left in the world, the four most shocking words are--human words are awesome.At the end of life, it looks like a vast expanse of whiteness and the land is really clean, but these four words are red plums on the snow, dazzlingly blooming.It looks so beautiful, but in fact, that beauty is the pain that flows out after the nails are driven into the eyes.Rumors are like poppies, shining like flowers in the mouths of those who spread them, and they are extremely coquettish, and the spreaders will have a kind of pleasure like drug addiction.Transferred to the recipient, but it is cold and vicious, killing people without blood.In fact, it was not just Ruan Lingyu, the number of people lost at the hands of these four characters is beyond count.

A little farther away in the Tang Dynasty is Guan Panpan's Swallow Tower.Because of Bai Juyi's gossip, it was immoral to discuss her husband's death or not, she died of hunger strike in shame and anger.When I was in Huizhou, I saw such chaste and loyal archways, and I knew that they were not erected by masons, but by the defenders of morality and the masses who followed blindly at that time, and it was not stone that made them strong, but words of mouth Rumors passed down.Thinking about it, even if the surrounding scenery is picturesque, it is still desolate. The relationship between men and women in the pre-Qin period probably experienced a change process from relatively loose precautions to gradual strictness.Although Zhou Li was cumbersome to the point of bewilderment, he still had the warmth of human nature at the bottom. "Zhou Li·Di Guan·Mei Shi" said: "The moon in the mid-spring makes men and women meet, so it's time, and those who run can't help." In the Zhou Dynasty, Zhou Li specially reserved specific seasons for the love and marriage of young men and women. freedom of choice.Once the "Mid-Spring Festival" is over, if you want to communicate with each other in private, you will be denounced as "fornication".Such regulations are probably related to the underdevelopment of the productivity culture at that time, and people still retain some animal instincts.During the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period, the defense between men and women became much stricter. "Mencius Teng Wengong Xia" said: "If you don't wait for your parents' orders or the words of a matchmaker, if you drill through a hole to peep at each other, and if you go over a wall to follow each other, your parents and the people of the country will be despised." Even "drilling through a hole" is so small to steal Look, people will be scolded. Song Yu said that the good time of three years when the neighbor's daughter climbed the wall to spy on his old man is gone forever.Zheng was a well-known place for "dirty running" in the pre-Qin period, but this woman has already had fearful concerns, which shows that public opinion has reached the point where she can kill people.

Love each other, but miss the time when the sun reflects the lotus, so it becomes a bitter love that cannot see the light of the sky. "Fear my parents", "fear my father and brother", "fear people's talkativeness", the Qi girl in "Oriental Sun" is willful and lovely, and the Zheng girl in "Jiang Zhongzi" is very pitiful.She has a gentle and cautious personality, begging her lover - don't jump over the village wall rashly, don't go to Panli Lane, don't think about climbing over the wall of my house, it's not that I cherish these trees, let alone that I don't want to be with you When you meet, I'm just worried that doing so will alarm my parents and brothers and let the neighbors know.You're less likely to be with me if they condemn our actions.

I believe that "Jiang Zhongzi" is not a poem that stabs whoever is not, it is a poem sung by a girl in love to her lover, with lingering love and hidden worries about the future.According to "Zhou Li·Meishi": the union of a man and a woman must go through the words of the matchmaker and the order of the parents before they can officially get married.I think that the women and men in the poem should have the taste of rich women and poor men in later generations. Women are gentle and cautious by nature, full of worries, while men are barefoot and not afraid to wear shoes. When I was young, I thought that being in love was more important than the sky, but when I got older, I gradually realized that love is a matter of one person, but falling in love is a matter of two people, and marriage involves a matter of harmony between a group of people. That's good, it's not good. Let's go home.Because of her cautiousness, I believe that the woman in the poem is sincerely giving her true feelings, because she is already planning for the future. For Zhongzi's request, it is not a polite decline, but an invitation: Please, come with me. Working together to get approval from those around me.Let's manage the relationship together.

You need to know that three people become tigers, and everyone talks about gold.People's words are like the surging tide of Qiantang, which has always been awesome. Because they understand it, they are in awe. Mencius is more pragmatic than Confucius. He said to later generations: "Heaven will send a great mission to the people of Sri Lanka, and they must first suffer from their hearts and minds, starve their bodies and skins, empty their bodies, chaotic their actions, and enrich what they cannot." I think a little too much. Since a man is rich, he cannot be promiscuous, he cannot be moved by poverty, he cannot be subdued by power, he will not be disturbed by fame and wealth, he will not be anxious about poverty, he will not be oppressed by power and evil.If you are as clear as the moon in the center of a lake, you cannot be shaken by external affairs.So where does Yasheng's so-called bitterness come from?How is the indomitable will trained?

Then I was thinking, the sage didn't mention gossip, just like the Buddha didn't quit affliction, he understands the power of people's words better than ordinary people.The Chinese people's concept is very strange. Generally speaking, if a person comes from a humble background, people will always encourage him. Heroes don't ask where they come from. You have to study hard and learn how to make progress. Do you want to live in a hut all your life?But if a person really wants to work hard, he will also be questioned a lot. People usually think that he is restless, self-sufficient, his heart is higher than the sky, and his life is thinner than paper.Before Su Qin became minister to the Six Kingdoms, the humiliation he suffered in front of his family was enough to shock the later generations. If the family was like this, it is self-evident how coldly outsiders would look at him.Another famous example is Han Xin.Before Han Xin became famous, he was supported by women, and the gangsters who fell down to the street did not believe that he would have a future, and dared to let him pass through his crotch.Han Xin was really a drill, and he was also beaten by people's words. He was discouraged and hid in the big lake to meet people. If he hadn't been encouraged by important people in his life, his life would have been useless.

A person, especially a man, before he becomes famous, the greatest pain he needs to face is not from physical or economic distress, but from the people around him turning their tongues around and questioning their talents.This unbelief is more disheartening than failure. It is written that Taishang Laojun has a very powerful gossip furnace and samadhi real fire, and he threw a Monkey King in it to practice.On the 49th day of July 77, although Monkey Sun was not burned to death, he also suffered from smoky eyes and got a problem of crying at the sight of wind.This is true for gods, let alone mortals?The Eight Diagrams Stove is a spiritual thing and nothing more than a dead thing, and it will be extinguished if the boy dozes off without fanning the flames.A person's mouth is more than a hundred times more powerful than a gossip furnace, because gossip uses human hearts to make fire and human words to make firewood, and it will continue to live and last for thousands of years.Don't you believe it, since the Three Sovereigns and Five Sovereigns, who can avoid the turmoil of rumors?The great sages of Yao and Shun, Confucius and Mencius went to battle in person, and the Confucian disciples whitewashed them in every possible way, but they still couldn't help being accused of their old background: "Yao was imprisoned in seclusion, and Shun died in the wild."Ordinary people are no match for gossip.

People say that if a man survives, it will be the official kiln of cloisonné; if a woman survives, it will be dried flowers in murals and medicine dregs in medicine jars.The bystanders were amazed to see it, how dare they not die when the oil is exhausted?Well, let's see what tricks you have.Those who can't make it through will have to pay with their lives. From Guan Panpan to Ruan Lingyu, the more beautiful and eye-catching a woman is, the more severely injured she is.It can't be said that they are not strong enough, it can only be said that people's words are too poisonous, and people don't wear gas masks to walk around the world all the time, and not everyone has the indestructible body of King Kong.

Most of the people who are destroyed by gossip are good people, you know, people are always bloodthirsty animals.