Chapter 12 I can't live without you, make me strong

——Swallows fly like birds Swallows are flying, but they are not as good as their feathers.The son returns home and is sent far away to the wild.Looking forward, weeping like rain. Swallows and swallows fly, and Jie's slams them.The son returns home, farther than the general.Looking forward, standing still and weeping. Yanyan is flying, and its sound is up and down.The son returns home and is sent far to the south.Looking ahead, it's hard work for me. The Zhong family is the only one, and his heart is blocked.In the end, you will be gentle and kind, and be cautious about yourself.The thought of the king first, and the widow with Xu.

—— "Yefeng·Yanyan" I want to read it with the wind and moon in the spring and autumn.When Wei Feng (Ye land later belonged to Wei, Ye Feng can also be called Wei Feng) plays "Yanyan", Zhuang Jiang's life will also come to an end.It is not known why Zhuang Jiang abandoned her to Duke Zhuang, but the fact that she was barren is a clear proof.Having nothing to say is enough for Mr. Zhuang to have an excuse to alienate her and get close to other women.Therefore, Duke Zhuang took concubines in a hurry. From Dai Gui, the daughter of Chen who gave birth to son Wan, to his favorite concubine who gave birth to son Zhou Yu, there were an endless stream of women around him.

The poetic flavor of "Yan Yan", the preface of the poem says: "Wei Zhuang Jiang sent back to his concubine." Zheng Jian explained in detail: "Zhuang Jiang has no sons, and Chen Nu Dai Gui gave birth to a son whose name is finished, and Zhuang Jiang thinks it is her own son. Zhuang Gong died, Wan Li, but Zhou Yu killed him, Dai Gui returned home, Zhuang Jiangyuan sent him to the wild, and wrote poems to meet his own ambition." This saying has influenced later generations for a long time.Erudite like Xin Qiji, in "Send Maojia Twelve Brothers" also used "Looking at Yanyan, send back to my concubine." Zhuang Jiang sent back to his concubine, Zhaojun went out of the fortress, and Chen Ajiao's claustrophobic Nagato Palace was used as a famous allusion of parting.Regardless of whether this understanding is biased or not, one thing is obvious. In Xin Qiji's era, this statement was common.

Read along with this explanation first, the first three chapters can be explained, and the first three chapters repeatedly write about the farewell scene.Assuming that this person is Zhuang Jiang, she sent Dai Gui to the countryside, and looked at Dai Gui's figure returning from the south, crying like rain.The swallows flying up and down in the sky seem so intimate. Rather than saying that Zhuang Jiang expresses her aspirations in poetry, it is better to say that she thinks of her own experience from Dai GUI's experience and what she sees in front of her is more real.She is so sad and mournful, there is a reason for it.Dai Gui's repatriation was enough to make her feel sad, but it was obvious that she herself was three points worse than Dai Gui.If her husband dies and has no children, Dai Gui can be sent back to her natal family.And she is also helpless, but she still has to linger in foreign countries, because she is the mother of the country and a widow, she cannot go back to her mother's house according to the etiquette, and she has to be humiliated by Zhou Xu to survive.

But what about the last chapter?It's strange enough that Zhuang Jiang would praise Dai Gui for being virtuous and virtuous. How could any woman praise her rival in love so sincerely and enthusiastically?The husband treated each other with courtesy when he was alive because he was restricted by the status of etiquette, so he had no choice but to pretend to be lenient and generous.Her husband has passed away, and she is a well-bred woman if she doesn't tear her face apart and fight to the death. How can she still be so affectionate?However, I can understand the deviation between the preface of the poem and Zheng Jian’s understanding—the ones who interpreted this poem are all learned men!They have long been used to demanding women with the ideal standards and needs of men, and they understand it.They don't understand women very well.

Men are happy, it should be such a "Zhuang Jiang", a woman who can be used as a specimen.Beauty is not enough, virtue and generosity are needed to make it even better.Helping her husband to house a concubine, and being reluctant to part with her sisters when she sees them off—it’s too wishful thinking!Is such a woman still a woman?The one who is not jealous is still a woman?Besides, would Zhuang Jiang call himself a widow? Such a naive interpretation, even the men themselves felt that it was unreasonable, so some different opinions appeared later, such as "Biography of Lie Nu Biography Mother Yi", which said that this is Wei Dingjiang sending the widowed daughter-in-law back to the country; "Wen" thinks that Wei Jun sent his younger brother to other countries, or it is said that this is a poem about Xue Nu (Wei Yuan), or it is said that it is a poem sent by his brother for fear that Wei Wei married in the southern country (Cui Shu).

The cognition of modern people should be closer to that of Wang Zhi and Cui Shu. "Yan Yan" is a farewell poem for lovers, and the author should be a young Wei Jun.It is impossible to test who this Wei Jun is.He and a woman in the clan (he called her the second sister) were originally a couple, but they couldn't get together in the end, just like a pair of swallows can't fly together.When she married to another country, he sent her off, so he wrote this poem. "Swallows" is inspired by swallows, with a sentence "Swallows are flying, and they are not as good as their feathers." In fact, it has opened the infinite method of poetry and prose in later generations. Familiar "I wish to be a lovebird in the sky").Saying farewell again, the key point of farewell poems lies in the expression of farewell feelings. Fuji, really work my heart."

It seems that this man is not afraid of being seen through and sad. When life and death are painful, he no longer cares whether others will laugh at his cowardly tears.In fact, no one would laugh at him.On the contrary, the other farewell poems in the novel, and the farewell poems of later generations, all ran aground in front of his tears.The tears were too heavy to break through. When I read this poem, I seem to see: On the clear and sunny wilderness, the noisy and lively send-off team is gradually drifting away.Due to his status, he couldn't get too close, maybe he could only stand in the distance and watch her go away.

The piercing red is still faintly visible in the wind.The wedding dress was crimson, like a nail piercing her eyes, the pain was unbearable.The familiar fragrance was blown by the wind, brushing over his face, like she raised her hand to gently caress his cheek for the last time.This is the last gaze. ——The late father betrothed his gentle and kind-hearted second sister to the monarch of another country to seek greater political benefits, and he himself was about to marry someone else—marriage was just a leverage, used to seek greater profits.This is a political need. When love and politics collide, love must give way.No right to complain, nothing to be sorry, it's reality.The reality is that Wei Jun must bear the responsibility of a monarch. Marrying a wife who may only be respected as a guest for the rest of his life, losing a person he really loves, and then the whole person is as if it has been hollowed out and cannot be repaired.

She doesn't belong to you anymore, and you can't let her go.Even if Lao Yan is separated, he cannot escape his responsibility.The saddest thing is to live in such emptiness as if nothing had happened, for others to see. In the past, Sakyamuni accepted the golden polo flower presented by the Vatican at the Lingshan meeting.The World Honored One presented flowers to the public at the Lingshan meeting.At that time, everyone was silent, but Venerable Kasyapa broke his face and smiled.The World-Honored One said: "I have the Eye of the Righteous Dharma, the wonderful mind of Nirvana, the reality without appearance, the subtle method, the words are not established, and the teachings are not passed on. I command Mahakasyapa."

There should be such a heart-wrenching tacit understanding in the world where people love each other to the extreme.Even if it is rare to have a tacit understanding with each other, I am grateful because I once loved you.Thank God for allowing me to love you. Now that you have made a decision, let's face the reality; if you can't get along with each other, then forget each other in the rivers and lakes. Luo Dai's concentric knot has not yet been formed, and the tide at the head of the river has leveled. Love makes people stronger.Believe me, I just couldn't hold back the tears for a while.