Chapter 7 I can't win your heart, loyalty doesn't attract me

——Flying the other cypress boat, also riding the current Flying the other cypress boat, also sailing its current.Geng Geng insomnia, if there is a hidden worry.I have no wine in the slightest, and I travel with Ao. I have learned a lot from my heart, and I can't play it.There are also brothers, which cannot be relied upon.Thin words to complain, meet the other's anger. My heart is a stone, and I can't change it.My heart is full of bandits, and I can't roll it.Weiyi Didi is not an option. Worried quietly, resentful at the small group.Gou Min has many people and has been insulted a lot.Thinking about it quietly, there is a lot to do.

The sun lives in the moon, and the Hu is small?The worry of the heart is like a bandit washing clothes.Think quietly, not fly. —— "Ye Feng Cypress Boat" (superior) This is a good poem full of emotion and prose.Yu Pingbo believes: "The wording of the whole article is euphemistic and melancholy, and the metaphors are clever and detailed. It is a rare work in the simple book." ("Reading Poetry Notes") There have always been two views on the author and theme of the poem "Bo Zhou".There is a school of thought that the author is a woman, but she is not favored as a noble lady, and she was slandered by her concubines, so she wrote this poem out of anger. made.It was later written by Liu Xiang in the Han Dynasty, and "Han Shi" is also the same as "Lu Shi" (see Song Wang Yingqi's "Poems").Modern scholars also believe that it was made by women.The reason is that the lyricism of the whole poem has a tone of resentment and no aggressive words, and it really doesn't sound like a man's tone. Therefore, it is concluded that this is a poem of grievances in which a woman hurts herself and suffers from accidents, and suffers from nothing to say; One point of view comes from the "Preface to Poems", which strongly advocates that the author is a man. During Wei Qinggong's time, the ministers with benevolent ambitions were not reused by the emperor, but were slandered by the villain.

If the solution is a woman, frankly speaking, I look down on such a woman.To be more frank, it is a failure to be a woman to do this!As the main wife, since the husband is allowed to take care of the children, when those women come in, they lose the ability to suppress them and are bullied by them instead. This is a big failure in the first place.Secondly, since you have made emotional sacrifices, you can't please your husband a little bit, win a little respect and gratitude, just like the east wind is not as amiable as the west wind, this is the second biggest failure. To be a wife, you have to be beautiful, and your husband should be like a kite in your hand, no matter how far it flies, you can still take it back. It doesn't matter if you flaunt a woman in the market, as long as you don't shake your fundamentals.At critical times, your husband thinks that he can take on important matters and discuss them. In his heart, you are his own person, not others.Be so steady and enduring.

There is a story in "Liao Zhai" that can also be used as a lesson for the subtlety of the way of husband and wife. ——A woman's complexion gradually faded, and she was abandoned by her husband. The husband doted on his concubine, so she naturally had a sad life, so she ran to a woman's house opposite to chat when she had nothing to do.That woman is naturally beautiful, not only beautiful but also charming, a woman is ashamed of herself, sighing, and asking why she can be like this, the woman also pity her situation, but it is a pity that she can't handle things, so I teach her , when you go home, stop arguing with your husband, and don’t be angry with my concubine. If he comes to your room by chance, you should refuse him. When he comes again, please politely invite him to my concubine’s place. If so, wait for him to come again When I beg you, receive him again.Talking and teaching her some facial expressions.From the woman's point of view, she also felt that her heart was trembling and charming. After studying hard many times, only one or two tenths of that woman felt.The woman smiled and sighed: "This is the limit of your aptitude, but this should be enough." Saying that, let her go back.Although the woman's qualifications are mediocre, she is better than obedient.Going home according to the plan, the husband really felt that she had a new look, and gradually got back to her, and became indifferent to the concubine.The little concubine fell out of favor and became even more odious.Here, under the guidance of the woman opposite, the woman is like icing on the cake, and her charm is improving day by day.When her husband could no longer leave her, she went to ask the woman, but the woman had disappeared.Only then did she know that the woman was transformed by a fox fairy. Looking back on the past, she found that kind of obsequiousness is not something a human woman can have.

As a woman, naturally, I can't expect everyone to be proficient in charms like a fox fairy, and I can't expect everyone to be as lucky as that woman. When I am frustrated, I happen to have a good-looking fox fairy as a teacher to help deal with emotional crises.But being as wise as that woman should be possible. When the crisis first appeared, before it deteriorated to the point of no return, we had to find a way to remedy it.This remedy is not blindly seeking perfection, like the abandoned woman in "Zheng Feng · Zun Dalu" holding the heartless man's hand and begging.How unwise this is, not to mention the loss of self-esteem, just this lethargic posture is enough for him to leave proudly without a trace of nostalgia.For he has been with you, proving as much as he can be proved.

Most people are like this, if you don't give up, he will; if you give up, he might not.If leaving is inevitable, then it's better to leave a little space, even if you don't look back, you won't be so cramped when you think about it in the future;It's not you who swim with candles at night, and it doesn't hurt anymore. If you really want to save her, you need to take some practical actions, instead of doing all kinds of tricks like the woman in "Bo Zhou", who only knows how to feel "worried quietly, outraged by the small group. There are many people, and they are insulted a lot. "In other words, this kind of humiliation deserves it, who told you that you are not smart enough?Whether it's reading a book or watching a TV show, if it happens that this kind of jealousy and scheming happens, I'm happy to see how the "West Wind" can overwhelm the "East Wind".A man's world is a fight, no one will say anything about the winner or loser.Why can't women's world be viewed with the same standard, but this king is a small place, a country called Yelang, so it's not so dazzling.

(Down) If it is interpreted as a man, I like it.Regardless of history or reality, as in this poem, there are many people who are trapped in slander and have difficulty in achieving their ambitions, which is a sigh.You might as well look through the history books, the more talented and knowledgeable a person is, the harder it is to be reused, and the more ugly his death is.Because the most intelligent people often disdain to be in the same boat as the villain's sycophant.Once you see that something is wrong, you have to be that loyal and harsh person who will drive you to death.No matter how clever and cunning a person is, he is not sure that his good luck will not be damaged in the turbulent turmoil of the officialdom.What's more, honest people are often straightforward, so it is easier to give others a handle.Such a person is not unlucky, who is unlucky?

There is a sentence in Gu'er's Ci: "Speak Zhongliang, Dao Zhongliang, which Zhongliang will end well." Zhongliang will not end, but in fact, there are not many personal subjective factors. Not all Zhongliang are brave enough to see the steel knife go up. Collisions often happen to be "the wrath of the enemy", and you have no choice but to hide if you want to. Judging from the words "no wine", "roaming", "prestige", "group small", "flying" and other words in the poem, the poet's male identity is undoubtedly. Although "Poetry Preface" has many mistakes and omissions, it is undoubtedly accurate and precise in explaining the poetic meaning of "Baizhou".A nobleman of the state of Wei, he is a minister of the same surname of the king of Wei, a person with ideals and ambitions, the situation is probably just like that of Bigan to King Zhou.Seeing that the country is in danger, he always wants to remind his lord a few words, but he is often not adopted, and instead is slandered by the villain; he goes to the lord to complain, which makes Wei Jun more upset and angry when he sees him hating; his brothers may not be of the same clan. Everyone like him is dedicated to the public, and there are people who are wise and safe, so they will naturally not agree with his practice of running into the emperor's misfortune without incident, and he will become more and more isolated.

Under such circumstances, he can only go boating to relieve his sorrows, express his ambition with songs, and sing aloud—— The cypress boats swing leisurely, flowing along the waves of the river.Anxiety and restlessness make it difficult to fall asleep, and pain and sorrow accumulate in the mind.It's not that there is no good wine in my house, and the invitation to travel can't relieve the sorrow. My heart is not a bronze mirror, how can I let others take a picture of it.There are also elder brothers and younger brothers, but brothers are hard to rely on.I went to complain and seek comfort, but I was angry and bad-tempered.

My heart is not a round pebble, which cannot be rolled around casually; my heart is not soft like a straw mat, which cannot be rolled around casually.The appearance is solemn and majestic, and cannot be deceived by weakness. Worrying and suffering, the group of little slanders couldn't stand it.How many times have I suffered adversity, and I have suffered many insults.Sit quietly and think carefully, beating your chest and stomping your feet, and the hatred is hard to get rid of. There are days and nights and moons in the day, why do light and darkness alternate? Endless sorrow in my heart, like dirty clothes that have not been washed.Sit quietly and think carefully, you can't fly high.

I don't know why, but with this solution, the femininity of "Bozhou" will disappear.Breaking away from the small category of male and female love, and placing the heart in a larger and more complicated space, the poem "Bo Zhou" also becomes more masculine and bright.When it appeared in front of us again, it was no longer as delicate as Xizi holding his heart, but with a kind of chivalry. "A great chivalrous man is for the country and the people." Worrying about the country and the people is completely different from worrying about one's own love and hatred. In "Li Sao", Qu Yuan's frequent comparisons with vanilla beauties did not detract from his strong cleanliness, because he just understood-my heart is a stone, and I can't change it.My heart is full of bandits, and I can't roll it.Weiyi Didi is not an option.So I would rather throw myself into the river than succumb to the dirty world. Naturally, you can forcefully interpret this sentence as a woman's chastity and obedience. If you say that her steadfast heart has a different stone mat, it cannot be turned around at will, and it cannot be succumbed to others. Naturally, it also makes sense.But isn't this far-fetched and narrow-minded?It must be known that in ancient times women were always tamed into docile lambs. Facing their husbands, the primary virtue was to know how to submit, not to be tough. Why should you stay damned loyal in the face of an unfaithful husband?I also want to strongly emphasize that I am "prestige Didi", I have been bullied like that, even if I have a little bit of prestige, I have lost it.A phoenix in distress is not as good as a chicken.The more arrogant he is at this moment, the more ridiculous it is in the eyes of bystanders to show self-hypnosis. Tang Taizong said that the people are like water, and the monarchy is like a boat.Water can carry a boat, but it can also overturn it.At the very beginning of "Bo Zhou", when the doctor went boating, I wonder if he also understood the truth that state affairs are like water, but he couldn't make it as clear as Li Shimin said. There are many foolish people, and there are also many sober and aspiring people. The world is just like the line in this poem, "The sun lives in the moon, and the shadows fade away?" The truth behind time is that the times create heroes, not heroes create times. The so-called heroes only appear on stage when the audience needs them most.If God has no intention of achieving success, people often can only "vainly assume the lofty talents of Lingyun, and never open their arms for a lifetime".