Chapter 35 chatter

I don't know how many words we have to say in this life?If there is a computer that can count, like the pedometer worn by people who walk ten thousand steps a day, I believe the result must be astronomical. It is so long that it can circle the earth for several weeks, and it is so dense that it can rain several times.Circumstances vary from person to person of course.Some people talk like practicing Zen, they can talk as little as possible, it is best not to talk, just keep silent.Some people speak like cicadas, they don't necessarily have to say anything, it's just an unconscious oral movement.Speaking, sometimes it is just to lift the lips and shake the tongue, sometimes it is for expression, sometimes it is also an art.Many people speak only to avoid silence, and do not express any thoughts, because they do not have many thoughts.As for speaking into art, one word can make the world wonderful, that is something you can meet but not ask for: you have to write it down or "Johnson's Biography".The philosopher Santayana said: "Eloquence is the art of democracy, but the art of eloquence belongs to the aristocracy." The aristocracy he refers to is not class, but taste.

The most common one is a conversation between two people.The difference is of course enormous.If the subject is a judge, doctor, policeman, examiner, etc., the dialogue is not only tense, but sometimes dangerous, and of course it is not fun.It is the happiest thing in idle chatting between friends, if two people have equal knowledge and appreciate each other.If the knowledge of the two sides is very different, it is like playing chess, and the game is always not smooth.The important thing is that the realms of the two parties can be transferred, it is not necessarily that both of them have eloquence, because eloquence is suitable for dealing with enemies, but it is not suitable for treating friends.They don't even have to be talkative: often a talker and a good listener are the most ideal cooperation.What is valuable lies in resonance, no, in tacit understanding.True confidantes, even if they are close to each other, are better than words when they are silent: of course, this scene can also include husband and wife and lovers.

It would be terrible if the world were full of talkative people.Every talkative person needs a friend who is good at listening. Without a good ear, what is the use of a good tongue?British essayist Hayslid said: "The way to talk is not only to be able to speak, but also to be able to listen." Under the principle of fairness, if one person wants to speak to his heart's content, another person must be able to listen attentively.If speaking is a right, obedience is an obligation, and the obligation should be borne in turn.At the same time, listen carefully to what people say, and when it is your turn to speak, you can fully relate to the topic.I have some friends who have not yet developed the virtue of listening to others, so talking with others is often like talking to themselves.All musicians must first be able to listen to and distinguish sounds, and they must first be able to receive them before they can send them out.Listening carefully to what people say is a sign of respect and concern.Kind words can win the audience.A good listener wins friends.

If several people gather to talk, it will be different.Sometimes there is only one person in the seat who is eloquent and talkative, and everyone listens attentively. That person is either a superior or a senior, or has a high reputation. He naturally has the right to speak, and even the right to intervene.Sometimes people with outstanding insights and quick tongue can talk about the topic alone and surprise everyone.Sometimes there are two people sitting on the table, usually the host and the host and the guest. They come and go, you ask and answer, you attack and defend, which controls the general trend of the conversation at the table, and can also be fascinating.

The most natural and interesting situation is that of snowballing.The topic of the conversation changes according to the situation, and it gets louder and louder. Everyone is excited, chattering, or taking turns to sit in the village, or narrating to help out, or vying to speak first, or repeatedly debating, or strange questions suddenly appear and the audience is stunned, or Miao answered quickly and burst into laughter. Everything was a coincidence, and even repeated rehearsals could not reproduce the original fun.This kind of snowball style, everyone talks and listens intently. Zhong is ruthless, the talk is strong but the stars are thin.In the future, we will miss our old friends, and that scene is the most unforgettable climax.

If the guests are not familiar with each other, the snowball will not roll.The scene lacks the center of gravity, so everyone has to use local materials, chatting with the neighbors in a neutral manner, sometimes when it arises, they will "catch and fight" like old novels.At this time, it depends on your luck.In case you meet someone who is not good, and it is inconvenient for the neighbors to make friends far away, but if you succeed in close attack, I will keep you alone and have honest and secret talks.More interesting topics and more magnificent discussions are unfolding three feet away. Perhaps this is the most vivid moment tonight. Knowing that you have been wronged and missed a lot of pleasant things, but you have to close your ears and face your injustice. Neighbor, maintain a minimum of politeness in expression.In fact, you can't wait for him to be choked by a fishbone all of a sudden.This kind of guest who likes to talk in secret often has a bad habit, which is to whisper to each other in a veritable manner, as if what he wants to explain solemnly, every sentence is from the bottom of his heart. Nose, oops, really tete-a-tete is not enough, must have nose-to-nose to be satisfied.You were so frightened that it was too late to hold your breath, how could you listen to what you said from the bottom of your heart?How deep this person’s lungs are, it’s still unknown, but what’s going on in his mouth, there are already all kinds of vegetable smells, sweet and bitter, and they’ve come to inform you.As for the saliva, it is self-evident that it has already been covered in all directions. Who taught you to get into its range?

Fortunately, it is not so dangerous every time to talk about miscellaneous discussions.However, the pace of life of modern people is getting faster and faster after all, and it is almost impossible to do idle chatting, elegant chatting, casual chatting, and forgetting the machine. "Occasionally being in the old man Lin, there is no repayment for talking and laughing." In all industrial societies that pay attention to efficiency, this kind of leisure is simply a big waste.Liu Yuxi only wanted to be free from the distraction of silk and bamboo. In fact, compared with modern pop music, silk and bamboo are much more elegant.Modern people cannot escape the harm of noise when taking taxis, trains, and long-distance buses. When we go to a friend's house to chat, there are often children watching TV.It is rare to find restaurants and cafés free from music.One of the major annoyances of modern life is that we are often interrupted, and it is really difficult to sit down and talk with second or third confidantes.

The remaining kind of conversation is with myself.I do not mean vocal soliloquy, but self-contemplation.It takes strength of character to discover your inner truth.Only the brave dare to face themselves alone, and only the wise can be with themselves.The average person's mind cannot bear much silence, and always needs a little voice to rescue it.So Carlyle said: "Words belong to time, and silence belongs to eternity." Unfortunately, this wonderful idea needs to be explained in words.