Chapter 29 friend four

A person may not have a wife or husband in his life, but it is absolutely impossible to have no friends.Even Robinson Robinson on a deserted island needs a "Friday".One cannot choose one's parents, but one can choose one's friends, except Robinson.It is said that the selected things should be in line with one's own ideals, but the fact is not always the case.You choose others, and others choose you.Being selected is an honor, but not necessarily a pleasure.There are many people who come to ring your doorbell, how can everyone make you "overjoyed"?Broadly speaking, people who ring bells can be divided into the following four types:

The first type, advanced and fun.The ideal of this kind of friend is an ideal, but it can be met but not sought.There are many high-level people in the world, and there are also many interesting people, but there are very few high-level and interesting people.A high-level person makes people respect, an interesting person makes people happy, a high-level and interesting person makes people respect but not intimidation, closeness but not sex, the longer the relationship, the more mellow the fragrance.For example, fresh fruit is not only sweet and delicious, but also rich in nutrition, which can be said to kill two birds with one stone.A friend is a mirror of oneself.When a person has this kind of friend, his own realm can't be lowered much.Wherever Mr. Dongpo walked, how many low-level and boring vulgar objects appeared?

The second type, advanced and boring.This kind of person is probably what the ancients called a stern friend, or even a fearful friend.Of this kind of friends, some are with profound knowledge, some with noble personality, and still some with “both character and knowledge” like a good model student.You always feel that there is a hole in him that has not been opened up, so he cannot suddenly understand and have a full sense of reality.Talking to him is neither like playing ball, where you come and go, echoing each other, nor like snowballing, where an interesting topic gets bigger and bigger.A class with extraordinary energy, just serve the ball yourself, regardless of whether you can catch it or not.The passive type waits for work at ease, and rarely catches you one or two goals.Regardless of whether the opponent is active or passive, it is up to you to pick up the ball. If you don't pick up the ball, the game will never go on.The regret of this kind of fearful friend is that the interest is too narrow, so the "contact area" with you cannot be widened.The world is so big, the purpose of his coming to you from the south of the city to the north of the city is only to discuss "the special significance of death in modern French novels" or "the attitude of Eskimos towards sex life".One can imagine the fatigue after picking up balls for this kind of friends all night.This kind of friendship is a bit like taking medicine, a little too bitter.

The third type, low-level and interesting.This kind of friend has great entertainment value. He is the most naughty when telling jokes; he is the most like when telling stories; he is the most well-informed about news;He can take on any topic in the world, as for how to answer it, you don't have to worry about it.All his knowledge lies in preventing laymen from hearing that he is uneducated.As for insiders, how many insiders are there in the world?So his tell was running around in many living rooms and dining rooms, not very visible.This kind of person is the best at talking. With him at the dinner table, the guests and the host must have a good time.With him in the meeting, no matter how empty the meeting is, it will appear that the theme is correct, the content is abundant, and it is not in vain.If the second type of friend has all the knowledge in the world but lacks common sense, this type of friend is just the opposite, possessing all the common sense in the world but lacks knowledge.It is said that low-level people have fun, isn't it low-level taste, and you can have fun with him, isn't it also suspected of low-level taste?But human nature is vast, who can guarantee that they are free from such bad elements?If you were to be Robinson Crusoe, would you choose a Type 3 or Type 2 friend as "Friday"?

Type 4, low-level and uninteresting.This kind of friend is as rare as the first type of friend, and the probability is quite low.Of course, this kind of person has his own set of value standards, not only will he not admit that he is low-level and boring.I'm afraid you still think it's advanced and interesting?Otherwise, I don't want to have fun with it.