Chapter 11 Section ten

※※※ Aloneness is never a joy to the ego, the ego is only happy when someone is subordinate to it, when it can say "I am taller than you, I am bigger than you", it will feel happy. The ego never enjoys being alone, what good is the ego when you are alone? ※※※ To live, to love, and to love fully and intensely, but never against freedom.Freedom must remain the ultimate value. ※※※ We have been taught that love is a relationship, so we are used to that concept, but that is not right, that is the lowest kind, that is very polluted. Love is a state of being. ※※※ Whenever a man realizes some truth, his heart starts dancing, and the heart is the only evidence of truth.

It cannot be proven through words. The heart can prove only in its own way: through love, through dancing, through playing music, through something non-verbal.It can speak, but it does not speak with words and logic. ※※※ Time is always uncertain, and this is the difficulty of the mind: the mind wants to be certain, and time is always uncertain. So sometimes by accident the mind finds a little space of certainty and it feels settled; there is an unreal eternity surrounding it.It tends to forget the true nature of existence and life, it starts living in a dream world, and then it starts pretending to be real.

Doing this will make the mind feel more comfortable, because the mind is always afraid of change. The reason for being afraid of change is simple. Who knows what will happen after the change? -- For the better or for the worse?One thing is certain, change will mess with your world of fantasies, expectations and dreams. The mind is like a child playing on the beach and making a palace out of sand. For a moment it seems that the palace has been made, but it is made of quicksand.Any moment, a breeze blows and it disintegrates.But we are living in that dreaming palace, and we feel we have found something that will stay with us forever.

Yet time keeps disturbing the mind.It looks difficult, but existence is really very compassionate, it is always with you, it is always with you.It doesn't allow you to make an entity out of appearances, it doesn't give you the opportunity to accept the mask as your real face, or your original face. ※※※ People think that as long as their principles remain the same, it will give them some kind of power, that is wrong, it just sucks all their strength, they are the weakest people in the world. They are like children who have grown up, but are still wearing baby pajamas, so they will look awkward, and they will find it difficult.They kept tugging on their pajamas because the pajamas slipped off again and again and people would make fun of them.

No, your pajamas have to grow as you grow, but because pajamas don't grow on their own, you have to change them. So I don't think it's difficult, but I see it's not just one person, but billions of people who live in such a way that they set a strict norm and then they fall into difficulty.No one puts this difficulty on them, it is their own principles.If they leave those principles, they will feel bad; if they follow those principles, they will suffer. ※※※ I am going to teach you very clearly a life without principles, a life of intelligence -- with changes around you, so you don't have a principle that creates difficulties in change.If you have no principles at all, just follow life, then your life will be free from suffering.

We have to cut off the past, because the past is totally sick.Man lives a very sick life because he has created a very sick philosophy and he follows it very seriously. We must cut through that disease - no matter how venerable it may be, or how ancient it may be - and rediscover human wholeness. ※※※ Only when we can join that game with reverence, only when the mood of the game becomes deep reverence, only when reverence does not lead you to death, leads you to renunciation, but leads you to joy, to renunciation. You to dance, lead you to celebrate so that we can rediscover the wholeness of humanity.

Being understanding in a relationship means you can be wrong and the woman can be right.There is no guarantee that just because you are a man you have the power and authority to say you are right, and neither can women. If we were a little bit more human, a little bit nicer, we could say to each other, "I'm sorry." What are you arguing about? --Things so small, so trivial, you'd be embarrassed if someone asked you. Drop the concept that everything has to fit, drop the concept that there will be total harmony, because those are not good concepts.If everything fits just right, you will be bored with each other; if everything is in harmony, you will lose all the life juice in the relationship.

It's good that things don't fit, it's good that things always have a gap, because then you'll always have things to explore, things to cross, bridges to build. If we can accept that difference and the basic nature of each individual, then our whole life can be a good exploration into each other, then we make love not a slavery, but a friendship. ※※※ The mind can only work in the expected, in the known. When something is not expected, not known, then the mind has to stop. The stopping of the mind is the sound of a hand clapping. It is serenity. ※※※ Who will teach you to sit still?That is the most difficult thing in the world.

You can do everything easily, but the easiest thing—sitting still—seems to be the most difficult. ※※※ Love must be a friendship in which no one is superior; In it, no one decides things; in it, both parties are fully aware that they are different, that they live their lives differently, that they think differently, but that despite these differences, they are Love each other and then you won't have any problems. Problems are created by us. Don't try to create something superhuman, be human and accept the other person's humanity, despite its many weaknesses.Everyone else makes mistakes just like you -- you have to learn.

Being together is a great learning - to forgive, to forget and to understand that other people have the same human weaknesses as you.Just some forgiveness... ※※※ When people are speaking and they want to change you to their opinion, it is trying to spread a subtle empire.When people talk, they want to instill something in you, because every man who has a dogma is afraid deep down in his heart to say whether it is true or not. ※※※ The only way he can feel the truth of it is if he can instill it in a lot of people and he can see the belief in their eyes and see their transformation, then he can feel that he is real If so, then he will feel more at ease, because the arithmetic is: "If so many people find so much comfort in what I tell them, then there must be something true in it."

People tell things to others so that they themselves can believe what they say. Friendships can be of two types. One of them is that in it you are a beggar and you need something from someone else to help you relieve your loneliness, and the other person is also a beggar and he is asking the same thing from your side, naturally, two beggars Unable to help each other. Soon they will understand that their begging from another beggar doubles their need.Now instead of one beggar, there are two beggars, and if unfortunately they have children, then there will be a bunch of beggars begging each other -- nobody has anything to give. So everyone is frustrated and angry, everyone feels cheated, when in fact, no one is cheating.No one is lying to you because what have you got to give? Another kind of friendship, another kind of love, has a completely different quality.It does not come from need, it comes from you having so much and you want to share, and a new joy of sharing comes into your being that you never knew before because you have been begging. When you share, there is no question of attachment. You flow with existence, you flow with life changes, because it doesn't matter who you share with, it can be the same person tomorrow, the same person throughout your life, or it can be a different person . It's not a contract, it's not a marriage, it's just because you're so full that you want to give, so whoever happens to be around you, you give it.Giving is such a joy. ※※※ A man is born homeless, remains homeless throughout his life, and is homeless when he dies.Accepting this truth can bring about great transformation.Then you don't have to look for home anymore, because home is far away from you, it is something other than you.Everyone is looking for a home, and when you see the emptiness of home, you stop looking for home, and start looking for your own nature, which is inherently homeless, and its destiny is to be homeless. ※※※ There is no way to make a home. This is a miracle: when you understand that there is no one way to make a home, then the whole existence is home, then wherever you go you are at home. In the world of habit everything is repetition; in the world of consciousness nothing is repeated. ※※※ In life, everything that makes sense makes no sense. ※※※ No intelligent person is interested in dominating others. His primary interest is in knowing himself, so that the highest qualities of intellect tend towards mysticism, while the most mediocre mind seeks power, which can be worldly, political, or pecuniary...it can also be mastery It controls spirituality and controls tens of thousands of people, but the basic motive is how to control more and more people. That motivation arises because you don't know yourself, and you don't want to know that you don't know yourself. You are so afraid of becoming aware of the ignorance that pervades the center of your being that you escape this obscurity through the following methods - greed for money, greed for power, greed for respect and greed for honor.A darkened person can do anything destructive. Creativity is impossible for such a person because for creativity to happen you have to be conscious, you have to be a little alert, you have to have light and love, creativity has no interest in controlling anyone at all- -Why do you want to control others?Others are other people, and you don't want to control anyone, and you don't want to be controlled by anyone. To be alert means to be free. ※※※ Freedom is your flowering, your lotus in the morning sun.Unless something like this happens, you can't find the contentment and inner peace that comes home to one. Everyone carries his home within himself. You don't have to go anywhere, you have to stop going out so that you can stay where you are, so that you can remain what you are. Just exist.In your utter stillness lies all the mysteries of existence. ※※※ Love helps you reach the place where trust is possible.There can be no trust without love.Love is like a bridge, it can fall down at any moment, but it is still a bridge.If you can use it, it can lead you to trust; but without it, you cannot go directly to trust. ※※※ So love is necessary, but love alone is not enough, it can only be used as a means, and the end is trust. The moment your trust is let go, when you stop fighting existence, then you don't have to worry about anything, existence will take care of itself. The whole problem with the human mind is that it is always fighting, it is always trying to swim against the current, and there is one reason why it does so: only when you swim against the current is the ego fulfilled.If you just roll with life, without any struggle, and let life take you wherever it wants to go, then your ego will disappear. You will exist, you will be more and more real than you are now, but there will be no sense of 'I', and then you will be able to see where you are going. Even the line that you create by moving can be seen by a person without ego.You can even see the footprints of birds flying in the sky.They do not leave any footprints, but when your mind is so clear without ego, your whole being becomes a mirror so clear that even those footprints can be reflected in it. One thing I know: existence has no purpose, and I, as part of existence, cannot have any.When you have a goal, you cut yourself off from existence. It is a drop trying to fight the whole ocean. The trouble is unnecessary, the struggle is pointless. ※※※ In trust everything that is beautiful in love is implied in it. "Trust" is perhaps the most beautiful word in the human language.Trust is very close to truth, if it is total, then in this very moment your trust can become your truth, your trust can become a revelation, a revolution.