Chapter 8 Section VII

※※※ The whole function of the mind is to go on dividing, and the function of the heart is to find the connecting ring, which the mind is totally unaware of. ※※※ A mediocre mind cannot go mad ※※※ Silence and still thought excite nobody, it is not your problem, it is the problem of the human mind, because to be silent, to be still means to be in a no-mind state. The mind cannot be still, it requires constant thinking and busyness.The mind is like a bicycle: if you keep pedaling on it, it goes on and on, and as soon as you stop pedaling on it, it falls down. The mind is a two-wheeled vehicle, just like a bicycle, and our thinking is It seems to be constantly stepping on it.

Even if sometimes you are a little quieter, you immediately start to worry and say: "Why am I so peaceful?" As long as it can create trouble or think, because the mind can only exist in one way, the mind can exist in the running, it is always chasing something, or running away from something, no matter what Say, it is always running, and what is running is the mind. As soon as you stop running, the mind disappears. ※※※ We try to eliminate the feeling of being a stranger in various ways, so we create rituals.When a man marries a woman, what is marriage?Marriage is just a ceremony.Why is there this ceremony?Because they wanted to get rid of that strange feeling, they tried to create a bridge.

And that bridge was never created, they just imagined that now one of them is Mr and the other is Mrs, but they remain strangers.They will live together all their lives, but they remain very strange, because neither one can penetrate the other's aloneness. Only if you can penetrate into my aloneness, or I can penetrate into your aloneness, then you will not remain strangers, but that is impossible, existentially impossible of.We can get as close as we can, but the closer we get, the more we become aware of that strangeness, because the closer we get, the more we can see clearly: "I don't know the other person, the other person may be unknowable ."

※※※ There is a reason why every human being has a type of defensive armor.First, the child is born completely helpless in a world of which he knows nothing, and it is natural for him to be afraid of what he is confronted with which he does not know. He had not forgotten those nine months of absolute security and safety.When he was in his mother's womb, his future was not in question at all, he had absolutely no responsibilities and no worries.To us those days were nine months, but to that child it was eternity.He does not know the calendar, nor does he know that there are months, days, minutes, and hours.He lives an eternal life in absolute safety and security, without any responsibility.

Then, suddenly, he is thrown into an unknown world where he depends on others for everything, and naturally he will be afraid.Everyone is bigger than him, stronger than him, he cannot live without the help of others, he knows he is dependent, he has lost his independence and his freedom. At a certain time, that defensive armor may be necessary; it may be.But as you grow, if you are not just getting older but growing at the same time, becoming more mature, then you start to see that which you carry with you. When you look closely, you will find the fear that hides behind it.Anything that is associated with fear, a mature person should get rid of it, and this is how maturity comes about.Just watch all your actions and beliefs and find out whether they are based on truth, experience or fear. Anything based on fear must be dropped immediately, without hesitation for a moment.That is your defensive armor.

※※※ Others cannot take away your psychological defensive armor, you will fight it.Only you can make some effort to get rid of it, and that way is: look at every part of it.If it's based on fear, drop it; if it's based on reason, on experience, on understanding, then it's not something you drop, it's something you make your being part of things. Yet in your defensive armor you will not find something based on experience, it is fear from beginning to end.We continue to live by fear, so we continue to poison every experience.We love someone but out of fear it will destroy the relationship, it will poison the relationship.We seek the truth, but it comes from fear, so we will not find it.

Whatever you do, remember one thing: out of fear, you will not grow, you will only shrink and die.Fear is at the service of death. ※※※ A man without fear has every thing that life wants to give you as a gift.Then there will be no obstacles, and those gifts will be showered on you, and whatever you do, you will have a sense of power, a certainty, a very authoritative sense. ※※※ What you have to understand is the process of identification, how a person identifies with something that is different from him.Now you are identified with the mind, you think you are the mind, and that creates fear.If you identify with the mind, then naturally if the mind stops then you are finished, you cease to exist and you don't know anything beyond the mind.

The truth is this: you are not the mind, you are something beyond the mind, and therefore the cessation of the mind is absolutely necessary so that you can know for the first time that you are not the mind -- because you will still exist. When the mind disappears, you will still exist, not only exist, but with greater joy, greater radiance, greater light, greater consciousness, greater nature. ※※※ The truth is: we are alone, we are strangers.The world would be a far better place if we accepted the basic truth that we are strangers. What's wrong with falling in love with a stranger?Before you can fall in love with a stranger, the stranger has to be destroyed. Is there a need for that?

We are all strangers, this is one of the "beauties of life", and there is no other way to change this truth.It is beautiful to have strangers love you, it is beautiful to have strangers to be your friends, it is beautiful to have strangers all over the world, then the whole world becomes a mystery -- and it is a mystery. ※※※ It's a known fact: you fall in love with someone, but you don't fall in love with a real person, you fall in love with someone you imagine.When you're not together, when you look at someone from your balcony, or when you meet that person for a few minutes at the beach, or hold hands in a movie theater, you start to feel like, "We were made for each other."

Nobody is made for each other, you just keep projecting more and more of your imagination onto that person - unconsciously.You create an atmosphere around that person, and he creates an atmosphere around you.Everything seems beautiful because you make it beautiful, because you are dreaming about it, you are avoiding the truth, and you both try in every possible way not to disturb the other's imagination. So the woman bows the way the man asks her, and the man bows the way the woman asks him, but you can only do it for a few minutes, or at most a few hours.Once you're married and living together 24 hours a day, it becomes a burden to keep pretending.

Just to satisfy the other party's imagination, how long can you continue acting? Sooner or later it will become a burden and then you will start revenge, you will start destroying the imagination that the other person has created around you, because you don't want to be imprisoned by it, you want to be free, you just want to be yourself . It is the same with the other person, who also wants to be free, to be himself.This is a constant conflict between all lovers and in all relationships. ※※※ Love allows freedom. Love promises that he can do whatever the other person likes to do.Whatever he feels, if it brings him joy, is his choice. If you love that person, then you will not interfere with his private things, you will keep his private things from being interfered with, you will not disturb his inner nature. Basically, love has to be: "I accept the other person as he is." Love never tries to change the other person according to one's own concept, you don't try to prune that person to fit your imagination medium size, however, this is happening all over the world... If you love, then no strings attached. If you don't love, then who are you and what conditions can you attach? Regardless of the situation, it is very clear.If you love, then there are no conditions, you love him as he is; if you don't love, then there is no problem, because he is nothing to you, so there are no conditions attached Problem, he can do whatever he wants. If jealousy goes away and love remains, then there is something substantial in your life that is worth keeping. ※※※ When you are sharing your joy, you are not creating a prison for anyone, you are just giving, and you don't even expect gratitude or gratitude from the other person, because you are giving without expecting anything, not even gratitude don't want to get.You give because you are so full that you have to give it. So if someone thanks, you thank that person too, because he accepted your love, he accepted your gift, he helped you unload your burden, he allowed you to sprinkle the gift of love on him. The more you share, the more you give, the more you have so it doesn't make you a stingy person, it doesn't make you create a new fear saying: "I might lose it." In fact, the more you lose, the more fresh water will flow from a source you never knew existed. ※※※ If the whole of existence is one, if the whole of existence has been taking care of trees, animals, mountains, seas -- from the smallest blade of grass to the largest star -- Then it will take care of you too. Why take possession?Possession just shows one thing: you don't trust existence, you have to arrange for yourself another security, security, you cannot trust existence. Non-possession is basically trust in existence. There is no need to possess, because the whole is already ours. ※※※ Forget the notion that attachment and love are the same thing.They are enemies; attachment destroys all love. If you cultivate attachment, if you nourish attachment, then love will be destroyed, if you develop and nourish love, attachment will disappear by itself. Love and attachment are not the same thing, they are two separate entities, they are hostile to each other. ※※※ Always remember this fundamental law of life: if you worship someone, one day you will take revenge on him. ※※※ You have to be aware, don't be controlled by anyone, no matter how good their intentions are, you have to maintain your own independence, don't take orders from those who have good intentions, who have been doing good things, People who are constantly telling you to be this, to be that.Listen to them and thank them. They don't want to do any harm, but in fact harm will happen. Just obey your own heart. That is your only teacher. ※※※ People judge you, and you accept their concepts without scrutiny, and you suffer for people's judgments, and you cast those judgments on other people.The game is out of balance and the entire human race is suffering from it. If you want to get out of it, the first thing is: don't judge yourself.It is humility to accept your imperfections, your failures, your mistakes and your fragility.No pretense is needed, just be yourself, just say, "That's what I am - full of fear. I dare not go into a thick forest in the dark of night." What's wrong with that?This is human nature. Once you have accepted yourself, you will be able to accept others, because you will have a very clear insight that they have the same fault.And your acceptance of them helps them accept themselves. We can reverse the whole process: you accept yourself first, and that will enable you to accept others.And because someone accepts them, they also learn for the first time the beauty of that acceptance - how peaceful that acceptance feels - and then they begin to accept others. If the whole human race can develop to the point where everyone is accepted for who he is, then almost ninety percent of all suffering will disappear - suffering that has no basis - and your hearts will open on their own , your love will flow. ※※※ Truth is always simple, naked, alone.It is very beautiful because truth is the essence of life, existence and nature. No one else lies except humans.A rosebush cannot lie, it must grow roses, it cannot grow carnations -- it cannot deceive, it cannot be something other than what it is.The whole of existence, except human beings, lives in truth. Truth is the "religion" of the whole of existence - except for humans.When a man also decides to be a part of existence, truth becomes his religion. It was the biggest revolution that could ever happen to anyone, and it was a shining moment. ※※※ You don't see the world the way it is, you see it the way your mind forces you to see it, and this is happening everywhere in the world. Different people are conditioned in different ways; minds are nothing but conditioning, they see things according to their conditioning, and that conditioning has a certain colour. We make distinctions: we make some people superior and others inferior; men are stronger and more powerful, women less powerful and more powerful; And someone else is less intelligent.There are certain races who claim that they are the chosen people of God, and every religion claims that their holy books were written by God himself.All these layers upon layers of things create your mind. Unless you can put your whole mind aside and see the world directly, immediately with your consciousness, you will never be able to see the truth. In this world, the greatest courage is to put your head aside.The bravest people are the ones who don't have a mind block and just see the world as it is, which is very different, which is very beautiful.Nobody is inferior and nobody is superior -- there is no distinction.