Chapter 37 The married life of Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng

The couple Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng in the novel are a pair of noble couples that the author has written a lot about.According to the book, they were not the masters of the Rongguo Mansion.Jia Zheng and Mrs. Wang lived in the main courtyard of the Rongguo Mansion. They had a son and a daughter. Although the eldest son Jia Zhu died, the eldest daughter-in-law Li Wan was mature and prudent. Compared with Wang Xifeng, Li Wan had a much higher education level. When visiting relatives, Li Wan once wrote a poem, although it was not outstanding, it was quite satisfactory.However, in order to expand the influence of her natal family, Mrs. Wang specially moved her nephew Wang Xifeng, who was almost illiterate, to Rongguo Mansion to take control of the housekeeping.In the first half of the seventh chapter, Cao Xueqin wrote about the harmonious married life of Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng.The style of writing is very different from that of

Dang, both subtle and expressive.It is written in the book that Mrs. Wang's accompanying room (that is, the family of the big servant brought over as a dowry when she got married) belonged to Zhou Rui's family, and was ordered by Aunt Xue to send palace flowers to the ladies and wives. At noon, they were delivered to the one where Wang Xifeng lived. Yard, "Walking to the main room, I saw Feng'er, a little girl, sitting on the threshold of Sister Feng's room (the door was guarded——Liu Note, the same below). Seeing Zhou Rui's family coming, she quickly waved him to the east room ( "Zhou Rui's family" means "Zhou Rui's wife". When Cao Xueqin wrote the book, there was no word "she" in Chinese), Zhou Rui's family knew (what does it mean? Just understand that the master is taking a nap?)... just listen There was a burst of laughter over there, but there was Jia Lian's voice (that's why the words "Jia Lian plays Xifeng" in the memory). Then at the sound of the door, Ping'er came out with a big copper basin and asked Feng'er to scoop water in (Ping'er can Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng were present when they had sex, and they could even participate in the sex under the call of their master. This status was called "Tong Fang Da Mai Tou"; she was called to scoop water in, so it can be seen that after the intercourse, the couple should take a proper bath and pay attention to sexual hygiene).

Cao Xueqin's writing of "Jia Lian's Xifeng" once aroused criticism from some commentators in the Qing Dynasty, who thought it was writing "preaching obscene" and "extremely obscene"; erosion".In fact, Zhi Yanzhai, who participated in the creation to a certain extent, said it well. This writing adopts the ingenious technique of "you can only know it when the parrot speaks in Liu Zang", which shows that the book intends to reflect the daily life of the big family and focuses on portraying the characters , writing about character conflicts and fate ups and downs in the interaction between characters, is by no means comparable to ordinary romantic books.Judging from today's perspective, Jia Lian and Xifeng are in harmony at the moment in the book. They are not the kind of ignorant couple who are arranged by their parents and have no feelings. Appreciate each other next time, enjoy the joy of sex life step by step, and finally both can reach an orgasm. For such a couple, their "afternoon play" has nothing to blame.

The sex life between Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng has generally been expressed in this way. The ink is very economical, but it is very impressive.In the twenty-third chapter, it was written that the management staff assigned by the husband and wife to the supplementary project of the Grand View Garden had conflicts over the division of interests, and the atmosphere became tense; but Jia Lian suddenly changed the subject: "...just last night, I just want to change If you look like this, you just twist your hands and feet." Sister Feng laughed when she heard this, spat at Jia Lian, bowed her head and ate.This further shows that their sex life is not only normal, but also quite consciously changing patterns and enjoying the fun of sex life.

The temporary separation of husband and wife is difficult to avoid in any family of any age and class.The thirteenth chapter wrote that "Since Jia Lian sent Daiyu to Yangzhou, Sister Feng was really bored. Every night, but Heping'er talked and laughed once, and fell asleep indiscriminately." According to some descriptions in the book, some readers She thinks that Wang Xifeng, Jia Rong, and Jia Qiang are not clean, but in fact, she and those two juniors can only be said to be emotionally ambiguous at best; Death, from such a major plot, we can see that in the relationship between husband and wife, her loyalty to Jia Lian exceeds the other's loyalty to her.The twenty-first chapter made it clear: "That Jia Lian will find trouble only after leaving Sister Feng", and he is not willing to "sleep indiscriminately".His infidelity to Wang Xifeng, the time with Miss Deng, can also be used in the situation where he has to share the table, and he can't bear the hunger and thirst to "eat wild food"; but the time with Bao Er's family is partial. When Wang Xifeng celebrates his birthday with great fanfare, it shows that he is not only full of sensual desires and chasing skin promiscuously, but also a big rebellion and a big vent against the suppression of Wang Xifeng's tough personality.He blatantly complained to his concubine: "It's my fate that I should be guilty of 'Yasha Xing'." After a stormy scene, Jia's mother came forward to agree, and announced the most enlightened sexual declaration in aristocratic society: "What's the big deal! The children are young and greedy like cats, so they can't be kept there. Everyone has been fighting like this since childhood." However, if you think about it carefully, in human society, various interest groups Among everyone, the "important thing" must first be said to be economic interests, and the highest embodiment of economic interests is political relations. The determination of various moral norms first respects this premise.The exception is the purely emotional and poetic love that transcends general relationships, such as Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu. realm.

The most serious crisis encountered in the sexual relationship between Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng was the appearance of Second Sister You.This does not mean a marriage crisis, because in a family like Jia's, it is normal for the male master to have three bedrooms and four concubines.Wang Xifeng originally thought that although Jia Lian caused a big fuss, the relationship between husband and wife should be maintained for a long time, so when Jia's mother joked that she "put the mandarin ducks in the house for Lian'er", she was very relaxed. Said: "Lian'er is not worthy, so he is only worthy of me and Heping'er, a pair of burnt papers, to hang out with him." I never thought that Jia Lian hooked up with the second sister You because of lust, and after stealing the marriage, he actually started a sexual relationship. Shangsheng showed sincere love, and Jia Lian felt the tenderness and obedience from Second Sister You that he could never get from Wang Xifeng, and since then he has been completely cold towards Wang Xifeng in terms of sex.What happened to Wang Xifeng was even worse than the "third party's meddling" that we often say now, because Jia Amnesty rewarded Jia Lian with an autumn tree, one thorn was not removed, and another thorn was added. Playing hard to get, killing people with a knife, and pretending to be a good person, although they finally restored their family structure, they lost forever Jia Lian's love for her (if there was any) and sex (which was once quite strong).

Regarding Wang Xifeng's fate and ending, there is a hint of "one obedience, two orders, three people wood" in the fifth chapter.Some researchers pointed out that this means that the relationship between her and Jia Lian has gone through three stages. The first stage is that Jia Lian obeys her, the second stage is to give orders to her in turn, and the third stage is to divorce her. up.It is a pity that we have no way of seeing exactly how Cao Xueqin wrote after the 80th chapter. We only know from some Zhiyanzhai comments that in Cao Xueqin's works, there are plots such as Wang Xifeng being reduced to being forced to sweep snow.

The description of the life of Jia Lian and Wang Xifeng's husband and wife in the book does not shy away from writing about sex, but it is skillful in writing, which not only provides the The lifelike picture scroll of the daily life of a standard aristocratic couple in this era, and through the changes in their sexual relationship, reveals the friction of interests between clans and the conflict of personalities between individuals, and some of the connotations in it have a nature that transcends the times. So that contemporary Chinese people can get beneficial enlightenment in dealing with and understanding the relationship between husband and wife.