Chapter 22 Chapter 3 The deeper the hurt, the truer the love

You see, Gao Yanei, Lu Qian, Gao Qiu and others pressed forward to frame him, not to make him angry, but to make him afraid.When our fear of the bad guys overwhelms our hatred, and our fear overwhelms our anger, don't we have no choice but to surrender? What's worse, because his incident was obviously framed by Gao Qi and Gao Yanei's father and son, the things he did at this time, such as losing his wife, protecting his husband, and cutting off his wrists, were obviously forced to do so. All the high-ranking neighbors knew it well, but he wanted to make it clear: it was Lin Chong who made the decision on his own, not forced by others.Who is he to excuse?Of course it was to excuse Gao Qiu and his son, but why did he excuse them?

He also wanted to use this to win their favor, so that their persecution of him would be relaxed, and even, his conscience discovered, he could take care of him a bit.Once a person is completely defeated by the opponent, completely controlled by the opponent, and terrified of the opponent, the more the opponent oppresses him, the more loyal he will be, and even help the opponent give advice and protect the opponent.This phenomenon, modern psychology calls it "Stockholm complex" or "Stockholm syndrome".The so-called Stockholm syndrome or complex refers to a complex in which the victim of a crime has feelings for the perpetrator, and even helps the perpetrator in turn.This complex comes from a bank kidnapping case in Stockholm, Sweden in 1973.After 130 hours of stalemate between the police and the gangster, the incident ended because the gangster gave up. However, the four victims said afterwards that they did not hate the gangster and expressed their gratitude to the gangster for taking care of them instead of harming them. , instead, they took a hostile attitude towards the police officers who rescued them.Afterwards, one of the kidnapped hostages, a female employee, even fell in love with a kidnapper and got engaged to him.

The essence of the Stockholm complex lies in the fact that when the injurer is in complete advantage, the victim cannot escape from the game mother system delineated by the injurer.The inherent injustice of the perpetrator's behavior is ignored, and the primary goal of survival leads to cooperative action by the victim. In a power society, the power holders are in an absolute advantage, and those who are violated by power cannot get rid of the power matriarchy, so the improper behavior of the power holders is ignored.In order to survive, in order not to incur greater persecution, the victim will have the urge to cooperate with the perpetrator, and is grateful that the perpetrator did not take more extreme harm.

Lin Chong is actually in such a state of mind now.Don't you Gao Yanei want my wife?I cooperate, you take it.Moreover, I also want to show that this is my voluntary behavior. Of course, Lin Chong stated that the divorce of his wife was voluntary, and he also had his own face problems.How embarrassing would it be if the neighbors knew that they were being forced to give up their wives?Therefore, he wants to say that he is thinking about his wife and worried that she will miss her youth, so he advocates on his own and makes sacrifices for his wife.An act of cowardice becomes an act of heroism in self-sacrifice.

From this, we can draw a conclusion: Lin Chong was scared out of his wits during the period of imprisonment in Kaifeng Mansion pending trial, and he developed the "Stockholm Syndrome". , decided to throw his wife to save himself. But from Lin Chong’s point of view, his thinking has its own reasons and its rationality. Things in the world are weird, but there is always an angle that allows you to see its rationality.If it didn't make sense from any point of view, it wouldn't exist.This is the meaning of Hegel's famous saying "to be is to be rational".