Chapter 50 how should we be parents

After reading the report "Phoenix in People's Hands Yesterday", I was sad for several days and nights!This is just one prominent example. There are many children around us who are growing up in an unhealthy environment. It is high time that we all pay extensive and thorough attention and discuss it. The summer before last, I went to Switzerland to participate in the World Conference on Mothers. When I saw the huge slogan "We gave birth to life, we will defend life" hanging high, I was greatly moved. After the founding of New China, the Party and the government cared for children in every possible way, so that parents were fully supervised and cooperated in all aspects.Our children can't see pornographic movies and paintings from the negative side, and have a broad space for activities on the positive side. Teachers and counselors pay more attention to children's moral education than before... We can proudly say to mothers all over the world: We are protecting our children, and our children have growth conditions that have never been seen in Chinese history.However, it is an extremely difficult undertaking for 600 million people to move towards socialism, and many difficult problems cannot be solved for a while, such as the working hours of nursing mothers, the secondary school system, housing problems, etc., all of which are related to children's physical and mental development. .This suggests to us: We should not only protect children from growing up in a peaceful environment, but also consider how to educate children well under difficult conditions.Family, school, and society are three important aspects of educating children.Families, invariably, have special responsibilities.

We call children the "crystallization of love" of our parents, as if a man and a woman get married out of love and have children naturally. Children are the "consequence" of our love rather than the "premise".However, in fact, the reason why love must have marriage, in addition to the fact that the man and the woman want to live together for a long time because of "like-mindedness" and "like-mindedness", we also need to prepare a healthy family environment for our "crystallization of love" so that they can live together. Under our joint care and care, they grew up flourishingly, so our work of "protecting children" should start when we are in love.We have to consider the object of love, in terms of physical health, moral character, and living habits...whether it is possible to be the father or mother of our children?

When preparing to be a parent, you must also consider your age, body, time, spirit, and financial ability. Do you have the conditions to welcome your child?When the conditions are met, we still need to plan to have children, for example: How many children do we want?How many years are there between these children?When the child is coming, how much knowledge and preparation do we have for taking care of his clothing, food, housing, and transportation?We often fail to grasp these complex and detailed issues well, so our children are often out of control, eating out of time, and lack of sleep...causing them physical pain and mental tension.During our own working days, we "completely" hand them over to the elderly at home, to the nannies, to the childcare workers; on weekends or holidays, we hold them and take them to the shops on the street Canteens, go to various entertainment evenings, we force them to drag their tired legs, open sleepy eyes, follow us in a crowded and noisy environment, spend the afternoon or night when they should rest quietly.We do not value our time with them.We answer their questions thoughtlessly.We don't know how to negotiate and cooperate with schools and social groups to prevent them from participating in mass gatherings of adults.We treat them as playthings, as decorations, pointing and commenting, surrounded by laughter, which makes them excited and tired, moody, laughing and crying intermittently.We don't know how to "lead by example", we don't love labor, we don't pay attention to public health, we don't care about public property, we quarrel, we lie and curse... The eyes of children are like a mirror, everything is seen in the eyes and imprinted in the brain Here, when one day they reflected some of our bad words and deeds in their words and deeds, we were shocked!If you sow melons, you will reap melons, and if you sow beans, you will reap beans. Pain is the reward we deserve!

Some people compare children to an extremely precise and sensitive instrument, and parents to skilled workers. This shows that raising children is not only hard work, but also requires infinite care and patience.But any pair of parents who love the motherland and love their children will admit: As long as we do our best for our children, the happiness we get from them is more than enough to compensate for our hard work.Don't we feel happy when we see a tall and clear child like a flower lying in our arms and standing in front of us?Don't we feel comforted when teachers and counselors praise children for doing well in study and work?Don't we feel happy and relaxed when we live up to the entrustment of the motherland and send a healthy, lively, honest and brave young man into the ranks of building a socialist society?This is really "one shoulder for a big deal, and hands over the other"!

However, our obligations and rights as parents cannot be shirked!As long as we put our heart and soul into our children, the children will also put our heart into us, and they will come back to report to us on their work achievements, listen to our opinions, and participate in our warm and happy family life that they are familiar with. Moreover, they also have to discuss with us: "How should we be parents."