Chapter 20 Is there any sexual description in chapter 23 that is not obscene?

Lao Xia: Although there is something very ruffian in your works, your impact, sharpness, irony and criticism are all expressed through this ruff.But I found that there is one thing about you that is not ruffian, that is, your sexual descriptions are not ruffian at all. Compared with other contemporary writers, you are quite restrained in your novels where male and female pornography is written. You have few or no nakedly sensational descriptions in pursuit of sensual stimulation.Moreover, the male and female characters in your works are all hooligans. The description of the relationship between men and women is so innocent. Does it violate your original intention of presenting the original state of life?On the contrary, Chinese writers had already carried out naked sexual descriptions in the 1980s, and a generalized tendency formed in the 1990s.Sexual descriptions like, are very naked, and some are even obscene. There are also a group of female writers who are extremely vigorous in this regard. Their works are self-touching, and they wish they could use self-touching to masturbate since childhood.Later, there were such best-selling books about the relationship between men and women, and novels and TV dramas with the theme of extramarital affairs appeared, and they became popular leisure products with good ratings and running volume.Compared with foreign riffraff literature, your sexual descriptions are more restrained.Like Genet in France and Miller in the United States, the sexual descriptions in their works, including homosexual descriptions, are all naked.Then you have to restore life in your writing, and write how the ruffians in life live.But when it comes to sex, you take bluntness.If the elements of naturalism are omitted, whether the largely omitted relationship between men and women can be restored to the original authenticity you expected.

You, who are called ruffian writers by academics, why are you so innocent and self-controlled when it comes to sex when you are a character who is not stingy in words and deeds in your works? Wang Shuo: I think I haven't found a good way to describe sex until today.Most people's writing about sex is unclean and unhealthy. I think Lin Bai's "One Man's War" and Gu Cheng's writing about sex are better.After reading their works, I gained some confidence in writing about sex in that feeling, and felt that sexual relations can also be written in a less obscene way.Among Chinese writers, if you say a thousand things and ten thousand things, you can't write well about sex.Sexual relationships were also a taboo in my past writing.At that time, the works were written too much about sex, and the editors were not very willing. In the 1980s, it was not so sexually open.At that time, I basically did not directly describe Daosheng, but used some comments and relied on some atmosphere to write.But now I am afraid I will write about sex, because it cannot be avoided in the work.Avoidance is just a manifestation of incompetence, the key is to find a healthy way of writing.

It is very important to explore the relationship between people and the relationship between men and women. Many novels are about the relationship between men and women.It is impossible to have sex without sex in the relationship between a man and a woman. Without a relationship between a man and a woman, many things would not happen. In fact, the important reason for the combination and separation is sex.But it is not very true to some extent to turn sexual conflicts into personality conflicts, value conflicts, and living habit conflicts. Writing about sex in this way will pay an unreal price, or exaggerate the importance of sexual relationships in life.Sex is sex, and in everyday life, it is quite simple and simple.Including such works that purely describe family life and emotional life, if you don't write about sex, it's like missing a leg, and you can't write the whole face.

I will not evade this sexual issue in my future writing, I will write about it head-on, I think the real thing is worth it, and there is nothing unclean about it.As for some writers who write in a way that makes people feel good and out of the ordinary, it is because the author does not have any personal and unique feelings about it, or this kind of sexual description is dispensable and not particularly necessary here, but he is wrong The land must stay here.There is also a problem with his grasp of this issue. For example, many people do have unhealthy ideas about their swollen-win relationship.If he writes like that, he will take sex as a very serious matter, and if he takes it too seriously, what he writes will appear to focus too much on it and exaggerate the role of sex.In those years, some people wrote about sex and often overemphasized the role of sex.My libido is relatively normal.Of course I think sex is very important, but I don't regard it as decisive. For ordinary people, sex is not important enough to distort a person's character. I have never had this view.I feel that when I face sexual issues in writing, maybe I can face up to this issue, and avoiding it is not an answer.

Lao Xia: There are basically two ways to describe sex in traditional Chinese literature. One is that sex is sex, naked, ruthless sex, or even another name for lewdness, indulgence, and playfulness, such as that, which is more excessive It is "Meat Futon", a demonstration of sexual intercourse positions written in similar literary techniques.One is to write sex as pure love, and sex has become or sublimated into love, which is a typical representative. Others are like the kind that "love can make people live and kill people. It can bring people back to life".Cao Xueqin's method of writing about sex is completely traditional. Whenever she writes about vulgar sexual relations, it is sex without clear love, like Sister Feng teasing Jia Rong, like Xue Pan's group of sensuality.But as soon as Jia Baoyu, Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai, Qingwen and others are written, there is no naked sex anymore, but delicate and elegant ones with emotion as the axis, transforming sex into complete emotion.In China, there are very few descriptions that combine sex and emotion well.Either it's a kind of sexual catharsis and indulgence, or it's such a poeticization of sex, the so-called from sex to emotion.The Chinese say it is "sublimation", and traditional culture also distinguishes between human nature and animal nature with two sexual concepts.Human nature is, animal nature is.

Wang Shuo: The so-called "sublimation", in my opinion, means obscenity.As for the sexual description of the style, there must be a moral condemnation, such as every poem. I hate the sexual descriptions in the novel, and I can't stand those moral preaching.That sexual description cannot be imitated, and the most boring thing about it is the stylization of the sexual description, that is, those few strokes, even a hundred paragraphs of sexual descriptions are still those dozens of words.His writing style has no originality and no characteristics.Another description is to beautify sex, sublimate to the spirit, belittle or ignore the body.I disagree with either approach.In fact, I don’t think there are any tricks or mysterious things in it. In my opinion, it’s just writing honestly. What’s going on is what’s going on. Every time it’s different, it’s different. It’s boring if it’s repeated countless times. .How does sex affect the spirit, how does it affect the relationship between two people, whether it deepens the love or dissolves it... In fact, there are many sexual activities, but there is no trickery, just write honestly.Sometimes it leads to joy, sometimes it can lead to failure, friction, conflict, physical and psychological tension, imbalance and so on.I think that sometimes writing about sex can be beautiful and comfortable to read.It depends on the state and purpose of writing.It can only be an honest look at sex.If you want to express any deeper meaning through sex, it is too high and too big, and sex cannot afford it.

Lao Xia: The description of sex in China is unorthodox.The mainstream of traditional sexual descriptions is formal. Once sex becomes serious, it becomes Bao Dai’s life-and-death love affair, and vulgar sex must not be involved. Sex makes love false again.In modern literature, there are not many descriptions involving sex.There are few direct descriptions in Lu Xun's works. The most vulgar one is Ah Q molesting a nun, hiding in a temple and imagining how many women he will have when he becomes an emperor.Like the others there is no sex, only failed free romance. Lu Xun's approach to sexual description is still the traditional two models, and his superiority lies in the social issues raised by love affairs.Others write free love, and the final union is the end.Lu Xun took other people's end points as his starting point, so what if there is a free combination?Can you really be happy?In the end, it failed and ran away. What can Nora do after she runs away?And the sex written by those female writers at that time was love.Yu Dafu is an exception. He does not regard love as a symbol of pursuing freedom, but takes sex as a symbol of repression and liberation breaking through repression. Pursue the height of personal freedom.But he has another side. When it comes to "Chi Osmanthus", the sex is very clean and aesthetic.But his "Sinking", after all, endows sex with a new meaning in Chinese literature, although this meaning is imported from the West.

Of course, in the future, not to mention sexual descriptions, there will be no more emotional descriptions. For example, "Bitter Cauliflower" is pornographic, and "Song of Youth" is petty bourgeois. After the "Cultural Revolution", literature broke through the taboos in this area. First, there was a breakthrough in love, such as "The Second Handshake" and "The Position of Love". The breakthrough in sex was made by Zhang Xianliang. The characteristic of right-wing writers is that they want to put everything on a high hat or sublimate to a certain level of morality, politics, and life liberation, which is especially false.He wrote that sex is suffering and getting rid of suffering, the sexual relationship in which the sky collapses, the sky is dark and the earth is dark, and the universe is turned upside down.The hero's raw vitality, morality, and lofty ideals are due to a decisive sexual encounter with a woman.He is not as pure as Yu Dafu, who only writes about sex as personal liberation.He also toughly added the nobleness of politics, the regeneration of suffering, and so on.These works are actually the same as "The Legend of Tianyun Mountain" and "The Wrangler", but with a little more sexual description.Later, in Zhang Yimou's "Red Sorghum", he promoted sexuality as a kind of vitality and primitive impulse of the Chinese or the Chinese nation, which is no different from Zhang Xianliang's imposition or sublimation.Wouldn't it be too cruel and artificial to let sex bear the political disaster of the whole nation and the vitality of the Chinese nation? "Ju Dou" is about incest, "Raise the Red Lantern" is about wives and concubines, and Zhang Yimou is a sex expert among Chinese directors, but he has never filmed a real sex scene.There is also Wang Anyi's "Three Loves", which is completely influenced by Freud's psychology. I always feel that she is holding Freud's psychology book in her left hand and writing sexual novels in her right hand. The development of sexual relations between men and women will not be so consistent with the pattern of id, ego and superego.I have seen relatively few works in recent years, and I don't know how current writers write about sex.Lin Bai has only read one article.Western countries also have exaggerated writing, such as Lawrence's, comparing the feeling of sexual intercourse to a drowning person in the sea, which is too exaggerated, and the mission given to sex is too heavy and too big.There has never been a better description of sex in Chinese literature. It seems that we are fundamentally confused about the relationship between sex and emotion.

Wang Shuo: There are no too complicated or profound truths. Honesty is the most important thing. Honest writing is enough. I think this thing can only start from my real life, not fiction or imagination, a story can be made up, but the details must be real. Fictitious or imaginative in sexual description, the result must be exaggerated.Of course, except for the sexual imagination of people in life. Lao Xia: But in this kind of sexual description in Chinese literature, especially in contemporary literature, it is difficult to see the healthy thing you said, a real sexual description that is not exaggerated or obscene.In your past novels, in the so-called "ruffian literature", the description of sex became a forbidden area for you to write.As soon as you encounter it, you must avoid it and not describe it positively.According to this feature in your novels, some people say that if Wang Shuo is a ruffian writer, the sex of these ruffians he wrote is quite clean. He claims that he wants to write authentically, even if we believe the rascals he wrote , The extremely shameless person is real, but in the description of the sexual relationship of these characters, he is hypocritical and unreal, so we can also suspect that since he has concealed something sexually, he will not be in other respects. reality.You just gave me an explanation that you can't find a good way to describe sex.Do you think there are healthy and clean sexual descriptions in our traditional literature or contemporary works that meet your ideals?

You said that there has been no good way, and that you got some kind of inspiration from Lin Bai's works, and there is another writer, who is it? Wang Shuo: From Gu Cheng. Old Xia: You said that you will no longer avoid sexual descriptions in the future, because you can't avoid them, you have to write them.It seems that you already have a method in your heart, or compared with your previous state, you have found the confidence to write about sex, and you can write it in a healthy way. Can you explain clearly what kind of thing or method this is? ? Wang Shuo: Nothing else, just write honestly, write whatever you want.I think I went astray in many things because I wanted to find a method or meaning for him... Actually, this thing is here, you just need to describe it truthfully.I used to always tend to put a shell on the outside of this thing itself, but ignored its original thing, and sex is the same.I want to find a suitable method, suitable angle...

At the most extreme time, I still want to give him a pot, and find a way to solve all problems!I figured it out later, but there is no such way.It may be what you said, the description of sex has become two modes, one is formal, several formulas, hundreds of clichés, how many sentences, whenever it is written.Another way is to poetize sex, elevate it to a spiritual activity, turn man into a god or turn sex into an atomic bomb that determines all aspects of life.Then I found out that to write about sex, you have to get rid of any patterns, just write about what sex is.I think it's about putting your attitude right.If I write again, I will not have preconceived things, thinking whether this thing is clean and healthy, it is what it is, in my life and experience, as much as it provides me, I will write as much as possible, write Wherever you go, what you touch is what you touch.But the first thing is not to coordinate anything, not to arrange anything for the structure of the story, but to simply write it.Second, I don't write it for any meaning, I don't strengthen anything.That is, neither belittle it nor sublimate it. There are also people in the West who engage in intensified sex, highlighting the role of sex.For example, the Lawrence you mentioned, or Nabokov's "Lolita". When he writes about sex, he must write based on a certain experience in his childhood. From the first time to the last time, he must clarify this context and the role of sex in every period of his life.In fact, in my experience, it seems that sex does not have that great effect on people's physiology or spirit.But I find that in fiction, you can't help but accentuate things like sex when you write about them.Because your intention is to write it without adding anything, without any nonsense, and every paragraph is very authentic, but in the process of writing, you will unconsciously emphasize its role.There is an unconscious latent effect of sex in writing on the overall story, on the characters.I can't guarantee that when I write about sex in the future, there will be no such potential reinforcement, maybe there will be. Most of the sexual descriptions I have seen now, I think Lin Bai's is better.Because she just writes honestly, that is, every time she writes, it is different.However, most of the sexual descriptions in China, including foreign countries, describe it as the same thing, either beautiful, pleasure level, or perverted, leading to some frantic thoughts.Lin Bai seems to have a very clear understanding of sex. When she wrote this article, I think her attitude is that she doesn’t pay much attention to sex, just like eating. Who would you say will give too much meaning to eating? What is eating? The atmosphere it creates when you eat, and its impact on your body, make you tired after eating, or make you feel so comfortable. No one is crooked when eating.To eat is to eat.But even on the issue of sex, people will produce many unreasonable things.Probably because it's more secretive, and it's always on a kind of moral edge. Then when you write, you can’t help but say: I want to think about it clearly, I have to have an attitude towards it...I don’t think I will have these things when I write about sex, it will happen naturally when I encounter these things Just write it as it happens naturally.Because I think there are many things... that don't necessarily lead to things like sex.Or the current state of sexual description is the result of a certain emphasis on beauty.In fact it can be everything, it is not the same in different situations.It may be nothing, or it may be a lot. Sometimes feeling good does not necessarily lead to good results.I think it's very different.My confidence in writing this kind of thing lies in: I will write what I think it is. Old Xia: I haven’t read much about Lin Bai, so I’ll only read one or two. I can’t fully comment on her sexual descriptions.But just based on the impression of what I have seen, I feel that she still exaggerates the sex.In one article, she wrote that the character was very mature at a very young age. She was aware of sex and could satisfy herself with self-touch. What this kind of masturbation brought to her life in the future seems to be an inexhaustible thing .She is still called too much sex load.Sex is indeed a weird thing. Everyone has sexual experience, which is as common as dressing and eating, but it is made very mysterious by human beings.From ancient times to the present, society has had countless moral and legal taboos on it, and many traditional things come from this matter.Perhaps the ancients paid more attention to the reproductive function of sex, and paid more attention to it for the sake of future generations. Over time, the emphasis on reproduction was transformed into an emphasis on sex itself.I read a book recently, which is an oral history. It talks about the sexual revolution in the West in the 1960s. Many people’s self-reports emphasize the sexual liberation and freedom brought about by the emergence of contraceptives and the change of ideas in that era, and the resulting A series of rebellious behaviors triggered by young people.Sex in the age of abstinence even became a matter of life and death.The natural attribute of sex itself has been attached with too heavy functions and meanings by society. It is something that everyone experiences in real life, but once it is discussed as a social topic, it becomes a very big problem, and it carries too many heavy burdens that should not be It bears something.Therefore, it is not easy to treat descriptive sex with a common sense attitude.Although our own sexuality may be simple and common, each of us has too complicated sexual concepts.The reason why the description of sex in literary works is not good, I think, is that what the writers write is not their own real sexual experience, but the "sexual concept" that has been instilled for thousands of years. To put it simply: it is not about sex itself, but about ideas, attitudes, and taboos about sex...that is what society imposes on sex. So like the way you said, look at sex with a normal mind, what it is, how I experienced it, I just describe it honestly.This kind of sexual description has never been seen in the works I have read and the works of art I have seen in ancient and modern China and abroad.Guiding victory in such a down-to-earth manner is like writing a meal.Can you completely get rid of the subconscious ideas about sex that have taken root in your mind?Is this the right number? Wang Shuo: That is to say, from what you said, I think there is still a chance to write about good sex, and this road has not gone wrong. I think this thing needs to write out this feeling in a longer space.If a short story takes this as the axis, as soon as you write it, you want to carry something.In fact, many people are very excited and self-excited when they experience this thing, and it is a big event in ordinary life and peaceful life. It's for this, it's very important.But if you want to get it back to its proper place, you need other pages.Perhaps when most people write this kind of novel, they take it as the main clue, and I think writing it like this will invisibly strengthen the sex.Maybe when I wrote it, I thought I was writing it with a normal heart, maybe after writing it, I still strengthened it.How much does it affect fate? Such an influence exists, but I don't think it's that big.In fact, none of them are due to a single factor. There are actually many things in between, but there are major ones. And I think the main reason is not so important as to determine everything.No. It's just that someone has to highlight this. Lao Xia: Sometimes, the society needs a very vulgar myth on this issue of sex. Everyone wants to see such a myth. This is the thematic factor of love in literary works that has been repeatedly described for a long time. s reason.The Hollywood blockbuster Titanic is a contemporary version of this vulgar sex myth.Disaster plus life-or-death sex.And "The Bridge of Madison County" also belongs to this kind of sexual myth.Human civilization has turned sex into a life-and-death romance, either a life-and-death love like Romeo and Juliet or the Butterfly Lovers, or a husband and wife who get tired of being together for a long time, and going to bed becomes an obligation and a burden. So there was an extramarital affair. There are also aspiring young people who have repeatedly suffered setbacks. When they are decadent, they either find a woman to vent or are rescued by a lover.I have read a French novel called "My Russian Mother", which tells some of his sexual experiences in his youth, how he was seduced by a mature woman.How his mother encouraged him to try sex.Later, when he grew up, he always had a kind of wild fantasy, imagining how his mother seduced him, and the process of him sleeping with his mother was described too much. What life is like, what it feels like to come out of mother's vagina.This is a sexual delusion that both hates and loves and becomes perverted.Even for foreigners, the sexual delusion he described is an extreme experience. Northern Europe in the 1980s, where the issue of incest was openly discussed.It started when a mother sued her husband, saying he had seduced or raped her daughter, but the daughter publicly claimed that it was not seduction and rape, but that she loved her father as a man or a lover.The father also claimed to love his daughter, as he loves a woman.Everyone discussed whether this kind of incest was immoral, and whether this incident was illegal?One faction accuses this of incest and immorality. Of course, traditional sexual concepts must be extremely angry about this.But another school of thought argues that any sexual relationship is moral as long as it is done out of love.The reason why incest is immoral and taboo in traditional society is because of fertility issues.The physical and mental health of the offspring, the sexual relationship between the blood is likely to lead to deformed children genetically, this is irresponsible to the offspring, so it is immoral. But with the development of the times to today, the problem of deformed children in sexual relations can be completely solved technically, and more and more safe contraceptive measures have eliminated deformed children in blood relations. With this modern technology, it is no longer a moral issue for a father and daughter to have sex because they love each other. Sexual relations without blood ties can also cause suffering in future generations.Since the two sexes love each other, as long as the two sexes are enough, the others are not important, only the attraction and love between the two sexes is important.If the love of the sexes is not considered the most moral reason for sexual relations, then any other factor that promotes sexual relations is even more immoral.Therefore, it is immoral to use the excuse of blood relationship to forcibly separate two men and women who really love each other. In our place, such discussions are impossible.This kind of open discussion did not lead to confusion in sexual relations, but only promoted people's in-depth understanding of the complexity of sexual relations.In contemporary China, prostitution and the involvement of third parties have become the norm in Chinese sexual relations, but it is difficult to form an open social discussion.In film and television dramas, moral condemnation must be added to varying degrees to express such things. For prostitutes, third parties who intervene, and husbands or wives who have extramarital affairs, there is a kind of morality that comes from traditional concepts and mainstream ideology. discriminate.There is also the deification of sexual relations in ancient and modern Chinese and foreign literary traditions.Some people say that love is the eternal theme of literature, but it is actually a kind of inertial apotheosis, or quasi-sacred things at work. Wang Shuo: As far as the popular culture I have come into contact with, the taboos in this area are mainly due to policy restrictions.Of course, this does not rule out that there are such taboos or needs in the subconscious of society.The female author must have such a consciousness or subconsciousness, she is more inclined to punish the third party, and "Hand in Hand" is such a tendency. Old Xia: That's the same, stronger than "Holding Hands". Wang Shuo: "Hand in Hand" also has obvious policy implications.After it was launched in 1996, it was given to the Art Center, because it involved the intervention of a third party, and the third party must be condemned morally. It must not go beyond this limit, and the third party cannot become the main role.The author put it aside.Of course, China has always had policies at the top and countermeasures at the bottom. Since the policy does not allow this kind of thing, we have to adapt it and become an unconscious behavior.That is to say, the direction of the author's modification must be towards the unconscious, and try to make the third-party relationship very unconscious, so that it is not intentional to be a third party, but to have specific kindness and gratitude, not because of wanting to love Who did the two have a relationship with, but because of other things, such as love for a long time, many other things will appear, which is enough to show that she is not consciously trying to destroy other people's families, but has gradually accumulated in her life. It is absolutely impossible for her to be the third party. I remember that there was a very extreme thing called "Who is the third party?" It is more radical, but the shots are not convincing.Women are more radical in this regard, especially the so-called intellectual women. They think that love is still very important. It is not a matter of who comes first and who comes last, and it is not about who is legal and who is not. The problem.However, within the scope allowed by our current policies, it is impossible to put these two things at the same level.The moral concepts of traditional culture are inherently in tune with official policies, or official policies are formulated on the basis of traditional moral values.Anyway, if you shoot this kind of triangle relationship, you will be condemned in it.The female author writes in this way, and the psychological burden is also small.Because they themselves have this tendency.And I think this caters to most people's moral values.Destroying an existing relationship is a mistake.If it is said that feelings are incompatibility, and marriage without love is immoral, even if there are such sufficient reasons, the third party will still be subject to moral criticism, and they will say that this will affect social stability.Now science has proved through chemical analysis, genetic analysis and a series of scientific research that people are born to like the new and dislike the old, and the relationship between the opposite sex will not last forever.It will take a long time for these conclusions to affect or change people's moral concepts.It is not as soon as there is a scientific argument in this regard, people can morally accept the intervention of a third party and love the new and dislike the old.But when it comes to moral reasons other than feelings, then I think this has nothing to do with the relationship between men and women. Many people use this excuse to say other things.The Chinese love extravagance and have no sense of boundaries. Give him an excuse, and he will talk all over the place.Therefore, since there is such a social atmosphere, coupled with the natural inclination of women, when women write such things, they often have already designed that the third party will not end well, so they start writing.What women themselves demand on this issue is a unilateral status of the official marriage of the media. She is not willing to be the third party, so it has become a war between women and women, with men caught in the middle, and the works will eventually be classified as third The latter did not end well.Men don’t seem to have a consistent attitude in this regard, because the problem faced by the men in the works is how to justify this deviant behavior, and find ways to make this deviant behavior reasonable in front of their wives and in front of the audience. At least to make people sympathetic or somewhat understanding.Ordinary works often write about such a man. Making this thing reasonable is the weakness of human nature, and the worst damage is the weakness of human nature. He will make a helpless gesture in front of the society: Neither do I, who made me a person? ! Old Xia: Behind the helpless gesture is the innocent accusation.Helpless is to prove his innocence.When a man writes this kind of thing, he often has to describe him as a person who is affectionate, righteous and responsible, and at the very least, he has a sense of responsibility. He has no feelings for his wife at all, and his feelings are completely occupied by a third party. In this case, this man also needs to have a sense of responsibility. His wife has paid for him, and there is objective harm to innocent children, so he will take care of his wife out of responsibility, and even write that he does not care about his lover's feelings. , He did not hesitate to hurt the love between them to take on the responsibility of the family.So he hesitated in the divorce.Men write about men as self-pity, even self-beautification.Women write about men as self-pity, a weak image of innocent victims.Women are always weak and need love and protection; men are always strong and need understanding and beautification.On this issue, when men write about women, they seldom write fully about some selfishness and shamelessness of men in this triangle relationship, and rarely reveal the darkest point of human nature.Still feel sorry for himself, he can have no feelings, but he can't be without a sense of responsibility.This way of writing is to always add excuses or even beautify elements to this triangle relationship, and this is precisely the weakness of human beings, regardless of gender, and it is even more hypocritical than liking the new and dislike the old.But in life, there are too many shameless men. Chinese tradition has long cultivated the greed of Chinese men who want to have three wives and four concubines. greedy.He wants to have both, stable family and romantic lover, masculine charm and moral responsibility. Wang Shuo: I think the man you are talking about is shameless in an abstract sense, but in reality, it is a problem he has to face: the entanglement between responsibility and emotion. Lao Xia: When it comes to responsibility, I mean at least the image of a man portrayed in literary works and film and television dramas has never been written about being shameless and irresponsible to his wife and children in a triangle relationship.I'm not saying that there are no responsible men, but you can't just write about this kind of responsible men, and not write about that kind of shameless men.There are two types of people. In my personal experience, there are mostly shameless men, and most women endure shameless men. Wang Shuo: This kind of thing is really difficult to handle.If you write that he has a sense of responsibility, it is hypocrisy, and if he has no sense of responsibility, it is shameless. Really, when encountering this kind of thing and writing about it in a work, it is difficult to extreme it.That way his character can't be changed, if he is a jerk, he is not worthy of your writing.He is worth describing because he stands in the middle with both ends. So many things are really predestined, and he is not as noble as you think. In fact, he is not noble, there is no room for nobleness, there is no room for nobleness.In such matters you either restrain yourself, but that is anti-human, and total self-restraint on a more exacting level is nothing.