Chapter 10 The second article Bian Deren said: life flies so fast (1)

In 1978, Bian Jinrong, the youngest, returned to the city after three years of jumping in the queue. His father, Bian Deren, was 69 years old, and his mother, Hou Cuicui, was 64 years old.At this time, the granddaughter Bian Yinhua gave birth to a child who was almost two years old, and they had a great-granddaughter.This is the time to take care of the rest of the world, but they continue to care for the only child who is still around, like a child, with nagging, meticulous, and hard work.Parents are the only reliance of unmarried sons. Parents take care of their sons. It is a matter of course and incumbent. This is the rule of life that human families are born to abide by. It is not imposed, but passed down from generation to generation. Human instinct, without instinct, human nature is missing; not missing human nature is also the inherent firmness of human beings.No matter how old the child is, in the eyes of parents, he will always be a child. Parents worry about the child, work hard, feel at ease, and be justified.

After Bian Jinrong opened the beef noodle restaurant, he stopped living at home. The beef noodle restaurant was far away from his parents’ home. In order to take care of the business, he rented a small bungalow on the same street as the beef noodle restaurant. Take a look at the parents' house, stay for a while or leave for one night, as if visiting and staying in a hotel.The parents wanted him to live at home. Five sons and four sons already had their own homes. They hoped that one son could live with them every day; they were old and afraid of being lonely.Bian Jinrong comforted them and said that sooner or later he would get married too, so they assumed he was getting married too.The mother sighed sadly, looked at the father lonely and said: Oh, he is leaving us soon.When Bian Jinrong got married, Bian Deren and Hou Cuicui's worries about their children came to an end.Working hard for their sons until they enter their new home is the ultimate goal of their parents in raising their children, just like a bird with hardened wings must be released.But when it came to a point, they were conflicted, and they didn't want it to be like this, and would rather continue to work hard for their son.The five sons all have their own homes. In the days to come, the children should work hard for their homes and their children; they can look after, care for, and love those younger generations who are separated from each other, but they can't "manage" them. They took care of it, and they took the lead and overstepped the role.It's time for them to rest and wait to enjoy family happiness.This time is the end of their lives, and it is also the autumn of their lives. After harvesting, it is also coming to an end.Stop worrying about the son, the parents are relaxed but also lost.

The one-story house assigned to Bian Deren by the unit was just built when they moved in. It has been almost thirty years now. The walls, bricks, floors, doors, windows, and stove are all old and outdated. Even if they are repainted and wiped clean, it is not enough to make them look new. The traces of the years are not deposited on them, but grow on them, and they cannot be removed.Just like after a person has been carried for countless hours, if any cosmetic surgery is done on the surface, all parts of the body will not be rejuvenated.This one-story house is the garden of their lives, and their children are the seeds. Their seeds grow, bloom, and bear fruit here. When the fruits are ripe, they scatter the ripe fruits. It is time to sow new seeds on the fruits. .Every child is a variety. They bloom and bear different fruits, and they can be sown wherever they are suitable for sowing.The children's seeds will bloom new flowers and bear new fruits. They can only watch the fire from the other side; When they couldn't, they went to the fallen leaves and returned to their roots, and were buried under the loess.Life goes on and on like this.From this one-story house, the five sons have already left, and the two old couples are left. The yard has changed from being crowded and noisy to being spacious and quiet.

When they calmed down, they had time to recall, and memory unknowingly took up the most time of them and became their most interesting hobby.Sometimes, when Bian Deren and Hou Cuicui were alone in the room, when they talked about their past, they always had a kind of trance, thinking that they are now their past, and they gave birth to and raised five sons, and watched them marry wives Giving birth, the process seemed to be in the blink of an eye, jumping to the present, and even felt that they rushed over from Houma yesterday.At that time, Bian Deren couldn't help sighing: How quickly the days pass!Hou Cuicui just followed up, what, I remembered that you bought me, as if it was yesterday.They have a deep memory of the past, but at the same time they are like amnesiacs, ignoring the process, and when they think about it, they can only flash a past tense; the process from the past to the present is compressed so that there is no time, and the process seems to be stuck Space does not follow the track of time, so they stepped over it in one step.How insignificant time is.Calm down, carefully and slowly, they looked at the wrinkles of different sizes on each other's faces, and then they returned to the past process. After thinking about it, they realized that the process was actually long. Speaking of bits and pieces, they may not be able to count them all until the day they leave this world; they will tell how long the process takes place, and they will not be able to condense it when they talk about it. of.Most of their lives have passed, and what is left is a short half of their lives. How can it be justified to use the small half of their lives to talk about the majority of their lives?What's more, the terminator of the little half life came as soon as it was said, and you are not allowed to prepare it.Looking at it this way, the past is so far away, and the years and life are so long.

Speaking of which, Hou Cuicui pinched her fingers, since when has her name "Hou Cuicui" not been "used" again? "Use" is what others call out.Bian Deren thought about it, it seemed that it started after she gave birth to her first child, Yincui.He changed his name to call her "the child's mother".Hou Cuicui sighed, smiled wryly and said: I don’t need my name, I will forget it myself.Bian Deren followed, half joking and half comforting her: You never called me "brother" again, and I forgot that I am older than you.Ever since Hou Cuicui and Bian Deren had their first child, Bian Yincui, they have involuntarily called each other "the child's mother" and "the child's father".Before liberation, children called them "father and mother", and after liberation they called them "parents", and the address among them became "the child's father" and "the child's mother".When it is neat, remove the "children" and just call him "his father, his father" and "his mother, his mother".Later they had grandchildren again, and they sometimes called him "his grandpa" or "his grandma" in front of their grandchildren, which was also involuntary.How to change their mouths, they didn't name each other anymore.Fortunately, Bian Deren has a work unit, but his name is still called here and there, not his name, but also his surname, from "Xiao Bian" to "Master Bian" and "Old Bian", in short, The surname "Bian" never leaves the mouth.And Hou Cuicui, since she "married" to Bian Deren, outsiders called her "Bian's family". "Aunt Bian", "Aunt Bian", and "Grandma Bian". No matter how they change, no one has ever called her by her surname or her first name. I can't blame anyone else. She has no unit, is a housewife, and how many outsiders are there? Do you know her first and last name?Thinking of her own name, Hou Cuicui couldn't help but think of the time when Bian Deren was with her and still called her by her name.At that time, her name "Cui Cui" was called by others, how natural and unique it was.After she "married" and gave birth to a child, she changed; when it was mentioned back then, it seemed almost distant.

Recalling what Hou Cuicui's mother told them to "live well if you have a life", Bian Deren asked Hou Cuicui, saying: Tell me, are we living well in this life? Hou Cuicui thought about it, and asked him: What do you think? Bian Deren frowned slightly, thought seriously, and said for a moment: What mother said is good, what is it? Hou Cuicui thought for a while, and said, "Don't steal, don't touch, don't rob, don't do evil, don't try to get rich, don't worry about food, drink, clothing, and use, do your duty, be honest, be diligent and fast." , healthy and healthy, to live in peace and security for a lifetime, is a lifetime of blessings.This is not what my mother said, but what I thought.In fact, my mother wanted to live a good life, and that's what she said. When she was alive, she often talked about the same reasoning.

Bian Deren nodded, saying that people think this way.With a sigh of relief, he said they had done it. Hou Cuicui said that there were times when they didn't do it. They were hungry, lacked food and drink, and their children died or miscarried.Bian Deren said that it was because the conditions were not met and the age forced it. It was not that they did not try their best. As long as they were running toward the goal of "living well", they would be worthy of themselves and have no regrets.As long as you think about "living well", you will always live well.Look, it should be time to see the end, in the end, they are good after all.The children didn't steal, rob, or hate others, and the family was doing well. This was good enough, and he was very satisfied.Hou Cuicui said that she is also satisfied.

Speaking of it, Bian Deren said that he should have borrowed Cuicui's light, and Hou Cuicui said that she didn't go to work to earn money, which dragged him down a lot, and how could she bring him any "light".Bian Deren said that her "restraining people" is to support those who are kind and honest, which is "light".Hou Cuicui said that it was thanks to him, but if he was not good, it would be hard to say what would happen to them.Bian Deren said with a smile, that is, I should die, I would have died long ago.Hou Cuicui also laughed, saying that she herself didn't believe that she had such a great ability. Back then, her mother told people to write like that, in fact, to scare away those who had malicious intentions.That's what her mother said when she told the person who wrote the notice.Bian Deren said that you can kill your bad father too?Hou Cuicui said it was his own retribution.Then she pondered and said: Madam is good, shouldn't you be sick? Who is responsible for that?Bian Deren said that it was your father who tortured her.

Hou Cuicui sighed, and said: "What kind of people do people have, what fate does they have? If you deal with it, everything will be fine. If you don't deal with it, nothing will be good." "Grams" are mutual.Good people overcome bad people, and bad people also harm good people. Bian Deren said: When two good people are together, it is good to help.That's how they both are. Counting it, they have been together for nearly sixty years, from brother and sister to husband and wife.During this period, they never blushed, quarreled, cared for each other, sympathized with each other, worked hard for each other, worked together for life, for their family, and worked together tacitly. They lived according to their destiny, and they were also changing their lives; , They make up for it, and as much trouble as they make up for, they will have as much success.This is the result of their coordinated forces.They worked hard to raise five sons, and the sons gave them a house full of grandchildren. The family they created is the great cause they created, which is the most satisfying thing; every child has their veins Blood, the children have actually taken over the baton of their lives. After taking over their baton, their lives are actually over, and the rest of their lives will be rich lives.

After talking too much about the past, Bian Deren and Hou Cuicui thought, they are so easy to recall, are they going to leave?People who are leaving are always willing to remember.Speaking of which, they counted their bones, from the inside to the outside, how many springs, autumns, winters and summers can their bodies stand upright in the world?They feel that they are already "rare in ancient times" at this age, and they can no longer use the year to calculate the days in the future, they have to use the season; and then they will use the month and the day.All in all, they don’t have major problems with their bones, they are just minor ailments and pains. Hou Cuicui’s shoulders and backs have hyperosteogeny, Bian Deren’s prostate is a bit enlarged, their blood pressure is a bit high, and sometimes they suffer from constipation. Yes, these are not the key points to control life; it is their luck that they are not seriously ill, and they are luckier than many old people.Excluding accidents, according to this physical condition, they think that they can still live for a period of time, how long it is depends on fate; they are living at the pace of life, and their life is like their current life, and they are also rich .

If you are rich, you should sit back and enjoy the leisure.In their free time, they wanted to watch the lives of their younger generations.Life is a big stage, and the people performing on it should be alive and well. They are too old to jump or run, so they can only play tricks and be spectators.They have passed on the experience of acting to their sons, and the sons have passed it on to their children, from generation to generation, without end.The essence of life they teach their sons is also "live well". What they say "live well" is the philosophy of life they understand as "plain, responsible, and stable". The greatest hope of the younger generations; they don't expect them to have a big rise, if there is a big rise, there will be a big fall.Back then, they had no brothers and sisters, and they carried out their understanding alone, single-mindedly and singlely; later, they had five sons, whose ten fingers were not evenly aligned, and how the sons understood, they lived; No matter what the children think, it is their life again.No matter what they think, they have taken different paths; whatever path they take, they will have their own reasons.Life, they can't see it, the sons take over; after the sons, the grandchildren; generation after generation, forever.Their essence and blood will flow in it forever, this is their family; the members of the family are alive, they are actually alive.