Chapter 16 about giving

About paying (1) I believe in a word, there is no free lunch in the world, if you eat a meal, you may pay the price later. I also hope to be able to do one thing easily, such as losing weight. I have been attracted by advertisements for slimming teas and weight-loss drugs. Like the example in the advertisement, one week or two weeks, you can become a slender person.It's just that up to now, this is just my good wish, which has not been realized. I believe that many people have the same idea as me, otherwise, the sales of these products would not be so good.But I believe that the effect of most people is similar to mine.

A friend of mine who never looked at these products laughed at me: In fact, in the final analysis, you are lazy, because you don't want to exercise, and you don't want to control your diet, because it will be very hard.The manufacturer is taking advantage of the mentality of you lazy people. In my home, there is a gift from my colleague, wishing me a happy housewarming when I don’t know how many times I moved.He copied a passage from Mencius to encourage me: When Heaven is about to place a great mission on people, they must first suffer from their will, exhaust their muscles and bones, starve their skin, empty their bodies, and disturb their actions.So be tempted to endure and gain what you can't.

I remember that in my middle school Chinese textbook, there was such a paragraph that the teacher spent a long time explaining the meaning of each word and sentence to us, and we still half understood it.Or you understand the literal meaning, but you always feel that you are too far away from yourself.That is something of the ancients. Until now, after making several circles in life and experiencing the sophistication of the world, I have to admire the wisdom of this sage.However, how many people really believe in Mencius if they have not really experienced this process themselves? Too many people only see the prosperous side of others, and always ignore the hard work behind others. Every industry pays different things, but in essence, they are all the same.

To become an Olympic champion requires intensive training and the support of a tenacious will, not everyone can do it. To become a singer, what you have to do every day is to rehearse the dance steps and recite the lyrics, and such dedication does not mean that you will definitely be popular. I realized the hard work of being a star, and it was my whole month to cooperate with the national book signing activities for the publication of new books.In one month, we visited almost 20 cities, each city had similar activities, book signings, media meetings, interviews with different TV stations and radio stations, exchange meetings with readers, and university speeches.Later, I can't remember which city I arrived in, because I usually get off the plane and start these similar procedures right away until late at night.Then the next morning, we set off to the next city.

Looking at myself like this, I don't think it's too hard, because my usual work is similar to this.But I don't consciously compare myself with those singers who promote their records.I think that's pretty much the same schedule.It's really tiring, especially for those young singers, their lives are like this, and they have no time for themselves.I'm only a month old, and it's just an extra in my life, but to them, it's all in their life.Their psychological pressure can be imagined. But there is no other way. This is a commercial society. To increase exposure and let more people know about you, you must use such commercial means.Although sometimes, I feel a little awkward sitting there signing sales, but fortunately, I will never be arrogant. I will accept this fact very realistically. Now that I have written a book, I hope that more people will read it, so I will do it like this Bar.Anyway, what I sacrificed was only a one-month vacation, but I also gained something, that is, in a short period of time, I went to many cities that I always wanted to go to, but had no time to go.

I often see some celebrities complain in the media that they have no privacy.I'm a little skeptical.Of course it is not right for the paparazzi to go too far. For example, in Hong Kong, some entertainment reporters even check the garbage bags thrown out of the stars’ homes to expose the stars’ living habits.It's a bit perverted.But for the others, I think that the Cantonese have a very incisive saying: Eat salty fish to satisfy thirst.You can't blame others. Since you choose to be a star, you have to learn to get used to it, and even endure the inconvenience of being a star. I envy those who speak, can quote classics, and write articles that can talk about the past and the present.I often fantasize that I am a talented woman who is omnipotent in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting.Unfortunately, when I was young, I didn’t study hard, I didn’t read enough books, I didn’t learn the guitar because I was afraid of pain, and I didn’t want to practice brush calligraphy at home every day, so until now, I’m a person without any special skills. Blame others, only yourself.

If there is no effort, there will be no gains, but this does not mean that as long as there is some effort, there will be gains. This world is not fair, and many times it just makes you look at it, and there is nothing you can do about it. It's just that you can't stop doing it because there may be no rewards. The return after giving will often change a person's life.It's easy to get lost in life if you forget why you did what you did in the first place. There is such a real story in England, and it has been made into a movie.A group of middle-aged women in the English countryside, one of whom lost her husband to cancer, decided to raise funds by themselves in order to help other patients in the town. Calendar girl.Only this time, they decided to go against tradition and use nudity to show the lives of housewives.

Faced many difficulties in the process.Whether I can pass my own test, family members don't understand, and other people's views with colored glasses. In the end, they overcame everything in the same way.And their calendar caused a sensation.They raised far more money than originally expected.What they can help is not just the small town hospital. About paying (2) Each of them became a star, the town was filled with media reporters from all over, and they were invited to Hollywood. These bring changes to everyone's life. One of the calendar girls whose husband had an extramarital affair decisively ended her unhappy married life and started her brand new single life; Prepare to flex your muscles and take everyone to Hollywood to develop.The result was a crisis in the family.

In the end, the calendar girl returned to her small town and returned to the peaceful life in the small town. What made her reflect on herself was her friend who asked her why we did this in the first place. So, these calendar girls continued their country life, but their life was a little bit the same as before, and a little bit different. I was touched by this story, because it can be seen from this that people are easily dissatisfied. After getting what they wanted, they wondered if they could have more.Slowly, some people forget the earliest starting point.Forget about what is most important to you.

The star life in Hollywood is irresistible to most people, but when they come to Hollywood, they have to follow the Hollywood way, so all the interviews have shaped them into a group of middle-aged women who want to be famous, raise funds, About to shoot nude commercials.These are not what they originally expected, but if you want to be in Hollywood, this is what you have to do. They finally chose to give up.Because for them, these are unimportant, because they have fulfilled their wishes, and the money raised can already help thousands of cancer patients.So they continued to practice Tai Chi on the hillside every morning as if nothing had happened.

It's just that not many people can resist such a temptation.Most people are attracted by the scenery and fame and fortune in front of them, but they forget the sacrifices required for it.It may not be real-time, but it must be paid. Although there is a close relationship between giving and receiving, if everything is done after careful calculation, it will be too deliberate.If you can't get what you expected, isn't life always spent in loss and frustration? In English, the equivalent of giving is sacrifice, and most of the time this word is translated as sacrifice by us.I think there is no contradiction, giving also means sacrifice, sacrificing personal time, or money, or youth, or some things that people can enjoy and have. Most of the efforts will be rewarded more or less, whether it is more or less.But feelings are different. If you want to measure the rewards you get from paying for feelings, then the meaning of the two words of feelings has been lost.