Chapter 11 About self-confidence

About self-confidence (1) A colleague of mine who is also a good friend of mine described me this way in an interview. When I first met Luqiu, she was a very quiet girl.Every day she is there to watch what we are doing carefully.A year later, when I came back from the United States, I saw Luqiu again. She was already very orderly in doing things. Another year later, I returned to Hong Kong after finishing my studies. At this time, Luqiu was already very, very, very confident. . Confidence is not born with, a person's self-confidence needs a process. When I was in Shenzhen, I saw a job advertisement one day that a state-owned accounting firm needed an English translator.I wrote to apply.After all, he is a student who graduated from a famous university and has work experience in a foreign-funded enterprise, so he soon had the opportunity for an interview.On the day of the interview, I was quite confident, because when I was in college, my English level was considered good in the department, and I usually spent a lot of time on English.

The other party asked me to translate an accounting statement.Although I can look up the dictionary, I really don't know where to start with those professional accounting terms, such as income statement, debit and credit, balance sheet, etc.I still remember that when I handed over the things I had translated to the old director, his brows were wrinkled.Although he politely asked me to go back and wait for the notice, I knew that I couldn't do the job. After that period of time, I began to doubt my English ability, and the original self-confidence disappeared. Until half a year later, I was admitted to an international accounting firm. The principle of this company's selection of employees is not to see whether a person is Instead of studying related majors, it depends on a person's basic qualities, such as whether he can communicate with others, whether he has logical thinking ability, etc.And those are my specialties.After becoming an employee of the company, the company will spend a lot of time and money on training. After a few months, my professional English in finance and economics has improved by leaps and bounds. Not only can I read English reports, but I can also write English analysis reports.At this time, my self-confidence came back.

It's the same with TV news.My self-confidence is accumulated little by little based on the accumulation of work experience. When I first joined the TV station, I started as an interpreter for foreign TV stations. Everything felt fresh, and I had to learn everything from the beginning. The first part was to learn to use a special computer system.It's not bad, I have used it for two days and I don't need other people's guidance, I can operate it by myself.But the process of learning to dub was not so smooth.Sitting in the dubbing room with the manuscript in hand, I couldn’t come out for a long time because I kept eating screws there.It is precisely because of that experience that when facing new colleagues, when they can’t get out of the dubbing room, I never rush them, because I know that they need a process just like me, needs time.

I would like to thank those seniors who taught me when I first entered the industry.When my manuscript is not well written, no one will scold me. If I meet such a senior, I will definitely collapse my self-confidence after a few times.They helped me correct word by word, and patiently told me what structure the TV news release should have and how to combine text and images to make it look good. I remember that when my manuscript was improving, or when they didn't need to make major changes, they would say to me without looking up, it's good. Although such praise is very casual, for a novice who has just entered the industry, other people's approval is more important than his own approval of himself.

After that, even if others no longer put the words of praise on their mouths, as long as they see that their manuscript has passed through the hands of the editor, not a word has been changed, or in many cases, the editor will put the important ones in the shortest time. When I gave myself the completed translation manuscript, I knew that I was qualified. After that, I switched from compiling to reporter.The first thing I did was to buy a suit for my appearance.Wish I could look more professional. Now seeing a lot of newcomers entering this industry and wearing executive suits to work every day, I feel very kind, because I have also experienced such a stage.Of course, now I dress very casually, and I will decide what to wear according to different occasions.If it is a formal press conference, a large-scale foreign event, an exclusive interview, or if I need to appear on camera, I will dress very formally and also wear makeup.For other occasions, dress as comfortably as possible.This is because I am already very confident, and I don't need to deliberately dress up to increase my confidence.Sometimes, the more casual a person is, the more confident he is.

My first news article was well written, but standup, that is, the effect of appearing on the screen, although I am quite satisfied, but one of my bosses said to me, Rose, I don’t think you are suitable for TV, look at you The freckles are clearly visible on TV.It really hurt my heart at that time. My colleague comforted me and said, don't listen to his nonsense, freckles can be covered up with cosmetics.It’s okay, different people have different opinions on a lot of things. Another boss of mine said, Rose is pretty good, and I can make more appearances and practice in the future. Now, when I meet my old boss who says I have freckles, I always joke about it with him, and we are good friends now.I said, in fact, I want to thank you, because you let me know more clearly that I can't rely on appearance to make a living.

In fact, my confidence and relaxation in front of the camera came from one of my colleagues, a director who I cooperated with shortly after I entered the television industry.He said, Luqiu, you must remember that in front of the camera, don’t always think about whether you are pretty or not. What you need to think about is what you want to tell the audience, which is the most important thing. This sentence has benefited me to this day.I found that when I am reporting, if I clearly know what I want to say and what the ins and outs of a matter are, I can express it very fluently.And if I don't understand something very well, or if I don't have much information to tell everyone, I will feel nervous in front of the camera.It's just that because I've been doing it for a long time, I know how to hide myself.Although the audience can't see it, it's very clear in my heart.

About self-confidence (2) In fact, it is difficult for people to be confident about things they are not familiar with.I still remember the first time I stayed in a five-star hotel, and I always felt uneasy.The problem I often encounter is that the design of the shower is too complicated, and I don't know how to open it.I was too embarrassed to ask others, so I hid in the bathroom by myself for a long time.It's different now. I will ask others for anything I don't know how to use.Because I think that a person's self-confidence is not reflected in knowing everything. There are too many things in this world that I don't understand.

Praise from others is very important to building self-confidence, and sometimes self-praise is also very important.My big boss always encourages every employee to learn to praise themselves.I think it makes sense.Many times, others are busy with their own affairs and have little time to praise others, but this does not mean that your own performance is not good.What is needed at this time is self-praise and self-affirmation. I do this a lot.If I got stuck in an exclusive interview, I would tell my photographer, look at me, I knew he would pass by this way.My judgment is not wrong.Photographers usually chime in and say yes yes yes.Maybe he was laughing at me as a reporter in his heart. He was really boring and praised himself.Maybe he really thinks I'm nice, but he just didn't think to say it.But for me who practice self-praise.It doesn't matter what the photographer thinks, what matters is that I praised myself.Sometimes I will say it, but most of the time I will be in my heart, and I am complacent.

It's just that there is only one word difference between self-confidence and arrogance. If you don't grasp it well, you will become an egomaniac.Regardless of the occasion, arrogant people always feel that they are the center of the world, and that others are not as good as they are.With so much praise, it's easy to forget who you really are.This is what I often have to remind myself, don’t get carried away, first, I’m not really so good, and second, if one day I fall from the praises of others, it will be very painful. My colleagues and I have been lamenting lately that some young people are overconfident these days.

This kind of thing happens all the time. When we arrange an interview task, the main points of the interview have not been clarified yet, and the children can't wait to say, "I know, I know."Now that the other party said they knew, we people were afraid of hurting their self-esteem, or because they thought we were wordy, so we stopped talking.As a result, when the interview came back, it was often such a dialogue. So boring, nothing to write about. So is this question asked? No. Was that question asked? No. Know this person is the hottest person recently? ah, is it? After coming down once or twice, I never dared to hand over important interviews to him.Slowly, others are improving, constantly getting opportunities, and then promotions, but he is always standing still. Once when I went abroad to interview a leader, I happened to encounter a sharp drop in the U.S. stock market. Under such circumstances, I would like to ask the Chinese leader a question, of course, the impact on the Chinese economy and whether China has increased breath pressure.After the interview, a young reporter from another TV station next to me complained in a low voice, that he was sick and asked such a question.I pretended not to hear, but another senior newspaper reporter couldn't help it, and said to the girl: Do you know how important the Chinese economy is to the world? When the Chinese economy sneezes, the world economy catches a cold.If you don't understand, don't criticize others casually. As a result, this news became the headlines of major TV stations in Hong Kong that day. The less a person knows and sees, the easier it is for self-expansion.On the contrary, people who have seen a lot and understand more things are more humble.Being humble doesn’t mean denying yourself. A humble person doesn’t mean being unconfident, but that they know their abilities and their position.And because of humility, I am more willing to learn and accept new things, so that I can keep improving, so as to increase my confidence subtly. True self-confidence is not created deliberately, it needs time, experience, tempering, and something that comes naturally. Regarding work, I can say that I feel 100% sure. It’s just a matter of whether I can do it or not, and whether I can do it well or not. But for a long time, in my life, I seriously lacked self-confidence. When a person walks on the street, I always have a desire to be invisible. When I walk in a store alone, if the salesperson greets me warmly, I will leave quickly because I don’t know how to deal with it.When I go to a gathering of friends, if most of the people I don't know well, I will keep silent most of the time.But if I am with close friends, I am a person who talks a lot and often becomes hyperactive.Seeing myself like this, I don't understand myself.Life and work are completely different Luqiu. But the situation is improving little by little, a big reason is that I let go.This is very important.Because in the past, I thought that the biggest reason why I was like this was that I was worried that my performance would make people laugh, and I was very inferior.It's a bit ridiculous to look back now, because I care too much about what other people think.In fact, everyone is very busy, too busy to even have time for their own affairs, and rarely have time to take care of other people's affairs.Or sometimes I will make some comments, like I often do, but when the talk is over, it is over.Therefore, if you always think about what others will think of you, you are really putting yourself in a cover.After figuring this out, being a human has become a lot easier. It doesn't mean that you can do whatever you want and don't care about other people's opinions at all, but at least you won't add artificial pressure to yourself. Now walking alone on the street, you can slowly enjoy the surrounding scenery, instead of rushing with your head down like before.When I go to the store, I will politely say to the enthusiastic salesperson, sorry, can I take a look at it by myself.Hanging out with people I don't know well, I'm no longer just a listener. About self-confidence (3) These changes in the details of life brought about changes in my whole being.Friends said that Luqiu was really cheerful and confident.It can be heard from the laughter that in my life, I can also laugh out loud in front of strangers and in strange places.