Chapter 15 Chapter 15 The Courage to Manage Your Boss

Chapter 15 The Courage to Manage Your Boss If a scholar cannot be humiliated, he will be great, and if he is big, he will be respected by wealth and honor.Therefore, profit is not enough to intimidate one's will, and fame is not enough to support one's heart.Sri Lankan people are also, if they have power, they will not be selfish, if they are in an official position, they will not be dirty, and if they are in the public, they will not scratch the north.If it is convenient for the master and for the benefit of the country, you will be in danger, and you will sacrifice your life to arrest them. If this is the case, you can be called a state-owned minister.

―Emperor Shunzhi of the Qing Dynasty, "The Essentials of Senior Officials" ugly girl is a cup of tea It is said that when Zhuge Liang talked about his wife and love, he said that "beauty is in the eye of the beholder", which means that he cherishes himself.Actually?When Pei Songzhi annotated "Three Kingdoms: The Biography of Zhuge Liang", he recorded a theory in Jingzhou area: "Don't choose a wife for Kongming, you have to be an ugly girl." It means that a handsome man like Zhuge Liang married an ugly wife. Not worth learning. A Cheng refers to Huang Chengyan, a famous scholar in Jingzhou.Ah Chou is his daughter. Although she is ugly, she is also a talented woman.Ah Chou likes to write and often publishes articles on management.Her beautiful writing style and unexpected insights have attracted many managers in the business world.They thought Ah Chou was a beautiful scholar, but when they actually saw her, they were so surprised that they were about to drop their eyes, and said, "I took a look and regretted it for three days."

To Ah Chou's surprise, a boy named Zhuge Liang fell in love with her without hesitation, and they began a romantic time of mutual affection.In Wollongong, where the grass is withering, the two can often be seen walking hand in hand.You know, Zhuge Liang is a handsome man recognized by everyone, "he is eight feet long, and his appearance is very majestic". How many ladies from Jingxiang are secretly in love with him, how could he have such close contact with Huang Achou?Those with good intentions quickly figured out the inside story of the matter: first, it turned out that Ah Chou's father, Huang Chengyan, was Zhuge Liang's teacher, and the relationship between the two of them was a typical relationship between a senior brother and a junior junior sister; A Chou is newly married and enjoying her honeymoon.

People wonder in whispers: Do the handsome men and ugly women in this strange marriage really love each other?The neighbor's woman went to ask Ah Chou, and Ah Chou said, "Don't make wild guesses. I can tell you that it's not that Zhuge Liang couldn't see the yellow hair on my head, the dark spots on my face, or his aesthetic appreciation of women. What is the difference between my appearance and other men. The reason why I agreed to marry him is because he can go beyond the appearance to appreciate my strengths and heart. I am not beautiful, but I found a kind of extraordinary from Zhuge Liang Unearthly true love."

The woman next door was even more curious: "Then, what did you use to charm Zhuge Liang?" Ah Chou smiled and said, "You'd better ask Zhuge Liang himself!" The neighbor's woman went to ask Zhuge Liang again.Zhuge Liang told her: "Actually, in my mind, Ah Chou is really cuter than many beauties." "How could this happen?" The neighbor's woman seemed to want to break the casserole and ask the bottom line. "You really want to know the answer, don't you?" Zhuge Liang took out a magazine "Three Kingdoms Girlfriend" from his study and said, "The answer is in it."

The neighbor's woman opened the magazine catalog, and it turned out that there was an essay by Zhuge Liang titled "The Ugly Girl Is a Cup of Tea".Turning to the inside page, Zhuge Liang wrote in his beautiful and lyrical writing: An ugly girl is like a cup of tea.Sitting in the lonely little courtyard, the cup of tea in hand was as clear as her mood.But time comes and goes in spring and autumn, and the world is rolling in clouds and clouds... It is often said that tobacco, wine, and tea are the three treasures of men.If you compare cigarettes to a talented woman and wine to a beautiful woman, then tea is an ugly woman.In front of the sentiment of tea, whether it is the intoxicating aroma of cigarettes or the strongness of wine, they all appear so vulgar.It's a pity that most people in the world like to pursue the excitement of cigarettes and wine, but have no time to taste the true taste of a cup of tea.

Yes, an ugly girl does not have a kitsch face, but her character is as beautiful as tea. Away from the hustle and bustle of the world, so you can keep the purity of your heart forever, and you can better understand the elegance of life.Whether it was work or helping others, she did everything she had in hand beautifully.She is so kind, willing to give, not expecting anything in return, and aloof from the world, just like tea, silently exuding a vague fragrance. However, while admiring talented women and praising beauties, it is really unfair to treat five women.She gave love and sweat, but no one remembers who she is.Fortunately, the ugly girl never cares, she is always so indifferent and peaceful.When the beauties commit scandals that are dramatic and sensational to the world, the ugly girls still stick to their virtues alone in the plain.It is gratifying that if a beautiful woman washes her lead, she will gradually feel ashamed in front of an ugly woman.

It's just that the ugly girl also has the feelings of a girl, and also has her dream lover and her love.She was so humble, as humble as a cup of tea.She waits quietly like a cup of tea, and when the breeze blows, ripples will gently ripple in her heart.She is waiting for those who are willing to taste it, and those who know how to taste tea will enjoy a lifetime of happiness. The neighbor's woman looked at her and chirped, "Zhuge Liang, Zhuge Liang, you really know how to praise your wife. I'm so confused. I don't know whether she is lucky to marry you or you are lucky to marry her."

Zhuge Liang and Ah Chou looked at each other and smiled knowingly. love first The young couple just bathed in the river of love, loving each other and respecting each other like guests. They never thought that one day they would be separated from each other.Until after dinner that day, the couple came to the hill to see the scenery as usual.Zhuge Liang suddenly told Ah Chou with some difficulty, "Honey, I have something to discuss with you." A Chou smiled and asked: "What's the matter? Tell me!" Zhuge Liang said: "Liu Bei, the boss of Royal Family Company, asked me to come out to be his consultant."

A Chou was taken aback, and asked, "Then aren't you going to leave home?" "Yes!" Zhuge Liang said: "A good man has ambitions everywhere, how can he be nostalgic for his homeland?" A Chou said angrily: "You have ambitions everywhere, so what should I do?" Zhuge Liang said: "Actually, I am also reluctant to leave you. However, if the relationship lasts for a long time, how can it be day and night?" Ah Chou said, "Stop following me with this spiritual love method." Zhuge Liang said: "You don't have to listen to me, but you have to listen to Confucius!"

Ah Chou asked, "What did Confucius say?" Zhuge Liang replied solemnly: "Confucius said that there are many ways for two people to love each other. The most common way is that two people live together and can spend time together every day - this is called: love and learn it from time to time, not to say (Yue ) almost?" A Chou said: "Since Confucius said that love should be reviewed frequently, you can't leave." Zhuge Liang said anxiously: "Confucius still has something to say. He said that there is another way of love. The two people are separated from each other. It feels good to meet once in a while, to relive the mandarin dream—this is called: There is love from afar. Come on, isn't it a joy?" A Chou rolled his eyes at him and asked, "Is there any more?" Zhuge Liang said: "Wow, Confucius said that the third state of love is that 'I' is willing to silently bless the person I love, no matter whether he knows it in the distance, 'I' has no regrets- this It's called: People don't know, but they are not stunned, are they not lovers?" Ah Chou burst out laughing: "You might as well change the first article to 'Love comes first'. There's really nothing I can do about you, you glib!" Zhuge Liang made an exaggerated look of surprise, and shouted: "So, you agreed?" Ah Chou looked at the lake and mountains in the distance, hesitated for a while, and then said quietly: "Let me think about it again!" Manage the Boss with Harnessing the Husband The next morning, Ah Chou made breakfast and called Zhuge Liang to get up.While watching her husband eat, she wiped her tears haggardly and said, "I thought about it all night last night, since you insist on leaving, I won't stop you. After all, you have your quest.It's just that I want to give you eight words: 'Take care of the boss and make great achievements. 'You must remember. " Zhuge Liang was taken aback: "Take care of the boss? Are you right?" A Chou said: "I'm not wrong. Don't you want to start a career? You don't care about the boss, let the boss do whatever he wants, who will be responsible for your career?" Zhuge Liang scratched his head inexplicably, and said, "Indeed, everyone should be responsible for their own future. However, managing the boss as an employee does not seem to be in line with workplace ethics?" "It seems that you have no way to understand this problem." At this time, the water in the kitchen was less boiled, and Ah Chou made a bowl of egg flower and put it in front of Zhuge Liang, and continued: "Let's get to the bottom of it first, starting from Taylor's science." Talking about management...you say, what is Taylor's contribution to management?" Zhuge Liang said: "Everyone understands this. Since he proposed scientific management, the standardization of work has been born. From then on, people know that regardless of operating methods, labor tools, working hours and working environment, as well as human resources, which are increasingly valued later, All can be transformed into scientific methods and theories through thinking and analysis, so as to effectively improve labor productivity through scientific and reasonable allocation.” Ah Chou laughed slyly: "In this case, what is wrong with the employees managing the boss in order to effectively pursue the company's goals?" Zhuge Liang shook his head and said, "I don't know what the problem is, but I always feel that it's not appropriate for employees to manage their bosses." Ah Chou asked, "Do you think it's appropriate for me to manage you?" Zhuge Liang looked at her and said: "Are you referring to what women often say about 'controlling their husbands well'? It is said that no man is willing to be ridiculed by others for being strict with his wife. But, whether family life is happy or not, only you know .If a woman can take care of a man's face externally and create a happy family life internally, I think a man is still willing to accept management. In this way, the man is happy in his heart, and the woman can control his wife strictly. Best of both worlds.” Ah Chou nodded and said, "Actually, the relationship between an employee and a boss is just like the relationship between a woman and a man!" Zhuge Liang thought about it for a long time, and said: "Some people have said your analogy. There are also people who compare the relationship between the emperor and his ministers, between the master and his servant, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, with the relationship between husband and wife. There was once a new employee who finished his first job at work. He didn’t know what the supervisor would say, so he asked the supervisor’s secretary for guidance. Therefore, his colleagues wrote a poem to make fun of him: “Three days, the man cooks and washes his hands for soup.” Soup. I don’t know how to eat aunts, so send my sister-in-law to taste it first. He said that he looks like a little daughter-in-law, because I don’t know how my mother-in-law’s appetite is, so I invite my sister-in-law to taste it first.” A Chou said: "Since there is such an example, the rationality of employees managing their bosses should also be established, right?" Zhuge Liang said hesitantly: "Although there is this example, I still think it is inappropriate." A Chou smiled and said: "I know where the problem is. For a long time, people always unilaterally emphasize the dominant position of the boss in management, and think that employees can only passively accept management. In the company, if any employee does something wrong colleagues will ask the company to deal with it. However, when the boss does something wrong, the employees are very negative, or keep quiet, or choose to leave. This is like some women treat men, marry a chicken and follow a chicken, marry a dog and follow a dog , let the man do whatever he wants—once a man gets into a catastrophe, he either suffers in hard watch, or he has to remarry.” Zhuge Liang smiled bitterly: "Your metaphor is very vivid, but what can you let them do?" A Chou said: "They have to realize that this kind of negative thinking is actually extremely irresponsible, they can neither be responsible to themselves, nor to the boss and the company, just like those women can't be responsible for their own destiny and happiness. Family life is the same. For the steady development of the company, a competent employee should learn to manage the boss, just like a woman who is responsible for the family should learn to manage men.” Zhuge Liang tilted his head and thought about it for a long time, but still felt that something was wrong, and said, "Your analogy is still not appropriate. The boss owns the ownership of the company's property, and it is impossible to share the company's property with employees like husband and wife share family property." A Chou said: "The company property owned by the boss is just like the property owned by the man before marriage. Just like the husband and wife share the family property, the boss actually shares the company property with the employees." Zhuge Liang retorted: "A woman who wants to divorce can apply to the court for the division of family property. What reason does a resigned employee have to ask for the division of company property?" A Chou said: "Marriage by agreement is popular nowadays, which is the same as signing a contract between a company and its employees. In addition, the company has employee stock ownership plans and profit distribution plans, which can also be regarded as contracts. When a woman divorces, the family property is divided according to the contract. When employees leave the company, they also claim their due benefits according to these contracts. In addition, the labor law clearly stipulates that the company must pay pension insurance for employees, just like a parent must support other family members.” Why manage a boss? Zhuge Liang still wanted to argue, but Ah Chou rubbed his red and swollen eyes, stopped him and said, "Drink the egg flower first! After drinking the egg flower, I will show you a paper. You don't understand why you want to manage the boss." , right? I stayed up all night last night and wrote it to you. Check it out for yourself!" Zhuge Liang drank the egg flower in one gulp, and took the paper from Ah Chou.The title of the dissertation is "Why You Should Manage Your Boss".The text reads: Many people began to understand that the company is actually a public organization shared by all employees, rather than the private property of a certain boss or certain shareholders.However, not many employees seem to realize how important it is to manage their bosses (worse, few believe they can do so).They feel both painful and helpless.Therefore, it has become necessary to reform the previous management model in which the boss (leader) monopolizes power and employees (subordinates) obey orders. "Managing the boss" may sound offensive, but its intention is to find a positive behavior model for employees and subordinates, emphasizing the courage, strength, integrity, sense of responsibility and mission that employees and subordinates need to possess, so as to To achieve the purpose of complementing each other between employees and bosses, subordinates and supervisors.This model puts forward a new way of thinking about the role-playing of employees and subordinates. It believes that employees and bosses, subordinates and supervisors are equally important. Effectively use the power in your hands. A fact that is overlooked by everyone is that while a leader as a boss or supervisor has power that others cannot share, he also has to bear a lot of pressure that cannot be shrugged off (it is difficult for others to understand if these pressures are not experienced personally) .Thus, a widely accepted philosophy was born: a leader must have a "strong ego."However, if this personality trait lacks proper management and the support of competent subordinates, it is likely to evolve into a "self-willed ego", which will cause dictatorship and distortion of the decision-making process, and seriously damage the benign interaction of teamwork. From the perspective of employees, due to the development of market economy, a new social contract is generally formed.In the constantly updated organizational system, there is no guarantee of lifetime employment, and even pension insurance can change with job changes.Companies and managers no longer take care of us like parents. We have to take care of ourselves and support each other.Men and women come together with the common pursuit of happiness, and the boss and employees, supervisors and subordinates should also form an action group around the common goal.Due to the requirements of the society for professional ability, we must change the role image of being meek, obedient, weak, and unable to get ahead as employees and subordinates, and accept the concept of "strong" subordinates as auxiliary "strong" leaders. In the organizational system In order to truly establish a cooperative relationship of upper and lower communication, self-responsibility, and concerted efforts. For a man, having a good wife at home is a blessing.Similarly, a good employee should also be good at managing the boss, which is not only beneficial to the interests of the employees, but also the interests of the boss.Because, after all, we share a "home". A Chou said: "Have you seen it clearly? I mean very clearly. If you can't manage your boss effectively, you don't need to go out of the mountain. You must know that a failed employee is as pitiful as a failed woman. " Zhuge Liang asked with a wry smile: "Although these words of yours can be regarded as insightful insights from a strategic height, it is not so easy to implement." A Chou said: "How to do it should be viewed from two aspects. One is what should be done, and the other is what should not be done." What should be done? A Chou said: "As an employee who conscientiously performs his duties, what should he do? I think, first of all, he should understand his own power and know how to make good use of it. Due to the company's functional process, an employee's position There is actually more authority than we think. Yet, many people give up their power because of misunderstanding, or because they are afraid of taking responsibility." Zhuge Liang said: "I can understand this principle. Responsibility and power have always been related. As much power as you have, you should bear as much responsibility." A Chou smiled and said, "The reverse can also be true: if a person understands his responsibilities, he should not give in to power. For an employee, the pursuit of effective performance is his responsibility. This is true Bar?" Zhuge Liangliang nodded. "What is effective?" A Chou explained: "It is through the benign interaction between yourself and the boss, so that personal growth and team development can be achieved together. In this process, we must understand that making the boss effective, Efficiently achieving goals is one of our important responsibilities as employees and subordinates. This requires management of the boss.” Zhuge Liang smiled and said, "In this way, wouldn't the role of the boss be confused?" A Chou said: "No, because the boss has his own value. As employees, we should also understand the value of the boss and cherish the important contributions he has made to the company. We should also understand what negative factors are depleting his Creativity, sense of humor and determination. Regarding the strengths and limitations of the boss, we have to ask ourselves: 'What should I do? How can I help the boss eliminate those negative factors, so as to create an environment conducive to the growth of the boss? 'And once those negative factors are eliminated, the boss will be able to contribute more to the goal we are pursuing together." Zhuge Liang nodded again. A Chou continued: "Thirdly, we should also face up to the negative effects of power on the boss. There is a famous saying that goes like this: 'Power corrupts people, and absolute power corrupts people absolutely.' We should learn how to correctly Countering the dark side of power is also about taking responsibility for your own or your company's future." What not to do? A Chou said: "A qualified employee will also strictly abide by the precepts in the workplace game. I think the following three points are what employees must abide by: first, always be loyal to the company until they leave..." Zhuge Liang said: "This is a matter of professional ethics, and of course we must abide by it." A Chou said: "Second, never surprise the boss..." Zhuge Liang asked, "Isn't it okay to have pleasant surprises?" A Chou said firmly: "Of course not. Because the prerequisite for successfully managing the boss is the boss's trust in you. Any action that may cause distrust is dangerous." Zhuge Liang asked unconvinced: "Why is it okay between husband and wife?" A Chou said: "Actually, in a polygamous family, no woman would dare to treat her husband with wives and concubines like this. In a company, the boss is like the husband with many wives and concubines." Zhuge Liang made a grimace and said with a smile: "It turns out that the company is a big feudal family." A Chou continued: "Third, never belittle the boss." Zhuge Liang said: "Anyone will be angry when he is belittled, and the boss is naturally the same." A Chou said: "The boss is different from ordinary people. Because the authority of the manager is not tolerated, he will never allow a subordinate to offend him at will. The so-called 'companion to a king is like a companion to a tiger'".That's the reason.Don't think that the boss is of low quality and look down on him.To be smart, there is no danger of overestimating your boss or anyone else. " be a brave subordinate Zhuge Liang touched his head and said: "According to you, managing the boss is a bit like walking a tightrope in the sky. It is very hanging. It requires not only skill, but also extraordinary courage. If you meet a sensible boss, you will be fine." Nothing; but, if you are unlucky and meet a man of bad character, what about management, what about opposing power and darkness, it's all nonsense! A Chou smiled and said: "You are right. As employees and subordinates, there are only two choices when it comes to managing the boss. Either avoid the problem, or face it bravely." Zhuge Liang said unconvinced: "But, you know? In many cases, courage means taking risks! A Chou said: "You are right again, courage does mean taking risks. If there is no risk, there is no need for courage. However, you have to understand that in interpersonal relationships, although it is safer to keep silent, But our relationships with our bosses and colleagues can create barriers that can hurt both sides. From a pragmatic perspective, courage is an important force in the balance of power structures. " Zhuge Liang asked back: "Aren't you afraid that it will backfire by angering the boss?" A Chou finally couldn't help laughing, she said: "This is the core problem you are worried about. In fact, what you want to solve is how to be a brave subordinate, right?" Zhuge Liang nodded. Ah Chou suddenly sighed with self-pity, and continued: "My father—that is, your father-in-law—has the most research on the mystery of bravery. I was born with an ugly appearance, if it wasn't for his old man I have so much courage, I really don't know how to face life. But, since I married you, my boss, are you still satisfied with me as an employee?" Zhuge Liang looked at his wife and said earnestly, "You, an employee, are simply a guiding light." A Chou said: "An ugly girl like me, in order to be a competent family member, can be a brave beacon, how about you? Before you leave home, you should go to say goodbye to my father and take the opportunity to ask his old man for advice." One or two." The author commented: In real professional life, every employee knows the negative impact of the wrong decision of the leader, but they often watch things get screwed up.They feel helpless because pointing out a leader's mistakes is a risk few have the courage to take. However, leaders who are troubled by pressure yearn for the powerful assistance of virtuous subordinates deep down in their hearts.Otherwise, they can become indecisive, or self-willed, which is far from correct decision-making behavior.In Chinese history, the wise Tang Taizong still needed a loyal minister like Wei Zheng, let alone a business executive today. Managing the boss is actually helping the boss to make good use of the power in his hands, which is a positive interaction necessary for teamwork.