Chapter 11 put the pot

When a woman gets married, the most important ceremony at the wedding is that the bride puts a new pot on the stove of her husband's house, fetches water to wash rice, chops firewood to make a fire, and cooks a pot of rice, which means that she is already a member of her husband's family.This is called "putting the pot", which is synonymous with marriage.The pot is generally chosen in winter, not only to avoid the tension of busy farming, but also not only to have harvests to spend after autumn. People tell me that only in winter is it better for brides to wear more layers of padded jackets to prevent some young people from being born at the wedding. Playing around for fun, doing hands and feet.This is the more important reason.

I was dragged by the review once to attend a wedding.Under the dim oil lamp and candlelight, the smell of wine was pungent, and there were only a few people. I was squeezing melon seeds among the people sitting in the corner, when I suddenly exclaimed, a black shadow zoomed in on me quickly, and slapped me hard against the wall. I almost couldn't breathe.I struggled to poke my head out from behind the figure, only to realize that the black figure was a person, a bride in a flowered jacket, with a face covered in messy hair, with an expression of almost crying.I was terrified, and before I could escape the weight of her legs and back, she was grabbed by the surrounding hands again, and with a yell, she staggered towards another male guest's arms.Her screams were drowned in people's laughter.

The next day, I heard that even though the bride wore four layers of cotton-padded jacket and tightly tied six belts, she still had a blue and a purple scratch on her body.The brazenness and fanaticism of the younger generations can be seen.The husband's family must not have any opinion on this. On the contrary, if people don't come to be cheeky and fanatical, it will be a very embarrassing thing for the husband's family, and it will be looked down upon.There was a man named Zhaoqing in the village who once accepted his eldest son as a bride. He was stingy and poured water into the wedding wine, and the meat for the banquet was cut too small, which made the guests quite dissatisfied.Everyone conspired to retaliate. During the whole wedding night, no one raised a finger at the bride. When they saw her deliberately rubbing up, they pretended not to see her, or dodged away.The next day, the bride cried and made a fuss, saying that she never expected to be looked down upon so much, how will she behave in the future?The two brothers-in-law who accompanied her to put the pot were also furious. Regardless of whether the bride agreed or not, they pried out a new pot on the stove, carried it on their backs, and went out to go home.The bride hadn't planned to make a fuss to the point of retiring the engagement, but when she saw that the pot was gone, she had no choice but to cry and follow the pot back to her natal home.

A marriage was broken up.