Chapter 6 page six

The interview is going to be in-depth.Can you write a good article without going deep?Strange, there is nothing to regret. Still that room, still that sofa.She didn't care about the new suit she just bought, and sat down without thinking about the dirty bath towel. The hostess is not in the house.The host handed over a cup of tea, turned around and sat on the only black wooden chair opposite. "Director Pang informed me that you still want to come and talk. In fact, family issues are not complicated if they are not complicated, and they are complicated if they are not complicated. Complicated is not complicated, and not complicated may not be really not complicated."

"Wait, can I write down these two sentences of yours?" "Is it worth remembering? I just said it casually." "You are good at abstraction." "It's the first time I've heard of it." "From Director Pang's introduction, you are a painter. I didn't expect people in your profession to be so active in abstract thinking." "Any blueprint, taken out and analyzed, leaves only a single line, which cannot be more abstract." really interesting!A very interesting interviewee, a great start. Interviews are a chore.Don't look at the festive banquet, the reporters jumped up and down, full of limelight.They are rejected by the door, see cold faces, and are invisible to outsiders during the embarrassing season when they are rejected thousands of miles away.

An interview subject like Liu Shuhuai is really rare in a century.He has no restraint, no guard, no need to "trap", let alone "interrogation", and communicates with you completely voluntarily.This kind of communicative interview is the best state of interview, which can be encountered but not sought.The big reporters said that this kind of valuable exchange and interview is a kind of pleasure, a kind of enjoyment, and a great joy in life.Could it be that this blessing has come to him?Fang Fang was very happy. "How do we talk?" "How about you talk about your family? For example, what was your ideal family like before you got married?"

"An ideal family? I have never imagined it." "Or, imagined..." "I have no idea." "Hope, what does the hope family look like?" "I never hoped." It's too early to be happy!What happened to Liu Shuhuai?Falling in love, about to get married, and about the family that is about to be established—a very important turning point in life, there is no idea, no hope, can this be believed? "Impossible! Young people don't have their own dreams, who don't have their own fantasies. Dreams and fantasies, both include love and family. You were once young-of course you are not old now. I don't believe you have no ideas Just now, I was glad that I found an interviewee who was not restrained, and now I have to consider whether this is the case."

Liu Shuhuai just smiled faintly: "Before I got married, I really didn't think about it. I didn't get married to start a family. I got a family after I got married. Only after I had a family did I have a little idea. Or in your words, I didn't consider the ideal family should be What it's like. I'm telling the truth." "Well, regardless of the front and back, tell me about your ideal family!" She waited for him to name the "ideal family."She had thought that he would have some insightful insights; she had thought that future communications could use what Liu Shuhuai was about to say as the backbone of the structure.Unexpectedly, this interviewee, who is very active in abstract thinking, actually uttered the least chewy, least poetic, and most vulgar words:

"My ideal family would have two houses." Fang Fang was in a daze, do I still need to remember?This is not worth it! "Is the family problem just a house problem?" Where did your abstract thinking go, Fang Fang was a little annoyed, and closed her notebook. "There is a relationship between the two." "what relationship?" "If there are two rooms, one for the husband and wife, each has a place to hide from the other. Such a family would be ideal." "Why do you want to escape? If you want to escape between husband and wife, what is it called an ideal family?" It is not logical!There is something wrong with this person's way of thinking, Fang Fang thought, but it is hard to say it.

"I suppose—you're not married yet. You'll feel it when you have a family." For the first time in her life, Fang Fang felt that not being married was a major disadvantage.It prevents a reporter from covering equally those who are married.It's useless to tell you, can you understand?However, she is not someone who gives in easily and is scared away. New women in the 1980s dare not discuss any issues.She blushed and said: "Whether I'm married or not is a personal matter. I'm a reporter by profession, and I'm writing about family issues in this article. I can't wait to get married before writing, and I can't get married just to write."

One bite at a time, obviously excited. "I'm sorry, I didn't mean it. As long as you think it's useful, I can tell you." The tone was like an adult to a child, and Fang Fang was even more annoyed. As if to apologize, and to show respect for the unmarried reporter, Liu Shuhuai picked up the thermos to refill her teacup.She bowed her body and looked at the cup, unknowingly she had drunk more than half of that cup of tea.Strangely, the tea stains on the cup disappeared, and it was washed carefully. "Actually, the reason is very simple." Liu Shuhuai said calmly, "For example, my wife and I didn't know each other before. We got to know each other through someone's introduction, that is to say, we made friends, or we got married. How to pay? It’s nothing more than half a month or a week to meet each other. Or in the park, or at the cinema, or in a restaurant, or shopping on the street. Every time three or two hours, a little longer, five or six hours. Both parties pick up The other party likes to listen, and try to gain the other party's favor. At the same time, do everything possible to hide your shortcomings. This is not hypocrisy, it is instinct. Animals also have this instinct, and peacocks know how to spread their beautiful feathers in courtship!"

"That is to say, when you met each other, you were very satisfied with each other?" "It can be said that she is quite satisfied. At that time, she was not as fat as she is now. She spoke softly, giving the impression that she was well-bred. In fact, she has a bad temper, a small mind, and a loud voice." Fang Fang wanted to laugh, but didn't dare to: "You think she's hiding her flaws?" "I said it just now, but I can't say I'm hiding it. It's just that I haven't had much contact with it, so it's impossible to fully understand it. Don't just talk about others, I am the same. I am lazy, I like to take a nap, I like to sleep late, I like to lie down when I have nothing to do, and I often go to bed without washing my feet. .My wife didn’t know about this before I got married. It’s not that I concealed it on purpose, but it’s unnecessary to say it. I can’t negotiate with her by the lake in the park before I get married: I like to sleep late, and I don’t like to wash my feet. Can you Think it over: If you agree with me sleeping late and not washing my feet, we'll get married; if you don't agree, we'll blow it up! Do people in love in the world talk like this?"

Those who spoke and those who listened laughed. "These trivial things, why do we need to escape?" "I can't tell. Anyway, once we get married, we live under the same roof. We get along day and night, and we are inseparable. We can see all the shortcomings that we couldn't see before. Some of them can't be called shortcomings, but just a habit that we can't get used to. That’s all. At first I could tolerate it, but as the days went by, it became more and more unbearable. Some of them are not even habits, but some personality traits. For example, I like to chat, and I often talk endlessly, and I also like to think, sometimes I like to lie on the bed alone and think about something. At the beginning, my wife didn’t think there was anything wrong with these two items. I love “Kan”, she said I am cheerful; I love thinking, she said I am deep. As time goes by, she The point of view has changed. I just "talked" about it, and she said, "talking" all day long, how about doing some work with this time? I just lay on the bed and lit a cigarette, hoping to enjoy a little lonely reverie She is not happy: she lies down all day thinking about some shameful things, and I don’t care if she ignores me!”

She couldn't help being amused, but he didn't. "We recognize that both husband and wife have independent personalities, and no one is a vassal of the other, and no one needs to submit to the other. Everyone has the right to maintain and develop their own individuality. This requires space, living space! If each Every family has two rooms, and both husband and wife have their own living space. Then, if you don’t want to see each other’s face or hear each other’s voice, you can hide in your own room; you don’t want the other party to see you If you don’t want the other party to hear your voice, you can lock yourself in your room and don’t go out.” "I don't believe that things are so serious. Husband and wife should respect and tolerate each other, and should not hide from each other." Before Fang Fang finished speaking, her face was already red.Thinking of being grinned by him just now, at this moment, an unmarried woman actually told a married man about family stereotypes.Where to follow! Liu Shuhuai seemed not in the mood to laugh, smoking a cigarette, frowning and "talking" about himself: "Tolerance means repression. When you tolerate others, you feel your repression. When you realize that you are being tolerated, you feel that you are repressing others. In order not to repress yourself and not to repress others, it is best to stay in your own room. I I remember a writer who said that he didn't want to see his wife every night." "That's what the Russian writer Chekhov said. His original words are: I don't want my wife to appear in my night sky every night like the moon in the sky." "Yeah, that's Chekhov, we can't compare. His wife is like the moon in the sky. He doesn't want her to appear every night. He wants his own night sky. Where is my wife? You have seen her, she is a good person , but certainly not the moon." He smiled, wryly. She didn't smile or strike up a conversation.She suddenly felt that she had made a rash mistake.She saw clearly, or felt it: this harmonious family recommended by the director of the neighborhood committee was lurking in crisis. "I should go. I'm sorry for making you say such unpleasant things." "No, I should say sorry for letting you hear these unpleasant words." She stood still and looked at the hut as if saying goodbye.Suddenly, she felt that there was something different on the window sill from last time. Ah, it turned out that the spittoon that was placed out of place had been taken away, and the dust had been dusted off.Ah, the crooked mirror frame was also straightened, leaving only a whitish right-angled triangle imprint on the wall. Out of the gate, she stretched out her hand and thanked him sincerely: "Thank you for telling me so much." "I'm afraid it won't be of much use to your manuscript. Fortunately, you can visit more families. There are thousands of secrets in thousands of families, and it's a piece of "Arabian Nights" behind closed doors." He took her hand and shook it. She was taken aback.Is it the weight of this sentence, or the strength of this hand?She couldn't tell.