Chapter 26 Epilogue Lies Knock on the Door of Love

In my writing process, this novel has created two "most" since I wrote, the most words and the most time. In July 2009, I wrote 50,000 words, which was interrupted for a while due to other things; when I resumed writing in November, I suddenly had a new idea and repositioned the characters.I like the repositioned characters very much, which made me realize a problem. My favorite writing in this life is about the fate of the little people in the market!I can't write big characters because my life has always been far from them.By the end of March 2010, the novel was basically finished.

I am not a person who is good at giving titles to novels, but the themes and stories are usually considered for a long time before writing.The story of this novel, I thought about it about two years in advance before I started to write it.After the draft was finished, I discussed with Mr. Li Guojing, the planner of Yueduji, what title should be used for this novel. I wanted to call it "Cold Violence". It is more suitable for this novel than this title!Because all the contradictions in this novel are caused by a lie, and it is a story of a lie that shattered happiness.Lie is a completely derogatory term, with the color of hypocrisy and cunning.For example, Qin Zi in the novel used Gu Jiashu's lies by mistake for a love that cannot be seen, and interpreted the real version of the lingering and sad story of "a lie that has been repeated a thousand times but comes true".

In fact, except for a few malicious lies, most of the lies are just to make things go smoothly, and there are not many dark elements in themselves.It's just that when we see through the lies, we are always somewhat disappointed, because you will feel that the reason why others use lies to us is because we are not worthy of trust. denied it. In the novel, the reason Gu Jiashu lied was just to cast a false alarm. In order to avoid arousing Huo Xiaoli's suspicion of his former love rival, which would cause him to burn himself, he lied casually.But when Huo Xiaoli accidentally exposed the lie, Gu Jiashu couldn't argue with it.Gu Meitong hid the truth about her infertility from her husband, just to save the marriage; Gu Jiashu and Huo Xiaoli made a series of lies to their parents, all out of compassion for their parents...

Thus, the lies, dressed in warm and kind coats, appeared one by one. If these lies are not exposed in the wrong way, the ending will be happy.However, contrary to expectations, they all shattered one after another.Their brokenness teaches us that what can lie to us is not only our ears, our eyes, but also our heart! Love and marriage are never the same thing.Those loves that have overcome thorns and thorns are not necessarily perfect once they enter marriage.Life is too big and too heavy, love is the burning of passion between two people, but marriage is a wrestling with many roles involved.Every love in the form of marriage is a process of falling from heaven to earth.From the moment of the wedding, we have stepped into the mundane life. We have to fight for survival and give all our love for our children. Relatives will also participate in our married life in various ways...

The things that can have the most direct impact on marriage are nothing more than money and relatives.In the novel, Huo Xiaoli also encountered such a problem.The mother and mother-in-law suppressed each other to elevate themselves, and then turned tit-for-tat. Huo Xiaoli became a victim of this in-law war.In the eyes of her mother-in-law, she is the spokesperson for the interests of the wicked mother.In her natal family, she was a "white-eyed wolf" who betrayed her relatives and turned to the enemy.In the struggle of the enemy, she summed up the daughter-in-law philosophy of playing stupid and trying to compromise on non-principle issues.She hopes that Gu Jiashu can play the role of an impartial judge in the conflicts and disputes between herself and her mother-in-law and elder sister Gu Meitong.Although Gu Jiashu can manage a company with hundreds of people, he is helpless with a family with only a few people.

The family is the gathering place with the strongest emotional color, not a place of real reasoning. This is how the tradition of thousands of years has been continued, and it is impossible for a sudden qualitative change to occur. We are used to seeing the family as a whole without distinction, and it is only correct to unite closely and ignore the individual, but we forget that people are always self, and the relationship between individual family members is no different from the diplomatic relationship. It's just that we never admitted it. Huo Xiaoli fell from a fiery love paradise to a complicated marriage and family relationship. She was at a loss and didn't know what to do, so she had to use cold war to declare war on Gu Jiashu who was trying to pretend to be confused.But she chose the wrong weapon, and the cold war made them gradually close the spiritual doors to each other one after another in silence, leaving only the pain of alienation.While complaining that married life kills love, they forget that love is about "talking".And that's where most unsatisfactory marriages end up.Love depends on both parties opening their hearts and talking to achieve positive results, and the same is true for marriage. Only when they continue to open their hearts and bask in the sun during the conversation can they live a long and healthy life.Marriage is overwhelmed but fulfilling, and a woman's life is a life of defending love, a life of spring silkworms dying!After being disheartened, Huo Xiaoli decided to give up her marriage, but was accidentally diagnosed with a terminal illness.In order to prevent her grown-up son and mother's younger brother from hating Gu Jiashu's indifference, she uncharacteristically decided not to divorce no matter how threatened Gu Jiashu was, and finally became the kind of woman she despised who was despised by her husband but still stalked to death. A woman who fights endlessly... I am sad when I write this, as sad as I have betrayed myself.This is the woman who became a mother, this is the woman who once loved sincerely and became a wife, bite all the sufferings, and leave the only piece of candy for the one you love!Is this the fate of women?Going through the thorns and bruises all over her body, she sent the only bit of love and warmth to where she wanted to be delivered... The novel deals more with the woman's mental journey during the divorce process.In fact, most married women have thought about divorce more or less after marriage, and the frequency of thinking about it is no less than when they were in love. Of course, they think about it secretly, and most of the time they are alone. In the middle of the insomnia, I thought about it, just like when I was in love, I was lying on the bed alone and imagining how happy it would be to live with him, thinking and thinking, imagining how to leave him, and the life where one person can feed the whole family and not be hungry is definitely better than the current chicken The days of flying dogs are much more comfortable... When I wanted to get married before marriage, I just smiled sweetly and knowingly alone when I was thinking about it; but at the moment of divorce, I just fell asleep thinking about being alone and annoyed .If you want to get married before marriage, if you are lucky, you will get married after thinking about it; but if you want to divorce after marriage, you may not be able to leave after thinking about it ten thousand times.All marriages that are struggling to fall apart will encounter similar problems. One of the most important questions is: Why divorce?Not only do you have to answer this question from the other party, but when the news of the divorce spreads, you have to explain it to everyone who has cared about the marriage, and you have to face self-torture.Divorce is difficult.Every divorced woman is no less than once dead, which is a double death of spirit and emotion; and the entanglement in the divorce process is no different from a long spiritual delay for women.