Chapter 16 Chapter 15 A Child Can Always Start Again

Chapter 15 A Child Can Always Start Again 1 What was the word you were most afraid of when you were a child?When I started writing this article, I wanted to double-check myself.I have the habit of copying the interesting and important words from the books I have read and remembering them on paper.So, at this moment, a few alternative words naturally appeared in my mind. But as I went back and thought about the various scenes of my boyhood, I realized that the most frightening words to me were not read with the eyes, but heard with the ears.That was said by my mother, and I remember exactly where she said it.

——It’s too late to regret. That's it. It was the day my father died suddenly.Relatives, neighbors, unexpected people whose names had been seen in the newspapers, many, many people came to express their condolences.At that time, my mother was just sobbing quietly and pitifully, as most people think that a Japanese country woman should do.It was somewhat unnatural for me to feel it like an adult even though I was a kid at the time. It was late at night, and I went to the room where my father's body was placed to take a look, and saw my mother sitting there alone, saying in a stern voice that was almost angry:

——There is no need to regret it! She said it many times. I just stood motionless in the porch, and gradually felt terrible, so I went back to my sleeping place. When I grew up, whenever I saw words such as "too late to regret", I would think of that late night, and think of the sentence my mother said that somehow made people feel a little incomprehensible. I have been looking through the library for the past two or three days. I have memorized the title of the book and the approximate page number, but I just can’t find it.So, forgive me for not being able to quote the original text exactly.I remember Juno Kinoshita once wrote this meaning: "It's too late to regret" contains the meaning of "too late".He is a well-known writer who created the excellent work "Evening Crane".

When I was young, my heart jumped again when I read this text.I realized that on that night long ago, in the forested valley, in the dark, cold corridor, what I experienced was not just a young mother lamenting the death of her father, in "regret" It's too late." This sentence also contains the hope that it will be too late, but the anger cannot be achieved. 2 Regarding child suicide, don't know if it's really useful for me to write about it now, but anyway, I'm going to write what I think first. I don’t have professional knowledge about children’s mental illness, nor have I done investigations and research on the family, school, and social distortions that oppress Zhanggong to commit suicide, and I have never shared thoughts with those suffering children on the front line of education , Give them specific encouragement, I have no such life experience.

I have great respect for the doctors, sociologists, teachers, experts, and those with concrete experience who do this work.If I am given a job like this, I will try my best to convey the way of thinking of those who do this work, whether domestic or foreign, to children and their young fathers and mothers.Here I want to make a retrospect, reviewing how novelists and poets expressed this issue in the long history of literature, and I hope that in the process I can also sort out my own thoughts. In Italy, there was a poet named Tandin who was born around 1300—I think he was really a representative of human beings seven hundred years ago.There are several translations of his work "Divine Comedy" in Japan.

The first part of the "Divine Comedy" trilogy describes the hell to which people who commit suicide go.The souls of those people--"soul" is used in the poem, perhaps "dead"--the pale and terrible ghosts are the same in appearance as when they were alive, but here they become thorns. Trees, forests, if you accidentally break a small branch, you will be angry and cry out in pain. And in this grove, the soul of the suicide is called "the tormentor of himself."And a friend I've known since I was fifteen, who was also a very kind uncle to my children, was a film director who had done a great job, but he committed suicide not long ago.When I heard the news, the first thing I felt was not sadness, but the complete destruction of myself by such a personable, intelligent, and emotional man.

So in my ears, in my heart, it seemed that my mother's voice from fifty years ago echoed—it was too late to regret it! 3 For the suicide of adults, this is especially the case when you know a lot about that person. When you think that it is impossible for that person to survive, you will feel that there is really no way, even though you have a deep Sadness and heavy regret... And if he was still alive, if he told me he was going to kill himself and hoped I would understand, then I thought I would do everything in my power to stop him... The suicide of an adult is very different from the suicide of a child, and the living will never understand the suicide of a child.The reason for this is that for children,

——There is absolutely no time to start over. I firmly believe in this.The "firm belief" I mentioned is definitely not pretending, and it is definitely not just a gesture of belief in you. I believe this naturally, and it comes from my wisdom——I have lived for so many years, and I can learn during this period. I have been studying hard, I have been learning on the job, and I have consulted friends who are rich and experienced, and these have finally formed my wisdom. If I face a child who is living in unimaginable pain—there are many such children in the world, such as those poor children infected with AIDS in Africa—if I want to take him away, then The child said: It is too late to start again.At that time, maybe I will look very flustered, but even in a small and hoarse voice, I will say: "How can it be!"

4 I think of myself, of all kinds of things I went through when I was a child.I always want to try my best to do things that I couldn't start again when I was a child, and I think from the bottom of my heart: it is right to survive. For children, there is no such thing as starting over.Children can always find a way to start over, which is the "iron rule" of human society.This iron principle must be respected by the children themselves.It is something that children can be proud of. I have written "The Pride of Children" several times so far.Whenever I publish a text like this, I will receive negative opinions such as "Is it okay to say such innocent words?"In rebutting these objections, I can rely only on my own childhood recollections and experiences of raising a disabled child and two normal children.Indeed, there is very little on which to base my opinion.Even acknowledging this, I still want to insist that children have their own pride.I have seen many young people who lost the pride they should have had and were content with the status quo, but I have never seen a child who has undergone such a sudden transformation.

Is there really no way for a child to start over?It actually exists in real life.As a human being, I think it's the most painful thing I've ever seen.So, what is it that the child does that there is no way to start over? It is murder and suicide.It is the act of violence that kills him, the act of violence against oneself. Fundamentally, the two behaviors are one.If you think about violence and human life together, you can also understand that murder and suicide are actually the same thing.I firmly believe that it is also a principle of life not to inflict such violence on children and not to use such violence themselves.

Some people may be thinking, isn't there war in this world now?Even those countries without wars, don’t they also manufacture and possess large quantities of weapons, and even sell them abroad? Indeed, nuclear weapons, including atomic bombs and hydrogen bombs, are the most violent machines ever created by mankind.The anti-nuclear campaign to reduce and phase out nuclear weapons is underway around the world, but the campaign is far from successful. It is often said that the United Nations is the surest hope for a war-free world in the 21st century.I think so.However, the most influential countries in the United Nations are China, France, Russia, Britain, and the United States, which serve as permanent members of the Security Council in the UN General Assembly. How does our own country compare with them?Our country does not have an army in the constitution, but isn't the self-defense force we see in newspapers and TV equipped with very advanced equipment?Compared with domestic people, it is better to say that you hear more about this issue abroad, and the people who talk the most are those who are close to Japan and from countries that Japan once invaded. Those of us who are adults on the Japanese team are generally very concerned about the Constitution and the existence of the Self-Defense Forces.Some people expect that the country will gradually become a country without an army in accordance with the constitution, so the size of the self-defense force should be reduced from now on.On the contrary, some people think that this country actually already has a large-scale combat-capable army, so the constitution should be amended.This is something that needs to be seriously discussed and concluded by us grown-ups living in this country while considering your not-too-distant future. You must also think.I hope that you can think from fundamental principles in this situation, and I hope that you can first think about this as your own and the people around you.First confirm the principle that children should not use violence to kill others or kill themselves, and then consider the above issues based on this principle.For some things, whether children can stick to their own principles with their own self-esteem as human beings, and further think about it will determine whether the world of tomorrow will be bright.