Chapter 7 men, women and men and women

Do women like beautiful men? Nonsense, of course they do, just not the most important thing. But even as a secondary liking, handsome men still grab the attention of many women, some ancient and direct animal gaze that will help determine who gets to participate in one of life's secrets -- heredity. However, now it is a commodity society, attracting this kind of attention has become a means of profit, and all kinds of well-taken photos are placed On the desks or walls of young women of the right age, provide them with an unfulfilled fantasy. At the concert, with the cooperation of lighting and dance, pop superstars show unprecedented sexy and flexible movements, like some kind of primitive music in the African continent. Rituals to show one's good coordination, thin and thin clothing to contrast one's well-proportioned bones and smooth skin, provocative movements to cause physical disturbances in the opposite sex - but all this is just a pen Sexual fantasy buying and selling.

It's weird when you think about it, spreading sexual temptation, telling others that you are a good lover, but only profiting from it, spreading all kinds of information about yourself to a large group of people, making others care about you, but I don’t know anything about the people I care about. Do you like F4? If you like it, just buy the computer in their hands--you like their bodies, but they make you buy the items in their hands, as if to replace them itself the same.What makes you even more angry is that if you are asked a few more questions, do they like you? Do they care about you? What will they do for you? Otherwise, you will collapse, because the answer to this kind of question will make you a fool.

In fact, this technique is usually used by women for good. Just look at all the cover girls who smile at you and you will know that they are not really smiling at you, but smiling at everyone. When facing specific individuals , they don’t necessarily laugh, and they don’t necessarily pose in the painting, because men need this kind of feeling, that is, there is a perfect opposite sex paying attention to him, of course, not really paying attention--and now Women also have the same requirements as men, and women also need the services of men's hue, which makes them have false sensory pleasure.

In 2002, the coquettish salesmanship represented by F4 exploded a male sex market. In my opinion, this market means the upgrading of commercial competition. It has completely broken through a morally ambiguous zone. Survive with wisdom, create wealth, promote social development, and conquer women. Now, through hard work, women have also obtained some of the abilities of men. They have received a good education and encroached on many men's work sites in society. Gained their own independence, but men stretched their hands towards women's most fundamental rice bowl - sex, which was a direction they were too embarrassed to stretch out before. They tried to remind women to pay attention: Look, how can I satisfy you-- Instead of the previous formulation: Can you satisfy me in that respect?

In modern times, male sex has been suppressed for decades, and finally it has made a comeback. In fashion magazines, the faces of beautiful men, with their flesh exposed, make expressions and gestures to please readers, as if to say, look , do you like this kind of body? Do you like this look? Can you see some kind of temperament in a man from it? And from women's mouths, more and more people are hearing comments on men's bodies - I like this one, I like that one, etc. In the past, women generally didn't care much about men physical, as long as the man can raise the Just provide a guarantee, what does this mean? In my opinion, it means that there are more women who are financially independent, and women find that they have the right and opportunity to find a body that suits them, unlike the previous little tunes-I just Don't care what men look like--the latter statement is really very beneficial to women who want to live on men, because they have a wider range of searches.

With the existence of such a group of women who do not depend on men for food, attractive men also have a new opportunity to rely on women to live. In my eyes, this is an inevitable product of an economically dominated society. This kind of society is more inclined to exchange, and it even encourages exchange to speed up the operation of society. In this social atmosphere, a new morality is quietly emerging, that is, under the lubrication of money, everything is exchangeable , some previous psychological taboos were broken and replaced by a more humane approach, that is, using as many ways and methods as possible to satisfy people's desires.

I think it's hard to judge morally whether it's good or bad, reasonable or irrational, but it's true that people want it, and that a man's good looks is a capital that can be exploited, just like a girl's good looks. Looks the same, one day, those girls will be surprised, where are those handsome guys? It turns out that the women who have been successful have preempted them first-this is how similar to the surprise of men now-the appearance of masculinity, I find it kind of interesting that forward-thinking women can be encouraged to succeed, and they can use their strengths to get what they want.

Among the women I have come into contact with, I think most of them are happy. The source of their happiness comes from entertainment or emotion. As long as some play, someone treats them to dinner, and someone says they are good or beautiful, they are happy. On the contrary, just feel hurt. In my impression, the weakest and least happy women are the kind of traditional dead-headed people. No matter how society changes and how they provide opportunities for them, they still have a deep-rooted view that women must rely on men for success and happiness. Of course, this relies on an exchange in essence, women give men sex, and men give women strength or security, that is, everything that can be directly transformed into happiness. This situation began in ancient times, but it is reserved by many women. So far, it has nothing to do with whether they are good-looking or not, capable or incapable, it is their perception.

Another kind of more sincere woman has learned to give, but kindness does not necessarily have rewards. They sometimes feel sad for not getting rewards, but once they get rewards, they will be very happy. In fact, most of the happiness that women want is some physical or sensual pleasure, a variety of materials, food, clothes that make them unique, warm and reliable housing, the more expensive these materials, the better, of course, in addition to all these , is a man's concern, with all these, a woman will feel that she is valuable, and she will get happiness from the heart. Women's happiness seems very simple, but it is very practical and sincere. They will get happiness from every little thing that may make them happy. This makes men very jealous. In the eyes of men, these small things are often mere formalities. It’s even trivial, and men provide these pleasures with little effort, but once a man is not afraid of trouble, he will make women happy. If a man is sincerely willing to take trouble, then this man will become a woman’s beloved man. It will be a source of happiness for women.

There are now more women who are able to find happiness by themselves. They act like men and can obtain man-like happiness. They are independent, self-respecting and active. They can expel troubles by completing social tasks and improve their awareness through learning. Their pleasure seems to me to be a newly established taste which, with the development of feminism, will bear better fruit. In modern times, the victory of the secular society is marked by the popularity of individualism. The public slogans are equality, freedom, and democracy. Behind the scenes, people are only concerned about their own safety. Those spiritual attempts to transcend life are extinguished. Personal desires that are quickly cashed in by money have become everything, and the pursuit of personal desire satisfaction actually means only one thing, that is, is the self safe in the crowd? This is the requirement of every creature, it At its core is self-preservation.

Starting from this core, I think I can roughly describe the gendered face of modern urban society, which is very interesting. It is a bit boring, but for Chinese society, it is a look that has never been seen before, and the basis of this look is that women have achieved economic independence in society and "have a house of their own". Meaning, women can live on their own, so they now trust themselves more than men, making men take second place in life. In the past, sexual relations and the family and children surrounding them were the strongest bond for the alliance between the sexes. Women offered sex to men and satisfied men in exchange for everything related to life. The two sexes completed mutual Now, this situation has quietly changed. Sexual relations are placed in the commodity society and become one of all exchangeable things. This makes the existence of the old style of "exchanging sex for life" Women who think about it lose their sense of security, while women who think "all on their own" complain of moral decline, because between the two ideas, there is a middle ground, that is, sex is treated as a commodity with an unknown price, which is given to some The business woman leaves an opportunity for betrayal, which, when fully exploited, has enviable effect.In fact, as long as this opportunity exists, it is difficult to achieve a long-term and stable mutual trust between the sexes. Without this kind of trust, women lose their so-called "sense of security" forever. On the male side, this situation has both advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, men no longer have to pay as much responsibility for sex as before. On the other hand, if men want to maintain their previous status, they must struggle to find sex substitutes. In order to establish a longer-term relationship between the sexes in which men are in a dominant position, of course, society provides this substitute, that is, money.Therefore, social value is divided into two types, valuable and worthless, or, convertible into money and non-convertible into money. Society operates around money. From a personal point of view, this makes people's lives simpler. , reality, and at the same time, it is also narrower. People work to obtain dazzling means of living, and people's imagination only revolves around individual bits and pieces, thus ignoring a more ambitious collective goal. I have to admit For the collective, the individual is always short-lived and insignificant, and when the social goal revolves around satisfying the individual, a purely secular society emerges. The initial and final requirements of this society are to make the individual Life is more reasonable, more comfortable and safer.It is marked by the satisfaction of desires and instincts, the indifference of emotional life, the rise of intellectual life, and the absence of spiritual life.It has to be said that in such a society, men must learn to look up to women in order to win women's trust. From an ethical point of view, selfishness is emphasized as a kind of good. Of course, it is now wearing the coat of the principle of pursuing personal happiness. , known as "self-protection", this is the starting point of the modern relationship between the sexes, and in the long run, it is likely to become the end point of the relationship between the sexes. On the female side, self-protection means that women have stepped out from under the wings of men and tried to create their own lives. This is a very difficult road. Women's independence means that they are preparing to face everything that belongs to life alone Difficulties, although they have an insurmountable burden, that is, childbirth. Facing childbirth, no matter how confident women are, they will feel a certain insecurity about the future. This is the final test for women, and it is also a responsibility that women cannot shirk. In fact, after modern women lose their sense of security, what they do is all a kind of strong attempt, a kind of adventure in life. It is hard to say that they will succeed, but once they succeed, they will completely change the relationship between the sexes. Passive situations in relationships.  ---Finish---