Chapter 5 society 3

The editor asked me to write an article, and wanted to talk about the hypocrisy of people in the 1970s. It's not social ethos. As for what hypocrisy is, it's hard to say clearly. Sometimes I think it's nothing more than a very subjective personal feeling. When you think others are hypocritical, you are often at the other side of hypocrisy one end. There are some private experiences hidden in the hypocrisy. According to ordinary people's understanding, there is nothing wrong with a person liking Luo Dayou, but If you like it so much that you have to fly to Shanghai to listen to Luo Dayou's personal concert, even if you like it a little too much, then you are hypocritical. What is more despised than hypocrisy is fanaticism. People cannot argue with fanatics, because They know that fanaticism is unreasonable, but they are stupid enough to think that hypocrisy can be talked about, which makes me a little incomprehensible. In fact, it is meaningless to argue with others about other people's hobbies. If a person likes red, The other guy loves blue, what's there to say about that?

In 2002, various newspapers and magazines spent a year talking about petty bourgeoisie, and things like spring trees, coffee, and red wine entered the topic one after another. The writer Joyce was also included in the scope of petty bourgeoisie. Suddenly, in my eyes, the word petty bourgeoisie became synonymous with everything in people’s lives. Even Joyce was petty bourgeois. What else could not be petty bourgeoisie? In my opinion It seems that this is a kind of stupid hypocrisy, because it is a kind of stupidity first, and then you can talk about other things. In fact, very few people have read Joyce. It can be seen from the printing volume that even people who have received serious literary training can hardly understand it. How can such a book become an obvious sign of a huge crowd?

I think that people in the 1970s are a group of people who are the first to move towards health. This group of people first means that they have experienced the social period from material scarcity to material abundance. Before that, people suffered from poverty and extreme depression in spiritual life. Later people lacked a basic understanding of tradition and were overly self-righteous, and the society transformed from nothing to a material society at a rapid pace. The transformed society judged success or failure based on the amount of social wealth owned by individuals, and spiritual life was replaced by entertainment. People in the 1970s were more or less attracted by a little spiritual life. At least Freud, Sartre, Heidegger, and Foucault had become fashionable topics for people in the 1970s. You know, if you want to talk about those topics, you have to A little relevant knowledge and curiosity about ideas are required. Looking back, only comics, celebrities, travel, cars and fashionable home furnishing became fashionable topics. In the eyes of people in the 1970s, success was still a lot of content in people’s lives One of them, there is still some moral consideration for success, but in the 1980s, moral scruples completely disappeared, and success became everyone's dream, and the content of that dream was only a monotonous word of money.

In my opinion, the sharp increase in social wealth and the benefits brought about by the increase in wealth have led society to have an illusion about wealth, thinking that wealth can at least solve most of people's problems. This is a hypocritical illusion of materialism. In the long run , what wealth can represent is just a way of life for a few people, other than that, it doesn't have much meaning, especially, success in wealth is always only a matter for a few people, and if others For the goal, the only thing you get is the pain of failure. The social anxiety and depression formed by this pain are very worrying.

People in the 1970s are now in their thirties and in the prime of life. The reason why they have become the target of attention is that they are the main force of urban consumption. In the eyes of people who do not have the same consumption power as them, this style is arty and excessive, so it is easy to be called hypocrisy, but for those who exceed their consumption power, they are self-satisfied losers, and therefore can easily be called hypocritical. In both eyes, people in the 1970s were a bit too much. Unfortunately, both views are only the eyes of the outsider. From the perspective of the people in the 1900s, they just naturally adapted to the society and their own internal needs, and acted within their own capabilities. I think the problem is not among this group of people, but among outsiders, outsiders The incomprehension of the details of people's life in the 1970s, or, simply, a kind of unreasonable pickiness and misunderstanding.

Personally, I think it's clearer to talk about hypocrisy from a psychological point of view, because it's very similar to some kind of mild obsessive-compulsive disorder. So, after all, hypocrisy is a kind of innocuous private personality.I am limited by my level, so I can only say this. In my eyes, picking up girls is one of the problems encountered during puberty. This is a process in which men entering puberty, driven by sexual desire, use various methods to win the trust of women of the right age.The short-term goal of picking up girls is to find a way to release sexual desire and place emotions; and its long-term goal is to build a family, give birth and train the next generation of human beings, and make them live well; its social significance lies in the relationship between opposite sexes. Through mutual contact and understanding, building trust and reaching a contract, so as to help each other; more importantly, it can enable people to form an effective communication, so that people can further understand what is self and what is others, Thus making us consider who we were and what we should be

, who we are becoming.From this point of view, if you associate picking up girls with some important meaning in life, it is not a fuss at all, just as human beings know human nature through how to obtain food and how to distribute food. By short-term goals, I mean sexual satisfaction, there isn't really much to say, but what's the trick? The trick is obvious, that is, more power, more money, and more sex appeal. Generally speaking, with the first two items, you don't have to worry about the last item. , no matter the path, pretend you're going to have it as soon as possible and you have sex appeal, it's that simple.

The meaning of picking up girls is to get a girl. In order to get a girl, you have to meet the girl's requirements. Or if you can't satisfy them, then you have to lie to them and promise them that you will satisfy them soon, and if they see through, you have failed.No matter from success or failure, I think people can learn something useful to themselves by using their brains. What is important here? I think that from the same thing, different people can learn different things , From a moral point of view, good people learn better things, and bad people learn worse things.In my eyes, picking up girls is like anything in the world. It can sharpen a person's character and quality, make it closer to the self, and make the self move closer to its original appearance.

In adolescence, people are easily controlled by the surrounding culture and their own habits, that is, ancient inheritance, and seriously lack their own judgment. In my experience, it is very difficult to recognize these two things. Looking back on the past, I have to admit how much prejudice hinders people's judgment. At that time, the beauty of the opposite sex I thought, whether it was good looks, skin, figure, posture, and speech and behavior, all came from my own culture and habits.I used to think that I had a unique vision, but it turns out that my vision is the same as that of almost everyone; I thought I discovered the unique beauty of a girl, but everyone has already discovered it; I thought I was chasing love, but in fact In fact, it is only sexual desire working through imagination; I thought I was giving, but in fact I was just trying to satisfy my selfish desires without any disguise. Only then did I realize how far I was from freedom.Now, I think the failed relationship is more meaningful. It makes me walk off the single-plank bridge designated by society for individuals, and look into a wider human space, where there are more opposite sexes, more freedom, and more life. the road.

Some editors wrote to me asking me what I ate, what I played, how I spent my money ten years ago, and whether I felt happy after eating a bowl of tofu nao for two yuan. bowl, and for those who love to eat, generally speaking, it is always pleasant to be able to eat tofu nao, but it is difficult to have anything to do with happiness. I have always believed that happiness is a topic of ethical discussion, and in ordinary In life, it is generally enough to use words such as happiness or pleasure. However, the editor's words reminded me of the standard of living ten years ago. Following such a clue, I can even think of a hundred

The living standard of the Chinese people a year or a thousand years ago, in our limited lifetime, we have witnessed many great changes. These changes have occurred in the material field. Food has been enriched, housing area has improved, and our happiness has increased? It's hard to say. In fact, I think that happiness first involves memory. I happen to have the bad habit of keeping a diary. Looking through the diary, I can see that happiness is a very accidental thing. I can’t draw any conclusions. Generally speaking, most of the time in my life, I am in a state of ignorance, a little numb, a little mechanical, and even dumbfounded. I rely on habits to complete everything, such as eating, clothing, sex, reading, writing, etc. The rest of the time is generally surrounded by this and that pressure, which is anxious, unsatisfactory, and of course, frustration is the most frequent, as long as it is something I want to do, or I think it makes sense Things, it must not work out, always.And those happiness, or to put it directly, those occasional gratifications, are simply hit by surprise, a love with an unexpected ending that is passable, like a wallet picked up on the road, or a love that should be paid but not paid. The account, the lost mobile phone was picked up, the big cards were played in the last few games of mahjong, and the lost money was recovered, what else? I can’t think of it, happiness is always short-lived, perishable, hard The joy of being caught, of being firmly held can often turn into dull, even the very opposite of joy, just think of the divorced people and you'll easily agree with me. Ten years ago, my consumption level was about 10,000 yuan per year. With this money, I could watch movies, go to the park, play games, buy new clothes, books, and eat at small restaurants. Compared with now , but can’t afford housing and cars, and can only take crowded trains when traveling far away, and can’t afford airplanes. It was more difficult to go abroad at that time, but when comparing consumption, I will feel more balanced in my heart, because in terms of personal possession of materials, There is no such a big difference in front of me, but all these are just the appearance of life. As long as you zoom in, you can see the differences between people and society. Ten years ago, when I read American novels of the same period, I could not Consciously comparing with Americans makes me feel that there is a huge difference with that world. Now, I still read American novels of the same period, do I feel that the difference with them has narrowed? No, not at all! On the contrary, it is because of the cultural level Because of the improvement, I feel that I am more different from them. I will no longer ask that childish question. I will no longer ask, why do I always feel that everything will be better when I am an American? I have grown up and gained A kind of wisdom, this kind of wisdom is: don't talk about conditions, don't ask reasons, accept what comes, is ruthless, selfish and numb, and muddle through, because this can avoid the insult of fantasy, because it can accept the world more, because it can make us calm. That's it.