Chapter 45 marriage trap

2000/05/06 Author: Wang Xin Because I read a lot of romance novels, I used to have very romantic ideas about marriage. I hope that my heroine and I can experience a thrilling relationship, and then put on wedding clothes and rings, and say in my heart: This is me. The partner of this life. In fact, this is a very common idea, and it is not necessarily related to reading too many romance novels, nor is it necessarily romantic.But after I got married, I realized that my original idea of ​​marriage was unrealistic.What is impractical is romantic. The motivation for my marriage came from the fact that the heroine’s work unit had to allocate a house. The heroine told me that after getting married, I could have my own house. This house made us fascinated: we were thinking about how to decorate it.Of course, we have to complete the necessary conditions to get the house first; get married.

Things are unpredictable. After we got married, the house of the heroine was not divided, so she resigned in a fit of anger and changed jobs.Marriage and housing are irrelevant things, but I feel like I am going to a dinner party, and the cold dishes are finished, but the hot dishes are not served for you.We got married, but we don't give you a house anymore. I sometimes think that when we got married, we should stand in front of the head of the house management office like a priest. He asked us: "Would you like this person as a wife? Would you like to marry this person?" We said: "Yes." After answering this way, the head of the housing management office handed us the keys to the new house, drums and music were played in unison, and the wedding ceremony continued grandly and enthusiastically.

The housing business made our married life so flawed that, I thought selfishly afterwards, it was like a trap.The crux of the problem is that I don't want to get married yet, but I lose my freedom because of castles in the air. It is a relief that a friend of mine fell into the marriage trap for freedom, and his girlfriend said, let's get married.Her reason was that he was going through the formalities to go abroad, and it was difficult for a single woman to get a visa, and it would be convenient for her to go to the United States when she became a couple; men are still free, they can stay in China and enjoy the freedom of being single, or they can go to the United States Rinse the dishes, advance, attack, retreat, or defend.Dazed by the prospect, my friend happily married.As you expected, the woman's visa was still unsuccessful and she gave up her idea of ​​going to the United States, telling him that it's not bad to live this way.

According to this friend's idea, the "clergy" in their wedding should be the visa officer of the embassy. After asking them if they would like to marry each other, the visa will be released. Without US visas and housing, my friend and I would probably still be celibate and getting ready for marriage, not sure when.To apply a slogan that I often shouted when I was a child, it is called "always ready".However, now we can all accept the reality, think about the "clergyman" in our imaginary wedding, the head of the housing management office or the visa officer of the embassy, ​​we know, the idea of ​​marriage is too romantic, ordinary people should not be blind Romantic.