Chapter 32 watermelon

I called my mother and asked her to take my grandson to Taipei during the summer vacation. Mother said that the environment in Taipei made her dizzy, and the weather was so hot that she felt uncomfortable when going far.Then he said to me casually: "Besides, I just asked my waist a few days ago, and your elder brother just brought me back from acupuncture!" "Flash to the waist? Are you going to lift heavy things again?" I asked anxiously. Probably hearing the anxiety in my words, my mother said: "It doesn't matter, maybe the sick mother who flashed to the waist last time is still there!" "What sick mother?" This is the first time I heard the term, and I asked, While thinking of a year ago, when my mother tried to open the iron door, because the iron door was stuck, she tried too hard, and her waist hurt, and it took several months to recover.

My mother is a typical traditional rural woman. Since she was a girl, she has developed the habit of being thrifty and doing everything by herself. Until now, as long as she can do things, she never pretends to others.Even now, she still washes clothes with her own hands every day, and we can't persuade her. She is only willing to rest when she is down to her waist. "After flashing to the waist, the sick mother often remembers a place that has flashed by, and it will be remembered, and then it is easy to go to the same place, that is the sick mother." My mother also told me that although the sick mother It is intangible, but "seeing a shadow and giving birth to a child" will create a tangible disease, and it will take a long time to eradicate it. When the sick mother is eradicated, it is the time to "break the hand bone and reverse the courage" .

My mother is a very optimistic person. She said: "This time, I will also catch the sick mother and treat her." The term "sick mother" in Taiwanese reminds me of another Taiwanese phrase called "Watermelon hugs the big side". Most people think that this phrase means that a person is following the trend and taking refuge in the powerful side. In fact, this phrase originally It means that for fruits like watermelon, the more healthy people eat, the more nourishing they will be, and the more weak people eat, the weaker they will become. Therefore, in the countryside, if we meet a person who is physically weak and likes to eat watermelon, we will persuade him to "nuggle watermelon close to the side" and "sip watermelon half-heartedly, and he will suffer from symptoms"; Liang, we also advised him: "Watermelon is next to you, as brave as you, what's the point of eating watermelon?"

The problem is not in the watermelon, but in the body. Those who dare not eat watermelon because they hear that it is cold are putting the cart before the horse. In our Taiwanese native language, we have long known that the heart is very powerful, so when we encounter a group situation, we are often taught to come back and watch our own heart instead of resenting the unfavorable environment. Boats, the stream is too narrow” (People who don’t know how to drive a boat usually don’t reflect on their own boating skills, but complain that the stream is too narrow). "The family has been loaded with manure, but they don't know the smell" (the man who picks manure does not smell the smell for a long time). "Is it right? Ask yourself" (If something is right or wrong, you have to ask yourself first, and then ask others).In addition, we should always let go of our pessimism and overcome the blind spots of the mind, saying that the phenomenon of the environment corresponds to the phenomenon of the heart, for example: "The more you worry, the easier it is to encounter. )

"Mo Xiao shaves his head, but he meets people with beards." (Masters who are not very good at shaving often meet bearded customers.) "The shit is tight, and the pants are tied tightly." (When you are in a hurry to defecate, the pants are often tied. Dead knot.) Although these words are vulgar, they are full of vitality, and they are connected with the meaning of "a pure heart is a pure country" and "calming the heart is pacifying disasters" as taught by Zen Buddhism. In psychology, there’s a factor called "the optimistic (or pessimistic) coefficient". The power of this coefficient accounts for twenty percent of the actual phenomena.That is to say, if a person has an optimistic heart, he will encounter happy things 20% more than usual; on the contrary, if a person is in a "depressed mood", there will be 20% more chances of encountering happy things than usual. chances of suffering.Isn't this the "sick mother"?Isn't it just "watermelon cuddling with big sides"?If we want to live happily, we must first have a joyful heart. Didn’t the old grandmother teach us to “sit upright and be loved by others”?

Be joyful, don’t be too attached, and let go of your own habits. The old prophets often teach us that "if there is no fish, shrimp is good", "Take care of both, touch the clams and wash the pants; touch the clams if you have them, Wash your pants if you don’t have any.” “There are no fish in this stream, so don’t fish in the stream.” If a person is always unable to let go, "one foot is inside and one foot is outside" (one foot is inside the threshold and the other is outside the threshold); put it, pinch it too tightly for fear that it will die, and let it go for fear of flying away), that day will be very sad, and "the porcelain burner will be short of food, and the mat weaving chair will be sleepy" (the porcelain burner uses a broken bowl, The one who weaves straw mats sleeps on a chair) "The tailor wears rags, but the woodworker has no bed."

People who can't let go are often "good people, begging for their lives".He is obviously very rich, but he lives like a beggar, reminding us of the poor man in the Buddhist scriptures who didn't know there were pearls in his clothes. You must have a heart of joy, and second, you must always have a heart of gratitude, and often distribute blessings to others. "Eat with each other, there is spring, and eat with each other, there is no portion." (Share each other, there will be surplus, and compete with each other, and there will be not enough food.) "Leave a thread of favor, and look good in the future."

"Everyone makes money, but Kamei is poor." (Everyone makes money, so they won't be poor. Don't think that all the money is earned by yourself.) "If you eat a catty of people, you have to pay back four taels." "If you eat fruit, worship the head of the tree; if you eat rice, worship the hoe." In the process of life, it is normal to encounter unsatisfactory things, but we should not let that unsatisfactory become the "sick mother" in our life, but should become the "yeast" in our life, increasing our wisdom and nourishing us compassion.

Don't be afraid to eat watermelon, because people with a happy heart can supplement everything they eat. "Work with joy, work with troubles and troubles", why don't we come here happily this day?In the life of pain and love, many people are looking for the secret recipe of happiness, but few people know that the heart is not far away, and the heart of joy is the real fountain of happiness in life.