Chapter 4 If you love each other, you should compromise with each other's taste

If you love each other, you should compromise with each other's taste.People who live in love find that part of their enjoyment is self-torture, self-humiliation, sacrifice, and dedication. However, most people who live in the real world are very afraid of pain. Once they want to donate a cornea or a kidney for the other party, the sacrifice and dedication in love immediately become very physical and unbearable in life. . Then, if you want to enjoy the sacrifice and dedication of self-torture and self-humiliation, but you are afraid of pain, you'd better put the main force on the compromise of taste - put up with the other party's watching a series while eating cold French fries, endure the other party's little Floral underwear, big polka-dot pajamas, bear with each other hanging small golden bells on cactus bonsai...

Enjoy what you endure. If you love each other, you should not compromise with each other's taste.We love each other, and our love does not make the other person a "right" or "normal" person.In other words, the other party does not become a more worthy person just because he has received our love. If we are willing to compromise with each other even on such trivial things as taste in life, then what else can we not compromise on?Should we compromise with the other party's religion? !Do you want to compromise with the opponent's political party? ! If we have to love so much that we give up our religious, political, and moral beliefs, then...at least let us keep our little taste.

If you love each other, you should compromise with each other's taste.The characteristic of human love lies in the ability to enjoy each other's extreme differences, rather than enjoying each other's extreme similarities. Only insects, fish, birds, and beasts are so stupid that they can only love their own kind, those of the same color and smell.How boring? ! In order to love each other's differences, compromise and compromise, what is it?In this way, to be able to compromise, one must first have a lover with different tastes. This must be lucky enough to enjoy this "privilege of compromise".

If you love each other, you should not compromise with each other's taste.Falling in love is not about making a compromise and getting through.As long as you compromise, the other party will ask you to do more and more thoroughly, and ask you to participate, do it together, and enjoy it together. You told me to let you learn to square dance on weekends, and that's all.But if you want me to go down and dance with you, how can you bear it? ! Can't compromise, once compromise, it will be endless. If you love each other, you should compromise with each other's taste.If the other party likes to call the radio station to play and order a love song for you, but you just hate this mentality of fearing that the world will not know, what should you do?

I suggest you just obediently listen to it on time, and show an expression of being moved to death.Falling in love is like going to drink tea and eat Cantonese dim sum. You can choose shrimp dumplings instead of siomai, and you can dip mustard instead of chili. No matter what choice you make, you don’t have to push the dim sum cart to serve Your people, put on an ugly face—— When you are in love, you must learn to receive a lot of kindness and cherishment from the other party.And the gesture or word chosen by the other party, you really have to learn to appreciate it and not interfere.After all, the most precious thing in love is not taste and style.

If you love each other, you should not compromise with each other's taste.The two of you went to the class reunion together, and you wore the Milanese designer's work that you carefully selected, but the other party wore the returned product that was rejected when it was exported to the United States. Is this something that can be compromised? I don't think there's a problem with compromising once or twice, especially during a relationship where it's easy to think "I love each other for all their 'problems'..." As soon as you think this way, something will happen, because you have realized that there are many "problems" in the other party, not "characteristics", not "styles", not "necessary parts of the other party's integrity".

Wait for the next time, when the other party is at your family dinner, stick chewing gum on the spoon to play; wait for the next time, when the other party is watching the opera with you, laugh out loud at the fat soprano's pretending to be cute .After doing this again and again, you will know that "compromise" cannot solve the "problem" of the other party. In fact, there is no need to compromise.If two people can't do it together, don't do it together.Human beings in the world, in addition to lovers, there are many people waiting for you to assign tasks, such as relatives, friends, prostitutes, your "anthropomorphic dog", etc., and so on.Do what you should do with whoever you want, let your lover go, and let the other person only be responsible for the matter of "falling in love", that's enough.