Chapter 21 family is scary sometimes

Some people's families are lovely, and some people's families are horrible. Some people's families are neither cute nor scary, just busy and a little cold. I'm lucky and have a lovely family.But I still often think: "This is so scary!" too horrible?What is so scary? "Family members cannot be changed casually!" This is a very scary thing. Every time I go to a restaurant to order food, I like to order something I haven’t eaten before. When the food arrives, if it’s really hard to swallow, something as weird as Japanese natto, I’ll taste it obediently and pay for it As a "viewing fee", it means spending money to go to a museum to see mummies from 2,000 years ago and gain some knowledge.

When you order dishes that are not tasty, at least you order them yourself, at least you have such a little bit of independent dignity and willful happiness. When you meet a bad lover in love, at least you choose yourself, at least you have such a bit of independent dignity and willful happiness.Only "family members" have not gone through the steps of "ordering food", and it is not like being in a relationship where you can "dating for a while and see". Family members, like hair and nails, are "equipped for you". Hair and nails, you can also dye, cut, and enjoy yourself. Although you are not satisfied, you can always repair it to your satisfaction.

Your family won't allow you to "renovate."Although not satisfied, had to accept. No matter how rotten the dish is, the nightmare will disappear when it is removed from the table.The family members go to the table every day, have their own expressions, and most importantly, they can even talk! What could be more terrifying than this? ! Ever since I was a kid, I found this unacceptable— Although the family I "equip" is already very decent, why not let me pick another one? What if there is something "more ideal"? Even if I go to a toy store, let me pick one, right?

There is a Belgian movie called "Toto's Little Hero". The protagonist Toto has believed since he was a child that he and the baby in the next bed were wrongly carried by two panicked parents when there was a fire in the nursery. Toto thinks that the neighbor's family is his real family.The scene of the neighbor helping the child celebrate his birthday is a scene that should be enjoyed by himself. The neighbor's luxury house, car, beautiful holiday...all should belong to him! But all of this was snatched away by a baby who was carried by mistake in the fire. Toto insisted he was "robbed".

His happy life was taken away, and what the robber left him was a family he didn't want and a life he didn't want. Is Toto crazy? Toto is not crazy.Toto just magnified the question and regret of "why not me" in each of us by a hundred times. A child from a commoner family wants to be born in a wealthy family: "Why not me?" A child of a wealthy family wants to be born in an ordinary family: "Why not me?" "Why not me?" "Why not me?" Toto Lehuo became more and more angry, and made a ridiculous decision-he started to follow the steps step by step, trying to get back the life that belonged to him step by step!

The problem is, unlike Toto, most of us don't have "imaginary enemies." Even if we want to "take it back", we don't know what to grab? We were a little luckier than Toto, though. Like Toto, we may have been "equipped" with a poor family. But better than Toto, we can create our own life, instead of staring at "other people's life" like him. Toto, like the protagonist of a video game, has been programmed to end the game without completing the task. Imagine the misery of being locked in an electric toy, and you will feel lucky—— Life is set and there is no fun.

The greatest joy in life is that anything is possible before "the answer is not officially revealed". In the process of growing up, I gradually figured out why I get more power from novels written by foreigners; why do I also get more power from watching foreign plays? I found that the protagonists in foreign works often face their own lives.The protagonists of Chinese works are either surrounded by "family members" or surrounded by "nations" as hoods, suffocating people to death. for example,. "Being entangled for the longest time by a group of the most nagging family members."——This is the dream of the Red Chamber in my mind, the super nightmare of the Red Chamber!

If there are kind-hearted people who come forward and change the game into an attack and pass game, it will immediately highlight the hardships of the hero Jia Baoyu's growth—— Jia Baoyu, constantly being attacked by the women at home, bravely moved forward and passed through the barriers. Lin Daiyu appeared faintly in all the barriers, attacking Jia Baoyu with tears, and went down the gate to be replaced by the old ancestor Jia Mu who was full of the sky, constantly throwing a meal again and again. A meal of delicious food was stuffed into Jia Baoyu's mouth... The big monster guarding the gate was Jia Zheng's father, who beat Jia Baoyu crazily with sticks...

Alas, after one hundred and twenty times like this, how could it be possible for Jia Baoyu not to go out? Is what happened to Jia Baoyu a "special case"? Is the horror I feel from him unrepresentative?I don't believe it— Please don't ignore that in the entire Chinese culture, Jia Baoyu is the most well-known young man! Or put it this way: Jia Baoyu is the most well-known "decent" boy. When the young Romeo rebelled against his family for love, the young Jia Baoyu was being annoyed by the three aunts and six wives to the point of suffocation! I can't help but think that in the age when there were no translated works to read, all the boys and girls who hated their families and were fanatical in their hearts, when they looked at the fabricated world on the stage, they would always see Jia Baoyu who was so depressed. Very desperate.

Fortunately, we finally have a few not-so-"decent" teenagers. Wild kids like Nezha from "Fengshen Bang" really brightened my eyes and lifted my spirits a lot. Nezha, self-willed and brave, the son of the Dragon King who could not afford to offend his father even if he killed him, in order to make his parents no longer embarrassing, the young Nezha committed suicide and ended his life, returning his destroyed body to his parents. This is certainly handsome, but what a tragic price for this "handsomeness"! Is the relationship between Chinese teenagers and their families as terrifying as Jia Baoyu's or Nezha's?

What does a story writer do? People who write stories generally feel that life is full of trivial impurities, life is very monotonous, and the world around them is not very charming, so they have to use their brains, mouth and hands to fabricate some interesting lives. For those of us who read stories, the fabricated lives one after another are worth watching, they may be inspiring, they can be used for self-comfort, they are the dazzling windows of our bleak world, and the mysterious exit . The teenagers who read the story also expect to see the window set up for them and the exit opened for them. Unfortunately, there are not many such examples. Most of the Chinese stories are about the lives of adults.Adult politics, adult morality, adult feelings, marriage, adult family. Sophisticated, troubled, circuitous, riddled with holes. For all the teenagers who stand in front of the window of life and look around, and occasionally push the door of life to probe, how can they understand the mystery? From Zhang Ailing's words along the way, life is very unbearable, and desire is very dirty. Of course, this may be very real, and it can show some kind of truth of life, but for many teenagers who have been trapped in their families for many years, waiting to flap their wings and try to fly, these "truths" are very disappointing. If you go to see How could it not be a disappointment if the movie theater mistakenly showed the ending first after the movie started ten minutes ago? The artistic value is very high, but for teenagers, it is very disappointing. Among the Chinese stories, Jin Yong's novels are those that have a youthful atmosphere, live vigorously, and make people want to spread their wings and fly away from the family and create a happy life for themselves. The boy Jin Yong fabricated was definitely not something Jia Baoyu could hang out with. who? The most famous of the two.Wei Xiaobao, Yang Guo. Wei Xiaobao, the pinnacle of a rascal boy. Yang Guo, the champion of rebellious teenagers. They don't have to be locked at home like Jia Baoyu, because Wei Xiaobao was born in a brothel and Yang Guo was an orphan. They have suffered all the sufferings of the world, so they don't come to the trick of "sacrificing the small self to complete the big self". Of course they insisted, otherwise they would be just jerks. Wei Xiaobao insisted on his loyalty, and "leniently dealt with" everything else. Yang Guo insisted on love, everything else "fuck him". The great shackles of the nation-state, after the two of them "tried it on", they immediately "returned" it sensibly. Jin Yong, who wrote the story, never said clearly that he was fed up with the depression of Chinese teenagers who are always tied down by their families and ethnic groups, but when we look at Yang Guo and Wei Xiaobao, it is really hard to imagine that Jin Yong is not bored Centuries of teenagers vent their breath. I saw an important characteristic in Yang Guo and Wei Xiaobao—— These two teenagers have never stopped their pursuit of happiness in life on the grounds of family or country. They have weaknesses and setbacks, but they also believe in the value of life, and they don't flinch easily or make excuses to give up. Compared with Toto, the "little hero of Toto", Yang Guo and Wei Xiaobao are ten times more unlucky.But they don't "take back" other people's lives, they take care of it themselves. Wei Xiaobao found a satisfying life, while Yang Guo found peace and happiness.No matter what it is, at least it is their own choice. Although you can't choose the family you were born in, your life is still yours, so please spend it wisely.