Chapter 40 accept the helplessness of life

A 30-year-old girl wrote to say that she found out that her boyfriend whom she had known for eighteen years had a third party, and that third party told her that she had aborted the child for him. She couldn't describe the pain in her heart, and the three of them faced each other, and they couldn't solve the problem.Once, when she went to his house, she found that the third party was also there. She said to the third party, "Only one of us can stay." As a result, the third party left.Although she was victorious, she didn't feel victorious at all. Over the past eighteen years, with too much kindness, he has treated her so well that there is nothing to say. Their families have long regarded each other as their own.Now, she will still call him every morning to wake him up, and he will still call her every day after get off work to tell her where he will go.He still loves her, but he is a cowardly man, and she knows that he has not left the third party.

She said in the letter that she did not plan to leave him, and that she was learning to accept the helplessness of life. Once love involves kindness, it will become very complicated. Perhaps, changing another person does not mean that there will be no betrayal.Being betrayed by the one you love is a kind of helplessness in life.If you ask yourself that you are not cruel and decisive enough, you can only accept the helplessness of life until you have no love and no feeling. She said she told him: "You have the right to have neither, but you don't have the right to have both."

Not having the right to have both, to him, isn't it just the helplessness of life?