Chapter 32 give birth to life

The American entertainment industry now regards raising children as fashionable.Some female stars who don't want to suffer from pregnancy and childbirth, let alone destroy their perfect body for giving birth, have adopted children one after another;However, the Child Welfare Center has rejected the adoption requests of several of them on the grounds that although these female celebrities have a lot of money, their marriages are too unstable and they have a history of drug abuse, so they are not suitable to be mothers.I learned from the newspaper that a young female movie star in China also claimed that she hoped to experience the addiction of being a mother once again, and said that it would be best to adopt a group of children of various colors—"Follow me, beautiful , like a pack of puppies."

Motherhood has become a game, child-rearing has become a pastime.I can't help asking: "Won't those who play games get bored? Don't those who are entertained take revenge? Are women necessarily qualified to be mothers?" What is it like to be a mother? As I write this, I am six months pregnant.Although the stomach has swelled a lot, the fetus with increasingly thick legs and feet still obviously feels that there is not enough space.He (or she) has to curl up, making it difficult to even stretch.I had to kick me and punch me from time to time to show my dissatisfaction.I once saw an advertisement for a temporary house rental company. On it was a pregnant woman’s tight stomach, and a line of small words below said: “My friend, you must have lived in a temporary residence that was not much more comfortable than this.” Then there was a detailed introduction of the company’s business .It can be seen from this that the living conditions in the mother's womb are really bad. No wonder the baby cries as soon as it hits the ground. Reason not to cry?

As my stomach grows day by day, more and more people care about me.The most common question is: "Male or female?" Actually I don't know.I did a B-ultrasound in the United States in the early stages of pregnancy.But at that time the child was too young to tell the gender.Later, I heard that B-ultrasound is not good for children, so I never did it.Anyway, my husband and I like it regardless of gender.If you know it too early, it will be tasteless, so it is better to wait for a surprise.However, if the gender is not clear, it is difficult to come up with a name.I looked through the dictionary several times, but I still couldn't find the name I liked, so I joked that the child, regardless of gender, has the surname "Wu" and is called "the so-called".

The kind-hearted people around me guessed the gender of the child for me. Some people said that my appetite was big, as if I was giving birth to a daughter;The more experienced aunt took my hand and asked: "Girl, do you like sour or spicy?" It’s been a while—I love salty food.” The old man was confused: “Could it be twins?” I'd love to have twins - how efficient it is to have only one pregnancy.I have an American friend who is an accountant. At the age of thirty-five, she gave birth to a boy and a girl.I called to congratulate her: "Look at how well you match!" She joked: "No, this is the best deal in my life." The doctor told me that older women have a higher proportion of first-born twins, probably because God pityed them for their relatively low chance of conceiving, so multiple births were used. Make up for the shortfall.

Seriously, a woman feels the presence of God especially when she is pregnant. A tiny seed, after a wonderful collision, takes root and sprouts, and grows step by step, without anyone needing to worry about it.When to grow the heart and lungs, when to grow nails, everything has been arranged properly, in the most reasonable, effective and harmonious way.Even as a mother, you can only experience its existence through intuition (to save the gender trouble, let's use "it" to represent the baby.).You can't see it, you can't touch it, but this little seed is in your life.Isn't that the most wonderful thing in the world?And which scientist can design it?As a pregnant woman, your immunity and cold resistance will be greatly enhanced, and your body will always be warm, even if the temperature drops slightly, it will not freeze your baby; you don’t have to worry about the fetus eating and drinking, everything is carried out in the amniotic fluid , and the amniotic fluid is constantly renewed; you don’t have to worry about the fetus being immersed in the liquid and unable to breathe with the lungs, the placenta and umbilical cord all deliver the oxygen in the mother’s blood to it; No, it is growing up healthily day by day, at first it was the size of an apple seed, then it was like a strawberry, and then... you mother just relax and suffer what you deserve.It is eating and drinking, as if someone is sheltering in the dark.The tenacity and tenacity, vigor and high-spiritedness of life are so irresistible; its beauty and delicacy, ingenuity and thoughtfulness are so incredible, can all these be understood by human beings only with ideas?No, you have to use your heart to sense it, and people who are not mothers and who have not experienced these changes bit by bit cannot truly understand.

Thousands of generations of human beings, women of hundreds of millions of families, have given birth to children.The reproduction of human beings is as natural and common as flowing clouds and flowing water, and it will not be changed by the advancement of technology and the development of humanities today.What I'm going through is an insignificant "again".What has passed has already been recorded; what will happen is also clearly written in the book, what is there to make a fuss about? However, when the number "ten" appeared on the pregnancy test kit accurately, why did I pick up the phone so eagerly, wake him up from his dream who was on a business trip across the ocean, and inform him mysteriously and proudly that he was going to be a father?When I recognized the outline of the fetus on the ultrasound screen for the first time, and heard its fast and powerful heartbeat through the loudspeaker for the first time, why did I shed tears unconsciously?

Why am I not depressed at all when I rummage through my closet and can't find a dress or pants that fit?When I walk on the street, why do I say hello to every pregnant woman, and why can’t I not help but go up to say a few words of praise no matter whose child I see?When I see animals with their cubs, whether it is a dog, a cat, or a rabbit, no matter how ugly they are, why do I cherish them sincerely and feel their nobility?In the middle of the night, the little guy in my stomach kicked me awake, Tell me plainly that it is already an independent life with independent will, why do I close my eyes, put my hands on my belly, and laugh involuntarily?

Even when alone, I don't feel alone.My child is quietly accompanying me.In the first few months of pregnancy, I vomited so badly that I had to go to school, write papers, and shoot TV. It was a bit overwhelming.It seems to be sensible, whenever I am doing business, I am honest. When I finished class or the filming was over, they tossed me desperately, as if they were coquettishly saying to me: "Now you can give me more care!" In June this year, the crew of Oriental TV Station came to the United States to film "Yang Lan's Sight" The topic of the second stage.It's a bit scary to say, but we planned to have 20 episodes of material in 25 days.This means more than ten hours of work every day, and there is no time to breathe in the middle.My little baby is really good, running around with me every day, never getting into trouble.After work breaks every day, I stroked my growing belly and thanked it softly for its support; every morning when I got up, I patted it first and said, "How is it? How are you resting? Mom has to work again. Now, you go with mommy, okay?"—as if it could choose not to go.

At the time, it was five months old and already had sensory abilities.They will respond to external touch, sound, light, and temperature. It is time to start prenatal education.Colleagues in the production team joked that Yang Lan now records the program sooner or later, and implements professional prenatal education. In the future, the first words the child will say will not be "Dad" or "Mom", but "Friends of the audience, hello everyone!" !” and “Thanks for watching today’s show, see you next time.” I think it's in the process of being a mother that a woman really matures and becomes strong.Before pregnancy, we women are very delicate and care about other people's attitudes towards us; whether our parents give us freedom, whether our husband cares for us, whether our friends are considerate to me...but now we have this A person, it can't do anything for us for the time being, its fragile and young life is completely dependent on our nourishment and care for it, its future is almost entirely in our hands, what kind of trust and responsibility is this!It is my child, I am its mother, the relationship between us is so simple and so inextricably linked.If you quarrel with your friends and walk away; if you have conflicts with your parents, you can live independently at home; if you quarrel with your husband, you can ignore him; but you have no right to be angry, leave, or ignore it.It is in your body, it is an extension of your flesh and blood, and it has a fate that cannot be separated or cut in a lifetime.The girl who used to be brisk now has care since then, and the girl who was once wayward has since then patience and self-control.

I used to walk in a rush, but now I look left and right when I cross the road; I often have nervous headaches, and I can only rely on painkillers to solve the problem.But once I got pregnant, I didn’t dare to take any medicine. Every time I got a headache, I just endured it. Sometimes the pain made me cry, but I felt very proud and relaxed in my heart—I am willing to do this for my child. Once a mother, even a timid woman becomes courageous.The young child is completely dependent on its mother for protection.If the mother is overwhelmed by difficulties and dangers, what should the child do?

Also in June, I went to interview Sun Meiting, a Shanghai piano prodigy studying at the Manners Conservatory of Music in New York.He and his father lived in an old mansion on the West Side of Manhattan.The elevators in the building are small and dated.There were already two women in the elevator at that time.There are six people in our film crew, and we are carrying video equipment, and we planned to take the next elevator.But Mei Ting's father greeted and said: "This elevator is fine, come up." So, eight people were squeezed into the small elevator that was more than one meter square.No one noticed the weight limit of 1,000 pounds marked on the side of the elevator door.The elevator ascended between the second and third floors and suddenly got stuck.While everyone was talking to each other, a smell of burnt rubber rushed up, which meant that there was a possibility of a short circuit in the cable, and the elevator would lose control.Before long, the air in the elevator was significantly reduced.We tried to push the sunroof, but the sunroof of this old elevator is welded shut.Everyone understands that things are not good.Dozens of people die every year in elevator accidents in New York. Haven't we just hit some bad luck?At this time, an American woman in the elevator started to cry and shouted for help, saying: "It's over, it's over, I'm dead today." We advised her to keep calm, but she yelled nervously: "It's all your fault, It caused us all to die." At this time, Wu Zheng and Director Teng Junjie, who were near the door, pushed open the elevator door and slammed hard on the closed corridor door, finally attracting the attention of a resident upstairs.After more than ten minutes, the corridor manager arrived and activated the manual switch.Unexpectedly, the direction was reversed, and instead of descending, the elevator went straight up to the fifth or sixth floor, where it got stuck again.This time the situation was more dangerous, and the smell of rubber became stronger and stronger.The American woman cried again.While persuading her, everyone talked to the administrator at the same time, and it was very lively for a while.In the end, we made it back to the ground floor safely.There were already policemen with sharp axes waiting at the door, and they were going to split open the corridor door to rescue us if they had to.This little adventure lasted more than twenty minutes.During this period, Wu Zheng and Teng Dao were anxious about how to get me out first, but I was very calm and kept reminding them to watch their feet and not fall out of the door.If in the past, in such an emergency situation, and that American woman was "creating" a terrifying atmosphere, I might have panicked.But at that time, I covered my abdomen with my hands, thinking in my heart: "Don't panic, or the air will not be enough. Don't scare the child." After escaping from the elevator, Lao Zhu, the lighting engineer, patted Wu Zheng on the shoulder and said, "Yang Lan is really good. Take it easy, your wife is well married." Look, boy, shouldn't I thank you?It is you who gave me courage.However, when I get on any elevator in the future, I will first pay attention to the weight limit sign. Can such a "test" be avoided or not. Only when you have children will you know the kindness of your parents.Since my pregnancy, I have grown closer to both mothers.One is my own mother and the other is my mother-in-law. I am twenty-eight years old, and my mother gave birth to me at the age of twenty-eight.It was a mere coincidence, but I thought it a good omen, because she was a good mother, and I was barely a good daughter.When my mother gave birth to me, my father sent me to work abroad.Grandma traveled thousands of miles from Shanghai to Beijing to take care of her mother, but was soon ordered back to Shanghai by the Red Guards because of her bad status.It's not easy for my mother to take me alone.Every morning, she would feed me, send me to a neighbor's house, then go to work, and come back at noon... But I didn't cooperate, and often wet the swaddle when my mother took me out in the morning, It made her flustered and embarrassed, and I feel really embarrassed thinking about it.My mother seems to be a very weak woman, but the time she took me alone was very strong.Once there was a gas leak from the coal stove at home. Just before she lost consciousness, she hugged me with all her strength and rushed out the door.I was only five and a half catties when I was born, and my mother fed me a little Maitreya in less than three months.When I was 100 days old, my mother took me to the photo studio and took the first standard portrait of me.At that time, photo studios had to print a quote from Chairman Mao on every photo.I don't know whether it was intentional or not, but the quote they chose for my photos was: "Don't rest on your laurels, make new achievements." Seeing that I am going to be a mother, my mother passed on to me a sentence my grandmother taught her: "Women, for the sake of children, you must endure hardship." It will take a long time for me to truly understand this sentence. My mother-in-law is a retired middle school teacher. She is very kind and strong.After I became pregnant, I had time to live with her. She gave birth to two boys and regarded me as her daughter.In the past two days, she is braving the 34°C heat and buying delicious food for me everywhere. "Giving a baby is hard work, but it is also the happiest thing. The key is to have self-confidence. Wu Zheng gave birth to a baby weighing more than eight pounds, and it was his first child. It is difficult to give birth, but I was confident at the time and cooperated with the doctor. Don't shout and scream, and it will come naturally in a few hours." The mother-in-law said with a smile while folding the children's clothes and pants that had been made in advance: "Don't underestimate it, there is quite a lot of knowledge here. For example, when a child is just born, his whole body is limp, his head and neck are particularly weak, and he is shaking around. Wrap it in a 'candle bag' according to the traditional Chinese method, and it will be easy. hugged; after feeding the baby, stand it on the shoulder of the adult, pat it lightly, and help it burp, otherwise it will have gas in its stomach, and it will easily burp out the food it eats; the button of the baby's coat It’s best to tie it on the back, so that once it falls asleep, you can unbutton it and help it take off its clothes and go to sleep..” With so many ways, it will be a lot of trouble if you explore by yourself.Don't worry, mothers from generation to generation have accumulated enough knowledge and passed on the way of motherhood, you can't help but listen to it, and you can't help but admire it.To be a good mother, how can it be done with enthusiasm alone? Unknowingly, I joined the ranks of contemporary mothers-to-be; unconsciously, I was absorbed into the continuous ranks of thousands of generations of mothers.I am so ordinary and still so ignorant, but the bits and pieces I have experienced so far are so unique.For my unborn child, I am its unique mother, and it will feel unique maternal love from me. Isn't that exciting? God, thank you for giving me the opportunity to be a mother.