Chapter 8 8. Love?

On the issue of love and marriage, the older generation is very different from our younger generation at that time.On the one hand, the generation of the May Fourth Movement was reforming, such as Qian Xuantong, whose name means "suspecting the ancients and Xuantong", and he was skeptical of the ancient times. Deep, which also includes old thoughts.Therefore, most of their marriages are arranged by the family. Later, they talked about freedom of marriage and individual liberation. If they were not satisfied with the marriage arranged by the family, they would find someone else to marry them.The most typical one is Hu Shi.Hu Shi's marriage was arranged by the family. Although there were other people later, besides Wei Liansi, there might be others, but he didn't want to hurt his mother's heart, and always maintained his marriage with Jiang Dongxiu.This is an old Chinese ethical tradition.Guo Moruo and Lu Xun are like this. Although they have a new marriage outside, the original arranged wife is still there, and they can be regarded as family members.

In our generation, there was no rule in the school that students could not get married, but in fact it was impossible to get married.I haven't finished my studies yet, and I can't live independently. How can I maintain my family? "Which young man is not good at falling in love? Who is not good at young women? This is the most divine and holy thing in our human nature." (Guo Moruo translated the preface of Goethe's "The Sorrows of Young Werther") But the people we really fell in love with at that time were after all Few of them, especially those who are married, always think that it is something in the distant future.Generally, they took part in the work and did not get married until they were in their 20s, 60s, or even their 30s, and few of them fell in love before graduation, even fewer female students got married, or interrupted their studies when they got married. housewife too.

At the end of the 1950s, there was a very popular novel called "Song of Youth". I don't know what others think, at least I think that the book was written very out of line with the situation at that time.The novel is about the "December 9th" movement and the girls at Peking University. At that time, there were only 40 or 50 girls at Peking University. It was in the Wuzhai of Peking University in the Temple of the Horse. Both my sisters lived there. I have been there many times. So I know at least half of the forty or fifty girls, but I haven't heard of any of them being married.Few of the male classmates are married, unless they come from remote areas or rural areas, and most of them who grew up in the city are not married.But in the book it was written that Lin Daojing was not only married, but also lived with other people, and even changed people. That was unimaginable at the time. How could a female classmate live with someone casually?Later, I saw some students living together at the United Nations University, most of whom were from the Northeast.At that time, the Northeast had already been occupied by Japan, the country was ruined and the family was destroyed. Those classmates were in exile in the customs, and they had no place to live, so the two of them found an apartment to live in.But this is rare, and generally not like this.When a person writes a novel, he always writes his own experience in it intentionally or unintentionally, so those plots seem too fake and completely inconsistent with the real situation at the time.