Friends, when we picture love in our minds, our rationality tends to step aside and let our emotions fly in the ideal sky, which makes the love in our hearts full of dreamlike colors.It is precisely because we have idealized expectations of love that we find that there is a big gap between love in reality and our imagination. Here is a letter I wrote to a friend about love: "I received your letter. You said in the letter that you hope that your future lover will be better and better, which is reasonable. But a person's excellence and excellence cannot be without a foundation. A person can be very good, But very good people often have very obvious shortcomings, which are determined by a person's education, experience, and experience. There is no such thing as a person with only advantages but no shortcomings, or the same sentence: they only exist in romance In fiction. So, you shouldn't ask that of a person in real life."

"If you pay attention, there are many older women around us, and most of these older unmarried women are excellent women. Only a few of them really want to be single, and most of them just haven't found their ideal prince charming, not They are willing to marry anyone. They are searching hard for Prince Charming according to the ideals in their hearts, but after many years they still find nothing. In fact, it is not that there are no good men in this world, but that there are no good men in this world who have not been recombined and have no shortcomings. Men. Their tragedy does not lie in their pursuit of the perfection of love and marriage, the problem is that the perfection you pursue should exist in the world and can be found in real life."

"In this world, no one has the right to make choices for you. You said in your letter that there are three young men chasing you, and one of them may become your husband in the future, or your future husband may be other than three men. One of the better lads, but you have to remember not to take people in fantasy or fiction as real people, and don't try to find a person without flaws. A person without flaws has, but that person certainly has no strengths. You should not step on several boats and fall in love with several people at the same time, in that case, the only one who suffers in the end can only be yourself..." I wrote this conversation because I feel that there are many young people who are in the season of love in life. Everyone wants to find a perfect lover.Most of them are too heavily influenced by romance novels, thinking that the perfect people in such novels can also be found in real life.In fact, those characters are just artistic creations.I think that young people in the flowery season should find a flesh and blood person with advantages and disadvantages to be their lover.This is the most ideal and most realistic.

If I go to the market in my life, and my luggage is always empty, it is not because I have no wealth but because the wealth in my hands is too large. It is a piece of gold that cannot be cut, and I cannot use it to buy small pieces. I can only use it desperately to buy a soulful copy.