Chapter 16 Maxim 261～280

261．don't get carried away Some people are stubborn about their mistakes.Doing something wrong, they think that continuing to do so is called resilience.Deep down, they berate themselves, but then excuse themselves in front of others.When they start doing stupid things, people think they are just sloppy; when they continue to do it, people will confirm that they are fools.One-time rash promises and bad decisions should not limit us forever.Some people don't correct their stupidity and continue to act on their short-sightedness, they want to be complete fools. 262．know how to forget

It's not so much about skill as it is about luck.The things that should be forgotten the most are often the things that are easiest to remember.Memory is not only mean because it never comes when we need it, but also stupid because it comes when it shouldn't.Memory is tireless when it can bring us pain, but indifferent when it can bring us joy.Sometimes the best medicine for trouble is to forget about it, and we forget the medicine.Let's train our memory to behave, for it can bring us heaven as well as hell.Self-satisfied people never care about this -- they are always happy in their stupid ignorance.

263．Good things are always better in other hands Good things are always better in the hands of others, which makes us enjoy them better.On the first day, the pleasure always belongs to the owner, and after that, it belongs to someone else.We always love something twice as much when it is owned by someone else, because there is both the risk of losing it and the thrill of novelty.Everything is better when it is taken from us; even someone else's self-boiling water is like fairy wine to us.The bitter things are your own, the fun is greatly reduced and the troubles are greatly increased: whether to borrow or not to borrow, it is a headache.When you have it, you are actually holding it for someone else, and it is more an enemy than a friend who benefits from it.

264．Never be sloppy Sometimes luck likes to play tricks, and if you don't pay attention, it will seize the opportunity.Intelligence, prudence, courage, and even knowledge are all ready to be put to the test.The day when you think you are most confident will be the day when you are least sure.Vigilance is always gone when you need it most. The thought of "I didn't think of it" lifts us to the sky and throws us down.Those who spy on us use this tactic to scrutinize us, study us, and attack us when we're not looking.The days they choose to test us are often the ones we least expect.

265．Make it difficult for those who depend on you Dangerous situations have at certain moments turned many men into real men: a man learns to swim when he is about to drown.It is at this time that many people discover their worth and knowledge, which would otherwise be buried in timidity.Difficulties give us the opportunity to win fame, and when one noble man finds his reputation at stake, he can do more than a thousand men can.The Catholic Monarch Isabel knew this (like many others), and the fame of Captain Columbus, as well as the immortality of many others, is due to the help of this particular moment.This ingenious method has produced many great men.

266．doing good is worse than doing good If you're never angry, you're overdoing it.Those who don't have any feelings are not real people.They do so not always from insensitivity, but often from cowardice.Expressing strong feelings under the right circumstances makes you a real human being.The little bird can still play tricks on the scarecrow!Bittersweet is a good taste because pure sweetness is for kids and fools.If a person is so numb that he loses himself in order to be a good person, then the crime is serious. 267．speak sweet words softly Arrows pierce the body, but evil words pierce the heart.A good piece of candy can make people exhale Ruolan.Getting your words heard takes finesse.A lot of things are done with live words, words alone can get you out of trouble.When people are conceited or unrealistic, you can use empty words against them.The words of the king are especially persuasive.Make your mouth full of honey, and make what you have to say into sugar that even your enemies will love.The only way to be loved is to be tender and sweet.

268．What stupid people do late, smart people do first A fool and a wise man do the same thing, the difference is time.A wise man does it at the right time, and a stupid man does it at the wrong time.If you start out with your intellect turned upside down, you'll do everything else upside down: put what you wear on your head under your feet; turn left and right, use your left hand as your right.There's only one good way to accept reality: the sooner the better.Otherwise, what you could have done with pleasure becomes something you are forced to do.A wise man will first estimate which things should be done first and which should be done later, and then do them with a good mood, and thus improve his prestige.

269．take advantage of your novelty As long as you keep innovating, people will respect you.Novelty is infinitely variable, so it can be enjoyable and refreshing.A mediocre newcomer gets more acclaim than a great person whom people have grown accustomed to.Extraordinary people get along with mortals, and they get old very quickly.Remember: the glory of novelty does not last long.After a few days, people will lose respect for you, so take advantage of people's initial respect and grab what you can as it flies by.Once people's enthusiasm for novelty cools down, passion turns cold and joy turns to irritation.Needless to say, all things have their time and all things will eventually perish.

270．don't be alone in condemning fads If fashion pleases everyone, it has its benefits, and people take it for granted, however inexplicably so.Behaving erratically is always annoying; when it's wrong, it's ridiculous.Laugh at fashion, and you will be laughed at; and because of your narcissism, people will ignore you.If you don't know how to appreciate what's in fashion, hide your stupidity and don't condemn everything, for bad taste often stems from ignorance.The unanimous thing is either the truth.Either it's something that people want to be true. 271．If you don't know much, stick to what you think you have the most confidence in

If you don't know much, then stick to what you think you are most sure of. People may not think you are smart, but they will think you are down-to-earth.He who knows the truth of things can take risks and let his imagination run wild; but if you take risks without knowing, you will kill yourself.Everything follows the rules, and that's because there's nothing wrong with something that's been tried and tested.For the uninitiated, this is the best shortcut.In any case, it is much safer to be sure than to be mystified. 272．It is free to bid, but the etiquette should be respectful

Ask freely, but with courtesy, you will make others feel obligated to buy your product.The demands of the selfish are no match for the gift of the generous.Courtesy is not just a gift, it is a bond that connects you to others.Courteous words and deeds make us feel favored.Nothing is more expensive to a noble man than something gratis.You make two sales, but at different prices: once for the price of the item, and once for the price of the gift.Courtesy is noise to villains because they cannot understand the language of good breeding. 273．Get to know the personality of the people you're dating Knowing the character of the people you associate with allows you to know their intentions.Knowing the cause also knows the effect; the effect tells us the motive.A melancholy man sees only misfortune; a man who likes to deny everything sees only faults.They think only of the worst, and ignore the immediate good, so that possible evil is inevitable.People who are ruled by emotion cannot see things as they really are; this is because emotions, not reason, occupy their minds.Everyone speaks according to his sentiment or temper, often far from the truth.You should know how to distinguish and analyze people's expressions, so as to gain insight into the depths of their souls.Remember: A man who laughs a lot is a fool; a man who does not smile is a hypocrite.Be wary of people who keep asking you questions.This is because they either ask too many questions, or they deliberately find fault but have concerns.Don't expect to benefit from someone with a bad face.Because nature has not given them face so much, they often take revenge on nature for it.Beautiful people are usually stupid too. 274．stay charming It's a wise charm.Use charm and politeness to gain the favor and favor of others; if you can't please others, virtue alone is not enough.Being praised is the best way to convince people.If people find you attractive, you're lucky, but you have to be disciplined.Natural talent combined with cultivation will produce the best results.Charm begets goodwill and ultimately general popularity. 275．Go with the flow, but maintain your self-respect It's polite not to be prudish or bitter all the time.In order to win people's welcome, you have to make some compromises in demeanor.You can go with the flow sometimes, but don't lose your self-esteem for it.A person who is considered a fool in public is not considered smart in private.A day of joking has more to lose than years of seriousness to gain.Don't be a loner; acting weird is taunting others.Don't be shocked, you are too sensitive, women are like that.It's ridiculous to be startled when you should be rational.The best quality of a man is to act like a man.Women can imitate men, but men must not imitate women. 276．Renew your character with nature and cultivation It is often said that people's situation changes every seven years, so your taste should also be sublimated accordingly.After the first 7 years of life, we reach the age of reason.Every 7 years since then there have been new improvements.Notice this natural change, help it develop, and hope that others will benefit from it as well.Many people changed their behavior, status or career.This is the reason why you don't know it at the beginning, and you don't wake up like a dream until you realize that the change is so great. At 20, you are like a peacock. At 30, you are like a lion. At 40, you are like a camel. At 50, you are like a snake. At 60, you are like a dog. At 70, you are like a monkey. At 80, you are like a peacock. When you are old, you are nothing. 277．show off your talents Everyone will encounter opportunities to show their talents and make good use of them.Nobody succeeds every day.There are people of great brilliance who bring out their little talent, making it a shining point in themselves, and their greatness is astonishing when it is revealed.When you have both talent and a knack for showing it off, the results can be amazing.Some peoples know how to dazzle the eye, and in this respect the Spaniards are the best.As soon as the world was created, there was light to make it manifest.Showing is satisfying, fills in the gaps, gives things a chance to shine.It is even more effective when the demonstrated talent is grounded in reality.Ability lies in man, perfection lies in God.God has endowed us with perfect skills, and encourages us to display it.It takes skill to do so, it depends on circumstances to bring out the best in talent, and it will be utterly futile to do so at inopportune times.Nor should we be affected, for showing off tends to lead to arrogance, and arrogance inevitably leads to contempt.Displays should also be done with modesty so as not to be vulgar.Showing too much talent is disdained by wise men. It should be said that words are better than words, and expressed with a casual attitude.Clever cover-ups are the best way to earn praise, because people are curious about what they don't know.Don't show all your abilities at once, take your time and increase gradually.Win a brilliant success before proceeding to the next one, and expect greater success after receiving warm applause. 278．Don't let yourself stand out When others notice your intentions, your talents can turn into flaws, and you can't help but be dismissed as an oddball.Even excessive beauty can damage your reputation.Dazzlingly beautiful and distastefully beautiful also has that effect, and more.There are those who wish to make a name for themselves through evil deeds, and seek ways to discredit themselves.Even when talking about learning, talking too much can not help showing off. 279．Don't reply to people who disagree with you You should first find out if he is being clever or just vulgar.This behavior isn't always out of stubbornness, sometimes it's a ruse.So be careful not to be entangled by the former or deceived by the latter.The person to watch out for most is a spy.When someone has the master key to pry into your mind, you should keep the key of prudence in your head, and put it in the keyhole for self-defense. 280．be an upright person Good conduct is gone forever, people don't reciprocate favors, and few treat others with the courtesy they deserve.In all the world, the greatest help is only the smallest reward.Some countries are unwilling to be kind to others regardless of whether they are superior or inferior.People are afraid that some people will break their promises, others will change, and others will be deceived.Watch out for bad behavior in others, not to imitate it, but to protect yourself from it.Your own integrity can be ruined by someone else's self-destructive behavior.But the noble man does not forget what he should be because of what other people are.