Chapter 8 Proverbs 101~120

101．Half the world is laughing at the other half when all are fools All things can be bad or good, it depends on how you look at them.What one person pursues may be another person's dislike, and it is extremely foolish to measure all things with one's own eyes.Perfection doesn't mean pleasing just one person: individual tastes are as varied as faces.What is bad for you, someone will always like it.Don't think badly of something just because it doesn't please some people, there's always someone else who appreciates it.Of course, their applause will also be criticized.The standard of real satisfaction is the endorsement of famous people who know how to judge the grade of things.A man cannot live by following only one opinion, one habit, or the norms of a century.

102．A great blessing from heaven must be accepted with great tolerance The body of the Prudent should have a large throat.A great talent must also have a great component.If you have the best luck, don't just settle for mediocre luck.There are some things that make someone feel full, while others feel hungry after eating.Some people waste fine food because they have no appetite: they are not born with high positions, and cannot learn to be used to them even after learning.Their association with others is perpetually ruined; a false honor clouded their minds, and at length cost them honor.They are dizzy in their high positions, and their minds are often ecstatic when they have good luck, because they have no place for good luck in their breasts.A great man should show a magnanimity for good fortune, and be careful to avoid everything that might make him appear narrow-minded.

103．Everyone deserves their own dignity Not everyone can be a king, but regardless of your class and conditions, your words and deeds should be on par with the king.No matter what you do, you should act like a king.Have noble actions and noble hearts.If you cannot be a king in reality, you must become a king in your character, because the real king's demeanor lies in your integrity.If you live up to the standards of greatness yourself, you will not envy other greatness.Those around the throne especially should have some real nobility.They should have great morals like kings, not superficial pomp.They should desire the noble and the real, not the pompous.

104．Know what a job requires Every job is different, and understanding this diversity requires knowledge and insight.Some jobs require courage, some require meticulousness.Those that require honesty are the easiest; the hardest are those that require cunning and cunning.While the former require only natural talent, the latter require varying degrees of concentration and vigilance.It is difficult to govern men, and it is even more difficult to govern fools and madmen.It takes double intellect to rule over those who have nothing.It is unbearable to devote yourself to a task that is repeated all day long.The better jobs are those that don't bore us, that are important in their own right, that are varied and that constantly renew our tastes.The most respected jobs are those that involve the most or the fewest dependencies.The worst jobs are those that make us do the hardest. Not only can we not finish them now, we will never finish them in the future, and the harder we work, the harder we work.

105．don't be annoying Don't just repeat a topic and get stuck in stereotypes.Simplicity is pleasing, likeable, and does more with less.What is lost in brevity is haste, but it is compensated in politeness.Good things are better when they are concise.It would be bad, but it wouldn't be too bad if it could be concise.Less and more is better than more and more.As we all know, tallness leads to lack of talent, and tall stature is like long speech.Some people are not good at adding luster to the universe, but they are good at disturbing their neighbors.They are shunned like useless things.A prudent man should avoid boredom, especially a busy great.It may be worse to offend one such person than to offend all the rest.Speaking well means speaking concisely.

106．don't show off your good luck Pride is often a nuisance, and it is even more so to be complacent about being in a high position.Don't put on a "great man" airs - it's abominable, and don't be arrogant because someone admires you.The more you try to gain the admiration of others, the less you can get it.Worship depends on whether you are worthy of respect from others.You can't do it by stealing, you have to live up to the name and have the patience to wait for it.Important positions require you to possess appropriate dignity and decorum.You only need to have what your position requires of you and what you use to fulfill your responsibilities.Don't do everything without leaving room for it, everything should go with the flow.Those who appear to be particularly hard-working can give people the feeling that they are not strong enough to do their jobs.If you want to be successful, it's about your talent, not your flashy looks.Even if a king is respected, he should be respected because he is well-deserved, not because of his pomp and other related factors.

107．don't look complacent Don't be dissatisfied with yourself all your life, it's a sign of timidity; don't be complacent, it's a sign of stupidity.Excessive self-confidence is actually a kind of ignorance, which can lead to a foolish feeling of happiness, which can make people happy for a while, but it is actually often damaging to reputation.It cannot judge the perfection of others, so it revels in its own mediocrity.Warnings are always useful, both to help things go well and to comfort us when things don’t.If you are afraid of setbacks early on, you will have nothing to fear when setbacks come.Homer also dozes off, and Alexander wakes up from self-deception by failure.Things depend on circumstances, and sometimes they help me, and sometimes they hurt me.Yet the emptiest contentment is as sweet as a flower to a helpless fool, and may go on to sow many seeds of contentment.

108．Shortcut to becoming an ideal person Gather the right people around you.Connecting with people can do wonders.Different habits, interests, even intellects pass from one person to another without us being aware of it.The quick man should associate with the doubtful; likewise, similar associations should be made with other temperaments.That way, you'll be able to be just right without trying to get it right.Self-regulation always requires considerable skill.The alternation of opposites which beautifies and keeps the universe in motion, produces even a greater harmony in the character of man than it does in nature.Guide yourself with this advice as you choose your friends and servants.The association of polar opposites can create a careful middle.

109．don't reprimand others There is a man who is so brutal and violent that he can make anything seem as unforgivable as a heinous crime.They do this not out of a momentary rage, but out of their own nature.They condemn everyone, either for something the man has done, or for something he will do.It revealed a temperament worse than cruelty, which was really the worst.They criticize others so exaggeratedly that they can make a problem the size of a sesame seed the size of a watermelon and thereby negate it altogether.They are ruthless foremen who can turn paradise into a prison.In a fit of rage, they push everything to the extreme.A man of good temper forgives all faults.They will insist that the other person's intentions are good or that they just made a mistake by accident.

110．Don't wait until you become the setting sun Wise people live by the adage: Get rid of things before they get rid of you.Even if it is your end you should make it a victory.Sometimes the sun is hidden behind a cloud so that no one can see the setting sun.It makes us wonder: has it gone down?Avoid sunsets so you don't suddenly have a nervous breakdown when bad luck strikes you.Don't wait for people to turn your back on you and avoid you: when your reputation fades, they will bury you alive and make you die.Wise people know when to retire a racehorse, they don't wait for it to slump in the middle of a race and become a laughing stock.Let the beauty smash her mirror skillfully at the right time; it will be too late when the beauty is no longer able to accept the truth reflected in the mirror.

111．have friends They are your other life.In the eyes of a friend, all friends are kind and wise.When you are with them, everything will work out in the end.You are worth as much as other people want or think you are; and they will only say good things about you when they have good feelings for you in their hearts.Nothing impresses a man more than helping him; the best way to win a friend is to act like one.Most and the best part of everything we have is inseparable from other people.You have no choice but to have the company of your friends or your enemies; win a friend every day, if not a confidant to whom you pour your heart, at least a support.Choose your friends carefully, some of them will be the ones you can trust for the rest of your life. 112．win the goodwill of others Even the supreme Creator acts in this way in matters of greatest importance.A person's good reputation is gained by winning the favor of others.Some people believe so much in their own abilities that they underestimate the role of diligence.But a wise person knows very well that with the help of others, one's own ability will be like a tiger's mouth, and it will be effective in half the effort.The kindness of others makes everything easy and makes up for everything a man lacks: courage, honesty, wisdom, and even prudence.It never looks ugly if it doesn't want to.It is usually based on similarities in temperament, race, family, country or occupation.In the spiritual realm, the kindness of others can bring you gifts, support, credibility and talent.Once one has earned it - which is hard - it is very easy to keep it.You can work hard for it, but you also have to know how to use it. 113．Prepare for bad times when you are lucky It's wise to stock up on supplies for winter during the summer, and it's easier to prepare then.When good luck is with you, it is less expensive to get favors from others, and your friends are everywhere.It's always good to plan for a rainy day: everything is expensive and everything is lacking in times of adversity.Keep a group of friends and people who are grateful to you; one day you will find that people who seem unimportant now are actually valuable.A mean man has no friends when he is lucky, because he refuses to admit that others are friends; 114．don't fight When you take on your opponents, your reputation suffers.Your competitors will immediately go out of their way to find fault with you and tarnish your reputation.It is rare for one side in war to stick to the principles of justice.People in adversarial situations easily see each other's deficiencies, which are often overlooked when both parties treat each other with courtesy.Many had good reputations long before they turned against others. 115．Getting used to the shortcomings of friends, family and acquaintances Get used to the flaws of your friends, family, and acquaintances as you get used to ugly faces.If there are places where you can rely on others, you might as well accommodate them.But there are some very despicable people with whom we cannot live without them.So we must get along with them tactfully, just like people who are used to being ugly, we will not be frightened when we are used to them.At first they were scary, but gradually, they became less scary than before.We have to be careful and tolerate their unpleasantness as much as possible. 116．Deal with principled people Love principled people and win their favor, and promise to be honest with you even if they disagree with you.Because they deal with things aboveboard, they would rather compete with noble people than conquer lowly ones.Despicable people have no sense of human responsibility, so we are often helpless against them.There is no true friendship between villains.They have no sense of morality, and their words cannot be trusted, despite their sometimes sweet words.Stay away from a man who has no sense of honor, for, if he values ​​honor little, he despises morality.Honor is the throne of integrity. 117．don't talk about yourself If you talk about yourself, you will either boast for vanity, or blame yourself for inferiority, you will lose your correct judgment on yourself, and you will be despised by others.This is important among friends, and still more so when one is in a position of eminence, because he often speaks in public, and appears in public, where any vainness in him is considered stupid.It's also not wise to talk about other people in person.You are likely to be put in an awkward position by being perceived as being flattering or inappropriate. 118．to gain a reputation for being polite Politeness is the essence of culture. It is charming and can win the favor of everyone; rude words and deeds can only attract ridicule and be annoying.If you are rude and arrogant, you will be disgusting; if you are badly brought up, you will be disdained.Politeness is not afraid of being too thoughtful, but of being lacking in manners.The same goes for other things, lack of etiquette will lead to injustice.If you can treat the enemy with courtesy, it is even more commendable.Treating people with courtesy is not difficult but rewarding: respect people and you will be respected.The advantage of courtesy and respect is that we do to others without losing anything to ourselves. 119．don't be annoying Disgust often comes uninvited, so don't arouse resentment in others.People often hate other people for no particular reason.Disgust is easier to produce than pleasure; the desire for revenge is stronger than the desire for profit.Others want to be annoying: maybe they want to be unpleasant, or because they enjoy it.For them, once hatred arises, it is hard to get rid of, just like a bad reputation is hard to get rid of.They fear the man who judges well, despise the man who speaks badly, despise the arrogant man, hate the man who makes fun of others, but forgive the man who is especially good.If you want to be respected, you must respect others: if you want to be praised, you must praise others. 120．life is practical Knowledge seeks only the ordinary and the practical.In front of everyone, even if you have extraordinary intelligence, you still have to pretend not to know.People have different ways of thinking, just like people's appetites.Don't be as deep as the ancients, but be the same as today's.Pay attention to the number of people, this is the most important thing.If you want to stand out, you have to follow the herd in taste.Even when the past was more pleasing, wise people try to adapt themselves to the present, both in the packaging of their minds and their bodies.This rule can be applied to the whole world, except for the word shan, because people need to do good all the time.Many things seem old-fashioned, such as telling the truth and keeping promises.Kind people seem to belong to the good old days, but are often loved.Although such people exist, they are very rare, and most people do not imitate them.What a sad age it would be if malice prevailed and good deeds were hard to find!A wise man does what he can to protect himself, even if he cannot do so.I hope they are willing to accept the gift of fate instead of begging for it!