Chapter 37 Aspects of tutors

Aspects of tutors Since the addition of many nouveau riche families in Shanghai, the demand for private tutors has also greatly increased.This kind of teacher is usually held by women. Women are patient, so it is more appropriate to discipline children. Unfortunately, many families often do not regard teachers as teachers. Teachers are dignified, and as a result, although the job is secure, this job is not that job, and the tutor has survived in name only. There are other people, housewives are busy playing mahjong, watching dogs, dancing, not at home all day, let alone taking care of children.The children came back from school, making a lot of noise, aunts and other seniors couldn't control them, for fear of causing trouble, let's ask a tutor to tell stories, so that they fool around until dinner every day, as long as there is no trouble, the house should be quiet and the teacher Don't care if you don't teach.Otherwise, if a teacher really wants to teach, the young ladies and young masters can't bear it, and they will make a fuss instead, not just to send the teacher away endlessly.At that time, the aunts also blamed the husband for being troublesome, so they reported it to grandma, and it was over.Therefore, on such occasions, the teacher can at most be considerate of the true meaning of the family, coaxing the children blindly, perfunctory the children, making them calm and peaceful, every second is a second, and a week is a week , After January is January, once you get your salary in January, you can feel relieved. This kind of teacher can be regarded as Mu Cheng).

There are some mothers who feel very sad when they see their sons getting bad grades in school and their face is at stake.If you ask him to work hard, the child's body will be like a bud, and I'm afraid he can't bear the hardship, and he can't bear it in his heart.After much deliberation, it is better to ask someone to do it for you!Since then, someone has made a composition diary, and the English sentences are stable enough to get A (10), and there is no need to worry about trigonometry. As soon as the children come back, they put down their schoolbags and show the exercises to their husbands. Went to the movies.At this time, only my husband is left alone to work hard, and he must score a high score, and he must not be like the Qing people who did it on behalf of the Qing Dynasty.Some students like to do it once and for all, and finish all the exercises in the whole book, and record them in the diary for a month at a time, and have to talk about other temporary problems temporarily.It's just that when the children take the exam, the tutor can't follow them, so they have to help guess the questions, make outlines and try their best to teach them to be opportunistic.If you can't speculate, you can't take advantage of it, it is the teacher's dereliction of duty and should be dismissed.Isn't this kind of tutor actually a knife catcher?

There are other people, the master spends all day doing business outside, eating flowers and wine, sitting on the table, and is too busy. The wife manages the house alone, which is lonely and hard. I go to the company to buy clothes, fork mahjong to make ties, design curtains, adjust applesauce, study the shade of thrush, match gifts for the Dragon Boat Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival, listen and make phone calls for you, and inspect the toilet for leaks... Micro tutors like that, You need to be multi-talented, patient and thoughtful, good at reading people's wishes, able to read colors, and smile to accompany you. If your wife is upset, you will have additional benefits, such as giving some clothes and fruits, which are also very valuable. It is a rare luxury. enjoyment.Tutors like this can be said to be pure and clear, but their housekeeping skills are not piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, and they are not qualified to accompany Jia Zheng to visit the Grand View Garden to hold treasures. They can only be like some kind of family. It's all about being courteous to my sister.

The three kinds of tutors mentioned above actually neither teach nor are they teachers, they are just hired in response to the needs of their wives. Tutors, and this situation is also very common. The first category, they are the tutors of a certain mansion in name, but no one asked her to teach her, and she didn't ask who taught her. Picking up, I usually use her to chat and laugh to relieve boredom, and ask her to come out to help entertain the guests when they are actually guests, or play a piece of piano, or sing a popular new song with a sharp throat, to entertain the guests, it seems that it is more than a big name. It's not noble, but it doesn't cost money, as is often the case in modern families.

The second category, the male host is widowed, has many children, and because of his advanced age, he has taken great pains in choosing a successor, so he is ingenious, in the name of hiring a tutor, or asks for it in the newspaper, or asks a friend to introduce it. It's because of mud and mud.When the servant is hot, he can observe his personality, inquire about his family background, ask for it if he agrees, and thank him if he disagrees.Such tutors are indeed candidates for filling in the house, and the right to choose is up to others, and there are still those who forcefully explain the ridicule: I definitely use his ears.I don't know who is using whom?Who counts and who doesn't count?

It is said that there is an educator in Shanghai. The ladies and gentlemen have grown up early, and they have become school or tutors after they grow up. They don’t need others to be their or their tutors. But this famous educator There are still two tutors in the family's mansion, one is serving the wife, passing medicine, waiting for the doctor, waiting for chanting scriptures;Doing such a thing in such a family, and such a great educator is like a family teacher with such a good name one by one—it’s really ridiculous to hear. Someone said: money can turn ghosts. Ying said that it would be fine to ask these two tutors to serve the master, wife, lady, and young master, and it would be fine to ask them to serve the coachman, cook, and aunt in the mansion.However, things are not so simple.As far as I know, there are many governesses who are not very bad themselves, and who, as a general rule, are paid very little, and whose business expenses are greater than any profession, and they are good at nothing.Not much benefit.First, to be a tutor, you must pay attention to clothing.Gloves, sunglasses, leather mirrors and the like are all available, and none of them can be saved, and although they cannot be changed every day, they must be changed once or twice a week, otherwise they will look shabby to the servants, and even the students will look down on them. It's them) would say: "Sir, it's too cold today without changing your fur coat. The stove at home is hot, so be careful when you go out to dry." Saying this, she winked at the maids next to her, and they must have taught me these words.Second, being a tutor is at most meaningless entertainment.For example: Today, the housekeeper of the young mistress came to invite you to the theater. She bought six or seven theater tickets and gave one to you as a tutor. , you have to pay back. When you still invite, the young mistress will accompany the guests of course, and you have to bring two more, too bad.And usually the young mistress wants you to accompany her to the company, and when she buys a large bag of clothing, you always have to bring a pair or two of handkerchiefs with you. Always have to spend money!As for playing mahjong with the young lady, there is even more danger of losing money, but I dare not not play.Others, such as building block stationery for children, rewards for aunts, etc., make you have to reluctantly spend money.Third, as a tutor, you can't strictly keep time.If your appointment time is between 5 and 6 pm, but if they make an appointment with Zuo earlier: "Sir, come earlier, and help us measure the air-raid curtains." You have to go twenty minutes early.If you want to go home at six o'clock, they stop you: "Sir, let's have a light meal here, and after dinner, go to Zhaofeng Garden to watch the moon." If you charter a car to take you home, you have to pay for the cigarettes.

Since being a governess has such hardships, why are there still so many women who are not very poor robbing this job?This is to blame the vanity and power of such women.They think that being someone else's tutor is a profession, and teaching their younger siblings at home is being a parasite, which is one of them.People who hire tutors are always more generous, and it is an honor to be friends with rich people and rich wives, this is the second.Rich people have many paths, and there is hope of introducing a better way out; and rich people have many friends, which can promote communication, this is the third.In the rich family, you can learn some rich style, increase some rich knowledge, and think that you will be proud of yourself. This is the fourth.In fact, they don't have any other skills, only the ability to be servants and concubines. Since they don't get the bad name of being slaves and concubines in the park, let's keep doing it, this is the fifth.

I do not mean that all governesses are slavish and spineless.If people can really treat her with courtesy, she can also regard herself as a teacher, teach seriously, and teach some useful things, that is of course good.It's just that among the family teachers in Shanghai at present, I dare to say boldly, there are very few who hope that she can teach seriously.If you don't know the benefits of teaching, you don't know the value of teachers, let alone the way to respect teachers.Originally, the wealth of these nouveau riche depends entirely on money, and paying for tutors is not a way of showing their wealth. If there are teachers who come here to envy money, their hearts have already been captured by money and wealth. If you are subdued, if you want to be a slave, how can you get peace?Let's think about it: if such a slave is invited to be a teacher, what kind of good children can we teach?In a family that treats teachers like slaves without courtesy, how can there be good children who can be taught?

I once heard a mother from a nouveau riche family scold her son: "Men Guan, if you continue to make such noise, I will call you a tutor to take care of you tomorrow!" Asking a tutor to shout is already ridiculous, but Now it is too pitiful to be able to shout dozens or even hundreds of people with one shout.However, wait a moment for sympathy. Among such a dozen or hundreds of people, I know that only one or two are worthy of sympathy.Moreover, these two people who are worthy of sympathy must not be teachers for a full month. If they are in the upstart family, if the family can invite them to work for more than a month, then they don't have to do it anymore, because people like this Children raised in families who know the etiquette and studious, even without their education, will be excellent in character and learning.