Chapter 16 cinderella complex

The story of "Cinderella" can be seen in "Perot's Fairy Tales" in France, which is another fairy tale widely circulated in many versions. The rich man's wife died, leaving behind a little daughter.The rich man took another wife, and the second wife brought two older daughters.The stepmother and her two older sisters abused the little girl left by her ex-wife. The little girl was left alone with heavy housework. Every day she had to dig out the ashes from the hearth and clean the kitchen. The little girl was covered in dust all day long. The family calls her "Cinderella"

. Once, the king held a grand ball for three consecutive days, inviting all the people of high society to participate, and chose a fiancée for the prince.The stepmother took her two older sisters to the ball, and asked Cinderella to dress them up from top to bottom before leaving.The two sisters walked away happily, and Cinderella hid in the kitchen and cried aggrievedly. Amid the cries, a fairy who claimed to be her godmother appeared, a kind old woman who decided to help Cinderella so that she too could go to the king's ball.The fairy hollowed out a pumpkin, turned it into a beautiful carriage, caught a group of mice, turned them into several tall horses and coachmen, caught a few geckos, turned them into servants, and finally touched it with a fairy stick. Suddenly, Cinderella's tattered clothes turned into gorgeous and noble clothes, and the clogs on her feet turned into a pair of crystal shoes.

The fairy asked Cinderella to leave the dance hall and return home before twelve o'clock in the middle of the night. After this time, the carriage will turn into a pumpkin, the horse and coachman will turn into mice, and the servants will turn into geckos. Beautiful clothes , Crystal shoes will become the original tattered clothes and clogs. Cinderella set off on the road in a beautiful carriage.When she appeared at the ball dazzlingly, she immediately shocked the audience and firmly attracted the attention of the prince, who only danced with her in the whole party.When it was almost twelve o'clock in the middle of the night, Cinderella bid farewell and left the dance hall in a hurry.Naturally, the beautiful carriage disappeared, and the luxurious clothes and crystal shoes also returned to their original state.When the two sisters came back from the ball, Cinderella just listened to them happily telling about the grand occasion of the ball and how a beautiful princess danced with the prince at the ball.

On the second night, after her stepmother set off with her two well-dressed sisters, Cinderella went to the ball in a beautiful carriage turned into a pumpkin.The dazzling Cinderella is still the prince's only partner at the ball.Time passed quickly, and when it was nearly twelve o'clock in the middle of the night, Cinderella woke up suddenly and fled the dance floor quickly.When the prince came after him, the beautiful princess had disappeared.He only found a glass slipper on the steps.The guards at the gate said they saw no one but a little girl in rags passing by. After daybreak, the prince ordered the envoy to walk around the city with the crystal shoe, announcing that the prince would marry any girl who could wear the shoe.

The two sisters opened the door to greet the royal emissary.The eldest sister wore it, but her feet were too big, and she couldn’t fit it in. She cut off her big toe with scissors, and stuffed her foot in with all her strength. However, the messenger saw that the glass slipper was bleeding, and said she was unqualified.The second sister tried it on, but the shoe was still small and her foot was too big, so she couldn't fit in, so she cut off a piece of the heel with a kitchen knife, and forced to put on the shoe; but the messenger found out again, and her qualification was also disqualified.

When Cinderella wanted to try it on, both sisters stood up against it.Regardless of their objections, the messenger knelt down and put the shoes on Cinderella's feet, and it turned out that the size was exactly right.Then, Cinderella took out another same shoe from her pocket and put it on her feet.At this time, the fairy godmother appeared, and she used the wand to change Cinderella's clothes into more luxurious clothes than before. The two sisters recognize Cinderella as the beauty at the ball, and they knelt down to admit that they abused her in the past and beg her forgiveness.Cinderella kissed her sister and said she would forgive her if they treated her like their sister from now on.

Prince and Cinderella held a wedding.Cinderella helped her two sisters find rich husbands. This is the story of "Cinderella" in "Perot's Fairy Tales". We first analyze the important factors contained in this story in order to reveal a series of symbolic meanings. Fairy tales are like people's dreams, and their meanings are hidden in symbols. One, the father here is just like "Snow White", and it is in name only, does not play any role, almost as if it does not exist. In "Cinderella" in the novel, the father does appear and has some contacts with Cinderella. However, the father is still weak and does not play the slightest protective role in the oppression of Cinderella by the stepmother and two sisters.

Thus, we see the first important living environment of Cinderella: she has no father's love, no father's protection. The story of Cinderella is above all the story of a little girl who cannot get the love of her father. If you see this clearly, you can see the pattern of many similar fairy tales. They all place the heroine in a family environment without fatherly love, and unfold her life story full of sorrow and joy.This is enough to show how many girls' dreams have been cast in this world by longing for fatherly love. Second, like Snow White, Cinderella faces a mean stepmother.

Here she can be seen as either a stepmother or a mother who is too strict with her daughter.Stepmothers are rare; mothers who are unduly harsh with their daughters are more common. Cinderella's conflict with her stepmother is a girl's conflict with her domineering mother. Third, the stepmother appeared with her two daughters. In this way, there were two older sisters in Cinderella's growth environment.If the stepmother is the symbol of the mean mother, her discrimination against Cinderella is also partial. This phenomenon can often be seen in real life. Mothers or fathers cannot treat many children fairly, which may often form a profound stimulus to the children.

Fourth, when the harsh mother favors the two older sisters and discriminates against Cinderella together with the two older sisters, the youngest daughter directly faces not the mother, but the two older sisters who are pressing on her head.This becomes the most important external condition in Cinderella's life. In "Perot's Fairy Tales", the two older sisters are ugly girls, and in "Perot's Fairy Tales", the two older sisters are also beautiful, but they are as vicious and jealous as the stepmother. Cinderella grew up under the oppression of her two older sisters.Eccentric mothers are everywhere in life, and older sisters who tend to suppress younger sisters are not uncommon.

Cinderella's situation has touched thousands of readers with this symbolism. Fifth, a fairy appeared, a fairy who claimed to be Cinderella's godmother, and an elderly fairy who was kind enough. Here, fairies are nothing more than a little girl's fantasy. Cinderella longs for a kind and good mother, longing for warm maternal love.The appearance of fairies is the realization of fantasy.If the little girl has ever been sheltered by her grandmother or maternal grandmother, then, in this way, the memories of her childhood have penetrated into her. Sixth, the pumpkin that turns into a carriage, the mouse that turns into a horse and coachman, and the gecko that turns into a servant are actually toys that are not toys in the children's world, and partners that are not partners. Only a poor and lonely child will have dreamy reverie in the world of mice and geckos, where he will construct his own happy kingdom.This is a world where the little girl has no other partners except her two older sisters. Rats, geckos and other small animals appear in male form, which is also the little girl's longing for male friends in the outside world. Seven, just like the story of "Snow White", another prince appeared.This is, of course, the bling symbol of little girls like Cinderella yearning for a happy life. Girls find an ideal lover of their own and find a successful marriage, which is naturally the central content of their happiness in life. Of course, the prince not only symbolizes successful love and marriage, but also symbolizes the success and happiness of the whole life. Eighth, Cinderella found the prince, which not only meant leaving her childhood living environment, but also meant her victory over her two sisters. In "Snow White," the daughter triumphs over the mother.The daughter ultimately proves to be more beautiful and successful than her mother.In "Cinderella", the younger sister defeated the two older sisters.The younger sister turns out to be more beautiful than the two older sisters, happier than the two older sisters, and more honorable than the two older sisters. In a family with many sisters, a little girl may regard her sisters as direct competitors, and an unconscious latent impulse throughout her life is to win over her sisters.Especially those sisters who are in a weak position, if she is discriminated against by her parents like Cinderella, she may have the psychological impulse to surpass her sister. The story of Cinderella symbolizes their destiny. 9. In "Perot's Fairy Tale", the two sisters of Cinderella ended up miserable. On the way to the church to attend Cinderella's wedding, they were blinded by pigeons; Forgive, and receive her favor.These two endings are the successful end of the fantasy of a little girl like Cinderella. The sisters being pecked blind is a release of Cinderella's hatred; the two sisters admit their mistakes and get her forgiveness and care, which is still a release of her hatred.Regardless of the ending, we clearly see the dream of this little girl. They are eager to defeat their elder sister, and when they finally defeat their elder sister, there is a question of how to face the defeated. This is the problem for the victors to solve. Accepting the sister's confession, then forgiving them, and helping them magnanimously, this is actually the superior attitude of the winner. Let's summarize the Cinderella complex and see what are its important characteristics: One, this is a unique complex of a little girl who lacks paternal love, is discriminated against by her mother and suppressed by her sisters. Such a girl is completely hopeless for her father's love, because she is shielded by multiple layers of shielding from her mother and sisters; and it is probably hopeless to try to compete for her mother's favor, because her mother dotes on her sisters. In this lowly position, she might just be submissive, just as Cinderella obediently grooms her two older sisters for the prom. Cinderella is a girl who has no hope of changing her low status in the family; Cinderella complex is also a girl complex who is completely hopeless in the family. Second, these girls who grew up in a low status in family life are often full of longing and fantasies about their future life.They have a deep desire for opportunities outside the home. Faced with this opportunity, she will be more sensitive than other girls, because it is the only way out in life.It was only by this opportunity that she could imagine the bright future of her life.Therefore, although Cinderella was never discouraged by the suffering of discrimination since she was a child, she cried bitterly when she couldn't attend the king's ball. Girls like Cinderella seem to be timid and cowardly at ordinary times. However, once they are given the opportunity, they may break free from their inferiority complex and show extremely brave pursuits.As long as they have beautiful carriages and clothes, they will bravely go to the glorious ball that seems to have nothing to do with them. Third, Cinderella, who lost her father's love since she was a child, of course yearns for the protection of a man who is like a father, but at the same time longs for the protection of a woman with a mother's love like a fairy godmother. If she only faces a domineering mother in the family, she may only have hostility towards her mother and longing for fatherly love; however, when her mother's discrimination and her sister's oppression fall on her together, her relationship in the family will be even more difficult. Complicated. Standing in front of her is more of the oppression of the two sisters.It was her sister's oppression that even made her forget her mother's discrimination.A little girl growing up in this kind of family may be hostile to her mother on the one hand, and on the other hand fantasize about winning her mother's favor in the struggle with her sister. The appearance of the fairy godmother is a hidden expression of this fantasy. Fourth, as far as the main content is concerned, the Cinderella complex is a complex of a girl who longs to overcome her sister who oppresses her.The desire to defeat her sister has become the source of Cinderella's lifelong fantasies and the driving force for her actions. When she was young and weak, she was immersed in the fantasy of defeating her sister.When she grows up a little bit, whether it is study, life, or work, she will work hard to defeat her sisters in action. There are no conditions or opportunities for competition in the family.When she arrived at school and society, she began to struggle in the vast world.She will bravely go to every grand ball, hoping that she will eventually be more beautiful and successful than her sister.Her whole life has been in such uncontrollable endeavors. Maybe she didn't realize it, but whether she was studying at school, working in the society, or falling in love and getting married, she would always look around from a distance or near to those childhood memories that had weighed on her head. sisters.Every little step above them would please her. When sisters meet, they may chat and laugh about the close friendship between sisters, and our Cinderella must think so.However, her subconscious mind is making comparisons from time to time, comparing their achievements, status, appearance, clothing, husbands and even children.If she finally surpassed her sister in all aspects, she would gain a kind of psychological balance.If this transcendence puts her at a greater distance from her sisters, she has the tolerance of a victor. A Cinderella who has achieved greatness in life will be magnanimous in helping her older sister, just as Cinderella in the fairy tale helped her two older sisters find rich husbands. Cinderella complex is a complex of a little girl who has been in a low position in the family since she was a child; Cinderella complex is a strong complex longing to get ahead. In human society, the Cinderella complex has caused countless women to strive for motivation and achievements. Fairy tales have high research value only when they are widely circulated.If it is just something written by one person and read by several people, there is no need to examine it as a general psychological picture of human beings. Those fairy tales that are widely spread often have a long process of spreading.For example, most of the stories in the book have a long history of formation and circulation among the people. When they were compiled into books by the Brothers Grimm, they have been widely spread to the world for more than a century. "Cinderella" naturally went through this process.Like many fairy tales, it has been influenced by all aspects of human culture during its spread. Centuries and more ago, human medical conditions were much simpler than they are now.Childbirth is also a life-threatening event, and the number of women who die from childbirth or other diseases is naturally much higher than in modern times.The proportion of husbands marrying second wives and children having stepmothers is probably higher than in modern times. The phenomenon of stepmothers may become more prominent material in folk stories.Looking at it this way, or the stories of a large number of stepmothers who abuse their children in other fairy tales, it seems to be better understood. According to some scholars' research, the crystal slipper in "Cinderella" comes from the influence of Chinese women's foot-binding culture.It is said that the plot of Cinderella dropping a shoe first appeared in China.Probably only in the history of China has there been widespread foot binding, and small feet have become an important symbol of women's beauty.With an explanation of this historical culture, it may be easier to understand the plot of the two sisters in the story of "Cinderella" who "cut their feet to fit their shoes". If this textual research is true, it will further show that fairy tales have absorbed social culture from the beginning of their creation to the entire process of spreading.Like a river flowing through thousands of ravines, all kinds of water and sand will be gathered in it. In "Perot's Fairy Tale", Cinderella's two sisters were blinded by pigeons, and in "Perot's Fairy Tale", Cinderella helped the two sisters find a rich husband.The different versions only show that the story of "Cinderella" was immersed in the culture of different nations and regions in the process of spreading. If the Brothers Grimm and Perrault have also made different modifications to the collected stories, then this is still a reflection of the social and cultural immersion in the process of spreading fairy tales. Today's study of fairy tales like "Cinderella" is not only because they have been widely circulated, but also because they are still widely circulated today.When a fairy tale has been passed around the world for centuries and longer, we have to discover the most general things about human beings in it. In a narrow sense, "Cinderella" is the story of a little girl who lost her father's love and was discriminated against by her mother and sisters; in a broad sense, it is the story of all low-status girls. Cinderella has never had any sense of superiority since she was a child. She spends her whole life trying to prove the adage: the humble are the wisest. Here we associate.This literary masterpiece had a particularly profound impact on female readers.It is especially loved by women who are lonely, timid, and inferior. Jane Eyre is a typical Cinderella. She lost her parents since she was a child, experienced discrimination and bullying, and grew up in the dark like Cinderella. She finally won the victory in life with her noble character and perseverance. When the story of the story is widely circulated among generations of women, it does not show that this is a Cinderella fairy tale with realistic content.Of course, as modern life becomes more and more affluent, people are farther and farther away from that life, and there are obviously far fewer female readers today than there were a few decades ago. However, there are always little girls in the world, and there are always low status and low self-esteem. When the low status and low self-esteem fall on some little girls, even if it is only for a moment, we will see the Cinderella complex appear more or less. "Cinderella" and stories similar to "Cinderella" continue to draw vitality from these complexes. If one day there is no Cinderella in human society, no such a lovely little girl, the story of "Cinderella" will still be preserved as an excellent cultural heritage.