Chapter 29 Talk about the game

People with tragic personalities, the most important thing to learn is to "hang in the air" before the game; "pick up" during the game; "let go" after the game. If a person can be constantly restless and self-aware of insufficiency, but reflect everywhere and enrich himself, wouldn't he be able to make greater progress? grab more beans This evening, I called back to New York from Taipei, and my mother said that she just got off the phone with you and that you were not in a good mood.The reason is that during class, the teacher called four students to perform, and the first one called you. You practiced very well, but you didn’t perform well on stage.

Child! I found that you have always had the problem of worrying about gains and losses, and I can see from a young age that every time you finish an important exam, you are always unhappy when you go home, saying that you failed the exam, but when the results come out, it is often the whole class, even the whole class. It is the highest in the school. This spring you took the New York State Music Appraisal, and it was the same. When you got home, you were depressed and said that you had played a wrong note; your parents said you were just worrying about it, but it turned out that you got 100 points in the test.

In fact, I can't laugh at you, because I also have this problem.Ever since I was a child, I have always underestimated myself. Every time I took the entrance exam, I thought it was over when I came back, but after the results were announced, I was often surprised by surprises. Probably this is the tragic character that thinks of the worst in everything—— When holding an event on a sunny day, you have to prepare a tent in case it rains suddenly; when you buy a new pair of trousers, you always have to check the trousers carefully, lest they are not sewn properly and you need to wear them when you go out; I was afraid that it would not be closed properly, and I would fall out the door as soon as I turned a corner; it is obviously a peaceful and prosperous world, and there are social benefits, and I always have to deposit a lot of cash in the bank for emergencies.

This tragic character of worrying about gains and losses will indeed make us often unhappy.But from another point of view, isn’t it an advantage to always take a step back and plan ahead? If a person can often feel uneasy, often feel inadequate, reflect everywhere, and enrich himself, wouldn’t he be able to make greater progress? Of course, a tragic personality may also have a bad influence. For example, when everyone admires the moonlit night sky on the Tamsui River, he may lament the pollution of the river; when everyone celebrates the victory of the game, he may start to worry about the next game.What's worse is that many people are pessimistic while taking exams and competing, so a candidate may only write a few questions, but he will not be able to do it when he encounters them. I fell in the first triple jump, and I kept thinking "It's over! It's over!" in my heart, causing a vicious circle, and I continued to fall.

Therefore, you can have a tragic character, but you should use it to strengthen yourself instead of accumulating "uneasiness" and crushing yourself in the end.We often say that we must "be able to afford it and let it go". People with tragic personalities, the most important thing to learn is to "hang in the air" before the game; "pick it up" during the game;I have said more than once that "people who always look back can't run fast", that's why. As I said before, I also have the problem of worrying about gains and losses since I was a child. Guess how I learned to let go?

I believe you will remember the example I once gave of a thousand mixed beans in a jar, half white and half black.When you only pick up three beans, it may be two white and one black, two black and one white, or all three may be black, or all three may be white.But when you grab a lot at a time, counting down, the bibi will be almost one to one. From this incident, I found that if you are afraid that you will be out of order on the spot, you will not be able to speak well in speeches, fail in exams, or fail to show your true strength, the best way is to give more lectures, take more tests, and try more times .

Think about it, if you only have one performance this year, if you succeed, you will succeed, and if you fail, you will fail. How nervous would you be? But if you have more than a dozen performances this year, would you still care so much? It doesn’t matter if you fail this time! After reflection and improvement, there will be another game.Gradually, you feel that performances, competitions or exams have become commonplace, of course you will not be nervous, and of course you can show your strength. I even saw a girl who kept participating in beauty pageants for several years, losing and losing repeatedly.At that time, I thought to myself that she just looks like this, and she will never become more beautiful, even getting older every year, why bother?

The problem is that the girl improved every time, every time there was a typhoon, and every time she performed better than one quiz, she just chose the first place. Children! Think about it, even participating in beauty pageants, you can improve more and more, and show your strength more and more, not to mention music performances. So I suggest you, grab a lot of beans at a time, try to participate in performances, go on stage whenever you have the opportunity, and even if you don’t perform well, immediately put your regrets and self-blame behind you, and then go to the next performance, you will naturally It will become more and more stable.

Oh! That's right! Mom said today that you found out that the dormitory you lived in at the music camp was not a stable, but a converted chicken coop. How interesting! Hope it doesn't stink of chicken, but I did draw a cartoon - "The Chicken Coop Concert" and send it to you. Didn’t you say that the students don’t know Chinese, but can only understand the cartoon drawn on Dad’s letter? Let them look at this picture and see how many funny things they can say.