Chapter 27 talk about fairness

child!The older you are, the more you will find that there are many injustices in this world! You can turn grief into strength.But you can't resent, because resentment can only make you more extreme, less rational, and even cause greater failure. Is this world fair? Today you pouted as soon as you entered the door and said that you didn't win a prize in the school poetry club competition. Then I saw you go upstairs, wipe your tears in the bathroom, and cry and say that even the American Poet Journal included your work, but the school competition was not named.He also said that the English teacher said that your writing was very good, and the classmates also said that it was great. They thought you would definitely win the prize, and there must be something wrong in the middle.

"What could go wrong?" I asked. "Maybe the poem was lost, and it didn't reach the judges." "Who did you give the poem to?" I asked again. "Give it to the English teacher." You said.But I also said that you have already asked the English teacher, and the teacher said that it has been sent in a long time ago. "Then do you want to look it up, go to each level and ask, or ask the judges if they have seen your poem?" I said.But seeing you stamp your feet, you said unhappily: "What's the use of asking? The competition is over, the classes are over, and I have graduated. Even if the poem is really lost, it will be too late to find it."

Son, I'm going to tell you now.When you feel that there is a problem, unhappy, or unconvinced, you have only three ways to go - one is to investigate to see if there are any mistakes; Is it because I have weaknesses, and the works are not good but I don’t know it. Since you are not happy, you are not willing to investigate, and you have not reviewed it, what is the point of being sullen here? This is not a positive attitude towards life! Moreover, you said that the game is over, and it is useless to check.It seems that you are too selfish and a little selfish. Why don’t you think that if it is found out that someone has lost documents, or the method of the competition is not good, and even if the responsible person admits his mistake and apologizes, it will not be possible to make the organizer The personnel are alarmed, so that those who participate in the competition in the future will no longer suffer?

This is like when an article involving discrimination was published in a school magazine a while ago, why Chinese parents were so angry and even published the news in the newspaper.Can't they also say that the article has already been published, so it's useless to argue? They fought to make teachers and students vigilant, and stop publishing racially biased texts in the future, so that the children of ethnic minorities will not suffer in the future! Also, you keep saying that it is unfair and unfair, and that works worse than yours have won awards, but you are not listed.I also have a problem with the "unfair" you said, if someone else loses your work, it is not unfair, it is just a "mistake"; only when you participate in a competition and someone deliberately belittles your work That's unfair.

And, I want to ask you, is everything fair in this world? Why are some people beautiful and some ugly; some tall and some short; In a wealthy and stable country? This world is not fair! Let me tell you something, when I was in Taipei, a little girl came to me and cried, saying that she should be able to get the mayor award after graduation, but because each school has a certain quota, one of them was given to the child of the head of the parents, Another was given to a toddler with a brain tumor and ended up crowding her out.When the award was presented, she played in the band. Seeing her classmates who were not as good as her receive the award, she burst into tears. She felt that it was so unfair.

As I listened, my tears were falling.But after I listened to it, I said to her: You have to think about how pitiful that child with a brain tumor is! It is not easy for him to have such a serious illness and undergo so many surgeries, yet still have good grades.In terms of grades, it is really unfair that he is ranked ahead of you when he is worse than you.But from another perspective, isn’t it unfair for a child who is only twelve years old to have a brain tumor? Why don’t you think about your luck and be grateful? Children! The older you are, the more you will find that there are many injustices in this world.For those injustices, you can fight vigorously, just like the blacks in the United States fought for civil rights, and spend hundreds of years to fight for them; otherwise, you have to turn that resentment into strength, and have more outstanding achievements in the future, and use that success as your "strength." proof" and counter your enemies with that success too.

But remember: You can turn grief into strength.But you can't resent, because resentment can only make you more extreme, less rational, and even cause greater frustration.