Chapter 14 talk about fear

If you were in danger while climbing a mountain today, you just need to grab a small tree on the side of the mountain to prevent you from falling, but there is a snake wrapped around the small tree, should you grab it or not? child!In our lives, we often have to face cruel choices. At that moment, you can only choose one, either one or the other. choose between life and death Today when you were playing the piano, a big fly flew in from outside the door, and strung around in several rooms. Whenever the fly flew near you, I heard you screaming. "I'm afraid! I'm just going to be scared!" You shout when I blame you for making a fuss.

"Of course you will be frightened." I said: "But you have to control yourself, don't be frightened, because 'scared' It's not dangerous, what's really dangerous is the 'big jump'!" But you still kept screaming, and didn't practice the piano again until I killed the fly. Child, do you know that my brother also had a problem when he was a child? He is very ticklish, just scratch him a little bit and he will itch like you did today. But have you noticed that my brother is not ticklish at all now.Did you know that was trained by your mother?

Because when my brother was young, once my mother went to school and saw a group of children fighting and fighting on the stairs. You hail me, I hail you. Everyone hides and hides, and they may fall down the stairs at any time. It is really too dangerous. So from that day on, my mother trained my brother to itch every day and ordered him to endure it.Unexpectedly, after training him for a while, he was really ticklish. My brother has never been really itchy, but because he knows how to control himself and not overreact. "Overreaction" often leads to big trouble. When I first came to the United States, I had a friend who loved to overreact. When he drove over any small pothole on the road, he would dodge it. He said that if he didn’t dodge it, the car would be easily damaged due to vibrations.

But his car broke down faster than anyone else, and not only did the car break down, but he always got into accidents. The reason is simple—he overreacted. Although he dodged some small potholes, he was distracted and ignored other cars on the road, so he collided with other cars several times, and the difference was fatal. Overreaction, the biggest harm is distraction.You see, TV news often reports that the car caused a big car accident because of a flashing small animal.Every time on the highway, when you see the corpse of a small animal crushed into a bloody, thin piece, when you scold those drivers for being cruel, I am not telling you that one day when you drive, if you find a small animal lying on it In the middle of the road, and the car is moving fast, can you only choose to drive straight up?

At that critical juncture, you must know the choice, tell yourself with reason, and control your emotional reaction. You must know that when you brake suddenly, it is likely to cause a series of car accidents, and many people will die as a result. I remember when I was sixteen or seventeen, I often loved to climb mountains.Once, in the deep mountains of Wulai, it was pouring rain, and I walked across a single-plank bridge over a small waterfall; suddenly a big snake rushed down the waterfall, slapped, and wrapped itself around the single-plank bridge in front of my feet. My God! Think about it, how scary that is! If it were you, would you fall off the bridge in fright?

The problem is, there is a mountain stream tens of meters deep under the bridge. If I had not controlled myself and overreacted at that time, I would not have you today. So although I was afraid of snakes, at that moment, I forced myself to calm down, and then kicked the snake down while the snake was still fully awake. Speaking of this, I want to ask you, if you were in danger while climbing a mountain today, you could only hold on to a small tree on the side of the mountain to avoid falling, but there is a snake wrapped around the small tree, should you catch it or not? Of course you catch it, right?

Then let me ask you again, if there was a big earthquake today, and I was crushed by fallen things, knowing that you could not help, and shouting "Run, run!" to you, would you stay with me? Do I die together, or listen to me and run out immediately? Perhaps it is too cruel for me to give such an example.But, child! In our lives, we often have to face cruel choices. At that moment, you can only choose one, not both; the lesser of two evils, you must use reason to overcome emotion to survive down.As I said to you in the letter "When You Met the Big Bad Wolf", when you unfortunately fall into the hands of bad guys and encounter rape, in order to save your life, you have to give up useless resistance. Only in this way can you ask for help and seek help. The possibility of returning to justice.

After hearing so much, do you understand? Why do I say that you can be "scared", but you can't be "scared"! Note: "When You Met the Big Bad Wolf" see page 15 of "Miss, Miss, Don't Be Angry" published by Shui Yunqi Culture.