Chapter 4 be a princess and prince

"In order to make you a lady of the family, I'm afraid we will take you to some more parties in the future." At dinner last night, I told you that you pouted very unhappy, saying that you don't like socializing, and that you are so busy with your homework that you have no time for socializing.He also said, "What does entertainment have to do with being a lady?" Well, now let me analyze the relationship among them—— Twenty-seven years ago, I came to the United States at the invitation of the Danville Art Museum in Virginia. At that time, I lived in the home of the curator, Dr. Janning, and I always went out to socialize with the owner and his wife.

I hate socializing, especially at a pre-dinner reception where people stand crowded with goblets. While chatting with the person opposite, I have to use the corner of my eye to see if anyone is greeting, and I have to put on a picture Smiling face, the corners of the mouth are sour.My English was terrible at the time, but the vocabulary they used became deeper and deeper, as if they didn't use difficult words, so they didn't appear learned and noble. Many of them are indeed descendants of British aristocrats. After immigrating to the United States, they stayed in that conservative Virginia town for generations.Because of this, they retain a bunch of "old rules".

For example, once I went to a mansion for dinner, and when the food was served, I saw that the hostess had already picked up the spoon, so I followed suit. When I got home, Dr. Janning said that I need to know next time. I have to wait for the hostess to taste it first, and then nod to the waitress standing next to me before I can start it.Just like drinking, the waiter will pour a little bit into the host's cup first, and the host will taste it first, indicating that the taste is good, and then the waiter will continue to fill it up for everyone.So if I am the host, I must start to taste the wine first, otherwise the waiter who pours the wine will stand by and don't know what to do.

Of course, "Princess and Prince" may not be produced by rich people.I once went to a wealthy family to attend a reception.At the meeting, someone mentioned that the host's young lady played the piano well, and asked the little princess to play a piece. Unexpectedly, the little princess played her princess temper, coyly, saying that she didn't know the tunes well, and she didn't want to perform, even the hostess and hostess couldn't persuade her. In the end, she stomped her feet and ran away.Fortunately, some guests resolved the embarrassing situation, changed their target, and said, "! Doesn't Miss XX here also like to play the piano?" Then everyone's eyes turned to a girl of fourteen or five years old.

The girl smiled and said that she hadn't prepared in advance, and she might not be able to play well. Please don't expect too much, then walked to the piano openly, announced the title of the song, and then sat down to play. As expected, she was not very familiar with it, so she forgot several times during the performance, thought about it, and then continued to play.But after playing, he stood up and apologized to everyone with a sweet smile, in exchange for warm applause from the audience. Afterwards for several days, I heard everyone commenting that the "every lady" was so small that she became "Xiaojiabiyu"; on the contrary, "Xiaojiabiyu" was as generous as "every lady".

It can be seen from this that it is not necessarily the "ladies of the family" who come out of wealthy families, and the "princesses" who come out of the palace; even if the family's financial situation is very bad, If you can behave generously and refined, you can also give people the feeling of being a lady. child!When you get older, others will gradually stop treating you as a child; when your mother is away, you have to come out and play the role of the hostess.You are beginning to learn to deal with it generously and hide your emotions from everyone!It is precisely because of this that I think our family should hold a party occasionally, or take you out to socialize as much as possible, so that you can have more experience.

Of course, if you are really busy and don't have time to go out, you can also imagine that there are often parties at home. Think about it, if there is a party tomorrow, should the towels and soap boxes in your bathroom be neatly arranged?Should the toothbrush and toothpaste be put in the cabinet after use? Is your toilet lid closed when you're done using it? Do you want to pick up the hair that falls on the ground at any time? Is your bed made?Are the pillows in place?Are the decorative pillows leaning against the bed? Are your desk and bookshelves organized and classified at any time?

Have you dusted off the picture frames on your closet? child!Every girl can imagine herself as a princess; every boy can imagine herself as a prince. The problem is, being a princess and a prince is hard work!Everyone who dreams of a princess and prince has to self-examine—— "Have I trained myself to be the person of my dreams?" I believe that now you must understand why I said "to make you a lady, we will take you to participate in some entertainment in the future".