Chapter 13 Thirteen

On the battlefield of life, those who are not accurate in shooting but can draw the gun quickly and shoot a lot often become the nemesis of the sharpshooter. flexible tactics When you entered the house after school, you hurriedly took a computer, sat across from me, and typed the number: 0.1134 "Dad, take a look, what is this?" "0.1134," I said with a glance. "Look again!" "Isn't it 0.1134?" I looked at the computer carefully again. "No! Look again!" "I've seen it, it's 0.1134!" You suddenly jumped up excitedly: "Haha! Why are you so brainless! From your direction, no matter how you look at it, it won't be 0.1134, but it should be HELLO, it's Hello! It's Hello! Daddy, do you recognize Hello?" ?”

Seeing you running out of the study triumphantly, I called you to stop: "Let's get down to business first, can I ask you to get the slides developed by Manhattan?" "Oh! No! Because it's three hours and I can't wait!" "There will be no classes on Saturday tomorrow, and Monday is a holiday. I am in a hurry. What should I do?" "I don't know either. Should I go now? I'm afraid it's closed too!" You spread your hands: "Although the laundromat is open tomorrow, I have classmates who want to come, so I can't go into town!"

"Are there any classmates who live in Manhattan?" "Ah! That's right!" You clapped your hands: "Mark lives near the cleaning shop. I asked him to bring it along. Call him and the cleaning shop now!" So it's my turn to tease you: Why are you so stubborn!This road is blocked, and there are other roads leading to it. If you encounter a blockage, just stay there. Wouldn’t it be a big mistake for me?In particular, you must know that in the battlefield of life, if your brain is slow, you are likely to fail. Let me tell you the story of an old publishing friend who got crushed years ago:

Through my connections, my old friend found a foreign book that was about to hit the market and was sure to sell well.He immediately handed it over to a scholar for translation, and when the translation reached two-thirds, he began to publicize it. "Now that it's listed abroad, aren't you afraid that others will snatch you up?" I asked him. "What are you afraid of? No matter how fast the translation is, it's too late for us to finish the manuscript!" He said triumphantly, and continued to promote it. Unexpectedly, he had just sent it for typesetting, and there were already translations on the market.Others took advantage of his publicity and immediately became a bestseller. By the time he finished typesetting, proofreading, printing, and binding, he had already lost the opportunity.

Did someone else get the original book earlier? no!Others are later than him. But the other party split a thick original work into more than 20 copies immediately, and handed them over to more than 20 people for translation.What was supposed to be two months of work was completed in three days! I believe that the other party's translation is definitely not as good as my friend's because of the inconsistent style of writing.The problem is that on the battlefield of life, those who are not accurate in shooting but can draw fast and shoot more often become the nemesis of sharpshooters.

The opponent won!He won because of his "immortality".When others see things from one angle, he starts from a different angle.Isn't this the same as your computer game? You may have read these two stories: The father put the apple in the middle of the carpet and said to the children: "Whoever can get the apple without using anything to hook it and step on the carpet will win!" But rolled up the rug and got the apple. Sima Guang played with a group of children when he was a child. One child accidentally fell into a large water tank. The other children tried their best to rescue the child from above, but they couldn’t pull the child below. Only Sima Guang took his time and broke it with a stone. The water tank rescued the child who drowned in it.

Do you still remember the TV report that a large truck was carrying a machine on the New Jersey Bridge, and because the machine was more than half a foot away from the iron frame at the bridgehead, there was a long queue of cars behind it? When many people were helpless, a child said, "Why don't you let the air out of the tire?" It actually solved a big problem. When you find that the original plan doesn't work, don't think about how much effort was spent on that plan, or how perfect it is, because it doesn't work and it doesn't work, and even the perfect plan is useless.the most important is:

You must immediately find other feasible paths.The quicker you react, the more successful you will be! Even if the god of death knocks on the door and tells us to leave tomorrow, we must live well today! man is born to live Late last night, I suddenly received a long-distance call from Taipei saying that your second aunt passed away!Died in the prime of life at the age of forty-nine. "She's gone! Before she had time to say anything, she just went like that!" Your second uncle shouted on the phone, as if full of injustice and doubts, thinking that it was impossible.He was shouting, but there was no sound; he didn't believe it, but the second aunt went after all, and left us for real, never coming back, forever, forever!

I sat blankly, and saw you in the corner of the study, stopped typing on the computer, straightened my back, and there was no sound.Then secretly wiped away tears, and called several relatives in the United States.Then go to the studio and sit face to face with your mother. "Why do we have so many friends recently, sick and dead?" Your mother finally broke the silence. I'm also thinking about this question.First, my colleague Dr. Quinlan, who was only in his early 40s, did not go to work one day and did not ask for leave. The secretary dialed the phone and rang the bell, but there was no response. When the police opened the door, they found him lying on the sofa, stiff for a long time.Then there is Cui in the broadcasting industry. Before I returned to China, I called and invited me to host the show; when I returned to the United States, I was no longer alive.Then Lin, a high school classmate who lived across the street, suddenly felt dizzy. An ambulance sent him to the hospital, where it was found that the tumor had compressed the optic nerve. Immediately, an operation was performed to make a hole from the nasal cavity to the pituitary gland.At that time, I asked your second aunt to visit the sick, but how did you know that the second aunt who went to visit someone died first herself!

I remember when I was in college, I once chatted with an elder. He said, "Do you know what is forty? Forty is the age when you must take a vitamin every day to feel at ease!" I have always kept this sentence in my heart.But today, when I really stepped into the 40th year of my life, I realized that the biggest feeling I got from being 40 years old turned out to be: Learn to face the death of relatives and friends and yourself! I couldn't help asking in pain: Why didn't the previous generation teach us about "death" earlier? yes!I think "death" can be taught, not to teach us to die, but to teach us how to face and how to establish a philosophy of death.Otherwise, it will be difficult for us to bear the loss of our loved ones.

Your mother is in the school and specializes in reviewing the admission of new students. She found that some students have good grades in high school for several years, but suddenly drop in a certain year, often due to family changes.The most important of these is the death of a loved one! An old Chinese gentleman was also used in the school office. He is a Ph.D. from Harvard University, but under the request of a psychologist, he worked two days a week without pay and did things that elementary school students would do. The purpose was to contact people. ! Do you know why?Because he couldn't accept the fact that his wife died, he almost lived in a fantasy world. But I also have a friend who, although deeply in love with his wife, survived the death of his wife.Because he came home from the cemetery, he threw the furniture out.Wallpapers, sofas, and bedding are all replaced with new ones, and I often go out on vacation.He said: "See things and think about people! The dead are already dead, what's the use of crying? After all, the living have to live! Martha (his wife) knows the truth and hopes that I can overcome the pain. To love her is to live well! Not follow to die!" With these three examples, and the passing of my second aunt, I want to tell you: In the past, I had the old concept of Chinese parents, hoping that you would go to a nearby university and even get married in the future and live together.But I have changed it now!I hope you go to a university far away and don't live together in the future. Because being filial to your parents is not clinging to your family.A sticky child is like a vine, unable to stand upright by itself, and a entangled tree lacks freedom.The biggest problem is that most of us will take a step ahead. If we live together every day, our shadow will be in every corner of the house, which will cause a greater blow to you in the future. Children love their parents, and they should help their parents fulfill their wishes, lest both parties regret. Parents who love their children should help them overcome the pain of parting from death, and walk the road ahead with strength after the death of their parents. I hope that you will establish an outlook on life about death and arm yourself spiritually from a young age.And remember: Man is born to live, not to die! Even if the god of death knocks on the door and tells us to leave tomorrow, we must live well today!