Chapter 16 12(2)

I always want to help Mira, but I know my methods are clumsy, and I am afraid that the letter will reveal a preaching tone and a parental face.Young people have a different view of middle-aged and elderly people, especially young Western women.You should pay attention to what my letter does to Mira: if she thinks I'm too rigid, pedantic, etc., tell me quickly, so that I can improve the wording of the letter later.I never blame her, but I desperately need to know how she responds to adjust the way I teach.You must seek truth from facts, and do not whitewash the peace and distort the truth: in the long run, this method can only do great harm.If there is any discord between you and her, we will explain and persuade; if there is any discord between her and us, you will explain and persuade: Only in this way can we achieve the so-called "helping each other in the same boat".You can pick out one or two topics to discuss with her about the issues I talked about in the Chinese letter; I can also tell her about Min’s situation: this is called insinuating, it makes her understand us better, I know her chores, Lili I am so busy outside, so I dare not urge her to study.I have repeatedly hoped that your economy will be stable, that you will lay a solid foundation as soon as possible, that you will reduce performances as much as possible, so that you can have more leisure time in your family. (If you want someone to advance to a higher education, you must give him a lot of time.) I have repeatedly suggested that you go for a walk in the forest or in the countryside, and go to the museum to appreciate masterpieces. Most of it is for you, and a small part is also for Mira.More contact with nature and plastic arts can make people calm and open-minded (the ancients said "cleaning the dust in the chest", which probably means this), and maintain mental and psychological health.Only by not claiming to be the "spirit of all things" in front of all living beings and all things can we get rid of our arrogance, break the vulgar dream of luxury and money, develop an indifferent and free-spirited mind, and at the same time expand our sympathy.Only by appreciating the dramas of the predecessors and seeing the great creations of human beings can we not be pessimistic about the situation in front of us, so as to spur ourselves and do our best to leave some achievements in the world.The above are but some of the benefits of contact with nature and the plastic arts;

You can understand the rest on your own. Afternoon of September 14, 1961 A few days ago, I carefully browsed your programs in 1960 and 2012, and found that you practiced very few new works. On the one hand, there are too many performances, on the other hand, your expression methods and techniques are fluctuating and changing, and you don’t have the time, energy and necessary mood to practice new works.These are not difficult to understand; but for a long-term plan, we must consider the problem of increasing the "curve code" as soon as possible.In which year is it expected that more time will be freed up, and what will be the daily classes in the future?

Arranging to squeeze out time, how to speed up the details of daily life, so as not to take up a lot of working time...all need to be carefully planned. There are too few opportunities to perform modern works in the UK. Are there more opportunities in the US and Australia?However, things that have been put down for a long time, such as Prolifiev and Shostakovich's Shonada and Bartok's Concerto that I practiced in Warsaw, I am afraid that they will not be able to take the stage after a short period of review. ,Yes or no?But you might as well talk to me about the study plan in this area!

In the middle of the night on October 5, 1961, you only performed three times in August, September and February, but it seemed that you were not as worried about your physical and mental health and balance as I was once;Let's just talk about skills, sometimes it's just awkward, if you leave it for an afternoon and run in nature, maybe you can solve it smoothly the next day. A person's psychological activities always need a period of gestation. If you insist on overcoming difficulties when you are immature, you will only get upset and waste your energy.The same is true for musical understanding.I always think you make a mistake, too much emphasis on understanding music through the music itself.Your thoughts and beliefs are not so narrow, and you are very good at using your imagination; but you have too little contact with other arts other than music, especially nature.Reading scores, practicing piano, listening to records all day long? Over time, it will reduce the freshness of art, tend to be abstract, closed, and lack the vitality of life and the momentum of fighting.I often have a premonition of such a crisis for you, and I can't help but remind you early, and ask you to prevent it as soon as possible.Your major is very different from mine.I don't need much innovation, and I'm not an innovative person: years of cooping up at home won't hurt business.Your art needs to be created all the time. Even to understand the spirit of the original work, you have to explore it from many aspects (feelings other than music): it is precisely because the past masters "bubbled" from nature and from all aspects of life. Those who came out sublimated all reality into emotion (emotion) and sentiment (sentiment), so the works expressing them had to take the same path.You don't know these theories at first, but you don't seem to believe in them to the extent that you practice them.In addition, I am very surprised: you are younger, you should love sports more than me; you also have a strong love for nature: why do you not want to get close to nature in real life?I remember very clearly that I was in Paris, Switzerland, Italy, and the French countryside when I was twenty-two or three years old. I often walked alone on the green grass by the water in the forest under the moonlight and stars, breathing the strong smell of grass, earth, and water, or borrowing This relieves depression, or contemplates.Even when I was in Shanghai in my thirties, I felt calmer and healthier when I went to the park.Most people who come into contact with things that stimulate the senses (music is the most powerful one) will unknowingly lose their physical and mental balance.Since you yearn for the Greek spirit, why don't you follow the example of the ancient Greeks?Since you love Tao Qian and Li Bai, why don't you try to experience the realm of "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence and seeing Nanshan leisurely" (real experience)?Since you have been familiar with Christophe since you were a child, you will never forget the relationship between Christophe and nature?And plastic arts, don't be satisfied with some hanging at home: why not go to the British Museum for a while?Presumably you will answer me that there is no time:

If you do this, you have to give up that.However, during the summer vacation, there is relatively free time. Don’t you have time to go to the suburbs and art museums once or twice?As long as you are interested, even if you are not on vacation, you may also go to the art gallery on purpose and stay in front of one or two favorite paintings for a quarter of an hour and a half.It doesn't need to be too much, you only need to concentrate on one or two pictures each time, and it takes less than an hour and a half to go back and forth; the harvest accumulated invisibly is not small!When you say what I said in the letter, you "haven't heard a single word too hard to hear"; well, then I hope you can slowly brew your thoughts on this point, consider my suggestion, and give it a try whenever you have the opportunity, how about it?OK?I have worked hard for you all my life, and you have experienced it in recent years.But I am prematurely aging, and I often feel that there is not much to do. I always try to use my only power to help you and guide you within the scope of my vision, especially to point out your body, mind and art early. Crisis that may occur in the aspect, so that you can avoid it in advance. The four words "speak earnestly and earnestly" cannot be more appropriate to describe my attitude towards you.As long as you truly love your father, yourself, and your art, you will definitely consider my advice seriously and accept my sincerity for decades!

You also understand that relaxation on the piano requires mental relaxation first: excessive indoor life and study life are the main reasons for the nervousness and morbidity of modern intellectuals; The state of concentrating on the mind can only be obtained from nature, you can't deny it, can you? There is also a very important point: Mira is five years younger than you, so she should be an active age.If you closed your household, wouldn't it make her feel desolate?And judging by her temperament, she also loves art and nature, so she should appreciate it together, which is beneficial to both of them.Only those who are constantly in touch with forests, streams, flowers and trees, birds and beasts, insects and fish, and masterpieces in art galleries will always maintain the ideal of childlike innocence, purity and beauty.What's the use of volunteering to cultivate a person?Mainly start with action!No matter how excellent the seeds are, without the proper environment, water and soil, and nutrients, it will be difficult to bloom and bear fruit, and they may deteriorate or die in the middle.Mila's mother, Nora, is not bad and impure in nature. It is because she and Ishti lack a common belief and love, and lack a common devoiion (effort goal), that's how she ended up.

Even with common ideals and goals, older partners still need to give her firm guidance, lead her on a healthy path, help her develop, and give her the environment and conditions for her possible development.You must not only care about your art, but also take care of your life partner.People performing on stage in the 20th century are not comparable to performers in the previous century. He is much more nervous, has a much heavier workload, has a much more hectic life, and is more dependent on a good wife.Therefore, taking care of Mira with some energy (cultivation, rest, recreational activities...) is actually still for your art; although it is indirect, the impact and consequences are greater than you imagined.

First of all, you have to take your father's shortcoming - bad temper as a deep warning, and secondly, you can't expect Mira to be as gentle as your mother.Among Western women, both your mother and I deeply feel that Mira has a good temper, you should be content and restrain yourself.The hearts of parents all over the world always hope that their children will live happier lives than themselves; as long as I have unshakable confidence in the union of the two of you once I leave this world, it will be a great reward in my life! From November to next spring and February is the busiest period after you go to Britain, and it is also a critical time for you to come and go; the journey is hard, the performance is tiring, and you will inevitably be nervous. The honor and disgrace of the motherland are at stake.I hope you can report to us next March with the double success of performance and temperament, then we will be so happy! ――Relax, relax!Thoroughly relaxed and happy mentally, unhindered, will be the secret of your double victory this time!

The other question can't convince you all the time, but for your long-term benefit and future happiness, I have to talk to you again.You have always hated material things and avoided talking about them; but you don’t know that avoiding talking about them does not solve the problem. To avoid the burden of material things, you can only overcome material things and control them. Let us know the general situation of income and expenditure, and help you make suggestions and arrange them properly. .Only by proper arrangement can one be free from material slavery.Those who are not good at financial management rarely do not suffer from money.Your mother and I have quite a lot of experience in this regard for your reference.If you are afraid of trouble, you might as well ask Mira to tell us in a letter.She is young and immature, as long as you encourage her from the side, she has never been unwilling to learn from us how to manage money.Sooner or later, you will have children. If you do not prepare early, you will have to add performances to make up for it, which will not benefit your art.Secondly, Mira needs to study further, and she should be given time to spend more time with books; currently there is only one maid (female maid) who comes twice a week, which shows that Mira is still busy with housework on weekdays.It is best to strive for it gradually, financially able to hire a maid who will help for half a day every day.Every summer vacation, I have to go out and have a complete rest for at least two weeks.All of these have to be well adjusted in terms of family income and expenditure, and a plan has been made before it can be realized after half a year or a year.Of course the main thing is the actual execution rather than just the budget and plan on paper.It is also advisable to exercise restraint in buying records at any time, and buy them when they are new.I have always advocated reading scores more and listening to records less, which is more helpful to an artist like you.

Reading scores is like playing the piano with Urtext①, and listening to records is almost like using someone's edii, [edited] score.What's more, I know that you may not be a performer forever after ten or twenty years; assuming that you may develop in other directions, reading scores for a long time is also an excellent preparation.I plan for you with all my heart, whether for the present or for the future, especially for the future.You are busy and don't have time to analyze and think quietly; if I can plan and plan for you, so that you can still get some benefits from me after I die-the benefits of sowing seeds in time, then I am very happy.

The night of October 5th, 1961 *Son, you are so similar to your father in so many ways, even your daily life is so similar. It is too monotonous for you to practice the piano and listen to records at home all the time.Asking you to go out for a walk and visit museums is nothing more than adjusting your life and enriching your spiritual life.Your subjectivity and stubbornness seem to be comparable to that of your father. I absolutely sympathize with Mira. I absolutely do not want my torture to be repeated in the next generation of children. ——You have been with me since childhood, and you have seen a lot of life details. You love your mother the most, and you should be the one who understands your mother the most. Because I know him too well, he has always had a grumpy disposition, hating evil like hatred, there is a root, when your grandfather was bullied and oppressed by the noble and evil gentry, he died of depression at the age of twenty-four, widowed mother and orphan (your grandmother and your father) The miserable and desolate life and the monastery-like childhood are really unbearable to look back on.As an adult, he struggles alone, loves the truth, hates all unreasonable old traditions and the IH ethics that kill people without blood, is upright and loyal to his cause, I love him, and I forgive him.For the happiness of the family, the happiness of his children, and the achievements of his tireless career, he gave up his ego and took care of the overall situation.Dad often complains that he has caused many bad tempers to affect you, so we want you to pay attention early, restrain yourself, and put an end to the tragedies of our previous generations, and this end must start with you, so that it will not be passed on to future generations. December 17, 1961 (translated from English) Dear children: In the past two months, my work has become more and more heavy: translation takes eight hours a day, plus extra work such as meeting customers, reading letters, replying letters, etc., my mind usually has to be active for eleven hours a day , Two hours, almost no time to rest.Even Sunday, with so many letters and usual unfinished business to sort out, was a busy day.You see, Cong is like me in terms of mental activity. It's not that I don't want to go for a walk in the park or browse antique shops. Work has done me some good, and it has given me a sense of self-satisfaction before I go to bed, and Mira might say, "Like father, like son!" Afternoon of January 14, 1962 Cong, dear boy, I haven't written to you for almost a month.You believe less, and our faith also decreases unconsciously.You are so busy outside that you may not have time to read long letters; some things you have said to you will be forgotten after a while; besides, we know nothing about your situation, and there are many things that we can't talk about.Received a call on the 10th, presumably the two of you have not written for a long time, you can't help but feel guilty, and you are afraid that we are in a hurry?Anyway, a telegram caused my mother to smile, and said before eating: "Happy..." I asked: "Why?" She said: "For the child." I have written seven letters, and this is the eighth. ① urtext, German text, equivalent to English originaltext, original score version, usually refers to the original score version of music before 1900, that is, the original score that has not been edited, organized or annotated by others. After returning from Suzhou in early November, I have been working in one breath until now. After running a marathon, I felt very tired when I put down my pen at 9:30 last night.It's ridiculous to think about it. At the beginning, I only worked for four hours, and when it was added to six hours, I was very happy to translate a thousand words. In recent weeks, I worked eight or nine hours a day. As a new ration, it seems to always compete with oneself in labor and grab the "red flag".Fortunately, my brain power still supports me, and my arthritis doesn't happen very often. It's just that there are tears and yawns every morning; probably because of overuse of eyesight. Is the income planned in advance for this trip in April?Whether you two listen or not, I have to remind you again and again.Since we live in the world of money, we must control money well so as not to be enslaved by money. Of course, there is no such thing as the best of both worlds everywhere in the world. Everything is up to one’s own control. The purpose is nothing more than to suffer less material troubles and devote more time to learning and art.The ideal world is always an ideal: no matter where the world is, there are always more despicable things than attractive ones.But please don't hinder your research, everything else can be ignored.Boredom is a waste of time.Disturb the mood, no offense!I’m afraid you’ve thought a lot about these too, and you’ve been quite open-minded, right? Afternoon of January 21, 1962 Dear child, the letter from Fiji Island is registered, but it is not registered. It must be delivered to the hotel, and they passed it carelessly.In the future, don't forget to entrust someone to deliver the letter to the post office, and you must ask for the receipt. You should remember that a long letter was lost in Poland in 1955, which made us restless for several weeks.From November to December, Min had no letters from home for twenty-six days. He sent two telegrams but never returned them. , Call back immediately, we are so tired that we are in a hurry. Reading the letter, I am very touched.Although the youthful ethnicity is full of vitality, the childish temperament and temper are innocent and cute if you don't get in touch with them.We Chinese always like to be quiet, calm, reserved, talk about taste [taste, appreciation], and often do evil when we encounter silly [stupid, confused] performance. Exuberant vitality can also be aggressive and embarrassing.Among our friends, there are such characters, and I often feel this way.Maybe my own dogmaiic [stubborn, arbitrary] smell, people complain behind my back and can't stand it.I often think, what is the stereotype of a nation with a complex origin like the Americans, and when does it become mature.Their ancestors two hundred years ago were not religious refugees who were forced to exile in Europe (there are both old and new religions, depending on which country in Europe: most of them are Protestants-from England and France. Old religions come from the Netherlands and Northern Europe), or Men who have stumbled in their careers, young gold diggers or real robbers and murderers.It is not surprising that the descendants of these people are particularly strong in resistance and struggle. However, the influence of traditional culture is lacking, and it is even unimaginable that they are unique. In front of them, they never consider whether it is worthwhile to take risks, and no matter what the occasion, it is not difficult to regard life as a feather: this kind of people can start businesses and innovate, but they lack vision and wisdom, and it is difficult to be conservative and mature; too confident To be strong is to act arrogantly, to see things too lightly, to be childish and arrogant.No wonder capitalism develops so fast and becomes so deformed in their hands.I think their society is like a cancer: a few cells expand indefinitely, swallowing thousands of other cells; and millions of cells still think they are healthy until they are completely swallowed. Very, "freedom" and "democracy" are very good! However, the development of society is too complicated after all, and there are too many changes, so it cannot be inferred based on any theory.For example, the question about American pianos, to us music lovers, can be said to symbolize the decline of music culture in the United States; but how can it be explained that some bands are of a higher standard than Western Europe? Managers and other unreasonable facts in the music industry, monopoly, suppression, stifling of individuality, etc. are heinous; but talented artists continue to emerge among young people: is it the struggle between the new and the backward? ?Or are the new forces also at the end of a strong bend?Is American music creation advancing on a healthy road, or is it tending to be depressed and rotten in general?The people are kind and upright everywhere, and they can tell the difference between good and bad, and reactionary rule is full of ghosts and monsters everywhere; but under the paralyzing propaganda of radio, TV [television], newspapers, etc., most people can keep their heads clear. How long?I have never experienced extreme material civilization, but I started to care about this issue thirty years ago.This issue has been discussed several times in European cultural circles since the First World War.But the real answer is the history of the future.Is it true that a revolution cannot be made if one is not poor and not worthless, or is it that revolutions in a country with property will never be complete?Even if it is complete, how long will it take for the disease of poor and white to be cured?Sometimes I also imagined that I was on another planet, another animal higher than human beings, and looked at everything on this planet. At that time, I would not only laugh, but also feel at a loss. In such a mess, I don't even know whether to affirm the question of life or death.Of course, I’m just telling you that I have such fantasies from time to time. In fact, I’m limited by the physiology of a “human”, so I won’t really reach that field, and it’s impossible to get rid of pain and troubles. Only by working Anesthetized myself. The Cincinnati, New York, and San Francisco critics all saw some samples, none of them very brilliant (except for one), and some of them were quite "pediatric".As for the guy from the New York Times that Mira was talking about, it was ridiculous.And the "New York Times" and "Herald Tribune" are still the two largest daily newspapers in the United States!The question about the critic and other questions in your letter remind me not only of the scene in "Jean-Christophe", but also of Gelzak's description in the second book (which I am translating) The inside story of the literary world, newspaper circles, and theaters in Paris 130 years ago.Balzac deserves to be a master of realism. His writing is full of flesh and blood, and every character is as vivid as the present. It is by no means like Romain Rolland, who only has ideology and is close to abstract caricature.Those who study art, regardless of painting, sculpture, or music, can change their careers if they fail to learn; painters can draw illustrations, advertisements, etc., and sculptors may wish to change to interior decoration or handicrafts.Pianists and violinists can take disciples.If those who specialize in criticism are incompetent, they will have no other career to change from. They can only be poor critics all their lives, or they will be hired as cheerleaders or thugs.Not only that, cultural people and intellectuals from all walks of life, once they have no way out, when they have no achievements in their field and cannot gain a foothold, they can change their careers to become critics; so the critics can easily become a garbage dump.There are far fewer clever, serious, conscientious, and well-informed critics than real artists, probably because of these reasons: What do you think? The night of January 21, 1962 Unexpectedly, performances in Australia are more popular than in America. No wonder you wrote a letter so early in Honolulu.Revisiting Bartok, I'm very happy to hear it, and I can't let it go if I have the opportunity to play modern things, even if it's hard work, it's worth it. It's also a breath of fresh air for your musical sensibilities. This time Mira's letter is very well written, delicate and tactful, showing that she knows you very well and cares about your art to the fullest.Emotional from beginning to end.And the writing is better than before.I have to give her a big compliment.This trip, she was welcomed by overseas Chinese everywhere, and it also has a great educational effect on her. Let her see the spirit of our nation, and at the same time cultivate her enthusiasm and heroism.I knew your complaints about married life were unfounded.First, I only need to look at myself and look back on my past to know that you are also picky when things happen, and you tend to exaggerate when you speak. , Most of them have to go through a long period of exploration before they can gradually become knowledgeable and get along well.I'm afraid this trip, if she hadn't been by your side all the time, you would have been affected a lot, trivial chores are the most disturbing, especially since you need to spend a lot of time on the piano, you can't stand sporadic interruptions.After more than a year of observation, we have found that Mira is indeed a kind-hearted and extremely intelligent person. As long as she is patient, after a few years, all small conflicts will be resolved unconsciously.All in all, we are not only gratified for your success this time, but also gratified for the harmonious coexistence of the two of you all the way! Have you ever met Mr. Lazelofl in San Francisco?Do you remember that Aunt Li took you to ask him when you were ten years old? The night of February 21, 1962 During the Spring Festival holiday this year, there were a lot of visitors, and some of them have not seen each other for four or five years. Uncle Lei also listened to your recent records from Wuhu (he was transferred to Wannan University in Anhui in 1958), and said that your Chopin is indeed Features, very poetic.It is close to Li Bai's taste, and this remark coincides with your feelings over the years. It can be seen that people who really have an artist's heart always hit it off.Lei Bobo is far away in the mainland, and he rarely has the opportunity to get in touch with music. He has given up playing the violin for many years, but he will immediately feel it when he hears something good.I think you are happy to hear that. He is your Kaimeng piano teacher, and the first person to appreciate you (in 1952 you performed half a show at Lyceum, and he wrote a special letter afterwards, praising your state of selflessness immersed in music, which is unprecedented in China), It is still your confidant to this day. The previous letter mentioned all kinds of exploitation by American managers. I don’t know why you didn’t put forward conditions when he proposed to sign the next year’s contract. If there are still so many inexplicable bills coming out, you don’t consider signing a new contract?If you worry about gains and losses, you can only listen to being slaughtered; if you are afraid of embarrassment, the exploiters will play it right.The lessons learned this time should be kept firmly in mind. When dealing with any new manager in the future, you should ask in advance what expenses other than the commission will be borne by the artist. It is best to clearly state it in the contract, which is more secure.There is also the matter of recording records, I am afraid that they will be exploited a lot, right?March 8, 1962① Dear children, the experience of love, the study of literature and art, the stories of joys and sorrows among friends, and the daily observation and thinking make us more qualified than other parents to participate in the life-long events of our children. ?? First of all, the attitude and mood should be as calm as possible.Otherwise the observation will not be accurate.In the early stage of dating, it is easy to be impulsive. Based on impressions, you only see the advantages of the other party, but not the shortcomings, and even exaggerate the advantages and beautify the shortcomings.Even with friends of the same sex, this is not unavoidable, and it is even more common with the opposite sex.This is often the reason why many young men and women were very good before marriage, but they gradually disagreed or even turned against each other after marriage.During the period of emotional excitement, not only will you be deaf, blind, and unable to see each other clearly; you will also unconsciously only show the good side and hide your shortcomings.Another advantage of keeping calm is that you won't waste your normal work just to fall in love, or affect your homework, waste time, or damage your health, or disturb your mood when encountering big or small twists and turns. The so-called calmness is not only the superficial actions, but also the heart and mind.Of course this is difficult.People are always people, and emotions are not easy to control. It is even more difficult for young people without love experience to maintain a balance of body and mind, and it is also related to each person's temperament.All my life, I have never been able to remain calm and get agitated very easily. This is my big shortcoming.Fortunately, after the event, we can objectively analyze and think carefully, so as not to make the mood on the spot continue to develop and make trouble out of control.Let me tell you this, to let you know that if you cannot restrain yourself temporarily, you must control the overall situation with reason afterwards: correct what needs to be corrected, apologize when you need to apologize to others, and close the tent when it is time to close. In short, the above two points can be summed up It just sounds like: emotion must be controlled by reason.To do it, you must work hard and exercise for a long time in real life. Never in my life have I ever had a "love first" perspective. "The supremacy of truth", "the supremacy of morality", and the supremacy of justice should all be regarded as the principles of standing.Love cannot violate these principles, no matter how feverish or climaxing it may be.Be it friends, wives, or lovers, when encountering critical junctures, we will never give in on issues related to truth, morality, justice, etc. ① Letter to Fu Min. Secondly, human beings are the most complicated animals. Observations must not be simplified, but must be patient, meticulous, and in-depth. After a considerable amount of time, various accidents and occasions.In every aspect, we must combine the objective spirit of science with the sympathy of great compassion.For the advantages of the other party, you must recognize whether they are real and reliable, whether they are imagined by yourself, or exaggerated.The shortcomings of the other party must be distinguished whether it is related to the essence.Disadvantages connected with essence cannot be overlooked for other lesser advantages.It is also necessary to identify whether minor shortcomings can be corrected, and whether they develop will affect character or daily life.Everyone has flaws, and this is true for both men and women in a relationship.The problem is not to find a partner who has no flaws, but to find a partner who can recognize each other's flaws, acknowledge each other, and is willing to gradually improve, while being tolerant of each other. (This point is very important. Some shortcomings can be tolerated by both parties; some cannot be tolerated, and over time will cause cracks.) It is best for both parties to try to be as natural as possible, not to be artificial, each to show his true colors, and let the other party see both advantages and disadvantages.Only when we see each other's advantages and disadvantages, and feel that we can tolerate each other without affecting the overall situation, can we talk about further understanding; otherwise, we can only be ordinary friends.But to fully see each other's strengths and weaknesses; it will take quite a while, and various accidents, large and small, will be tested; there is absolutely no rush!Let alone draw conclusions (whether good or bad) easily!Only by being extremely frank can you expose yourself; and the sooner you expose your shortcomings, the better, and the later the worse!People who try to hide their shortcomings in order to succeed in love are actually stupid.Of course, it is not the case to unknowingly show your own bright side and unknowingly hide your shortcomings in love.Because this is human instinct, and it also proves that love can make us progress and develop in the direction of goodness and beauty. This is the greatness of love, and it is also the main reason why poets throughout the ages have praised love.Novelists often mention that we have experienced it again and again in our lives: men and women in love are often smarter than usual; The suffering of others; the expansion of sympathy is the precious concrete manifestation of love. Subjectively, things are expected to come true, but objectively, one has to be mentally prepared in case things fail. In order to avoid the pain of falling out of love and so on, I think this point should be fully grasped from the very beginning.It is best not to make the other party too sure, and let everything evolve naturally. In short, don't rush everything, the more important the matter is, the more calm and serene the attitude, the captain considers, observes carefully, and strives to be objective!It's easy to reach a peak in a relationship, but the peak (or climax) of anything can only last for a short time, and it's very difficult to maintain a long-term friendship over time. In addition to advantages and disadvantages, whether the two people have similar personalities and tempers is also an important factor.The differences between hardness and softness, softness and hardness, and urgency must be adjusted to each other.There are also many indescribable and innumerable small habits manifested in actions, attitudes, words and laughter, and voices. They also have a great effect on the relationship between men and women. To find out these, you have to stand aside and touch slowly.The so-called stand the test refers to the many tangible and intangible criticisms and self-criticisms (the reaction to other people's every move is the invisible criticism). Poets often say that love is blind, but love that is not blind is more healthy after all. more reliable. You know everything about your outlook on life and the world, so I don’t need to talk about it.One should pay great attention to people's elegance and vulgarity and tolerance.According to my experience: Elegance and common-mindedness are often congenital, and acquired modification can rarely raise a low level to a high level; therefore, during the relationship, you should pay attention to whether the other party is better than yourself, which can help me improve in the future, and It won't turn me back.You have been accustomed to the family style since you were young, so you must not tolerate a narrow-minded personality. What has been discussed above is all general questions of principle. Although appearance and figure are not the main considerations, it cannot be ignored too much by a person who loves beauty.During the period of making friends, try to give as few gifts as possible and spend less money: on the one hand, it shows that your love concept is rarely involved in material relationships; on the other hand, it also tests the other party. March 9, 1962 Three or four months are still so busy, we only worry about your health.Daily diet, sleep and rest must be paid attention to regularly.As long as the body and mind can support it, and the music is not sluggish or numb, it doesn't matter if there are more performances; otherwise, it must be reduced.If the performer finds that the sensitivity of the feeling has a downward trend, he should try to do it as soon as possible; he must not procrastinate!A lot of planning is for the long-term interests!If you feel that it is a heavy burden to perform, you should be vigilant, analyze the reason, and whether you are overtired due to too many performances.Secondly, you release frequently, do you still have time and energy to add new repertoire [repertoire]?This is something I often care about too. Recently, my eyesight has deteriorated again. Whenever I stop working, I would cry and yawn. I always feel that my eyelids are very heavy, especially the left eye, which is hard to open.I have to rest these few days, but I also suffer from not being able to read (the rest is for my eyes), and I am very upset.Intellectuals are really lost when they leave their books. Last night, I accompanied my mother to watch "Legend of the White Snake" performed by the Youth Beijing Kunqu Opera Troupe after returning from Hong Kong. Since May 1957, this is the first time I have seen a play.The script was adapted by Tian Han, including Kunqu Opera and Beijing Opera.以演技来说，青年戏曲学生有此成就也很不差了，但并不如港九报纸捧的那么了不起。可见港九群众艺术水平实在不高，平时接触的戏剧太蹩脚了。至于剧本，我的意见可多啦。老本子是乾隆时代的改本，倒颇有神话气息，而且便是荒诞妖异的故事也编得入情入理，有曲折有照应，逻辑很强，主题的思想，不管正确与否，从头至尾是一贯的、完整的。目前改编本仍称为神话剧，说明中却大有翻案意味，而戏剧内容并不彰明较著表现出来，令人只感到态度不明朗，思想混乱，好像主张恋爱自由，又好像不是；说是据说明书金山寺高僧法海嫉妒白蛇所谓白与许宣霉称的爱情，但一个和尚为什么无事端端嫉妒青年男女的恋爱呢？青年恋爱的实事多得很，为什么嫉妒这一对呢？总之是违背情理，没有1ogic〔逻辑〕，有些场面简单化到可笑的地步：例如许仙初遇白素贞后次日去登门拜访，老本说是二人有了情，白氏与许生订婚，并送许白金百两；今则改为拜访当场定亲成婚：岂不荒谬！古人编神怪剧仍顾到常理，二十世纪的人改编反而不顾一切，视同儿戏。改编理当去芜成青，今则将武戏场面全部保留，满足观众看杂耍要求，未免太低级趣味。倘若节略一部分，反而精彩（就武功而论）。断桥一出在昆剧中最细腻，今仍用京剧演出，粗糙单调：诚不知改编的人所谓昆京合演，取舍根据什么原则。总而言之，无论思想，精神，结构，情节，唱辞，演技，新编之本都缺点太多了，真弄不明白剧坛老前辈的艺术眼光与艺术手腕会如此不行；也不明白内部从上到下竟无人提意见：解放以来不是一切剧本都走群众路线吗？相信我以上的看法，老艺人中一定有许多是见到的：丈化部领导中也有人感觉到的。结果演出的情形如此，着实费解。报上也从未见到批评，可知文艺家还是噤若寒蝉，没办法做到百家争鸣。 四月初你和London MozartNavers〔伦敦莫扎特乐团〕同在瑞士演出七场，想必以Mozart〔莫扎特〕为主。近来多弹了Mozart〔莫扎特〕，不知对你心情的恬静可有帮助？我始终觉得艺术的进步应当同时促成自己心情方面的恬淡，安说，提高自己气质方面的修养。又去年六月与Kabos〔卡波斯〕讨教过后，到现在为止你在relax〔演奏时放松〕方面是否继续有改进？对Schubert〔舒伯特〕与Bee-thoven〔贝多芬〕的理解是否进了一步？你出外四个月间演奏成绩，想必心中有数；很想听听你自己的评价。 《音乐与音乐家》月刊十二月号上有篇文章叫做Liszts Daughter WhoRan Wagners Bayreuth〔《瓦格纳拜鲁特音乐节主持人李斯特之女》〕，作者是现代巴赫专家Dr.Albert Schweitzer〔艾伯特?施韦泽医生〕①，提到Cosi-ma Wagner〔柯西马?瓦格纳〕指导的Bayreuth Festival〔拜鲁特音乐节〕有两句话：At the mostmoving momentsthere were lackimg that spontaneity and that naturalnesswhich come from the fact that the actorhas let himself becarried away by his playing andso surpass himself.Frequently,it seemedto me,perfection was obtained only at the expense of life.〔在最感人的时刻，缺乏了自然而然的真情流露，这种真情的流露，是艺术家演出时兴往神来，不由自主而达到的高峰。我认为一般艺术家好像往往得牺牲了生机，才能达到完满。〕其中两点值得注意：（一）艺术家演出时的不由自主原是犯忌的，然而兴往神来之际也会达到前所未有的高峰，所谓surpasshimself＝超越自己。（二）完满原是最理想的，可不能牺牲了活泼泼的生命力去换取。大概这两句话，你听了一定大有感触。 怎么能在不由自主（carried by himself）的时候超过自己而不是越出规矩，变成野、海、狂, 是个大问题。怎么能保持生机而达到完满，又是个大问题。作者在此都着重在spontaneity and naturalness〔真情流露与自然而然〕方面，我觉得与个人一般的修养有关，与能否保持童心和清新的感受力有关。 过去听你的话，似乎有时对作品钻得过分，有点儿钻牛角尖：原作所没有的，在你主观强烈追求之下未免强加了进去，虽然仍有吸引力，仍然convincing 〔有说服力〕（像你自己所说），但究竟违背了原作的精神，越出了inteP-preter〔演绎者〕的界限。近来你在这方面是不是有进步，能克制自己，不过于无中生有的追求细节呢？ ① 艾伯特?施韦泽医生（1857-1965）德国神学家，哲学家，管风琴家，巴哈专家，内科医生。