Chapter 78 The taste of the world is Qinghuan

Words with the word "high" appear frequently in newspapers and periodicals: high-tech, high standards, high-grade, high-level talents, top scorers in the college entrance examination, high education, high-level white-collar workers, high annual salary, high income, high treatment, and noble residential areas , high-grade decoration, high-end furniture, noble style, elegant taste, high award, high walk, high rise, high return, high expectation... "Water flows to low places, people go to high places", people yearn for "a higher level of life", which is a reasonable mentality, and it is also the driving force for the entire society to promote material and spiritual civilization.Since the end of the 1970s, our country has implemented reform and opening up, and since the mid-1980s, it has further promoted the market economy, and the vast majority of people in society have benefited from it to varying degrees.As the tide rises, people's horizons are widened, their desires are released, and the standards they set for themselves and their families' quality of life also rise rapidly.Among them, there are many people who "where there is a will, there is a way", but there are quite a few people, "this mountain looks at the height of that mountain", so high and far, it is a beautiful yearning, but because of haste and speed, they are psychologically anxious. Behavior is abnormal, and the comedy set in the "script" of his life has turned into a tragedy.

Two of my former students fell in love at the historical stage of "going to the mountains and going to the countryside", and they got married more than 10 years ago. Now their beloved son has gone to high school.I keep in touch with them all the time, and I occasionally go to their homes to sit down. They are still the same as before, and they are willing to talk to me about any troubles they have.A few nights ago, when it was almost midnight, I was writing in front of the computer as usual, when the phone rang suddenly, and I picked it up to answer it, and it was the man in the couple who panted and said: "Mr. Liu, can you Can't receive me?" Of course I agreed to him, it turned out that something happened to his family!That night, when he found out that his son had falsely reported his test scores, he was furious and threw the bowl he was eating at his son. His wife was also angry with his son, but when he saw that he was out of order, he clashed with him again. The couple had conflicts At that time, the son ran away in anger, and the couple found out and went out to look for it. Finally, after making a series of phone calls, they found out that the son had gone to his aunt's house... When he asked me to receive him on the street with a coin-operated phone, his wife went to meet with his aunt's house. The son went to meet him, but he was not allowed to go too.According to his wife, when his son talked back to him, he yelled: "I'll fight with you!" His head was full of flames, and he didn't hear clearly... When he sat in front of me, he muttered to himself in a daze : "How did it become like this? Will he really fight me hard? Will she divorce me?"

I asked my father, who had passed his forties, to find out what the crux of the family dispute was—just because of the one-point difference in my son's physics exam!Because they themselves did not have the opportunity to receive formal education in adolescence, and the occupations they are currently engaged in are very ordinary, so they poured their brains into their sons with their life ideals of obtaining a high degree of education and a high position.It should be said that the son is also working hard.They demanded that their son never score less than 90 points in any subject, and his son can basically meet the standard. In the latest physics test, his son only scored 89 points. Because he was afraid of being blamed, he lied about 90 points.He has stricter demands on his son than his wife. He must score higher in each test than the last one. He remembered that his son scored 91 points in the physics test last time. After contacting by phone, I learned that my son actually only scored 89 points, and lied, which is not bad!As a result, this time the world was turned upside down, and a good home seemed to be on the verge of bursting.

In the quiet night, talking with him in detail, it was difficult to make him calm all at once.He complained to me like a waterfall.He said that "burden reduction" is now being implemented in schools, but many teachers, especially parents like him, find it difficult to relieve anxiety psychologically, because while the "burden reduction" is being promoted in newspapers, it seems to be increasing. The promotion of high-tech, high-educated, high-skilled, high-salary and high-skilled talents and "successful people".Recently, there is a saying of "knowledge of the family", which means that it is outdated to rely on capital to make a fortune, and it is only by "knowledge" that one can get ahead.The generation of him and his wife could neither become a "capitalist" nor hope to become a "knowledgeable family". They missed the opportunity to establish the value of life by "marrying a family". The "time express" of "successful people"...

During the conversation, I also sorted out my thoughts from time to time.I firmly advocate that schools "reduce the burden" on students.In my opinion, the key to truly "reducing the burden" is to determine the life value of "ordinary people".In the future, the college entrance examination may still have to "select scholars based on points", because "everyone is equal before scores" has some disadvantages, but it is better than leaving scores such as "recommendation" and "comprehensive assessment", which sound ideal but have disadvantages in practice There must be more ways to better protect the rights and interests of ordinary people who have no power, no background, no background.But even in the developed countries of the world, not everyone goes to college.Especially in our country, people who go to college will be only a minority among their peers for a long time, and even if they go to college, not all of them will learn the most cutting-edge technology, and they will not all become masters in microelectronics technology. It is impossible for talents to become masters and doctors, or to become "knowledgeables" to start a business for profit, and it is even more impossible to become a figure like Bill Gates.There may be some problems with our media's propaganda and guidance in this regard, at least in the propaganda of "burden reduction" and "knowledge of the family", a unified logic has not yet been achieved.I advise my former students not to pay too much attention to the media's sounding gongs and drums in accordance with the times and circumstances, and first lower the standard of life value from an unattainable standard to a position that is more in line with their own reality, especially for The son's expectations don't necessarily have to be that high.How can there be only one step higher than one step in the world, no fall, no ups and downs, only success and no failure?Bill Gates' career will also flourish and decline, and he is in a lot of trouble right now!We don't want to be poor, refuse to live without dignity, and don't give up any opportunities to improve our quality of life. However, if we can make some achievements in our careers, achieve well-off materially, and be healthy and happy mentally, even if we are not considered "successful people", we will be considered as "successful people". If you don't become a "knowledgeable family", you are just an ordinary member of the society, so what is there to regret?What's more, going to work is just to work for the boss. After get off work, you can have a warm little home, not much money but enough, and your social popularity is zero but you have relatives who love you and a few friends who don't need too much. What a life!

My past students gradually calmed down.I read to him "Huanxisha" by Su Shi, a writer of the Song Dynasty, and the last line was "There is a taste in the world is pure joy", and I advised him to appreciate it carefully.When Su Shi wrote this poem, he was demoted from office and left the center of society. It was impossible for him to live a rich and noble life. However, he discovered the poetic flavor of life from the ordinary spring tea and plain green vegetables, and came up with " The most delicious thing in the world is the quiet taste of life" this conclusion.

A week later, I went to their house, and when I entered the door, I saw a new pot of Brazilian wood they bought.Before welcoming me, the lady was sitting comfortably on the sofa watching a variety show on TV, while the husband and son were playing backgammon in the son's hut.After I sat down, my son closed the door to study his homework, and the couple turned off the TV and had a tea talk with me.Neither of us mentioned that frightening night again.He mentioned that he had already saved enough money and that he would install an air conditioner this summer. She laughed and said that she planned to take a family trip to Xiangshan Botanical Garden.The two mentioned that they were discussing with their son which university to apply for next year. The son showed interest in plants. Maybe he could not become a "knowledgeable family" and make a fortune after studying that major, but if a person can put his career Combined with hobbies, wouldn't there be more happiness than fame and wealth?They are still looking forward to the improvement of their lives, but they lose the anxiety of blind comparison, and add the pragmatic spirit of "how many vegetables to grow in a big garden", return to ordinary life, and enjoy a well-off life... In their warm little nest, I The famous sentence through the ages is lingering like a song in my heart: the world is full of joy...