Chapter 61 plant a mimosa in my heart

I just told Xiaojiao that I would write an article on this topic, and he shouted right, right, there are too many people who are shameless, especially corrupt officials... I told him that this time I am not going to talk about those people Meaning, he didn’t listen to me, and immediately blush and lashed out at me. He had no sense of social responsibility at all, and he was only interested in romantic relationships. He stared at me, and even scolded my conscience for being eaten by dogs. While yelling and cursing, he approached me.According to a book on human behavior, if a person talks to another person, if the physical distance is shortened to less than half a meter, then either they are about to embrace affectionately, or they are about to wrestle angrily. Breaking through half a meter, I hurriedly backed away, let him provoke me, just smiled and didn't defend

, didn’t fight back, but didn’t walk away. I didn’t persuade him to sit down until he was full of swearing, and I poured him a cup of hot tea. What kind of article should I write?I smiled and said, in fact, you have already read it. Xiao Jiao is a frequent visitor to my house, and he actually knows my writing orientation and practice.I have always advocated that writers pay attention to the reality and be considerate of the people's sentiments, agree with the concept that intellectuals should act as the conscience of society, and aim at the problem of anti-corruption and official corruption that is most concerned by the common people. Well, it is not only necessary to criticize satire in the form of essays, essays, poems, etc., but it is also possible to crystallize excellent works that can be preserved for a long time and even handed down from generation to generation, such as , in the late Qing Dynasty.My own novel "The Wind Passes the Ears" contains content in this regard, and there are also some essays and essays dedicated to stabbing corrupt officials and bad social atmosphere.My reading appreciation tendency towards Xiao Jiao is actually clear.Why does he only read anti-corruption themes? He loves to read urban romance novels and pet pages in newspapers.However, when Xiao Jiao would come to chat with me, he would suddenly become irritable and want to quarrel with me just because he hadn't even finished a sentence.Do you think he is deliberately provoking trouble, or is he deliberately pretending to be stupid?neither.He subconsciously boiled the anxiety caused by social concern and the unhappiness he encountered in his work unit and family into a pot of porridge.Due to the ups and downs of the psychological flame, the porridge is either mushy or raw, and then, induced by some external cause, it will suddenly burst into nameless anger, ranging from arguing with others, to finding fault and arguing.And no matter in the process of arguing or quarreling, he will cover up the specific and private unhappiness, and Gao Yang's resentment and criticism of the ugly phenomena of society, no matter what, he will demonize the other party into a scum whose conscience has been fed to dogs, and fights for it. an advantage.

The collision between Xiaojiao and me is a quarrel between friends, and this kind of situation often occurs among family members.Sometimes in the work unit, acquaintances or half-acquaintances will suddenly show unexpected aggressiveness, and it is inevitable among neighbors.What is even more noteworthy is that nowadays, in public shared spaces such as streets and buses, people sometimes encounter unknown anger from strangers.There is no lack of this kind of verbal battle between customers and salespersons who "go online" from the perspective of social justice.Sometimes such disputes will evolve from verbal violence to physical violence, causing considerable chaos and ending in tragedy.

I am not saying that all disputes between people are innocent.But in any case, raising arguments, quarreling, swearing, intimidating, and pestering endlessly, justifying oneself and demonizing the other party, make the already impetuous mental state even more chaotic and excited, even if it is really facing corrupt officials or social scum, it is not the slightest If it can't solve the problem, it will complicate the situation, and even cause the loved ones to hate the enemy quickly, and regret it after getting angry.Now that we realize that frequent unexplained fires are a common and frequently-occurring disease in the psychology of ordinary people, then, in addition to paying special attention to regulating our mental state and maintaining mental health, we should also plant a mimosa in our hearts.When other people's unknown fire burns on you, the mimosa in your heart will immediately close its leaves and hang down, not to fight,

If you don’t talk back, it’s best to be calm, smile back, and be tolerant. After the storm of the other party subsides automatically, the mimosa in your heart will stretch out its branches and open its leaves. If you don't want to chat, or because it's not a major matter of principle, you just laugh it off and leave politely, it's okay. If every member of our society can plant a mimosa that specializes in interpersonal communication in his heart, whenever one party's psychological unknown fire hits, the other party can restrain himself and not waste his vitality in unnecessary In terms of disputes, then, no matter in the family, work unit or public shared space, there will be a lot of loud cursing and noise reduction, and only the combined force of such mentally healthy groups can fight against corrupt officials and society. Decadent Wind really hits the nail on the head and solves the problem from a deep level.