Chapter 50 flying moment

There are petals scattered all over the floor at the entrance of a mid-range restaurant, some of which are real rose petals, and more petals of various colors imitated by colored paper. Two handymen in the restaurant are cleaning those petals with long-handled brooms. This scene happened to be passed by me and When Xiao Ji saw it, I asked Xiao Ji with a smile: "When will you let someone scatter the petals?" At my house, I sat down with Xiao Ji for a tea talk, and he told me frankly: "Those petals disturbed my thoughts again... ..." I asked him, "How could you be distracted by the vulgarity of the world?I remember you told me in the first two years that you agreed with voluntary cohabitation and thought it would be best not to get married or have a family for the rest of your life; Rain, honeymoon trips... go on the same side; they also said that the best family is a DINK family, and even in a DINK family, both parties have their own rooms, and they have to knock on the door to ask for permission to visit each other... Your trendy opinions are very interesting. It shocked me for a while!Have you changed your mind now? "

Xiao Ji said: "I haven't changed my mind, but I am not as determined as before..." Xiao Ji, who is already 33 years old, opened his heart to me.He said that since he was about 25 years old, he became sensitive to the scene of throwing flower petals on the bride and groom outside the restaurant.In the first stage, he was both envious and afraid.What are you afraid of?I was ignorant at the time, but now I understand that it was because I was immature and afraid of entering the adult life period. Once those petals fell on my head and body, it meant that many obligations and responsibilities were suppressed. The son becomes someone else's husband, and may even become the father of a child. In addition to the original parents, father-in-law and mother-in-law are added out of thin air. In addition to relatives and friends on my own side, I have to deal with relatives and friends on the wife's side. The result of one plus one It would be a huge number!The second stage is indifferent and sad.Indifference means no longer envious of the prosperous momentary scene, while sadness means realizing that all good things will soon disappear, such as those flying petals, after they briefly create joy and sweetness, as seen today As soon as they arrived, they were quickly swept into the trash. "Is this kind of cold-heartedness that you dare not own because you are afraid of losing it a kind of psychological barrier?" Xiao Ji ended his self-report with such a question to himself—and to me.

I have written some articles expressing that I understand and agree with some young people who choose to live in DINK families and other trendy ways of life because of cohabitation and fertility.But Xiaoji's self-dissection today made me feel that the situation is not so simple. Among the young people who choose non-secular lifestyles, there are at least Xiaoji. Their choice is not because of their super-mature mind, but because of An immature xinxing may even lead to a psychological disorder, or even a mental illness.This made me rethink the meaning of those flying flowers in folk weddings, for example.Now, there are many weddings going on every day all over the world, and the form of throwing petals to the bride and groom is extremely common.Rejecting the vulgar, some are because their minds are really mature, they can calmly stand alone, and are elegant to the end; more, I am afraid that they follow the new trend more or less for the sake of being elegant. As a result, they are the most beautiful in the secular world. In front of the most universal things, one will be fearful due to immaturity, sentimental from fear, indifferent from sentimental, withdrawn from indifference, decadent from withdrawn, and even eventually become a social deformity.

I told Xiaoji that although the moment of flying flowers at the wedding is short, it can nourish the soul for a long time. "A piece of flying flowers reduces spring", but spring can come back.Since we live in a society with four seasons, we must understand the flow, change, high and low tide cycle, spring flowers, summer heat, autumn wind, winter snow cycle, which is the normal state of destiny.Generally speaking, in a society, the more people choose to live a normal life, the more common such living conditions are, and the more stable the society will be.The normality of social life, that is, the secular world, certainly has its side that should be criticized and promoted, but it should be one of the responsibilities of those with a sense of social responsibility to maintain the universal pleasures in the secular world.I suggest that Xiao Ji encounters the scene of flying flowers again, whether it is flying flowers or the petals all over the ground are being cleaned, it is no problem to change the scene.

Use your own eyes and thoughts to observe and appreciate.Unexpectedly, Xiao Ji suddenly said to me: "Next year, maybe you will witness the flying moments in my life!"