Chapter 27 never fear this cup

A few years ago, my German friend Forster brought me a mug from a store at Frankfurt Airport, a kind of "funny mug" with humorous words drawn on the side.Thick-walled cups with handles made of this kind of porcelain material are now available in many varieties in Chinese store shelves, but most of the cup walls are only painted with cartoon characters or Western styles, without "funny words".I have seen all kinds of "funny cups" in stores in several western countries. The wall of the cup is sealed, and the two cups can be staggered and placed. The handle is one on the left and the other on the right. One cup says: "Oh, I only have half the mood!" The other cup says: " Hey, who stole

Gone that half glass? "I also saw a cup as fat as a pumpkin, with the words "Fools Have Stupid Blessings" written on the side of the cup; "; Some cups have a "tumor" bulging on the wall of the cup, and an arrow points to it, indicating: "Don't panic! It's benign. "And so on, it's hilarious, and it also reflects the anxiety of people born in business competition to varying degrees. The cup that Foster gave me; there are two lines of German on the side of the cup, which read: "What I want to do is never done; what I don't want to do is always forced to do." He put After the meaning was translated to me, I was not very happy, and asked him: "Why did you choose such words to send to me?" He said bluntly: "This is not about you, but about me! For you, so that you can remember me! "Foster was unemployed at the time, temporarily helping a travel agency bring a tour group to China and making a living as a tour guide.After listening to his words, I smiled and relieved.

However, after I used this cup, I did think of Foster at first, but later, I couldn’t help but think of myself frequently. Barely do"?In particular, the reason often cannot be evaded objectively. In the final analysis, I am still weak-willed and cannot adhere to the principle of "doing something and not doing something".Once, I was about to calm down and write out the character list of a novel I had conceived for a long time, when the phone rang, asking me to attend a "seminar", the topics discussed were neither my expertise nor my interest , so I tried to decline, but the other party issued a series of more than a dozen "reasons" that I "must go", such as: broadening horizons is conducive to creation; several famous masters have agreed to attend, wouldn't it be too pretentious for you not to go?It means a lot to build a relationship with someone who has always admired you; why not have a few friends get together?At the meeting, you can also get some "small gifts" and "carriage fees", isn't it without small supplements?If you don’t go, is it because everyone is turbulent but you are the only one… I still said to think about it, but after that, there were a few phone calls, and the "favor" from the inviter was irresistible. It became the "Six Kingdoms Rebellion", so I had to go that day.Originally it was good to "listen, don't speak", but according to the "tooth order", when it was my turn, I had to say it, and I could only put it in perfunctory words and send them to my ears, which was very unpleasant. And at a glance, I found that some unfamiliar people were sneering at me with contempt... The meeting dragged on for a long time, and the dinner after the meeting was a long journey from cold dishes to fruit plates. At home, I wanted to make a character list for a novel, but I lost the energy.This kind of thing that I didn't want to participate in, but I reluctantly participated in it, and often there will be endless troubles, such as suddenly seeing a report in a corner of the newspaper two days later, embedding words that I didn't say or what I didn't want to express.I am the last person who can't "get acquainted with each other after meeting", and I am not good at keeping business cards given by others during activities. Therefore, when I meet someone again on a certain occasion, my reaction is dull, which makes people feel disgusted... …

For a while, I was frightened when I saw the cup that Foster gave me, because I always "knowingly committed crimes", felt ashamed, and had no courage to reverse it. However, in recent years, I have finally summoned up the courage to fulfill the principle of "doing something, not doing something". I do my duty and assume my responsibility, but I have the obligation to refuse what I have to do. I am more and more courageous in saying “no” politely and clearly to invitations and demands that I do not want to accept.At the same time, I am becoming less and less concerned about other people's opinions and opinions.

As for the spine, as long as I feel that what should be said, that article should be written, that meaning should be expressed, that thing should be done, I will speak bluntly, write calmly, express heartily, and participate happily.Now I don't worry about that cup anymore.The above two lines of "fun" are basically no longer ironic to me.When I drink tea from it, I think of Foster: The boy has a good job now, but will he still sigh on the wall of this cup?